My Poem

Long hair is *not* harder to take care of. It's far easier. Sleep with it in a braid and it takes less than two minutes to dress it in the morning. Compare that with the twenty-minute hassle of my current crop of short curls.

Long hair does not necessarily make a woman look better. In my case, I have short curls now because I needed hair height to properly frame my face. Long hair really did nothing for the looks of my *face.*

I think guys like long hair because hair is a female secondary sexual characteristic. The more hair, the more desirable. Same deal as the chest measurement. The more of it you have, the more they speak to your chest (or hair) instead of to your face. It's hardwired into the male psyche. They can't do anything about it. I once knew a woman of heroic chest measurement who tired of men speaking to her with their eyes fixed at a point several inches below her chin. One day, she just quit speaking, and when the man looked up at her, she looked down at herself, then back up at him, and announced "I guess they don't speak."

When my hair is long, it's magnificent; extraordinarily thick, healthy, the color of polished walnut. Strangers offered me money for it, a *lot* of money. But I got tired of being identified by my hair instead of by my brain, so I cut it off. Again. And donated it to a children's cancer foundation.

I've been lectured by men who tell me "all women should have long hair" like somehow they have the right to make such a decision for me. I've been followed by complete strangers in grocery stores who "just want to touch it." My husband, God bless him, didn't even notice my last haircut (shoulder-length to short and curly) for three days. He, the total rat, is blessed with the most beautiful curly red hair I have ever seen, even liberally sprinkled with grey as it is.

Even if it is a hassle, I like my current hair. It won't last forever. Sooner or later I'll tire of the stylist bills and let it grow long again. And then it's back to yanking my hair out of a stranger's grip with the phrase "Get your own!"

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Originally posted by EddieKatz:
as for guys with long hair, as a general rule, it's just bad. unless you're really the crunchy granola type, it just screams metal head to me, which brings up unpleasant memories from the past. and if it's a mullet (aka hockey hair) i run screaming in the other direction. i don't date anyone with hair longer than mine, or a chest bigger than mine (fat or muscle-y, doesn't matter).

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(snif) I guess that's three strikes right off (long-ish hair, been listed under "metal" often enough, and though I don't know your chest size, there aren't too many women who had bigger chests than mine).

I used to have shorter hair, but I'd been dating someone with a strong preference for long hair several years back and have just kept it that way since. I haven't done any formal studies on the matter, but if I had to make a guess based on comments from various women, I'd say that it's about four-to-one in favor of long hair on guys.

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Originally posted by MariRumpus:
Five years later, it's down to my fanny. I cut it off. And so on, my whole life.

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I like shoulder-length hair... and brunettes... with dark mysterious eyes...

But then, I always liked Veronica more than Betty.

It does seem that most of the women that I have been attracted to in the last couple of years have long hair, but the ones that I have actually had relationships with have short hair.

I especially like long hair that is curly. I recently had an infatuation with a latin girl with long curly hair. Unfortunately, she broke my heart.

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Originally posted by annie:
Don't kill me if you disagree.

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I got my hair cut everytime I broke up with someone.

It was a theory of my best girlfriend at the time that if you experience heartache, the best thing to do is to do something cool with your hair, drink tea, and read a yummy book. I agreed and have stuck to that belief ever since. The problem is that because I'm asian and my hair is very black and silky I can't dye it and I can't perm it. So, I could only cut it.

For a long time, I had a short bob and looked like the perfect asian daughter (ha!) albeit outspoken and sometimes defiant. I started growing out my hair because I fell in love (oh, so much so!) and he loved my hair and I loved him so I grew it past my shoulders and close to my waist.

And then we broke up.

So, long hair could just be a matter of circumstance. I just wish it was lice at times.

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Originally posted by DUCT TAPE:
i've never been a big fan of long hair on guys. i like it when they have nice thick hair, but not long hair. i like my hair longer because then i can play with it.

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Socorro! Yo no se lo que digo!

Besides... In the end, it's not the hair that matters.