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snupy
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Icon 1 posted October 14, 2008 17:46      Profile for snupy   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
I learned a few weeks ago that my mom may have Alzheimer's, and it looks like that's been pretty much confirmed this week. At her 93rd birthday party, she was disorientated and didn't remember having cake just 15 minutes earlier. She has started Aricept, which is supposed to do wonders for some people, so, fingers crossed.

This is really a blow, as she was always such a lively and intelligent person. I have noticed her getting worse on the phone these last few months and when I was home in May. I was planning a trip home at Christmas, bit now I'm considering waiting to see if the drug helps and then visiting when she would actually know that I'm there.

It's really hard being so far away, but selfishly(I know this sounds bad), I'm a little bit glad I don't have to watch her deteriorate.

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Colonel Panic
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Icon 1 posted October 14, 2008 17:57      Profile for Colonel Panic         Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
God bless you, Snupy.

And be thankful for all the wonderful years she painted your life with her joy and energy.

May we all get at least 93 wonderful years.

I am sorry to hear of your pain.

CP

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snupy
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Icon 1 posted October 14, 2008 18:32      Profile for snupy   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Thank you, CP.

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Icon 9 posted October 14, 2008 20:56      Profile for Snaggy   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Sorry to hear that snups. [Frown]

93, wow.

I'd visit her sooner rather than later.

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Icon 1 posted October 15, 2008 03:20      Profile for TheMoMan         Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
__________________________ snupy __ Me Da fell ill as I came home from ducking bullets, he was a smoker and developed lung cancer. As everybody was saying he is getting better after they took out a lung, I could see through the lies, he was not.

Fast forward to 2001 The father-in-law develops pancreas cancer and I relive the turmoil of me Da's death. Then my Ma developed Alzheimer's like many of her brothers and sisters, my brother stayed away as he did not want to watch her go down. Then the Mother-in-law, then you will be the last in line. It is hard to deal with, go home be with her as much as you can take, not for her but your self.

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Icon 1 posted October 15, 2008 05:33      Profile for Callipygous     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Dear Snupes, how horrible.

There's nothing I can say, but send you my love and wish you the strength to deal with this.

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Icon 1 posted October 15, 2008 13:55      Profile for tweety   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
snupy – My most heartfelt condolences to you and your family. I have to say, having experienced my own quite earth shattering family death stories, go home, be with your mom as long as you can. Like MoMan said, not for her, for you.

Keep the good memories of her always close to your heart.

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snupy
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Icon 1 posted October 15, 2008 14:11      Profile for snupy   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Thanks for the support, everyone.

I'm watching the airfares every day. I also really can't afford to go home, so I want to go when I can take the most amount of time off and the fare is most reasonable, while at the same time hoping the meds kick in, if even just a little...

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Icon 9 posted October 15, 2008 15:07      Profile for Nitrozac   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Sorry to hear about that Snupy. [Frown]
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[Frown] I'm thinking of you Snupy!!!!

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Icon 1 posted October 16, 2008 04:50      Profile for skylar     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
So sorry to hear that, snupes [Frown] If you ever need an ear, well,

/me waves

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Icon 9 posted October 16, 2008 06:09      Profile for GMx     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
I can sympathize with your problem. I just hope things can get better or stablize for you. It's tough losing anyone close to you.
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I'm so sorry to hear that Snupy. On a somewhat brighter note, I have personally seen the newer medicines do wonderful things, so here's hoping.

/me hands you a cup of tea

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Icon 1 posted October 16, 2008 09:25      Profile for TheMoMan         Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
____________________ Snupy __ I wish there was a way to put the calender pages back up. Aricept will buy you time but do not expect it to reverse the damage already done, yes you need to have time bought for your Mom, but YOU need to go home and be with her even if it means losing a job or borrowing money to do so. Family is all any of us have.

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Icon 1 posted October 16, 2008 11:43      Profile for DoctorWho     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
snupy, I am sorry to hear about your grandmother. Both of my wife's grandmothers have Alzheimer's now and it's not an easy thing to go through. One of them can't live by herself anymore because she turned up her heater in the middle of summer and dehydrated herself.

The other one is better off but it's still bad. I bought her a new big button remote for her television because she kept hitting two buttons at the same time on her old one. It must have taken me an hour to explain why she needed a new remote and how to operate the new one even though it is a simpler remote. During this time, I also had to explain who I was at least three times because she kept forgetting even though she's known me for 14 years.

My advice to you is to get to her sooner, rather than later.

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Snupy - I'm so sorry to hear your news. I think most people have some experience of loved ones affected by Alzheimer's, so we all understand that you might have some tough times ahead.

Your Mom may decide, as my Auntie did, that alternating between lucid and confused states is not the way she wants to be. Although she couldn't communicate it verbally, my Auntie quite clearly made a conscious choice that tomorrow she wasn't going to bother waking up. It was hard, but there was some comfort for us all in that last gesture of self-determination.

However things go for your Mom, I hope you have the support available to help you deal with whatever unfolds.

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I am sorry to hear that Snups. I know what it feels like to watch some one go. My grandfather (Ward)died of complications due to Alzheimers in the VA in Omaha. It was depressing to watch him go. Then a couple of years later I watched my step grandfather (Sassen) (long story, both WWII vets) die due to complications from skin cancer and other problems.

I do miss both of them and after a couple of years without them I finally decided to join the SAL here in there memory. I guess that the memory has come full circle for me. As I am writing this I just realized that because of their memory I joind the Post 298 Sons of the American Legion and the American Legion Riders and will be perposing to my now GF on Halloween at the Riders party.

I guess that their memory still supports me. it is hard to think about them being gone. But I still do stuff because of them.

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Icon 1 posted October 22, 2008 16:55      Profile for snupy   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Thanks, again, everyone.

I spoke to mom last night, and she was more alert than usual. She told me she was scared, poor thing. At least that means she is aware of what's going on. Her doctor has referred us to a social worker who specializes in seniors. She seems very nice. Our goal is to keep her in independent living as long as possible, and this woman has a lot of suggestions, so fingers crossed. [ohwell]

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Icon 1 posted October 22, 2008 16:56      Profile for snupy   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Thanks, again, everyone.

I spoke to mom last night, and she was more alert than usual. She told me she was scared, poor thing. At least that means she is aware of what's going on. Her doctor has referred us to a social worker who specializes in seniors. She seems very nice. Our goal is to keep her in independent living as long as possible, and this woman has a lot of suggestions, so fingers crossed.

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