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uilleann
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posted July 29, 2002 13:45     Click Here to See the Profile for uilleann   Click Here to Email uilleann     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
In that kind of situation, GameMaster, I'd want to just sit down with both of them together and thrash out the the answer there and then, although I fear that it wouldn't be very romantic and probably wouldn't achieve any solution that you'd hope for...

I guess I don't have the patience for the time that it takes people to make their feelings, or any portion of them known, and I think my directness (I've actually tried it) online has not actually done any good. There are people who make their feelings known, though, so, dunno, I'd like to find someone with whom we can just be direct and open, and benefit from saving the time otherwise wasted. I think there are plenty of other issues involved with this, and of course there is always the first stage of being where girls are in the first place (and having a reason to talk to them).

I guess that the real issue is that you can't just explore and see where things lead with two interests.

Hrm. Ah well. End of tonight's ramble.

- uilleann

Edit:
OK, seems not, it's bugging me now...
The only way to be certain about which path to take (Vijay (I thought that was a guy's name (actually, come to think of it, I think I recall Jane telling me it was, by itself, but the rest of the name, attached, made it female (I also didn't know she was the other girl (oops, a tangent :p)))) or Sanja), is to know where they lead. It seems to me that the only real way is to date both of them, alternately (and not where it gets physical, I just mean spend time together the way dating was a few decades ago, make the evening special for your date, try to get to know them more), but how can this be done without upsetting the other? Thus you'd need to explain to both...

Otherwise, you could make some deep assessments, weigh them both up, and the like...

I have no experience to go by, I'm just theorising - from what I read, if girls spend too much time getting to know you, the "mystery" is lost thus causing them to want you as a friend, thus, you can't take too long over this - that is, spend more time getting to know them both.

Something to note - is their ability to code really that important? Things to really consider are their personalities, morals, beliefs, and so on, also their habits, routines, and everything about their life - I know I can find far too much off-putting, so don't forget about that aspect :) I know I'm stating the blindingly obvious here (getting myself the August skylar award, albeit a bit earlier), but the focus on coding abilities worries me a bit.

Anyhow, make of that what you will.

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maxomai
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posted July 29, 2002 14:14     Click Here to See the Profile for maxomai   Click Here to Email maxomai     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by GameMaster:
It isn't quite that simple, though I wish it were...


After class Sanja walked up and asked if I wanted a ride, with Vijay standing behind me... So, now it looks like I need to start nailing down what my intentions are, if any, for either of these girls before I get myself into a big problem.


I'm gonna open my trap again.

Ask each one out to a movie. On separate nights.

And do it tonight.

There is nothing wrong with dating two women at the same time, until you get into a committed relationship.

If you're lucky you'll get dates with both, have a good time with both, and forget about trying to "snare" one right off the bat. The object here is to have fun.

Really, you need to stop treating this like it's so important. I mean, yes, love and romance are really important. In fact, they're too important to be taken seriously.

If this doesn't make sense, that's because it's a paradox; which is not to imply that it's a contradiction. There is a subtle difference between the two, which is illustrated by the Horn of Gabriel: take the curve of 1/x from 1 to +infinity and rotate it around the X axis. You'll get a horn which has infinite area and finite volume; that is, it requires an infinite amount of paint to paint the surface, but you can fill it with a finite amount of paint. This would be a contradiction if the paint had to be a minimum thickness.

Paradoxes expose hidden assumptions that we make, which are often false.

The hidden assumption that you're making is that the most important things need to be taken with the most gravity. The problem is that gravity can destroy the most important relationships, such as those with girls and/or God.

Real life example: this redheaded geek girl that I'm absolutely nuts about.

If I could give her what, in my heart, I know she deserves, I'd take her out to dinner at a four star restaraunt every night. Preferably in the Romulan Bird-Of-Prey that I built from scratch just for her. If I did this, I'd end up putting her on a pedestal and probably frightening the crap out of her. Girls like her don't like overtly flashy displays; they want someone they can relate to and have fun with. So instead of taking her to the Restaraunt at the End of the Universe and then watching the supernovae explode (which in my heart doesn't represent even a hundredth of what she deserves), we spent Saturday in her living room, watching a B-movie, drinking beer, and eating potato chips. And talking. And we both had a lot of fun!! Anything more than that and I'd probably be hearing the LJBF speech right about now. ("Maxomai, you're so sweet ... you're going to make some other girl very happy. Just as long as it's not me.")

