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trillianastra
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posted July 26, 2002 02:23     Click Here to See the Profile for trillianastra     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I know that this topic was introduced before, but it seems that it deteriorated a bit without too much said that addressed the actual topic. I'm not quite sure however, as halfway through reading all of the posts I began to lose my will to live and decided to stop. Of course that could have been because I was running out of coffee at the time. Pardon the preface everyone, but I felt the need to apologize for reintroducing the topic when all of you have probably lost interest in it.Now, getting to the point before I find myself apologizing for the apology for the apology ad infinitum...here is my input on the matter:

Geek women spend most of their time where their male counterparts do..in front of their computers. A computer chair in one's home is not a place naturally conducive to meeting fleshy persons of any sex, so it is not surprising that geeks have quite a problem on their hands when they seek a possible mate. Luckily, even the most devout geek has to go out for suplies some time. That said, I don't think the question is "where do geek chix hang out?" since most of them don't "hang out" in the usual sense of the word. It is, instead, "Where do geek women go when they are forced into the outside world?"
An obvious answer to this question would be the grocery store, but geeks do not just require food for the body and besides, too many restauraunts deliver to make grocery shopping necesary. Geeks need brain food. We need books. We need games. We need new toys. We need ink cartridges and paper. We need components for the two-way radio we are building from scratch just for the hell of it. In order to meet XX geeks, or even XY geeks for that matter, you need to go to the same places you always go. The trick lies in going there more often and lingering so that you increase your encounters. Go to the comic book shop, or the hobby shop and instead of ducking in and out quickly, browse a bit. Start a few conversations with other patrons. They don't just have to be possible mates either. It cannot hurt the normally a-social geek to practice the art of small talk..besides, maybe one of them has an available sister/brother/friend. Another good idea is to go to the library, and actually read a portion of some of the tomes you've dicovered there. Libraries don't just have chairs and tables for decoration. Barnes and Nobles and Books-a-Million even have coffee shops in the store! That makes it a great place to sit, sip, read and possibly have a little conversation with others who are doing the same thing.(Maybe for the same reason?)
Another facet to consider is that many geeks can't find what they need to breath in stores. We need interaction too, but most of us are too intimidated or disgusted by the kinds of interaction that others seem so fond of. Good places to get this kind of interaction are Linux Users Groups, Mac Users Groups, writers' groups, gaming conventions and marathons, humanist meetings, Libertarian meetings, etc etc. Try checking out a few of these, if you haven't already. You could even start one if you have to. The activity will be rewarding in and of itself, if only because you will get to share your experiences and interests with other people whose eyes won't glaze over when you start discussing them.
I suppose the whole point of this is to illustrate the fact that there are places where you can meet other geeks, you just have to get out and do it if what you want is companionship. Moping about in front of my computer...err...your computer is not going to do much to help me..er..you meet people IRL. Not until we get commercial cloning and home delivery options.

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GameMaster
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posted July 26, 2002 02:42     Click Here to See the Profile for GameMaster   Click Here to Email GameMaster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I seen and given this advice a few times, but not only to geeks. I always laugh at the unmber of people who think clubs are bars are where you go when your single... The fact is single people go there because they are single, which means while they are there they are not being themselves, they are being hunters... besides the fact that drinking and dating do not mix well. You have the potential to do something in front of Mr/Mrs right that would give them the wrong impression, besides if you've had enough the coat rack might look like Mr./Mrs. right.

Going to places you normally go makes sence, because you'll have at least the reason that you are there as a common intrest and topic. If your in a commic book store you talk about the elusive first issue of this or that, if in a computer store you can talk about how your converting a old 386 into a router... If for some reason you end up in a sports store, you can talk about home many homerunns the bulls got in their last football game.... errrrr... you get the idea! Bookstores are full of all kinds of intresting people, even if you aren't looking for a mate, it might be fun to just start talking to people about the books they've read and are reading.

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TheAnnoyedCockroach
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posted July 26, 2002 06:53     Click Here to See the Profile for TheAnnoyedCockroach   Click Here to Email TheAnnoyedCockroach     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I don't really have anything to say about this topic, except all I could think about after reading the title "Where the Geek Girls Are" was that children's book, "Where the Wild Things Are."

