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Lady_Christy
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Icon 1 posted May 09, 2007 12:44      Profile for Lady_Christy     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Where have all the good, single geeks gone?

...I can only hope it wasn't the way of the flowers, what with their long time passing and all that noise...

*sigh*

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Icon 1 posted May 09, 2007 12:57      Profile for dragonman97   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
"way of the flowers..." ?

Regrettably, I'm missing the reference, and CBA to JF Google it.

I can't speak for the 'good' bit...but sorry, can't help you there. [Razz]

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Icon 1 posted May 09, 2007 13:01      Profile for spungo     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
quote:
Originally posted by dragonman97:
"way of the flowers..." ?

It's a hippy song: Where have all the flowers gone... long time passing... blah blah... hug some trees... weave some yoghurt... stick a crystal on yer forehead crap...

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Oh, how my crazy hippie-chick references are lost...*sigh* [Razz]

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They turned poly and decided that Chaotic Neutral was more fun?
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the've gone to craigslist to find a wife !!!

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Icon 1 posted May 09, 2007 15:05      Profile for WinterSolstice     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
I too have wondered and it was a topic of conversation in the IRC a bit ago, too.

I think it's sad... I'm happy with my geek girl, but so many people aren't finding anyone at all [Frown]

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Icon 1 posted May 09, 2007 15:47      Profile for Lady_Christy     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
I love it, I keep running into friends and they give me the whole, "What? You? You're amazing, I can't believe you're single!"...yeah guys, believe it...because its oh-so-very true...

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I would like to think there are some of each gender out there.

I was part of that IRC conversation.

I just recently went separate ways with a good woman. But the good ones are far and few between in my experience. Or at least I have the general habit of meeting the emotionally stunted psycho hose beasts.

But YMMV. [Razz]

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quote:
Originally posted by spungo:
quote:
Originally posted by dragonman97:
"way of the flowers..." ?

It's a hippy song: Where have all the flowers gone... long time passing... blah blah... hug some trees... weave some yoghurt... stick a crystal on yer forehead crap...
I sort of agree Spungo, it's an over earnest Pete Seeger song, but when sung by Marlene Dietrich it is great, and for that reason I have some affection for it.

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I'm over here... [Razz]


Oh, and I'm in debt up to my eyeballs. Not big with the
Suburban American Princesses. [crazy]


Ignore the sig...

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They're at home playing X-Box or working on code or tabletop gaming or just about anything other than playing head games with crazy drunk chicks in bars.

See, I married my geek. That's what a smart woman does with a guy-geek. You see him, you sneak up on him, you offer him companionship, good food (or the ability to learn to create good food), compassion, and an intellect against which he might bounce ideas. Pick up a geeky hobby -- any geeky hobby. Don't treat him like a "stable man who can pay the mortgage and give you 'TEH BABEEEEEEEEEEEEZ!!!111!!one!!eleven!!!"

If a woman wants a geek guy, she has to put the extra effort to break out of her societal mold to find him. If she succeeds, she needs to not act like a shopping-crazed . . . [alternate word for female dog]. I was going to say [alternate word for woman of negotiable virtue], but geek guys like women who are creative. They don't like holding purses and get bored in clothing shops. Well, except Victoria's Secret and Frederick's of Hollywood. They don't get bored there as quickly, but they still shouldn't hold the purse.

Manners count (Please and Thank You and Do it Some More are things a single geek likes to hear) but creative naughtiness is a plus. And if you, as a single geek-seeking woman, think you could break his heart? Please don't even look for one. I get so sick of the horror stories, valid complaints that make geek men give up on women completely (which in my opinion is fair, considering how self-obsessed, evil, and awful women are, in general).

If I hurt a couple of women with my not-so-scathing nastiness? Good. I see the results in people I know who are so damned tired they can't take it any longer. They've removed themselves and their intellect from the dating game and the gene pool, allowing stupid people to breed and pass on another generation of dumb.

To modern women I say: Good luck finding one. A woman would have a better chance here than anywhere else, because a woman would have to go door-to-door to find her chance if the internet was gone.

That said, a lot of guy geeks need to learn these simple rule to keep a woman:

She needs to feel more important than your tech if you want her to stay and dump the porn collection, if you have it. If you'd rather "do for yourself" instead of physically share that kind of experience, then don't let her get past "Hello, my name--"

God, and bring flowers once a month. Just do it. Trust me.

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Icon 1 posted May 09, 2007 20:42      Profile for WinterSolstice     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
The things to remember (for a guy) were summed up perfectly by Jennifer Brozek :

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Geek guys are romantic. Yes, Geek guys are the hopeful romantics of the world. They want to be the Knight in shining armor, the poet of love, the bearer of gifts. He will bring you flowers and candy on Valentine's Day. He will remember your birthday. He will take you out to dinner in a nice restaurant. Of course, his gifts and tokens of affection might not be of the everyday variety. The flowers may be via computer, the gift may be a heart sculpture made of microchips or a new screen saver with pictures of you and him together on it, the poetry may be full of odd phrasing comparing you to a computer or a piece of hardware, but the candy will be candy and you will have to share. *grin* No matter what you receive or how you receive it, your Geek guy will have only the best and most hopeful romantic thoughts in his head for you.

