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stareintome Newbie Posts: 5 |
posted January 08, 2002 07:51
I've been looking for a companion very unsuccessfully. I figured I'd come here since I love my Mac, and I'd like someone to share it with. I'm 18, live in NJ, and am a male searching for a female. If you're curious as to what I look like, I've got my picture here. Please read my website (www.stareintome.com) and gain some insight as to what I'm like, everything there is a look inside me. Drop me an email if you're interested, or IM me (my screenname's stare into me). Give me (and slipstream, my iBook) a chance. I'm sure you won't regret finding me. ------------------ have to believe in a world outside my own mind. I have to believe that my actions still have meaning. I have to believe that, when I close my eyes, the world's still here." IP: Logged |
Tau Zero BlabberMouth, the Next Generation. Posts: 1747 |
posted January 08, 2002 10:25
If you're only 18, it's hard to believe that you know what "alone too long" really means. IP: Logged |
stareintome Newbie Posts: 5 |
posted January 08, 2002 11:28
No need for deriding comments, is there? I've been through a lot lately. ------------------ have to believe in a world outside my own mind. I have to believe that my actions still have meaning. I have to believe that, when I close my eyes, the world's still here." IP: Logged |
EddieKatz Geek Apprentice Posts: 47 |
posted January 08, 2002 14:04
Honey, just give it some time. Tao Zero is right, you are very young. I thought I knew it all at 18, and it's a pity that you don't realize that you don't until after you could have benefited from knowing that. You'll find the right girl, but you sound so sad, it makes me want to give you some chicken soup and promise you life will get better. The best advice (from a girl who's survived being lonely at 18) is to really try to enjoy the other parts of your life. And try to be social. You'll never meet people if you never leave your computer. Though we're a charming group here, most of us don't live on the internet. Just hang in there, you'll be alright. IP: Logged |
ZorroTheFox BlabberMouth, the Next Generation. Posts: 1812 |
posted January 08, 2002 15:20
wow, 18 is too long? I am 28, that must be an eternity. I have a single friend in his 40's, I can't imagine how long that must be. Now I am missing My youth, and I feel like something has been taken from Me. I would type more but I can no longer see as the pain has become too intense. Wait a minute, I do have someone. I totally forgot about My '68 Barracuda. I feel much better know. Sometime I forget My priorities. I hope you have better luck than I did with humans........Z IP: Logged |
Akira Super Geek Posts: 208 |
posted January 18, 2002 14:51
I can sympathize with this guy, actually. I was of legal drinking age until my first real girlfriend. It's unbelievably not fun. ------------------ IP: Logged |
stareintome Newbie Posts: 5 |
posted January 19, 2002 18:24
Finally, someone posting something other than a criticism of my topic. Perhaps there is a hint of sanity still left. ------------------ have to believe in a world outside my own mind. I have to believe that my actions still have meaning. I have to believe that, when I close my eyes, the world's still here." IP: Logged |
macadddikt18 BlabberMouth, the Next Generation. Posts: 1792 |
posted January 21, 2002 16:32
I do feel sorry for the guy. But seems like there is more to life than a girl, or a guy. I mean if you think i girl will bring you happyness, then for all it's worth, i am all for that. But from my experence a girl is not going to bring you happyness. Happyness is not found in relationships. but in yourself. Humm. Maybe i am a bit off. but that is just what i have seen. Nayt ------------------ IP: Logged |
Xanthine Highlie Posts: 788 |
posted January 21, 2002 19:14
Dude, I was in your shoes. Then I went to college. Three weeks after my arrival on campus I was in a steady relationship. 22 months later I was alone again, and I actually prefer being single (but that may not last). I understand where you're coming from - I felt the same way at the time. You can't appreciate being single until you've been through a break-up I guess. A relationship can be a very joyful uplifting thing. If it lasts, great. But if it doesn't, the down can be devastating. I was nearly suicidal before mine ended. The guy did me a favor when he dumped me. Be patient. I know it seems like it sucks, but the time will come. ------------------ IP: Logged |
stareintome Newbie Posts: 5 |
posted January 22, 2002 11:49
OK, might as well throw this out there. I am actually in college right now (I'm on my second quarter). My luck with relationships has been probably the worst I've ever even heard about. My previous ex cheated on my 16 times in 2 hours (I didn't think it was physically possible either, but she confirms this number). To this day she regrets her actions, and has been pleading with me to get back together. This won't happen. She and I are far too different, I'm even surprised it lasted the few months that it did. Before her, there was a girl who, one night, tried to kill me. No exaggeration. Now what I'm telling you is no plea for sympathy, I'm just trying to expediate that, despite my age, my life experience may be more extensive than you think. I'm not asking for pity, I came here in hopes of, perhaps, meeting someone. ------------------ have to believe in a world outside my own mind. I have to believe that my actions still have meaning. I have to believe that, when I close my eyes, the world's still here." IP: Logged |
