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boo
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Icon 1 posted March 11, 2007 20:27      Profile for boo     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Anyone make use of these? I was reading some hilarious (well, to me. not to the participants though) stories of the characters some people are coming across on these sites. I haven't visited any of them, but even if I had been interested, I wouldn't be now after reading those reviews. [crazy]
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Mac D
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I met my (now ex) wife on Lavalife.com

I don't know if I would use one again. I did go out on quite a few dates from it. But since my wife and I split up I've become more bold. I used to be really shy and that is why I used them. But now I have no problem talking to girls I meet. This is a total 160 for me. I was the most shy person on the planet.

I would not say that thoes sites are bad, but I'm having more fun the old fashion way of hitting on girls.

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Icon 1 posted March 12, 2007 06:48      Profile for zesovietrussian     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Aren't dating sites full of lads who keep their prospective girlfriends in basement pits and make them put lotion on their skin?
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quote:
Originally posted by Mac D:
... This is a total 160 for me. I was the most shy person on the planet.

A total 160, eh? Couldn't bring yourself to go the other 20 degrees? [Wink]
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Icon 1 posted March 12, 2007 09:26      Profile for Sxeptomaniac   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Dating sites have worked for some people I know of. I've tried some myself, and they can be interesting, but haven't worked out for me, other than exchanging messages with the occasional person. OKcupid can be entertaining now and then. I know a few other people from GC have signed up with it besides myself, though I don't know if they are still active.

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quote:
Originally posted by drunkennewfiemidget:
quote:
Originally posted by Mac D:
... This is a total 160 for me. I was the most shy person on the planet.

A total 160, eh? Couldn't bring yourself to go the other 20 degrees? [Wink]
I sorta assumed he went from the "most shy" to nearly the most gregarious [Big Grin]

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Mac D
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Icon 1 posted March 12, 2007 10:49      Profile for Mac D     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
quote:
Originally posted by WinterSolstice:
quote:
Originally posted by drunkennewfiemidget:
quote:
Originally posted by Mac D:
... This is a total 160 for me. I was the most shy person on the planet.

A total 160, eh? Couldn't bring yourself to go the other 20 degrees? [Wink]
I sorta assumed he went from the "most shy" to nearly the most gregarious [Big Grin]
No I just posted that with little to no coffee in me. I can't be expected to think before coffee. Thats like trying to start a car with no gas.

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I met my husband on Match.com [hearts] and I think Rhonnwynn (I always spell her name wrong) met hers on eHarmony. Honestly I think it all depends on the person using the service. (I went on a date with one guy who wore shorts and a tshirt and watched the baseball game all during dinner. And then there was the sociopath...learned my lesson there. And then there was the guy who was missing more teeth than he had.) [crazy]
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Another OkCupid veteran here. I met one of my best friends through that site, and a couple of other people I still chat to/hang out with. Oh yes, and I managed to procure a psycho-stalker. I still maintain that there's a great deal of stigma attached to online dating, which people ought to try and overcome. It's worth a try, as long as you proceed with caution and common sense.

Weirdly, I met my current boyfriend the old-fashioned way - through friends. But the friend I met him through was a guy I met on OkCupid... make of that what you will.

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Yup, BW, you're right. Bear and I met through eHarmony.com. I had tried some other sites, but the guys I met through there were mostly uneducated. Very frustrating and so not my type. eHarmony was better at matching me with people who were closer to the kinds of values and ideals I liked. Jonathan and I butt heads on subjects occasionally, but our personalities mesh very well. He's studied me carefully and can read me very well. I'm not so good at reading him 'cause some of his looks can be interpreted multiple ways.

But that's really not related to the Web site dating service question. My vote's for eHarmony. [Smile]

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I tried eHarmony. Got the following message:

"We feel it is important to tell our users about any potential problems.

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Roughly 20% of people who sign up for our service simply will not benefit from it.

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You are one of those 20%. Good luck and may God have mercy on your soul."


Apparently, since I don't put down the usual "I'm very open/caring/affection/intelligent/all-around nice guy, I won't be matched. Oh well, guess there's no real loss. I've looked at a couple other sites, and I might try signing up for those. I'm very straightforward whenever I have to write something about myself. I know what I am: witty, dry, usually condescending, often offensivve, intelligent, and demeaning. While I understand emotions very well, I choose not to display them. I comfort people whenever they're having a hard time... unless said hard time was brought on by their own stupidity. Apparently, having these characteristics invalidates me for online dating stuff, but I'd rather live with that than try to change these aspects of my personality which, quite frankly, I'm rather fond of [Smile]

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nerdwithnofriends wrote:
Apparently, since I don't put down the usual "I'm very open/caring/affection/intelligent/all-around nice guy, I won't be matched.

Did you put down a religion other than a variation of Christianity? E-Harmony is heavily oriented towards Christian dating, although they don't make that particularly obvious.

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quote:
Originally posted by nerdwithnofriends:
I tried eHarmony. Got the following message:

"We feel it is important to tell our users about any potential problems.
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Roughly 20% of people who sign up for our service simply will not benefit from it.
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You are one of those 20%. Good luck and may God have mercy on your soul."