(I should count my blessings .. I may just hear that speech yet!)

I mean, yes, ok, there are many many women out there who are interested in a flashy guy who will shower them with attention, and money. There's a word for these people, and it ain't a kind one.

If you want someone who's going to like you for you, then you need to take it slow. By which I mean, start with little steps. Cheap dates. Where you enjoy each other's company.

OK, so the point?

The point is, quit worrying about it and ask each of these two girls out. Via email. To a movie. On different nights. And don't worry about picking one just yet. You haven't gone out on a first date with either with them, so there's no point in picking out the engagement ring yet. OK? Worst case scenario you'll save yourself a lot of heartache. Best case scenario, you can worry about the engagement ring later.

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GameMaster
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posted July 29, 2002 18:35     Click Here to See the Profile for GameMaster   Click Here to Email GameMaster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Max, I realize what and why you make the points you do, but don't forget, I've been around the block before, it's just I aways took the shortcut around this part of the neighborhood. I have always impressed girls woth romantic sweeping gestures with little no frieght... But then both relationships were just that from the very beging (relationships). I have never "dated" and have definatly never carbon dated. I am not looking to carbon date because that means someone is going to get hurt. As it is, the one who stands to get hurt is me, and I am fine with being hurt. I guess the thing is that I have some serious soul searching to do, but doubt if I have a soul left to search... I am sure I do, I just forgot how to acessess it.

I would love to be that direct, as it was how every sucessfull relationship I've been in started, but the fact of the matter is that if I was that direct in this case I'd scare them both off.

I appreciate the perspectives, but I am still left where I began... Looking into myself to figgure out what I want. In fact, if I were answering someone posting what I've been posting I'd tell them "Stop whinning, take tie out to figgure out who you are, what you want, and then go for it." Thank you, all of you.

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posted July 29, 2002 18:41     Click Here to See the Profile for quantumfluff   Click Here to Email quantumfluff     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Youth is fricken wasted on the young.

Have you ever heard the term Carpe Diem?

Stop thinking and analyzing and questioning your actions and everyone elses motives. Just be yourself (because if you try to be what you are not you will be found out sooner or later) and don't presume what other's reactions to you will be. If you want to go out with someone, just ask them out, dammit. It's really SO much simpler than you believe it is.

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SupportGoddess
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posted July 29, 2002 20:14     Click Here to See the Profile for SupportGoddess   Click Here to Email SupportGoddess     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
From a chick perspective, and based on recent experience:

You have gotten some great advice. Just keep it casual. A big flashy romantic gesture doesn't matter. "Would you like to have dinner some time?" works just fine. (I would stay away from the movies, however, as you can't really talk and get to know each other during a movie. If it progresses, rent a chick flick. Preferably a long one since it gives you longer to work up the nerve to go for the kiss, etc.)

If these are geek chicks, both are probably not used to thinking of themselves as attractive to guys, especially if they are young. You don't have to be extravagant to impress them, and that would probably make them uncomfortable as well.

You don't have to marry either of these chicks, one does not lead to certain doom and the other to eternal happiness. Just go out to dinner, hang out some and talk (and if you are lucky it might turn into breakfast at some point with one of them.) Get to know them, maybe it will turn into a relationship, maybe not.

Get a grip, man. =) Worst case scenario is that you wind up with two friends, and in the long run friends seem to last longer anyway.

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GameMaster
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posted July 30, 2002 09:55     Click Here to See the Profile for GameMaster   Click Here to Email GameMaster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ummm.. SG, Friends lasting longer doesn't seem to be the case for me... All I have ever had are long term relationships. Yeah, I realize I sound like a babbling idot in this thread, but I'm used to staying in a relationship not starting one. Yes, I am quite familiar with Carpe Deim, and the stories that protmote that general thinking... The only problem is the opertunities have been spoiled with talk about topics that make it difficult. Tank you for your posts.