Needless to say, it proved to be quite an interesting thought for a while...

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trillianastra
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posted July 26, 2002 07:17     Click Here to See the Profile for trillianastra     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
TheAnnoyedCockroach:That is understandable. "Wild things" and "geek girls" are synonymous phrases, are they not?

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maxomai
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posted July 26, 2002 13:53     Click Here to See the Profile for maxomai   Click Here to Email maxomai     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Your best bet is probably the SCA. There's tons of geek girls there. I'd also recommend live-action role playing games.

I met more geek girls through local pagan groups than through any other geeky type activity.

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TheAnnoyedCockroach
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posted July 26, 2002 14:16     Click Here to See the Profile for TheAnnoyedCockroach   Click Here to Email TheAnnoyedCockroach     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
trillianastra: I wouldn't know. I've not known many that well.

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Janeway
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posted July 26, 2002 14:16     Click Here to See the Profile for Janeway   Click Here to Email Janeway     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
SCA is lots of fun...It's not often that you get to watch sweaty guys wrapped in metal beat each other with sticks (except maybe at bondage camp ). And the feasts, oh my god, the feasts are wonderful. There's usually a few other activities, too. At the last event I went to, they even had Medieval boardgames (like Fox and Geese and Nine-Man's Morris), A&S (Arts and sciences) contest (or was it a garb contest?--can't remember), classes (on such things as dyes and lacemaking and Viking wrestling), and after the feast, music and dancing. There's usually vendors set up too, selling all sorts of little goodies--jewelry and garb and swords and armor. And did I mention the feasts?

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neotatsu
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posted July 26, 2002 20:13     Click Here to See the Profile for neotatsu   Click Here to Email neotatsu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by maxomai:
Your best bet is probably the SCA. There's tons of geek girls there. I'd also recommend live-action role playing games.

aye, that was probably the biggest inspiration to get ME interested in that kind of stuff...

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trillianastra
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posted July 26, 2002 21:09     Click Here to See the Profile for trillianastra     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I'd also recommend live-action role playing games.

No offense to anyone who posted, but LARPing and LARPers always struck me as rather strange(read:VERY strange). Admittedly, I've only ever really spent time around one group of them, but that was enough to convince me that I don't ever need to date a LARPer!( The LARPers in question are actually going to appear on Insomniac...or maybe they were already on. I am so out of touch.) Make no mistake, I do like SCA, and I absolutely love traditional role-playing, but LARPing is another matter entirely. I place them in about the same category I place religious fanatics, I guess, which is probably unfair but the parallels are there:

Religious fanatics are always trying to get you to "visit" their group. LARPers are too.

Religious fanatics have this Book that you just have to read.[/b]So do LARPERS. Usually it is Vampire the Masquerade Player's Handbook.

Religios fanatics wear strange garb, as prescribed by their Book. LAPERS? Ditto.

Relgious fanatics don't seem to get on with anyone but other members of their group. LARPERS don't seem to get on well with anyone but other LARPERS who play the same game.

Religious fanatics get horribly offended if you say anything even vaguely negative about their group or their Book. LARPers will threaten you with a machete/katana/broad sword if you even [i]look at their Book wrong, or make a suggestion that they not take it so seriously.

I could go on here, but in the interest of brevity, let me just say that this is not a breed that I would want to mate with. I'm sure that there are some LARPers out there who are nice enough, in touch with something that at least resembles reality,aren't fanatically devoted to their "clan", who won't send me "love" notes written in blood that are darker than a morbidly depressed teen's poetry, and won't invite me back to their mother's basement after the game, but I don't feel too comfortable in taking the risk that they aren't and going to a game.

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posted July 27, 2002 08:29     Click Here to See the Profile for GameMaster   Click Here to Email GameMaster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Trill, the big difference i s that the LARPers are only doing it for fun... They realize it is fantasy, and I'd only be worried if they believed that they were their characters...