Oh wow... something about that makes me hope so much that I'd be one of the 20%.
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quote:
Originally posted by nerdwithnofriends:
I tried eHarmony. Got the following message:

"We feel it is important to tell our users about any potential problems.

...

Roughly 20% of people who sign up for our service simply will not benefit from it.

...

You are one of those 20%. Good luck and may God have mercy on your soul."

I wonder what response I'd get if I put down militant atheist? [evil]

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quote:
Originally posted by nerdwithnofriends:
I comfort people whenever they're having a hard time... unless said hard time was brought on by their own stupidity.

In my experience 99% of the time people are having a hard time because of thier own stupidity. Especially in america where there are not that many plagues, wars or other acts of god. Just a thought. I am not calling you an insensative clod or anything.

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quote:
Originally posted by nerdwithnofriends:
Apparently, since I don't put down the usual "I'm very open/caring/affection/intelligent/all-around nice guy, I won't be matched. Oh well, guess there's no real loss. I've looked at a couple other sites, and I might try signing up for those. I'm very straightforward whenever I have to write something about myself. I know what I am: witty, dry, usually condescending, often offensivve, intelligent, and demeaning. While I understand emotions very well, I choose not to display them. I comfort people whenever they're having a hard time... unless said hard time was brought on by their own stupidity. Apparently, having these characteristics invalidates me for online dating stuff, but I'd rather live with that than try to change these aspects of my personality which, quite frankly, I'm rather fond of [Smile]

You know, I have about the same "problem": I tried a more-or-less local dating site, with zero result. I didn't put photos, didn't pretend to be what I am not just to get more hits, and was straightforward about it. Obviously, people prefer to be lied to rather than face the cold truth from the start. Or maybe I just didn't choose the right site, and the people there are of the immature kind.

(For the curious ones, I openly stated that I prefer intellectual pursuits over physical niceness, then proceeded to describe my favorite activities, and ended on a blunt "feelings don't follow logic, so I make no promises". )

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A simple Google search turned up a dating site for geeks.

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quote:
Originally posted by Steen:
nerdwithnofriends wrote:
Apparently, since I don't put down the usual "I'm very open/caring/affection/intelligent/all-around nice guy, I won't be matched.

Did you put down a religion other than a variation of Christianity? E-Harmony is heavily oriented towards Christian dating, although they don't make that particularly obvious.

Oh great, that's what the world needs, breeding christians.

*shudder*

[Razz]

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quote:
Originally posted by drunkennewfiemidget:
quote:
Originally posted by Steen:
nerdwithnofriends wrote:
Apparently, since I don't put down the usual "I'm very open/caring/affection/intelligent/all-around nice guy, I won't be matched.

Did you put down a religion other than a variation of Christianity? E-Harmony is heavily oriented towards Christian dating, although they don't make that particularly obvious.

Oh great, that's what the world needs, breeding christians.


*shudder*

[Razz]

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I'm actually on eHarmony, hotornot, I was on gk2gk, etc. I've tried everything.

eHarmony is like pulling teeth, My membership is up in April, and I don't think I'll renuew.

I don't get out much since I work two jobs, and go to school. I really do need to pry myself from the Cat5 though.

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Is it me or is there no suitable dating site for us... ummm... aesthetically challenged types. I really need a DesperateMingers.com, or maybe a LumpenTrollopesWillDoYouForAFishSupper.com -- you know what I mean?*

(* semi-serious.)

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spungo wrote:
Is it me or is there no suitable dating site for us... ummm... aesthetically challenged types. I really need a DesperateMingers.com, or maybe a LumpenTrollopesWillDoYouForAFishSupper.com -- you know what I mean?*

Sure there is. It's called CraigsList. [Smile]

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quote:
Originally posted by nerdwithnofriends:

You are one of those 20%. Good luck and may God have mercy on your soul."


Are you pulling my leg?! They didn't actually say this, did they?
quote:
Originally posted by Ashitaka:
In my experience 99% of the time people are having a hard time because of thier own stupidity.

So what do you propose? Stupid people are people too.
quote:
Originally posted by spungo:
Is it me or is there no suitable dating site for us... ummm... aesthetically challenged types.

Here spungo, try the one MacD found.
quote:
Originally posted by Mac D:
A simple Google search turned up a dating site for geeks.

As usual, I learn a lot by asking questions. I had no idea there were so many dating sites out there. I've only heard of a couple. But anyway, if not for reading the posts that prompted this question in the first place, I might have thought it a good way to meet potential mates. I like the idea of meeting people on line, especially people in far flung places. Perhaps the dating services aren't always the best venue for that though. Still, they apparently work for some types of people.
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boo, forums are a much better place for meeting people from distant lands. [Razz]

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quote:
Originally posted by boo:
quote:
Originally posted by nerdwithnofriends:

You are one of those 20%. Good luck and may God have mercy on your soul."


Are you pulling my leg?! They didn't actually say this, did they?

Yes, sans the 'god have mercy on your soul part'. I took creatie license with that [Smile]

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