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uilleann
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posted July 30, 2002 13:54     Click Here to See the Profile for uilleann   Click Here to Email uilleann     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Posting from Ireland are we today, GameMaster? ;)

Heh, and you remind me of me - every "solution" is always wrong (they just have to be)... care to guide any of us in the direction of what might actually be a solution? ;)

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GameMaster
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posted August 01, 2002 20:39     Click Here to See the Profile for GameMaster   Click Here to Email GameMaster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It isn't that I was looking for a particular solution, it is just that I had no idea what I wanted to do. Carbon dating, or dating two girls (even cassually) isn't me. I have always been intrested in finding "the one," as sson as possible, getting into a relationship and staying there. The real problem was: which one do I persue to those ends? And the answer I kept getting about how to find out was "Date both" which is something that I was not and am not intrested in doing. I have made a decission, and realize that if things don't happen the way I want, I am not down and out...

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GameMaster
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posted August 09, 2002 00:33     Click Here to See the Profile for GameMaster   Click Here to Email GameMaster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Intresting, intresting indeed. I have a little update, for those who care... Which is well, me.

I again am smitten by the lovely Sanja. She did a couple things that made think maybe she does have feelings for me. Well, anywho, GENCON is going on now, and a friend of ours is going dressed as his "god" the Devine Yellow Duck (some inside joke that I don't know), and so Sanja was teasing him about taping it on VHS, but anyway, I was talking with her as she was leaving to run earands and she asked if I was planning on going, I said "Yeah, it's Gen Con!" She has never been to Gen Con and this will be her first Gen Con expeirence. Well, long story short, she said "I'd really like to go, but I've got alot to do. If I do have time, would you like to come with me." She then told me that she'd be comming back to work on some of the stuff she's got to do before Sunday midnight, and told me when she'd be back and asked if I'd be around. Well, she gave me a ride home and then we talked for a few hours and while I was getting out, I asked her to Opening Night of the Ballet... She said yes, although I asked quite cassually, so it's not neededly a "date" but I asked her out and she said yes.

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neotatsu
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posted August 09, 2002 00:36     Click Here to See the Profile for neotatsu   Click Here to Email neotatsu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, I hope things work out for you GM, sounds like you really like this girl..

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GameMaster
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posted August 09, 2002 00:39     Click Here to See the Profile for GameMaster   Click Here to Email GameMaster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks Neo... I didn't realize anyone else was up this late...
Guess we geeks with insomnia are fairly common. How are things with Twink?

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neotatsu
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posted August 09, 2002 01:13     Click Here to See the Profile for neotatsu   Click Here to Email neotatsu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm always up this late .. Things with Twinkle are fine, cept she's away on a cruise with her dad, then back to her dads house for a week.. She has no net access untill she gets home, so I've got the next two weeks with no one to chat with these late nights, I'll probably revert to what I used to do and go out for a nice 2 mile walk every other night or so.. *sigh* I don't even have any good books to read, I was reading 'the long dark teatime of the soul' but that was rather short, a book with only a couple hundred pages is a single nights read.. Anywho, I'm ranting so I'll go now.

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GameMaster
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posted August 10, 2002 19:19     Click Here to See the Profile for GameMaster   Click Here to Email GameMaster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Neo walks are nice, but depending on how late... Perhaps you could find a online game to play.

Well, Gen-Con wasn't what it should have been, and the night didn't go the way that I had planned... Ah, how to explain RPGs to people who haven't played one. The ballet should go great, but that is a ways away... I guess I have to find out how to make my move, but that is a ways away.

Just thought someone may want to know what happened, but I doubt it...

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neotatsu
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posted August 10, 2002 20:04     Click Here to See the Profile for neotatsu   Click Here to Email neotatsu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
usually I walk from midnightish untill 2 or so, which is about 6-7 miles when I take my time. I used to play online games, but the ones I can play for free that I have are full of people who constantly cheat, which pisses me off, so I stopped playing them(I.E. Diablo 1&2), and the ones you have to pay for I can't afford to play. Other games in general I can't afford to play either, when I AM able to play them I rent them, because I beat every game I play within the time I have it rented for, making it rather pointless to buy..

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posted August 10, 2002 20:42     Click Here to See the Profile for TheAnnoyedCockroach   Click Here to Email TheAnnoyedCockroach     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hey, things usually don't turn out as planned. One of my biggest arguements for never planning things.

