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jherazob
Geek-in-Training

Posts: 39
From: Barranquilla, Colombia
Registered: Aug 2001

posted April 09, 2002 01:05     Click Here to See the Profile for jherazob   Click Here to Email jherazob     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Big warning!!! this post can be depressing, as i feel down and i didn't had anybody else to listen to my venting. And i had some attempts at sarcasm that got somewhat weak because of how i feel now.

Ok. I just decided this weekend to re-check what's what i want for my future sweetie. And noticed that my chances are about nil. Let me describe.

I have 3 main interests (in no particular order), and are that i'm a geek (linux/anime/sci-fi/comics/games/etc geek), that i'm a born-again christian and a naturist (asking google "naturism faq" gives good links, and i can give more info if you ask). The 3 things are almost completely mutually excluding in the mind of many people (without reason, of course), so my search gets drastically worse. Add to that the fact that (as i commented the other day), finding even male geeks around here (geografically, in Barranquilla, Colombia, South America, not in the forum, before you guys try to burn me at the stake again for a misunderstanding) is hard, there's not even a LUG in here because there's not enough people to make it a reality.

And i'm not really in position to move away right now because of economical problems (for the same misterious reasons that keep me from meeting lots of geeks there's no real future for computer people around here beyond having a small shop that sells computer supplies and builds clones, and even that's sketchy at best, i hope i'm wrong in this semi-diagnostic and results that i've been just looking to the wrong places).

Of course, i have the usual geeky trait of shyness, which makes it difficult even if i knew that i could get in touch with someone somewhere (this forum being the exception).

I want to find someone, but i think i'd be easier to just build an Improbability Drive and feed it the chances of it happening...

That or settling for somebody that would not like those things of me (which for one i wouldn't accept as those are things that are basically part of myself, and for another, if she's so desperate that goes to someone with traits she dislikes it's probably a bad idea anyway...)

So, any comments, strategy, ideas, "sucks-to-be-you" or Nelson-from-the-simpsons-like "Ha-ha!" remarks?

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GameMaster
Super Geek

Posts: 124
From: State of insanity
Registered: Mar 2002

posted April 09, 2002 01:55     Click Here to See the Profile for GameMaster   Click Here to Email GameMaster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ha-Ha. Ooopppss... I mean, I can understand how you feel. I think that perhaps you need to realize what is and isn't around you. There may not be any computer geeks, or other geeks for that matter in your neck of the woods. You have four options:
1.) Move. which you've already said is an imposibility
2.) Date a non-geek. Perhaps, you can find an inteligent girl who shares some of your intrestets with out being a total geek. For instance what about a christian nautrist who doesn't know about computers.
3.) Build a geek. Either find a non-geek girl and transform her, find a nerd who isn't out of the geek closet or find all the nessescary parts for a FULLY functioal geek girl at a local robotic store (BTW, if there is a local robotic store near you, ask the girl behind the counter out).
4.) Mail order Geekettes. I am sure that there has to be such aservice somewhere.

Oh, almost forgot ....
5.) Don't listen to me.

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jherazob
Geek-in-Training

Posts: 39
From: Barranquilla, Colombia
Registered: Aug 2001

posted April 09, 2002 08:59     Click Here to See the Profile for jherazob   Click Here to Email jherazob     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
heh, good advice, number 5 being the best (yeah, i feel a little better today )

Ok, let's check:

Moving is not an option...yet. I may end moving anyway, but is increasingly difficult. As you may (or may not) know, our country is in the brink of what basically is a civil war with the guerrillas that were (at long last) declared as the terrorists they are. And the country's been in a big economical crisis for many years now, so most countries are restricting us from entering because many people are fleeing to anywhere else. That's part of the computer business crisis, as when you're more concerned on getting enough to survive, the budget for computers and nifty toys goes to the backseat. That, and the cost of dollars, one dollar is about 2.200 of our pesos (the minimum wage is less than 300.000, noting that you can't live with just that), with a tendency to rise, which makes even "El Cheapo" clone computers somewhat expensive for the average person.

