What would be some good ideas to suggest a date with?

I'm a Senior in Highschool without a car at the moment. I'm unlikely to ask any of the other senior girls out, as I already made first impressions with them and most senior girls don't "think of me that way."

There are a couple that I can click with... But I freeze and don't know what to say after the point I find out they're not busy--with a positive tone/response attached to their voice.

Maybe she'd be interested in a LAN party?

only downside: if she's shallow or doesn't like to learn. in that case, expect to hear: "that's weird. wouldn't you rather go to the mall?" [implied: "...and buy me something expensive?"] ;)

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Originally posted by Demosthenes:
only downside: if she's shallow or doesn't like to learn.

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In which case you don't want to be with her anyway.

Maybe if the weathers nice you could ask if she wants to go out for a bike ride to the park to fly a kite or shoot some hoops.

Being carless really does drill the point. Ouch. Being carless because certain documents have a ton of red-tape and having to wait and wait is even worse. So much potential wasted... Oh well.

On the "sensitive cultured art-guy", that would be deception. I wouldn't mind deceiving her a bit, but then I would have to maintain the deception and might actually try to believe it myself. I'm definitely not sensitive, cultured or an art-guy. I'm bone-headed at times, read for body language and cues in the tone/inflection of voice, I have a keen interest on social sciences (especially psychology...), sci-fi, fantasy and like industrial/techno music. Classical just gives me headaches at times.

Wait a minute: Converse minimally!??!?! I want to Maximize conversation! I depend on my communicative skills to impress dates/people. My so-so looks aren't going to anything. Prompting talk about herself, guiding the conversation into universal topics (dreams, shared experiences, avoid work). Everyone has dreams, right? Just today this gal (who has a boyfriend-don't they all?) shared with me a dream of hers which she wanted to keep private. I'm not going to tell what it was either :P

My voice is my most attractive quality.. well the way and what is said anyways. Not the voice itself; I don't have Barry White's voice, but with the right facial expressions and body language.. I can give visual cues saying, "I'm attractive, I find you attractive, let's get together" without saying a word.

i like doc holliday's idea of karaoke, provided that she's the type who'll think it cool in an ironic fashion, rather than dorky (yes, i do remember what high school was like... ) laughter and mutually enjoyable mild embarrassment bring people together. besides, karaoke provides excellent opportunities for fool-for-love-type behavior, should you guys truly hit it off (i.e., you could always serenade her, though that might be a bit much for a first date. the key to making it charming/funny/sweet instead of cringe-worthy is to ham it up, way up.)

... then again, my idea of romance is setting off tiggers, so what do i know.

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Hmm, well considering the time of year, how about taking her ice skating? Nothing like going around the ice rink a few times and following it up with a couple cups of hot chocolate!

Possible response to "No, Why?": I wanted to go ice skating on day/date but I need someone to teach me.

Or how about taking a carriage ride around the park? (or in my case, Omaha's Old Market) It is something that is different & romantic - but may be too much in the early stages of a relationship.

Possible response to question: I thought I'd like to take a carriage ride around place in question but my thermos holds enough coco for two - shame to let it go to waste.

WARNING!!! The above listed suggestions are strictly conjectural and have not been field tested! All personnel are urged to take proper precautions before employing!

The Doctor is In... (An 80's sort of groove tonight)

First off, to answer the question, I'd just go for coffee/tea/desert. Places you'd go for this usually don't care about your casual attitude for time (a.k.a. loitering), and it will give you guys time to chat, without any significant constraints, and price tags.

As for the whole thing about dating, I don't know... I used to be all about obssessing over a woman, and trying to make her like me... saddly, I realized something: I don't like most people that much. The whole point of dating is to find someone who brings something to your life, and you to her/his. This is cool, but you might lose sight of this is you try too hard.

My point being, you might be better off with a couple of those non-date dates to begin with, and if you actually enjoy spending time with the person, or just enjoy looking at her body, then go for a "real" date.

That was my 2 cents into that.

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``To win a hundred victories in a hundred battles is not the
highest excellence; the highest excellence is to subdue the
enemy's army without fighting at all.''

-- Sun-Tzu

The Ice Skating idea may work... Ask to meet her there (complication might be that she might not know where it is. I don't want to ask my parents to arrange the ride. Well, maybe Dad, he's a lot more understanding...)
Beyond that, I like Ice skating and can do a few tricks (well basics). At my hometown, there was an ice-skating rink that had some exceptionally skilled people and I imitated them. I learned to stop in various ways, do certain circles and various curving motions, go backwards carefully, and most importantly:
Smile at another person beside me and skate at the same time.