But good luck with your ballet. Seems like a good time to tell her.

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posted August 10, 2002 21:13     Click Here to See the Profile for Tyler Durden   Click Here to Email Tyler Durden     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Midnight walks aren't that bad... they help clear you mind of all the unimportant things...

Just don't wear black and give the right of way to the guys with more nitrous in their brains than their Civics

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posted August 10, 2002 21:41     Click Here to See the Profile for neotatsu   Click Here to Email neotatsu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I usually walk over to the highschool and walk on the track, it's much safer than walking the streets around here.. Around here your always only a half a block away from the next moron who thinks a big car makes a big man..

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posted August 13, 2002 06:49     Click Here to See the Profile for BlueLaser   Click Here to Email BlueLaser     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by GameMaster:
It isn't that I was looking for a particular solution, it is just that I had no idea what I wanted to do. Carbon dating, or dating two girls (even cassually) isn't me.

I guess i can emphatize with you. I've been in this situation once somewhat and i can tell u it was really really tough to decide which one i wanted. Now that it seems both girls like you and that makes it even tougher u see. You've got to be careful here coz you don't want to stick so close to either one coz if you do that they'll think u're giving them the green light. So what i suggest doing is just do something together like what good friends do, just don't do things couples do, don't go to places couples go to...yet. Because u know that it's very easy to hurt either one if you just say "i've got another", so i would think this suggestion would be more careful though i've never tried it myself. And through this, u'll get to know both of them better and then hopefully u might have a better idea of what kind of girl you like.

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posted August 17, 2002 10:52     Click Here to See the Profile for GameMaster   Click Here to Email GameMaster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Update, or rather just a few notes. We've spent a lot of time together since my last post. Since we hadn't talked about the Ballet since I asked, I almost thought she forgot. Well, lastnight I logged on to Miller (the school Unix server for Comp-sci classes) and she wrote me to ask me about it. We didn't get long to talk because someone needed the phone (6 people, 1 house, 1 phone line). I haven't done anything really obvious to let on, but I think she knows. In any case, Roach, that's what I was planning... I was thinking to take her out to eat after (even though it'll be late) and tell her then. That way if she doesn't return my feelings, the Ballet will still be pleasant for both of us.

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posted August 17, 2002 11:17     Click Here to See the Profile for TheAnnoyedCockroach   Click Here to Email TheAnnoyedCockroach     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You're a crafty man, GameMaster. Makes sense to see a good ballet before you stick your neck out... Just don't chicken out like I would.

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posted August 17, 2002 12:49     Click Here to See the Profile for GameMaster   Click Here to Email GameMaster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Dinner after makes sence, but because of how late it will run, I fear it might not work out to well. I have three plans, and each of them need to be fleshed out, and I have to chose which one to use.
The concert hall is in the heart of the city, a place that I love and spent a lot of time these past three years (as I worked down there).
There is a river that runs just behind the concert hall... There is a walkway that follows the river (called the river walk) that is one of the prettiest places in the city.

Idea 1: Across the river, there is a tiny park, where I was thinking of taking her for a picknic dinner (candle light, and roses (from the best flowershp in the city which is rather close to the hall as well) I was thinking that I could arrange it so that we meet at the hall, watch the show, and then have dinner on the river... and tell her there and give her a dozen long stem white roses.
This has a couple snags: How do I have dinner waiting in the park? How do I get the flowers but keep them out of sight untill after the show? (there is a GREAT deli near there, but by the time the show is over, it'll be closed)

Idea 2: Dinner before at a small resturant on the river, a walk along the river to the concert and tell her on the walk back down the river to where we'd park for dinner.

Idea 3: (not sure if it'd mke sence to meet at the University, take the road that follows the lake... watch the show, and catch dinner at a pizza joint... (so that it doesn't have to romatic when I tell her, she'll be somewhere that'd put her at ease and I'd take a lot more casual an approach to telling her.)

I know that the plans won't go exsactly as I see it in any situation, but without a plan I will be thinking the whole night "is this the right time?" And I'll end up at the end of the night, blurting it out like a mad man.

Thoughts anyone?