macadddikt18 BlabberMouth, the Next Generation. Posts: 1792 |
posted January 22, 2002 14:30
Oh man, that had to suck, 16 times in 2 hours. i would have hit her on the head with a frying pan. I feel sory for both you guys though. i still stick to the fact that happyness is not found in a realtionship with someone of the other sex. It is found inside. To me there is joy that i am single, and i am glad i don't have to worry about taking care of a relationship right now. I will deal with that when i am out of college in about 5 years. Untill then the happyness i have allready is all i need to go on. Nayt IP: Logged |
Tau Zero BlabberMouth, the Next Generation. Posts: 1747 |
posted January 23, 2002 14:11
Sixteen times in two hours is a gang-bang. You are right, no girl in her right mind is going to do such a thing voluntarily. Besides, there's no knowing what she caught that night. You are better off without her. As for what she needs, she doesn't need a boyfriend. She needs counselling. IP: Logged |
Raptorgirl Super Geek Posts: 120 |
posted January 25, 2002 15:55
Give it time. From junior high to the present, I've attracted psycho stalker Mama's boys. Most of them have dropped away by now, although a couple still linger in the background and send me flirtatious AIMs. But I've found someone decent and non-stalkery at the moment, and I'm happy. You're a good-looking guy, if I may say so. Don't be in such a rush, especially at your age. IP: Logged |
codelphi Newbie Posts: 6 |
posted February 03, 2002 02:42
The main thing to realize is that a relationship with anyone whether male or female is simply a way of enjoying the things you have in common and providing a means for release of the problems you feel from both sides of the relationship. Although a romantic relationship is always nice, what you may need is simply a good friend who shares your same views to help you deal with your problems on a day to day basis. I too, have been in similiar situations and have found that understanding friends are immensly valuable. Also realize that although everyone likes to believe that there is a perfect match for them out there, finding them is extremely difficult. What may be the solution for you is to simply define what you value most and try to find the similiar qualities in others. In this way you will have better chances in finding a compatable mate and hopefully find what you are looking for. IP: Logged |
macadddikt18 BlabberMouth, the Next Generation. Posts: 1792 |
posted February 03, 2002 10:16
it is hard to have that romantic relationship without that freindship there first. A romantic relationship is not much more than a friendship. So my advise is just stick with finding a good friend. Nayt ------------------ IP: Logged |
dragonman97 Assimilated Posts: 381 |
posted February 03, 2002 14:44
Damn, I feel for you. That is plain sick of her. On the loneliness thing, I hear you. I'm a lonely college sophomore myself, but I'm still hopeful, and my friend says she's going to try to find someone for me, as she knows how shy I can be. I might just find someone decent myself though. Just persevere, and never lose hope. And don't overanalyze things, that's probably something geeks like myself do, until they realize that they wasted precious time, the opportunity is gone. All that said, I may as well stoop so far as to ask - any ~20 year old geek chicks in the Westchester area in NY? IP: Logged |
rednecklinux Geek Larva Posts: 21 |
posted February 06, 2002 08:56
Speaking as one of the older geeks here (age, not replies), all I can tell you is that if you spend your whole life looking to find happiness in other people then you will have a long search. Be proud of yourself and others will notice you. True happiness must come from within, find joy in the things you do and the people you spend time with. Not the greatest advice, I know, but give it time. Be happy in who you are and you should attract the right woman for YOU! ------------------ IP: Logged |
seraphim Geek-in-Training Posts: 31 |
posted February 06, 2002 22:16
quote: hey, son't be so down, your cute! I'm a few years older than you, but i hope it makes you feel good. being alone is hard, especially when you have hard times in your life, I understand that well. but take some of the others' advice. a good place for you to meet like minded girls would be mac conventions. good luck!!! ------------------ IP: Logged |
dragon34 Mini-Geek Posts: 57 |
posted February 07, 2002 04:48
dragonman97.. it all depends on what you consider "in the westchester area" I'm about 70 miles from westchester according to mapquest. So if there is little traffic and people are going as fast as they usually are on the merritt: an hour or so. IP: Logged |
annie Alpha Geek Posts: 334 |
posted February 07, 2002 06:24
quote: You know what the problem with "older" people is sometimes? (20 yr old speaking here) They think they know everything and they forget what it's like to be young. I believe you can feel just as lonely at 18 as you can at 40. And yes you will survive, even if you're single (everybody knows that), but most people don't just want to "survive". They want a little more from life. And feeling lonely sucks (regardless how old you are). ------------------ IP: Logged |
stareintome Newbie Posts: 5 |
posted February 07, 2002 07:41