Still, I really wish I had my own ride.
The carriage idea would've been good, had I known any carriages or could arrange for one.

The arcade would be good... sort of.. but I'm not sure of the anonyminity/privacy factor one needs on dates. Too many people... An Ice Rink would be good because its mainly strangers at the Ice rink and they don't matter as much. One can filter them out.
I really like the Ice Skating idea because I like Ice Skating Besides, if she falls, it'll give me an excuse to "pick her up"

-Drasca

PS: Something odd happened to me today.
I went to lunch, sat down at my table with some fellow geek friends. A french fry was thrown from the table in front and hit the tray of the guy to the right of me (Didn't know him). I didn't mind.
Then, as I was talking to my pals to the left of me, another fry was thrown from starboard astern (right and behind) and winged my right shoulder.

I saw one of my acquaintences. It was a loud-mouthed, childish skinny gal who has somehow endeared myself with. We barely know each other but engage in small-talk that never goes anywhere (never close to deep). You know, the kind of rabble that you keep at arm's distance but they never realize that you're humoring their feeble attempts at distant socializations that never go anywhere. She is just laughing and giggling, shouting, "I didn't throw it. It was _____" then points at her friend to her right. I'm just turning around, eyebrow raised and smiling at this. Waving it off and chortling a bit. Her friend is embarassed at having missed her target and cringes a bit (though I think she was smiling as well). A few moments after I turned back around, my female acquaintence who I have only interest in humoring (looks like friendliness and ability to small talk to her. Well, maybe kindness for when she was sick with the flu and constantly stating she would get better positively), states her friend's name and her phone number and says to call her.

Of course, all I remember is laughing and stating this deserves a prank call. Then, as I turned around, the female acquaintence said something to the effect: That means he's interested, to her friend.

An hour later, I was walking outside into the hallway and saw my acquaintence walking the same way along with some other guys/jocks. She loudly (she's always loud), shouted that "_My name_ has _her friend's name_ phone number" to the guys. They responded "she's hot" and proceeded to slap my hand. I laughed it off.

I don't know this girl. I've never seen her before and have had a chance encounter lasting 5 minutes. I barely know my acquaintence and have the nagging feeling that it was all a joke.. even though I do have the number and do remember it. But the situation is different now, I'm respected by the underclassmen. These were underclassmen and the jocks were seniors. A friend who is a sophomore, mentioned he recognized the name and when I mentioned I had her number he said, "Damn you" in mock-envy (more congrats than envy).

I don't know, shall I call? Shall I wait? Shall I ignore this all? I don't know. Any ideas?

(feels like changing lunch tomorrow and trying to meet her again and see if I can hit something off.. or shall I call today?)

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``To win a hundred victories in a hundred battles is not the
highest excellence; the highest excellence is to subdue the
enemy's army without fighting at all.''

-- Sun-Tzu

Hey, shut up. I'd need to have the limo and money coming out of my ass (proverbially, not literally - I mean, think of the paper cuts) for a girl to even look in my general direction.

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Originally posted by MeckaMon:
Hey, shut up. I'd need to have the limo and money coming out of my ass (proverbially, not literally - I mean, think of the paper cuts) for a girl to even look in my general direction.

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The Doctor is Out... (Trying to resurrect an old dual-Pentium server)

Oh, that is easy to resolve! Prepare a map in advance and if she does not know where the rink is, give it to her. Yahoo's maps section works pretty well - but if you are skilled in a drawing program that may actually be better.

Beyond that, I like Ice skating and can do a few tricks (well basics). At my hometown, there was an ice-skating rink that had some exceptionally skilled people and I imitated them. I learned to stop in various ways, do certain circles and various curving motions, go backwards carefully, and most importantly:
Smile at another person beside me and skate at the same time.

Ah, so you can wow her with your skating prowess eh? Good for you! Just try not to over do it ok?

PS: Something odd happened to me today....
Hmmm, I would have to say that every joke has some seed of truth to it. While the offer may have been made in jest, I would bet that there may be some genuine interest. Certainly worth investigating.

Call vs. meeting during lunch? Oh, tough call. Personally, I would do the face to face at lunch because it is easier to gauge her reactions that way.