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posted August 17, 2002 15:28     Click Here to See the Profile for neotatsu   Click Here to Email neotatsu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by GameMaster:
I know that the plans won't go exsactly as I see it in any situation, but without a plan I will be thinking the whole night "is this the right time?" And I'll end up at the end of the night, blurting it out like a mad man.

Thoughts anyone?


For me, that's what would happen even with the plan..

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posted August 17, 2002 15:32     Click Here to See the Profile for GameMaster   Click Here to Email GameMaster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hey, your an Uber! Shesh. In my absences everyone is past me.
Anyway, if it works don't change it. Seems to work on TT? Or did she do the Blurting?

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Here's my thought. Ok, so it's not my thought, but it is a writing of what my thought is.

It'll happen no matter what. So don't waste too much time planning. Leave yourself some wiggle room, as you'll doubtless have jitters when you're doing this. Give yourself a bit of downtime so you can work up the courage.

Plan loosely, if that makes any sence.

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posted August 17, 2002 22:56     Click Here to See the Profile for neotatsu   Click Here to Email neotatsu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by GameMaster:
Hey, your an Uber! Shesh. In my absences everyone is past me.
Anyway, if it works don't change it. Seems to work on TT? Or did she do the Blurting?

I've been Uber since tuesday I believe, and it's lucky Twinkle didn't notice when she was on for a bit the other day, I'd hate to have her mad at me when I can't communicate with her, she's gonna be a bit perterbed with me for surpassing her while she's absent..

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posted August 18, 2002 12:28     Click Here to See the Profile for gallimaufry   Click Here to Email gallimaufry     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Originally posted by GameMaster:
Idea 1: Across the river, there is a tiny park, where I was thinking of taking her for a picknic dinner (candle light, and roses (from the best flowershp in the city which is rather close to the hall as well) I was thinking that I could arrange it so that we meet at the hall, watch the show, and then have dinner on the river... and tell her there and give her a dozen long stem white roses.
This has a couple snags: How do I have dinner waiting in the park? How do I get the flowers but keep them out of sight untill after the show? (there is a GREAT deli near there, but by the time the show is over, it'll be closed)

Do you really need to make a declaration so soon? That would freak me out if I wasn't sure about my feelings yet. It might be too much for her to take in at once. I would save Idea 1 for later, like to use it for a marriage proposal! You've been working hard to be romantic and that is really cool. I just think that you might need to tone it down so you don't make yourself too nervous and risk messing up the date. Can you just go for a walk/food/coffee/whatever and then let her know that you had a great time and that you'd like to go out with her again? I think that's enough for the first real date. Good luck!

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posted August 18, 2002 13:01     Click Here to See the Profile for GameMaster   Click Here to Email GameMaster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I suppose I should mention that the Ballet is in a month, and we've spending a lot of time together for about 3 weeks... Which means that it would 2 months I'll have been smitten and not said a word. I already feel like a coward, but there are a few things in my life I'd like to get together before I mention my crush (like getting a job again (Summer session was to busy to look for work, and frankly I feel like a bum... While I've been living off of money from my last remaing resource, I know that this money won't last long and I have bills to pay)).

There are 2 weeks before the start of next semester, and that time will spent getting a job and taking care of other eareds that have gone undone a little too long. I do feel that I need to see her sometime in these 2 weeks and if I don't I'll drive my self insane.

I do agree that a "declaration" isn't always the best way to go, as it does deffinatly have a higher probability of scaring her away, but to tell the truth, it seems more me to do it this way. Although, the other two imporatant things (that I mentioned above) will have a larger shock factor to them, and thus it probably would not be in my best intrest to do them all at the same time.

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posted August 19, 2002 00:25     Click Here to See the Profile for neotatsu   Click Here to Email neotatsu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Just remember, to thine own self be true IOW Just do what feels right man, I'd plan a nice dinner, probably the picnic one in the park, and just play it by ear on whether or not to tell her then or wait untill another time..

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bringing her out of her shell...

hmm, sounds like what happens when you get her aroused (heh, heh)

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posted August 19, 2002 17:14     Click Here to See the Profile for neotatsu   Click Here to Email neotatsu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by cheezi git:
bringing her out of her shell...

hmm, sounds like what happens when you get her aroused (heh, heh)



Yes, yes, it was meant to be a play on words, it also refers to a shell program and a mental shell..

