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CoyoteSD39
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posted November 24, 2008 09:24
I need some second, third, fourth, etc. opinions.....
Last night, completely out of the blue, my husband received a call from his ex-wife. I was in another room at the time, but could tell immediately from the tone of his voice, who was on the other end.
<Back story> The ex is extremely not liked by my husband's friends, family, and even HER family (confirmed by her grandmother who works in my office PT). She remarried some time last year, and moved to Austria. My husband was QUITE relieved, because she is a pain in the **s...she is his ex for a reason.
Two years ago, my husband went to get a new phone, but had issues because the ex's name was still on the account. The old account was closed, and my husband got a new phone and number. </back story>
My husband is the kind of guy who will chat with pretty much anyone, so I wasn't too surprised that he talked to the ex for a while about Austria and such - not happy about it, but not surprised. I was NOT happy about the fact that the ex had gotten my husband's number from someone, but my husband remembered that, back during the phone fiasco, he had called her, from the new number, to let her know the old account was closed.
Long story short - the ex and her husband are back in the states (living in Florida for the past three months) and are moving back to Pennsylvania, about an hour away from us. The reason she called my husband is because she wanted to know if he knew any place to get a cheap 4wd vehicle. Again, she is moving an HOUR away from us, into a MAJOR city, not our SMALL, backwoods, podunk town.
My husband wants nothing to do with her, like I said, she is his ex for a reason. But am I crazy to think she is up to something? We haven't heard a peep out of her since she moved. Why would someone a) keep their ex's phone number for two years, and b) call them with a pretty pointless question (IMO) completely out of the blue? I've heard stories about her from various people over the years, and I don't put it past her to try to cause some sort of trouble. I've never met her, really don't want to meet her, but I wouldn't put it past her to show up at our house some day.
Any opinions, suggestions, insights would be greatly appreciated.
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CommanderShroom
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posted November 24, 2008 09:44
It sounds like my ex. The only time she wants anything to do with with us, is if she thinks she would get something out of it. Needless to say, she has not made any real contact with myself or the boy in a while.
Perhaps I am just a paranoid. Or despise the universe like T says. But I don't trust it. But there really is nothing you can do. Just let you husband know how you feel and let the cards fall where they may. But, from the best I can tell, is that she is setting up a string of contacts to call upon when things are rough, or when she just wants something she is unwilling to do for herself.
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TheMoMan
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posted November 24, 2008 12:57
___________________ CoyoteSD39 __ Exs, are Exs for a reason, never trust an Ex they know too much about everything. Can you hide the body or would you need help?
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posted November 24, 2008 13:14
Yeah, the ex is the type of person who does something only if there's something in it for them. She is very "me"-centric, which is part of the reason why her father will not let her stay at his house when she visits anymore.
My husband agrees that she is up to something, just not sure what.
And we would have a VERY long list of people willing to help hide any bodies, if that time would come.
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Xanthine
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posted November 24, 2008 13:14
Change your number and your locks. Screen calls with your caller id. And, if they make contact anyway, give them ice.
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posted November 24, 2008 13:16
Hmmm... Smells fishy, real fishy. She is definately up to something. Take it from a woman, she has something up her sleeve here, not sure what it is...Keep your eyes peeled ![[crazy]](graemlins/crazy.gif)
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posted November 24, 2008 16:36
It definitely sounds like she's up to something but the good news is it sounds like your husband knows it too. If he didn't realize it I'd say you might be in trouble, but as long as you're both alert you should come out of this fine.
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posted November 24, 2008 23:55
I think there is trouble ahead. In England, if an ex moved into a city one hour away that would be considered a safe distance (Manchester-Leeds or Manchester Liverpool etc) but moving to an hour away from where you live (and starting from Austria) cannot be a coincidence.
I don't necessarily think she has designs on your husband (well, not in the trouser department anyway) because this is too elaborate a way to go about it. But what if the new husband is reaching the end of his shelf-life? She'll be looking for a shoulder to cry on and could well be planning on latching on to your hubby, or both of you.
A twisted mind would say that if her second marriage falls apart then your hubby owes her the time and effort to help her rebuild her life. So, my suspicion is that the ex is an emotional leech who is setting up her next safety-net for when her current marriage goes belly-up. (They could be moving an hour away from you just to take up a really good job offer, but that would be a massive coincidence.)
Conclusion - take Xanthine's advice. And be as horrible as possible to them at every opportunity - the ex must not be given the slightest indication that either of you have any time for her at all. Good luck.
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posted November 25, 2008 06:25
When my husband told me why she had called, the first thing I said to him was that was not the reason she called. I just can't figure out if she was digging for information, or setting something up.
Unfortunately, the ex has family in the area, so there is a chance of running over her, oops, I mean running into her somewhere along the line. I have already stated for the record that if she shows up at the house (definitely NOT by invitation on our parts), there will be issues.
My husband is a little ticked at her sister (he's friends with her husband) for not giving him a heads up that she was coming back to the area. While we are grateful that she is not moving back to the county, that hour driving time seems too close for my comfort.
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posted November 25, 2008 15:23
UPDATE ...
My husband called the ex's sister to tell her about the phone call, and to find out what is going on. Turns out, SHE was the one to give the ex his phone number! ![[Mad]](mad.gif)
Excuse me...what?!?!
My husband never thought to tell her not to give the ex the number, figuring it was understood not to.
So now I'm pissed a) because the sister gave out her his number, and b) she never thought to tell my husband that she did!
And before anyone brings it up...no, this would not be an attempt by the sister to get them together. She knows that my husband wants nothing to do with her. In fact, she is the only person I know of who can tolerate the ex for any extended period of time.
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posted November 26, 2008 02:27
_______________ CoyoteSD39 __ Damn do-gooders. Now you need to set her up as a contact in the phones list and then set it to block those calls. Ask your provider.
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