Dating a non-geek seems to be the only logical choice i've found, but when i start showing the deeper geek traits, like all-nighters doing some coding, prefering the computer to some more "normal" things, anime ("why do you watch so much cartoons?") and other things, will she react like my non-geek mother, that has screamed out loud "i hate that thing! i hate it!" getting to the point of threatening me to destroy it to bits (only holding herself because it's something expensive, not because of it's value or something)?
Is it possible to "build a geek"? i mean, apart from the robotic model (and i think AI technology isn't up to that yet ), for you getting to be a geek you need to have certain don't-know-what to become one, i think. But how do you spot it in someone?

About the service, google found nothing of interest, and my economical situation right now wouldn't make me specially qualified anyway

Oops, it seems like i listened to you, making this post a complete waste of time and bandwidth
So, sucks to be me, eh?

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GameMaster
Super Geek

Posts: 124
From: State of insanity
Registered: Mar 2002

posted April 09, 2002 12:19     Click Here to See the Profile for GameMaster   Click Here to Email GameMaster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It seems that the reason that there aren't many geeks there is because there aren't many geeky things... There for that don't-know-what must be everpresent in the would be geeks, the only problem is locating them without the giveaway clues. Look for the people who laugh at jokes about the meaning of the universe and don't go running for the hills when you begin a debate about the exsistance of original thought.

<troll reason="can't help myself">
Hmmmm, you didn't find anything on your search for the mail-a-geek? Darn, that guy took my money... No wonder why it was taking so long.
</troll>

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jherazob
Geek-in-Training

Posts: 39
From: Barranquilla, Colombia
Registered: Aug 2001

posted April 09, 2002 20:25     Click Here to See the Profile for jherazob   Click Here to Email jherazob     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Interesting point. This begs for it's own thread, so i'll post it in "Ask a geek", so it gets more attention and hopefully good ideas

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BrotherPaul
Newbie Larva

Posts: 3
From: Wanganui, New Zealand
Registered: Mar 2002

posted April 11, 2002 01:59     Click Here to See the Profile for BrotherPaul   Click Here to Email BrotherPaul     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi jherazob,

Like you, I am a Christian, unlike you I'm not a geek although I've programmed computers for many years (for a living) but not lately.

Look for a girl/woman to date, not just a geeky one. The key is love and some shared interests. Be prepared to change yourself.

From the forums I've read it seems that people are looking for an 'alter ego' rather than someone to love and serve. I don't know how old you are but trust me when I say, "Take your time."

I assume that your relationship with Jesus Christ is very important to you and this should be your first consideration when looking - it is for me.

All the best and God bless you,
Brother Paul.

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Bright, right, tight:
Jesus Christ is the light!

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dragon34
Geek Apprentice

Posts: 43
From: Southwestern Connecticut
Registered: Nov 2001

posted April 12, 2002 05:08     Click Here to See the Profile for dragon34     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by BrotherPaul:
Hi jherazob,
<snip>
Look for a girl/woman to date, not just a geeky one. The key is love and some shared interests. Be prepared to change yourself.
</snip>

All the best and God bless you,
Brother Paul.



Brother paul, I'm goign to have to agree and disagree with you here Yes, you don't necesarily have to date a geek girl, Although that probably helps with the shared interests, but I feel very strongly that if you have to change yourself forcefully to stay with someone, you shouldn't be with them. the reason is this.... It is stressful and impossible to keep up an act forever. If you change naturally fine... but if you find yourself second guessing every word you say, you will tire of it very quickly, and eventually the person for whom you are acting for will see through the act. Usually people are on their best behavior early in a relationship, but if you find yourself not able to really be YOU around someone after a few weeks.. It's probablby not worth the trouble.
Just my 2 cents...

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