Caveat: This is coming from the man that is curling up with "The Selected Works of Mark Twain" this Valentine's Day. Proceed with caution! 8)

The Doctor is Out... (Super Freak'n! )

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Seize the day my friend.

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As Doc says, I would call, but not too eager. She knows you have her number, therefore should not be surprised if you called. This might sound a bit strange, but work out what you want to say to her first and even write it down, there is nothing worse than being stuck for words.

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``To win a hundred victories in a hundred battles is not the
highest excellence; the highest excellence is to subdue the
enemy's army without fighting at all.''

-- Sun-Tzu

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``To win a hundred victories in a hundred battles is not the
highest excellence; the highest excellence is to subdue the
enemy's army without fighting at all.''

-- Sun-Tzu

Knights in Satan's Service??

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Originally posted by RedNivek:
Words to live by... you get all fancy and people get uptight and nervous.... you do stuff you like doing with others and it all snaps into place... and if it doesnt, then who cares because you're out with someone who isnt into your kinda stuff.

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Not true, (playing devil's advocate) Some girls like it fancy, they enjoy the attention and the fact that you went to great lengths for them. Of course , she has to be worth it and of course, all within limits, ehh?

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``To win a hundred victories in a hundred battles is not the
highest excellence; the highest excellence is to subdue the
enemy's army without fighting at all.''

-- Sun-Tzu

For simple dating (especially first dates), you keep is simple and the "attention" is what you pay to her, not pay to a limo company.

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Originally posted by RedNivek:
you end up thinking all women are evil and relationships arent worth it... or something like that.

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And of course you are THE authority on relationships and how they workout and why they workout the way they do. Please don't make light of other people's pain.....You wouldn't understand the kind of mental and emotional state i was in when i posted that..... Lets just say that i a non-drinker, had drank a rather hefty amount of hard liqour after going through something that would make being in hell a desirable proposition.

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``To win a hundred victories in a hundred battles is not the
highest excellence; the highest excellence is to subdue the
enemy's army without fighting at all.''

-- Sun-Tzu

"Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, Nor hell a fury
like a woman scorned."
-- William Congreve, The Mourning Bride
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Now, I understand that you may be in a bit of a foul mood, and I am in no way irritated because of that. I'm being a nice guy and offering you a bit of leniency because I realize that your mental faculties may not currently be up to optimal operational standards. This is not, however, an all-day Disney-World pass to be a jerk. Thus, I propose an idea which will mutually benefit all parties (at least those that frequent this BBS): go complain to someone else, or at the minimum, behave in a rational manner. I really don't think this is too much to ask.

Cross me next time, and I won't be so lenient. Thanks for calling; bye now.

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Originally posted by MeckaMon:
Alright, mephisto...

Now, I understand that you may be in a bit of a foul mood, and I am in no way irritated because of that. I'm being a nice guy and offering you a bit of leniency because I realize that your mental faculties may not currently be up to optimal operational standards. This is not, however, an all-day Disney-World pass to be a jerk. Thus, I propose an idea which will mutually benefit all parties (at least those that frequent this BBS): [b]go complain to someone else, or at the minimum, behave in a rational manner. I really don't think this is too much to ask.

Cross me next time, and I won't be so lenient. Thanks for calling; bye now.

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Firstly i would like to thank Tau for his support. Thank you, very much Tau.

OKay, now to answer Mecka.
Hey, Mecka get off your high horse and come down to earth. You are not the moderator of this board. There were no irritating comments, no swearing or anything that mean in my post. I was just being sarcastic, have you heard of it , mecka?
Fine, being sentient I will agree that i have been a pain lately but i'm working on it and there will be improvement in how i post. Since,i acknowledged that i have been a jerk on this board , i apologise to the whole board, not to mecka. How the hell did i "cross" you mecka? I haven't made any personal attacks on you or said anything demeaning to you. If you feel that way, tough luck. I will not apologise to you because you yourself have been a jerk in your last post that was addressed to me. Be nice to someone in pain, mecka cause what goes around comes around.
I will not henceforth complain on this board and conduct myself as any self respecting , emotion-bottling geek behaves.
Mecka, one thing though, you might have been mean to me in your last post but you have tried to help me sometime back and i truly thank you for that since it helped me get some kind of perspective on my situation. Thanks, mecka.
Lastly, rational thought is slowly begining to come back to me....
so, things should improve.............

mephisto

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``To win a hundred victories in a hundred battles is not the
highest excellence; the highest excellence is to subdue the
enemy's army without fighting at all.''

-- Sun-Tzu