Geek guys are passionate about pleasure. When I was talking about Parents and the Geek guy, I said that "Geek guys seem like wholesome, responsible, potential breadwinners who will be polite, courteous and gentlemanly with their daughter on a date." While this is true, when the Geek guy and his date/gal pal/Significant Other are on their date/watching TV/etc... and are in the back seat of the car (or where ever they are in private), when the glasses come off, watch out. A Geek guy is very passionate and has a hidden wild streak. He is very eager to please and be pleased. If you have a fantasy... he will try to fulfill it, especially if the fantasy involves role-playing. And your Geek guy probably has a couple of fantasies that would make a sailor blush. Ask, you might be surprised. Geek guys can be serious hedonists.

I personally am extremely romantic, and I delight in surprises, little things, poems (though I suck at poetry, I do try), music, and the like. I am very good at seeing both sides of an issue when I have a mind to, so I try to always look at what I want from my marriage, and make a point of "paying it forward". If I'm feeling a bit neglected, I make a point of being more affectionate. If I'm feeling in need of space, I make sure to provide it. I try to be the spouse I want, so that she most likely gets the spouse she wants.

So far, it's worked for 10 years.

On the amorous nature of things, I agree whole-heartedly. There is nothing so offputting as a selfish, disagreeable partner. I've had my share. Being adventurous, communicative, and sharing is far better than simply showing up and trying to get your rocks off, as it were. Not all women like all things, nor do all men. But hey, a quick conversation can usually determine what's what.

I find people (and my wife in particular) amazingly interesting. There is so much that can be learned by listening and paying attention. The biggest mistake most people make (IMHO) is that they believe conversation lies in talking. It doesn't. It lies in listening, paying attention, and learning about someone. Jackie Onassis was considered such an amazing conversationalist because she listened to what people had to say. This doesn't mean don't talk, it means listen at least as much as you talk, and talk about things that are relevant to the person you're talking to.

Finally fitness and dress: This is simple. Be as as fit, well-dressed, and attractive as the people you're seeking. Gorgeous, fit, well-dressed women probably don't want to talk to you if you're badly kempt, flabby, and horribly dressed. You don't have to be hot - you have to look like you made an effort. Dress reasonably well (and appropriately). It doesn't cost much - Target or even Wal-Mart carry clothing that can come off just fine in most reasonable situations. Work out, at least as much as needed to achieve the fitness level you seek in a mate.

And finally, most importantly of all... try. It's better to get shot down repeatedly than to spend your life afraid to try.


Ok, I'm off my soap box [Big Grin] But hey, after Jess railed on women, I thought it was only fair to rail on men. I hear so many complaints from both sides of the aisle it just drives me nuts. Beautiful women can't get dates. Neither can handsome men. Why? Because they refuse to try for fear of failing... and when they land an old boot, they refuse to try again.

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I noticed the topic and having dated a lot guess I can toss my two cents in.
All of us have our cluster fuck relationships. Our train wrecks. But the problem seems to be that most people walk around with a negative attitude to the whole dating thing. And that seems to be part of the problem. If you sincerely expect and believe that all the good women/men have gone, you will never find one. Because you are simply not receptive to the whole thing.
Perhaps, you should just try something that most women seem to be bad at, walk up to a man you consider attractive whether for intellect or physique and just tell them how you feel. You'll be surprised that most attractive women don't get dates because men, well atleast the good men are too shy or too intimidated of failure.

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quote:
Originally posted by Lady_Christy:
Where have all the good, single geeks gone?

They're a little busy right now [Wink]

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Hey, I'm not busy, I'm just playing hermit in the middle of the Utah desert. Pop some cactus buttons in your mouth and come visit! I know places where the colors run even when you're sober and the vultures fly by at eye-level and the lizards are fearless. I go there to read books. It rocks my socks.

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Sounds lovely, and very sock-rocking indeed [Smile]

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Not for nothing, but I previously figured you were part of the 'n/a' crowd. [Razz]
(Somehow that seemed like a relevant comment, but now I forget why.)

An aside to Winter &| JustJess' remarks:
He or she* might be sitting in a coffee shop, working on code... [Wink]

Guess what? He or she might be more approachable than it appears!
Try it some time - either you'll get brushed off, he or she might not be single...but maybe an interesting conversation might happen anyway.

And speaking from the coffee & code point of view...at the very least, it's a pleasant enough way to spend time, but I can't say that it works very well. [Razz] (It'd work a lot better if people talked to one another.)

Other comments hint at something posted by Xanthine awhile ago:
Stop looking.
She also surely said something insightful as well, but I'm at a loss right now. [Razz]

...but seriously, it's pretty dead on target. Go about your merry ways, enjoy your time, and a surprise might just hit you. Or not. Still, coffee is a fine thing, and you're probably more likely to run into a geek while consuming that than in a bar. (Probably...despite all the n33kid w/beer remarks. [Wink] )

Anyway, I think I'm going to give a certain someone a ring and find out if she wants coffee now. ;P

Cheers,
dragon

*I really want to write "they," but it's in bad form, so I'll do the 'right' thing. [Smile]

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Madam, please, we're not 'geeks', we're technosexuals.

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I'm not sure where they're at, either; however, if I find their hideout, I'll be sure to let you know! Slightly-nerdy girls are definitely the way to go--I just can't seem to find them lately! Oh, bother! =)

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Mangler, if you spot them locally let me know Immediately!
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