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SlyKilla
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posted August 04, 2005 21:11
Well i always wondered how you get girls to like you ive never really had any luck in that area,and its starting to bother me because it seems like everyone else can talk to girls,get thier numbers and ask them out but i cant i cant do anyting. whenever i get around girls i like or girls pretty much i cant talk and when i do my voice changes for some reason and not in a good way it gets really high pitch and its really embarrasing. ive never asked a girl for her phone number and im not sure if i will ever be able to,my brother on the other hand gets girls all the time and hes tried to help me but somhow i always end up at home on the computer while hes out having fun with a girl.please give me some advice cuase i really need it.
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posted August 04, 2005 21:18
I've no advice other than the standard "naked with beer" thing. I've never been good with getting numbers, and being really nervous around girls that I'm keen on. So I'm interested in what others have to advise, too.
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posted August 04, 2005 21:19
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Ah Little Billy, you are going through what is called, Puberty, it is completely natural and you shouldn't be afraid.
Ok, now that's out of the way, lets get down to business. The voice, its nervousness. Cure: be natural. If that fails you have to FORCE yourself to be natural, think of them as friends, jokes are often the best way to get a girl, most girls like to laugh I believe.
I know you've probably heard all of this before, but actually try to apply it, it does wonders
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Matias
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posted August 04, 2005 21:35
Awwww...that is so cute. Just be yourself, if they do not like it, they are not worth it. In the end we all find out who the real person is and if you are pretending just to get a number or a date, you are being fake, which is worse. And helpful hint: get out more, you will not meet anyone in front of a computer unless you are online dating.
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Matias
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posted August 04, 2005 21:39
PS: Girls are bold too so some may approach you, act normal and you will be fine.
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alfrin
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posted August 04, 2005 21:55
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Originally posted by Matias:
PS: Girls are bold too so some may approach you, act normal and you will be fine.
But when such an event actually happens, be careful, don't seem like you are trying to get her to like you or seem as if you want to ask her out alot, cause sometimes boldness = dare, and that hurts, a lot. Be careful, but be yourself
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Jace Raven
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posted August 05, 2005 05:05
Going into shock and not saying anything other than:
*drool*...heh heh, you're a girl...*drool*...he heh...
doesn't work.
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postgrep
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posted August 05, 2005 05:17
Rule of thumb:
Most girls like guys that are funny, be funny.
If girl is serious, act funny around her, then break out your knowledge of quantum mechanics to impress her.
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sumnchai
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posted August 05, 2005 06:15
I'm of the philosophy that you don't "get girls to like you." Either they like you, or they don't. If you have to go out of your way to be anyone other than yourself, you're wasting your time and hers because you can't keep that up forever.
Be yourself - who ever that is. In the long run, you'll attract someone like you who likes you for you. :-D
Good luck, and don't focus on it. My most rewarding relationships came about when I wasn't looking. In fact, I met my current girlfriend (of three and a half years, now) just as I had sworn off of relationships forever. I had just been burned badly, and was playing the field, as it were. All of the sudden, there she was. She pursued me, and I couldn't be happier now.
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drunkennewfiemidget
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posted August 05, 2005 06:48
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Originally posted by Jace Raven:
Going into shock and not saying anything other than:
*drool*...heh heh, you're a girl...*drool*...he heh...
doesn't work.
Really?
Shit. I guess my pickup line of, "heh heh.. boobies!" is not so good either, then, huh?
On a more serious note. Be confident. Act like whether or not she has any interest in you is completely irrelevant -- because realistically, at the end of the day, it is.
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kniLnamiJ-neB
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posted August 05, 2005 06:55
sumnchai's story is much like my own. A girl that I dated briefly long ago suddenly appeared on my doorstep 4 years later. Fast Forward 3 years, we're married. You can't "get a girl to like you"... she just does it or she doesn't. And no matter how hot you think she is, or how special... if she can't accept you for you, she isn't worth the protein that it took to make her. It took me a long time and a broken heart to learn that... then I met my sweetheart and realized the one who "broke my heart" was a waste of time. No girl who puts you through that kind of crap is even worth speaking to, and that's why I'm happily married now.
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CommanderShroom
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posted August 05, 2005 07:19
With a name like SlyKilla I would figure that you had all teh ladies. ![[Big Grin]](biggrin.gif)
Honestly, you can never make anyone like you. It either is or isn't. He/She will show up when they show up. All you can do is be confidant in who you are and hope that they will be attracted to the true person inside.