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dragon34
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posted July 31, 2002 18:07     Click Here to See the Profile for dragon34   Click Here to Email dragon34     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I've been doing sca stuff for a while now.. the only guys i've met who are remotely close to my age (22) are in a relationship... maybe when college gets back in sessioin we'll get some college types coming, that would be nifty.. but somehow i doubt it. I was thinking of trying the slashdot meetup thing (http://slashdot.meetup.com/) I suppose it can't hurt.. right? I think it works best when friends set you up with people.. but the problem is everyone i know well enough that i would trust them to set me up with someone knows the same people I know... Good luck....

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ilovemydualg4
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posted August 01, 2002 03:44     Click Here to See the Profile for ilovemydualg4   Click Here to Email ilovemydualg4     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
hummm.....
i do almost everything mail order. i get 10 ink cartridges for the price of one, and for things like books, i usually just use bn.com or amazon, unless I happen to be goign down island where there is a beautifull litle book shop with real nice people ( http://www.bickertonandripley.com ), and they barely have enough room to walk arround, let alone sit down. once every 3 months i go to office max. and get a huge thing of 20 reams for 20$. that's that. grocerys? whole sale. ummmmmm.... milk? once a week at a small stop (cumberland farms, etc.)

i really don't get out, so for me, it wouldn't quite be going to the usual places so that i could meet the rare feminine geek, but it would just seem a little... odd...

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posted August 01, 2002 07:09     Click Here to See the Profile for perfectstormy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by ilovemydualg4:i really don't get out, so for me, it wouldn't quite be going to the usual places so that i could meet the rare feminine geek, but it would just seem a little... odd...

Well, most of the posters don't have being stuck on an island as an excuse. Guess you'll have to go to the mainland and bring her back in your little rowboat...

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SpikeSpiegel
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posted August 01, 2002 12:27     Click Here to See the Profile for SpikeSpiegel   Click Here to Email SpikeSpiegel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
hmmmmmmmm hes only the island for the summer... other than that he has no excuse..

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posted August 01, 2002 13:05     Click Here to See the Profile for neotatsu   Click Here to Email neotatsu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
being in highschool you don't have much of an excuse, just look a bit harder, odds are there are geekettes somewhere in you school..

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BigScaryMonstar
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posted August 04, 2002 03:04     Click Here to See the Profile for BigScaryMonstar   Click Here to Email BigScaryMonstar     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Imagine, finding geekettes in school... Who'da thunk it? People who like to learn in a building where they (try) to teach...

Oh, I mean *YUM!*

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TheAnnoyedCockroach
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posted August 05, 2002 10:56     Click Here to See the Profile for TheAnnoyedCockroach   Click Here to Email TheAnnoyedCockroach     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Maybe I'm just not looking hard enough...

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chicgeek
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posted August 05, 2002 12:11     Click Here to See the Profile for chicgeek   Click Here to Email chicgeek     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
In the words of a certain roach, look harder. Trust me, it's a lot harder to find people like yourself in college, especially mine, where people are so much more spread out.

Unless, of course, you're a jock and you spend your days at a compound known as the athletic facility.

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posted August 05, 2002 14:18     Click Here to See the Profile for GameMaster   Click Here to Email GameMaster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, here they all hang out in the same few computerlabs, granted that not all who "hang" here are geeks and not all geeks on campus come her... but....

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posted August 05, 2002 15:09     Click Here to See the Profile for Xanthine     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by chicgeek:
In the words of a certain roach, look harder. Trust me, it's a lot harder to find people like yourself in college, especially mine, where people are so much more spread out.

Unless, of course, you're a jock and you spend your days at a compound known as the athletic facility.



We must go to very different schools. Everyone I know is a geek of some variety. As freshmen we bonded over the fact we were all dorks in highschool but we're on the cool list now.

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TheAnnoyedCockroach
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posted August 05, 2002 16:25     Click Here to See the Profile for TheAnnoyedCockroach   Click Here to Email TheAnnoyedCockroach     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hey, no fair using my words against me!

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chicgeek
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posted August 05, 2002 18:27     Click Here to See the Profile for chicgeek   Click Here to Email chicgeek     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It really must be a trick!!! GET AN AXE!!!

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posted August 20, 2002 01:17     Click Here to See the Profile for cheezi git     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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