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posted August 20, 2002 00:30     Click Here to See the Profile for gallimaufry   Click Here to Email gallimaufry     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by GameMaster:
[B]I suppose I should mention that the Ballet is in a month, and we've spending a lot of time together for about 3 weeks... B]

Yeah that does make a difference because I was thinkign it was this weekend!
have you asked any of her friends about what she thinks/says/feels about you? Whenever one of my friends says "so-and-so asked me about you today, I think he's interested" it totally makes me look at that person differently. They go from just a friend to a guy with dating potential in seconds! Then again, if this has been going on for as long as you said then she probably knows already and is just equally as shy about making it obvious. I guess I really am just no help to you! *Sigh*

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posted August 20, 2002 00:32     Click Here to See the Profile for gallimaufry   Click Here to Email gallimaufry     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by neotatsu:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by cheezi git:
[b]bringing her out of her shell...

hmm, sounds like what happens when you get her aroused (heh, heh)



Yes, yes, it was meant to be a play on words, it also refers to a shell program and a mental shell..


[/B][/QUOTE]

It's been a while since I've heard a shell script joke. I'll have to try to bring that back into style with my physics and comp sci buddies.

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posted August 20, 2002 00:49     Click Here to See the Profile for cheezi git     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

[/b][/QUOTE]
Yes, yes, it was meant to be a play on words, it also refers to a shell program and a mental shell..


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yeah, i like the different layers

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posted August 21, 2002 15:54     Click Here to See the Profile for Twinkle Toes   Click Here to Email Twinkle Toes     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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GM: Any thoughts?

Well I think I might be able to contribute something of more use if I knew a bit more about what type of geekette this is of yours, GM...

What's she like? We know she's intelligent, a computer geek, etc, blah blah... but I need the psych-info . Is this a woman who regularly speaks her mind? Is she quite feminine or a tomboyish type? Is she emotional? If you don't mind mentioning also: has she had any childhood trauma or the like?

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posted August 21, 2002 17:40     Click Here to See the Profile for GameMaster   Click Here to Email GameMaster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, since your intrested. She's serbian (as I mentioned earlier), and moved to Us her sohmore year of highschool. She moved a year later from Chicago (IL) to Milwaukee (WI). Growing up in a place of civil unrest and war, we has her share of tramua (I know a little bit about some of what she's been through). Even so, she doesn't seem to have the baggage that one would expect after having lived through that sort of thing. She scares easily, and has a lot of "girly" fears, but she isn't really a girl girl or a tomboy. Her upbringing makes her close to her family, and they all live in the same appartemnt (6 people (parents, grandparents, her and her brother)). Because of all ways having a house full of people she perfers queit places to work (study think)... Personally, I prefer a little bit of noise (like a CD or TV, even if I'm not activly paying attention to it). If it helps TT, her favorite movie is Dirty Dancing, her fovrite number is 7 and she is crazy about Ballet.

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posted August 22, 2002 00:30     Click Here to See the Profile for neotatsu   Click Here to Email neotatsu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I said it once, I'll say it again, you got it bad man, you got it bad..

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posted August 22, 2002 01:37     Click Here to See the Profile for cheezi git     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by neotatsu:
I said it once, I'll say it again, you got it bad man, you got it bad..

nah, he got it good

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posted August 22, 2002 08:35     Click Here to See the Profile for neotatsu   Click Here to Email neotatsu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by cheezi git:
nah, he got it good



ah, but bad CAN be good, I've got it bad meself..

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posted August 22, 2002 08:55     Click Here to See the Profile for cheezi git     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
and good is ALWAYS baaaaad, know what i'm talking about?!?!?!?!

hoo yeah, i love these boards

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posted August 22, 2002 11:41     Click Here to See the Profile for GameMaster   Click Here to Email GameMaster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
gallimaufry, you asked about me asking her friends... I figgure asking her friends would be rather highschool and would tell her that not only do I like her, but that I am to coward to say so. Sorry, I missed the question before, just noticed that I didn't respond.

As for having it good or bad, I have it bad and don't know if that is good yet.

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