I'm glad someone agrees with me. On another note, though, I might have found someone. Like them all, the situation is strange, but I'll keep you all posted. When I can, I'll update my website (www.stareintome.com) and let everyone know what's going on. I'm still always open to new friends, especially Mac people (it's kind of empty in NJ, at least central NJ). Until then, it's me, signing off. ------------------ have to believe in a world outside my own mind. I have to believe that my actions still have meaning. I have to believe that, when I close my eyes, the world's still here." IP: Logged |
Oldguy geek Alpha Geek Posts: 310 |
posted February 07, 2002 07:48
quote: You may have a fair point, though I *do* remember what it was like when I was 17 or 18. I don't much like reliving the memories of those times because, although parts were pretty good, other parts sucked. And, no, I don't think I know everything. I do think I have figured a few things out in that past 30 or so years. Some of those things I would not have believed when I was 18, so I generally try to keep quiet about those. IP: Logged |
Tau Zero BlabberMouth, the Next Generation. Posts: 1747 |
posted February 07, 2002 15:55
quote:Actually, it sucks more when you're younger because you don't have any experience with getting through it. Lonely is one thing, desperate and losing your grip on sanity because you can't see how you'll make it is much worse. Experience is a great teacher. Unfortunately, it kills all of its students. IP: Logged |
dragonman97 Assimilated Posts: 381 |
posted April 06, 2002 16:40
quote: Ah, the other dragon whom I have noticed before, with an apparent close proximity. I work in Purchase, NY, 15 minutes from Greenwich. Where I live will remain a mystery, as least publicly. IP: Logged |
snupy Highlie Posts: 729 |
posted April 06, 2002 19:44
quote: Oh, my god, Zorro-you're only 28?????I can't believe that. All that cynicism takes decades to perfect-I'm in awe. i hope this site still exists when you find a woman who will rock your world so we can all celebrate life with you. IP: Logged |
stare Newbie Posts: 6 |
posted April 07, 2002 06:20
Funny, I'm the most cynical person I know, and I haven't gotten much older than I was in my first post. IP: Logged |
ZorroTheFox BlabberMouth, the Next Generation. Posts: 1812 |
posted April 07, 2002 08:48
quote: I'm sure the site will be around, I just hope I have the energy left to visit. There is a possibility I could be too tied up the relationship, though I am bound to show up again from time to time. I might even throw a costume party just for the occasion, though I might have to put an age limit on the people who show up. I have a feeling that some people might not come dressed for the occasion >;o) ...........Z IP: Logged |
snupy Highlie Posts: 729 |
posted April 07, 2002 10:32
quote: Didn't we cover being bound and tied up in another thread.....anyway, glad to see you haven't given up hope there, Zorro. I'm up for a costume party! IP: Logged |
ZorroTheFox BlabberMouth, the Next Generation. Posts: 1812 |
posted April 08, 2002 17:49
quote: yeah, I think the bondage thing was pretty well beaten up in a previous thread. It is always fun go back through the ropes once in a while though for all the newbies. I will be going to a fun event this summer. There will be plenty of costumes there and hopefully some single girls will show up this year. At the very least I hope to get some good leads like I did last year. For those who enjoy a little S&M with their camping feel free to check this out http://www.triskeli.org/itw2002/ and be sure to read the warning page. We don't need any kids wandering in and being scarred for life >;o) ............Z IP: Logged |
snupy Highlie Posts: 729 |
posted April 08, 2002 19:02
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spungo Highlie Posts: 652 |
posted April 09, 2002 03:55
Ah, I forgive you, Snupy! Give me a kiss in front of all these folks here and I'll never mention it again. ------------------ IP: Logged |
snupy Highlie Posts: 729 |
posted April 09, 2002 18:14
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ZorroTheFox BlabberMouth, the Next Generation. Posts: 1812 |
posted April 09, 2002 18:35
spungo can be invited too, there's always room for more at My parties >;o) ...............Z IP: Logged |
snupy Highlie Posts: 729 |
posted April 09, 2002 19:23
quote: Spungo, I'm scared. IP: Logged |
spungo Highlie Posts: 652 |
posted April 10, 2002 03:26
quote: Nah, don't worry - it'll be fun. Just remember to keep the car keys handy! ------------------ IP: Logged |
Stormtalon Geek Apprentice Posts: 42 |
posted April 10, 2002 14:36
Well, there you have it. The growing suspicions I've had are true. Zorro's life story IS told in musical form by the album "Sexplosion" from My Life with the Thrill Kill Kult....
Stormtalon ------------------ And often. IP: Logged |
ZorroTheFox BlabberMouth, the Next Generation. Posts: 1812 |
posted April 10, 2002 18:41
oh great, does this mean I have to listen to a theme song every time I enter a room >;o) .............Z IP: Logged |
TheAnnoyedCockroach Highlie Posts: 689 |
posted April 10, 2002 19:28
You get used to the theme song rather quickly, Zorro. It'll actually start to amuse you after a while. ------------------ IP: Logged |
erp Geek Larva Posts: 26 |
posted April 11, 2002 08:08
staremeister, the time will come...
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stare Newbie Posts: 6 |
posted April 11, 2002 08:43
Sounds like the girls I met at MWNY last year. I hope they show up again, I've got a new iBook to show them. ds IP: Logged |
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