It doesn't particularly hep that I go to an all-girls school, and I'm a hopeless romantic, so I want my first kiss to be with another first-timer, and same thing for sex. So I'm not really waiting for marriage, just for the right person and the right time, when we're both committed to each other.

I determined from a young age that I would wait until marriage, but I've never dated b/c I'd never met anyone I thought would be worth the trouble (overbearing parents). I never put myself into a situation that would get me kissed -- when I was at parties where they played dumb games that involved kissing, I found something else to do b/c I thought it was stupid to kiss someone unless it meant something. (For what it's worth, a lot is exchanged when you swap bodily fluids with someone, even in a kiss. Parasites, for example.)

BTW, I don't think someone can legitimately call him/her self a virgin if he/she has been entered, period (either way), or if he/she has had oral sex.

I do, however, think exception should be made for someone (girl or guy) who was forced into an act. If the only sexual encounter that person has had was non-consentual, but he/she has deliberately abstained otherwise, I think it's OK to consider him/her self to be pure.

For those who have lost it in the past and are now abstaining until marriage, I think it should be called what it is: a 2nd virginity. What's gone is gone.

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For those who have lost it in the past and are now abstaining until marriage, I think it should be called what it is: a 2nd virginity. What's gone is gone.

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Originally posted by spungo:
I always thought it was called 'bad luck'.

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No, believe it or not, spungo, there are people who are celibate by choice.

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Hm. Put it this way: nobody on their deathbed ever says 'You know, I really wish I'd got laid less often.'

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Originally posted by spungo:
Hm. Put it this way: nobody on their deathbed ever says 'You know, I really wish I'd got laid less often.'

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Originally posted by spungo:
Hm. Put it this way: nobody on their deathbed ever says 'You know, I really wish I'd got laid less often.'

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And this is based on a study by ___________?
How many were interviewed for this?

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Originally posted by spungo:
Hm. Put it this way: nobody on their deathbed ever says 'You know, I really wish I'd got laid less often.'

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... That is, unless the person on his/her deathbed were dying of an STD that resulted from being too promiscuous.

(BTW, if someone were to make that statement, and if he/she spoke correct English, the statement would be "You know, I really wish I'd gotten laid less often. )

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Originally posted by chicgeek:
(BTW, if someone were to make that statement, and if he/she spoke correct English, the statement would be "You know, I really wish I'd gotten laid less often. )

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Don't nobody care about no grammer when they dyin foo...

*sigh*

I miss my old neighborhood back in Houston

-- Jack's Tired Mind

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Don't make me come over there...

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come to Richardson? Have fun with the cops... they're crawling on I-45 from Houston to here... they caught me for going 84 in a 70 last month near Corsicana

and if you meant go to my "home" (I think I consider Richardson my home now.), then drive around Bush Airport... and look for the only Asian family in that area

If you are an American it is. However, for those of us over here in Britain, we actually save ourselves three letters ;-) Go spungo! You show 'em...

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Originally posted by uilleann:
If you are an American it is. However, for those of us over here in Britain, we actually save ourselves three letters ;-)

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hey, we're not the ones adding an extra 'u' every time we say color, neighbor, behavior, etc.

-- Jack's Webster's Dictionary

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Originally posted by Tyler Durden:
hey, we're not the ones adding an extra 'u' every time we say color, neighbor, behavior, etc.

-- Jack's Webster's Dictionary

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Although I did see a sign in the Heights area that said "neighboorhood". It was hilarious.

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Originally posted by chicgeek:
I determined from a young age that I would wait until marriage, but I've never dated b/c I'd never met anyone I thought would be worth the trouble (overbearing parents).

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Wow! You sound exactly like me, especially the overbearing parents part. For god's sake, I'm 24 about to turn 25 and they still wait up for me when I go out. (I've got to get out of this house)

I never thought my original post would get this far. I want to thank everyone for posting their thoughts.

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I did see a sign in the Heights area that said "neighboorhood". It was hilarious.

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I'll have to look for it next time I'm driving on W 20th

-- Jack's Toyota Chariot

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I'll have to look for it next time I'm driving on W 20th

-- Jack's Toyota Chariot

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Sorry, but they already took it down. (It had an expired list of City Council.)

I'll let you know when I next see a funny misspelling on a sign.

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I'll let you know when I next see a funny misspelling on a sign.

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I heard they misspelled Enron Field as Minute Maid Park...

-- Jack's Astros Cap

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gonzo wrote:
I guess I'm subconsciously scared of going out with someone because I know sooner or later they'll expect sex and I'm not sure I'll be ready.

Consider this: If the person you're with is expecting sex and will get upset with you because you're not ready, is that person really the right person for you in the first place?

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(BTW, if someone were to make that statement, and if he/she spoke correct English, the statement would be "You know, I really wish I'd gotten laid less often. )

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Ok, ok - the character I invented specifically for the purpose of that line may not speak correct English... it wasn't me, per se.

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Originally posted by AudrieRyan_geekgirl:
I'm 16, 17 on 08/29, and I'm very old already. I'm afraid of living with the regret that the one I gave myself to won't be in my life later on, and that will drive me crazy. So I guess I look at marridge as a sort of collateral to giving myself to this person. I don't know. I guess I should have a talk with my mom if she's not out doing something wierd to the dogs. (She lives in Spain right now.)

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Old??!?!!? If u're old then i'm ancient! I'm 22 now and still a virgin. Not really bothered about being one, but instead proud to be one. Coz i know when my sweet darling comes along, she'll know that what she would get is first hand goods straight from the factory, not some over the counter product that was passed along until it reaches the stores.

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Old??!?!!? If u're old then i'm ancient! I'm 22 now and still a virgin.

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Consider this: If the person you're with is expecting sex and will get upset with you because you're not ready, is that person really the right person for you in the first place?

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I'd say that depends on whether they view sex as an act of sensation or an expression of love...if the latter, rejection can hurt very deeply, if for no other reason than the implication that the love they feel and wish to express is not returned.

Sorry, but there are no pat answers that apply to everyone when it comes to sex. (Except that one )

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Prepare to have your ass laminated.

i think i've hugged 2 girls in my life...

and cuddled with one.

yup... i'm experienced... hendrix would be proud.

I've always lived life with the belief that everyone on this planet has something to teach me. Some of the lessons have been difficult and some have been enjoyable. Really enjoyable...

But, anyway, the point is that if you've got a patient teacher, or someone willing to learn with you, then it's all good, but if they are expecting you to be the teacher, well, you could run into some difficulties.

With sex, when it's good, it's really good, and when it's bad, it's really bad. And when it's just okay, it's only that way for one of you.

Race, colour, and the like shouldn't be a factor for anybody, but it unfortunately is for much of the world.

Makes me glad I'm not human. Roaches get along with each other just fine.

Or maybe I just think that tan skin is sexy.