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chicgeek
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Icon 1 posted February 12, 2007 02:43      Profile for chicgeek     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
I know finding a significant other -- or even an insignificant other for that matter -- is difficult. (I'm still looking for a guy, myself!)

But I do have one tip for any guys looking for ways to meet girls who aren't skanks or ditzes: If you have any rhythm whatsoever, take ballroom dancing lessons.

As a woman, I can say it's extremely difficult to find a straight guy who knows, or even has the will to learn, ballroom dance. And it's a [email protected] shame.

There's not a single woman I know who didn't swoon over Richard Gere in "Shall We Dance". And yet, so many straight guys who complain about not being able to meet a girl refuse to take ballroom dancing lessons.

Don't you guys get it?!? Women, as much as we have changed and evolved into our independent selves, still want chivalry from our men. We don't want pimps, we want gentlemen! Ballroom dance signifies something that has become lost on so many younger generations. Ballroom dance signifies the kind of old-world charm and sophistication that makes even the most brazen or broads weak in the knees!

We women do so much for you guys: We pluck, shave, wax, primp, tone, lift, minimize and maximize strategic parts of our bodies to please you! The least you could do for us is to learn how to dance.

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But I have a problem of tripping over dust mites lol. I think dancing would just embarace me. I am the biggest clutz in the world.

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I think you definitely have a point, cg, but, personally, I'd find it a bit of a turn off if a guy was an avid ballroom dancer. Likewise, old world charm and romantic gentlemanliness do little for me, largely because it seems quite patronising, and doesn't put both people in the relationship on equal footing. I'm not trying to come across as negatively uber-feminist, here... it's just less sexy to me to be treated like I'm made of porcelain.

Just my twopenneth, of course. [Smile]

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I tried it for half a year or so, but found that my complete and utter lack of co-ordination couldn't be overcome [ohwell]
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Surely by definition, everyone at this forum is to be presumed to have bad co-ordination ;) If we were any better, we'd be jocks and out playing sports... (and it's not just body control -- and mine's terrible -- but a very reliable maintenance of rhythm)

We women do so much for you guys: We pluck, shave, wax, primp, tone, lift, minimize and maximize strategic parts of our bodies to please you! The least you could do for us is to learn how to dance.

This is predicated on the presumption that all men expect the above of all women, which I don't believe is true for a minute. Plucking out hairs for me would be pointless masochism and I'd simply laugh at you for inflicting unnecessary pain on yourself. Heck, if you're not sexually active (and not everyone agrees with sex before marriage or until a relationship is at least stable) some more items on that list get thrown out, since we're not going to see you naked anyway.

Something that is sorely omitted from that list is exercise and sharpening of the mind, which is so much more valuable, and intellect (and genuine technical prowess ;) is a serious turn on for me.

But anyhow ...

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quote:
Originally posted by skylar:
I think you definitely have a point, cg, but, personally, I'd find it a bit of a turn off if a guy was an avid ballroom dancer.

i.e. gay [Big Grin] I think it would be cool to know how to Tango and some of the South American type dances.
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I don't know how to ballroom dance, and I would probably laugh off the idea of going ballroom dancing on a date. (Frankly, the time I would've spent learning to sweet around the dance floor was spent on things in which I'm far more interested...like reading books, writing code, and making music.)

Some women don't want a stereotypical gentleman, they want a rock star who'll roll out on late-night urban adventures with them. Some suspiciously self-referential women might even prefer a man who can hold his own in a circle pit to one who can do a perfect pirouette.

(Amazingly, there are also some women out there who don't pluck, wax, primp or tone...and there are women out there who take care of their bodies for themselves, not for the sake of landing a husband.)

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In defense of ballroom dancing:

Modern dancing styles typically preclude contact between partners except for simulated humping. I am uncomfortable grinding against a girl I've just met, but putting my hand on her waist is certainly something I wouldn't mind. There is a tremendous amount of communication that takes place between dance partners. Sometimes the sense of intimacy that arises from dancing with a girl is very heady. I, myself, do not ballroom dance, but I have been known to bar-room swing. The two have in common being allowed to touch one another without rubbing against any legs. (The leg-humping is reserved for the second date.)

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quote:
Originally posted by chicgeek:
If you have any rhythm whatsoever, take ballroom dancing lessons.

And if we don't have rhythm?
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quote:
Originally posted by atayarani:
quote:
Originally posted by chicgeek:
If you have any rhythm whatsoever, take ballroom dancing lessons.