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garlicguy
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posted August 05, 2005 07:25
Maybe you could put a big potato in your pants.
Make sure it's in front.
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drunkennewfiemidget
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posted August 05, 2005 07:28
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Originally posted by garlicguy:
Maybe you could put a big potato in your pants.
Make sure it's in front.
Haha, GG. You're my hero.
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CommanderShroom
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posted August 05, 2005 07:32
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Originally posted by garlicguy:
Maybe you could put a big potato in your pants.
Make sure it's in front.
I thought it was a cucumber wrapped in aluminium foil.
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posted August 05, 2005 07:35
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Originally posted by CommanderShroom:
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Originally posted by garlicguy:
Maybe you could put a big potato in your pants.
Make sure it's in front.
I thought it was a cucumber wrapped in aluminium foil.
What's the foil for?
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CommanderShroom
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posted August 05, 2005 07:41
Keep it fresh of course.
It is also a scene from the Spinal Tap movie.
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SlyKilla
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posted August 05, 2005 08:49
ok bein gyourself ive tryed that my whole life and it doesnt seem to be working but ill just keep tryinig
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kniLnamiJ-neB
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posted August 05, 2005 08:58
SlyKilla,
Have you tried a dating site like eHarmony? I never tried it myself, but from what I've heard, they actually do a lot of matching to set you up with people. That might be a good start; from there, if you just "be yourself" you'll be matched up with people who are looking for someone like you. It's worth a try, anyway; at least it would help you find people whom you might actually be compatible with.
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SlyKilla
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posted August 05, 2005 09:15
maybe i will try eharmony its not like i have anything to lose
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posted August 05, 2005 10:09
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Originally posted by SlyKilla:
maybe i will try eharmony its not like i have anything to lose
Don't forget to include a recent picture of yourself, with the potato, of course.
![[Wink]](wink.gif)
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posted August 05, 2005 10:33
eHarmony rocks!! I've had an account there for nigh unto 3/4 of a year and it's been a lot of fun. They've done a good job of matching me with people who are interesting and fit my non-negotiable criteria. I've met up with one guy from there after six months of e-mailing and phone conversations (he lives in another state, making it difficult to hang out frequently). I have a date on Sunday to a Lancaster Barnstormers (baseball) game with a guy who lives about 15 minutes away from me. eHarmony did a really good job of setting me up with this one.
The one drawback to eHarmony is the price, but it's definitely cheaper and an easier site to navigate than PerfectMatch. I took advantage of the special offers at eHarmony--three months for the price of one, then when that ran out, they offered me 12 months for $12.95. Can't beat that anywhere!
My advice to you if you sign up with eHarmony:
1. Fill out the profile completely. There's nothing worse than reading a half-completed profile.
2. Be honest when you complete the personality profile. You won't get a chance to re-take it, so make sure you're giving truthful answers (and not just wishful thinking!).
3. Contact all of your matches, but don't be bummed if they don't respond. I've been matched with over 200 people, but I've only had significant communication with a handful. You really only need one good match.
4. Don't stress "soulmate" too much. Just go into it with the desire to have fun meeting new people. You'll learn about other people as well as yourself. (Hmm, that just gave me an idea for my .sig.)
If you have any other questions about the merits of various dating sites or navigating the online matching process, feel free to send me a PM.
Best wishes!
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GameMaster
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posted August 05, 2005 13:56
Actually, all you have to do is loop a feed back from the third relay coupling through the deflector dish and realign it towards the sigularity... At least that how they solved every problem on star trek, and if it happened on Star Trek, it must be true.
Be yourself. If a girl doesn't like you for who you are, then it's not going to work. If you pretend to be anyone else, you'll lose her when she finds out she's been lied to (regardless of if she would have liked who you really are or not).
Stop thinking about it. The more you think about walking over and what your going to say, the more nervous you'll be... You could end up talking yourself out of walking over, or just make the first words that fall outta your mouth be:
"heh, heh.... You're a .... guurrl... heh, heh.... um, hi...." Or "I've got a cucumber in my pants."
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posted August 05, 2005 15:55
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Originally posted by sumnchai:
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Originally posted by GameMaster:
Or "I've got a cucumber in my pants."
With a line like that, how could any girl say no?
LMAO.
You'll notice, sumnchai, that we've put some of our best guys on solving this dilemma. 
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