And if we don't have rhythm?
Then you'd better not be Catholic ! [evil]

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quote:
Originally posted by skylar:
(...) Likewise, old world charm and romantic gentlemanliness do little for me, largely because it seems quite patronising, and doesn't put both people in the relationship on equal footing. (...)

My dance teacher had us repeat this exchange more than a few times:

quote:
Teacher: Who's leading?
Men: The man!
Women: On the dance floor only!

Chicgeek, I'm with you. (There's not enough single men in my class, and most of them are much older than me.)

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Well I never tried to dance much, i just know how to dance those very very slow love songs.lol
But about the gentlemen thing, i have to admit i am very polite and romantic with girls and because of that i got a few rejections, but i won't change my way with girls, there's got to be a least one girl who will like it and that's the one i want. [Wink]

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quote:
Originally posted by Reedius:
i have to admit i am very polite and romantic with girls and because of that i got a few rejections

How old are you?

One of my better friends is in his late 30s now. He's a large, ponytailed, leather jacketed nightclub bouncer. He also has a very old-fashioned set of manners regarding women; opening car doors and standing when a lady enters the room come to mind. Not just women he's interested in sleeping with; every woman is treated like the Duchess of York when he's around.

My friend is never at a loss for women to talk to. Women see him lighting a ladyfriend's cigarette and they're impressed, and come up and chat with him. He's always dating someone fantastic, and his relationships last a long time before, usually, ending civilly.

Take a hint from him. It might not reap you the big pimpin' rewards right now, but that sort of thing stands out, and further down the line, women will remember you as the incredibly respectful, well-mannered man that you are. [Razz]

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I'm sixteen.lol
I'm not large, i don't have a ponytail and i don't look good with a leather jacket(at least for now) but i'm glad there are wemen who like well-mannered guys.
In my city girls feel more atracted to money and a metrosexual look than a gentleman. [Geek]

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Quite possibly, but I'll guess that what they want isn't as much metrosexual as neat, clean, well-dressed, and well-mannered. That's probably how they see themselves - perhaps trendy clothing or personal style is of great importance to them.

All reasonable people want to feel important and special. Everyone wants respect. The style of manners you use is up to you. I'd avoid anything overly pretentious since it will feel insincere.

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...and then there are some girls who just about bristle at the prospect of having a nicety shown to them. *sigh*

Who said chivalry is dead? A bunch of women, that's who...

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quote:
Originally posted by Reedius:
I'm sixteen.lol
I'm not large, i don't have a ponytail and i don't look good with a leather jacket(at least for now) but i'm glad there are wemen who like well-mannered guys.

That's not the point, the point is that he doesn't look like a ladies' man...he looks like a big burly biker. Largely overweight and pretty much unshaven...but his manners shine through. [Big Grin]
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Well my cousin isn't a metrosexual but he got some trendy clothes and he has more wemen a guy can wish for but he has a natural ability to talk to them and make them do what ever he wants.i guess that's the miracle maker.
[Roll Eyes]
If i want to feel important and special i just have to go to a bookstore and buy a 600 page book in english(in portugal only geeks read books in other languages)and see everybody stare admired(i love doing that), i am incapable of spending money on clothes unless i really need it, because money spend in anything that is not books, comics, star wars collectibles, etc is wasted money for me. [Big Grin]

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That's not the point, the point is that he doesn't look like a ladies' man...he looks like a big burly biker. Largely overweight and pretty much unshaven...but his manners shine through.
That's even more impressive. [Wink]

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When I dance, the earth weeps. (And not in a good way).

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Interesting flick to check out: The Tao of Steve
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Personally,

I find a spawn bag and a treble hook work exceptionally well for snagging chicks.

CP

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quote:
Originally posted by ZER:
When I dance, the earth weeps. (And not in a good way).

LOL

When I dance, the earth falls apart laughing hysterically.

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Well...I won my class Waltz competition in Grade 7. I'm sure I could resurrect those skills again. In fact I'll have to for my cousin's wedding in September. Now if only I had someone to take...

And funnily enough Shall We Dance was on TV tonight. [crazy]

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I think I prefer the original Shall We Dance in Japanese. I just refuse to watch the Hollywood remake with JLo. Richard Gere I can handle but not JLo. Sorry...
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I've been dancing since I was about five. One of my great uncles insisted on all of us kids learn how to dance properly. I can still waltz and foxtrot, I can polka as well... but outside that I don't dance enough to remember anymore. Oh, and I learned how to tango (kind of) recently, a friend of mine was in one of the dance classes and needed a practice buddy.

FWIW, in my men I like a sense of humor, if you can make me laugh, you'll have my attention. Then again, I'm not your average girl either, take me to a football game and I'm pretty happy. [Razz]

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