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ChemGeek
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Icon 1 posted December 05, 2005 09:11      Profile for ChemGeek     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
I want to ask this one girl to go see The Lion, The Witch, and The Wardrobe this friday, but I can never seem to get her alone from her friends. I'm hoping to see her around campus today or tomorrow, but emailing her might be easier. My goal isn't to be real romantic or anything like that. So would asking her through an email ok?

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Icon 1 posted December 05, 2005 09:16      Profile for Bibo   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Why does she have to be alone to ask?
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Icon 1 posted December 05, 2005 10:41      Profile for quantumfluff     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
If you can't ask her with other people around, what make's you think you can talk to her alone. Just ask her. Hell, ask her friends to come as well. She's going to tell all her friends about the email anyway, so you might as well get it in the open quickly.
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DAMN GOOD POINT! Just walk up to her. Strike up a conversation or if you are already in one and just say, "Oh, Hey, By the way. You wanna go to the show this weekend?" Real smooth like and you'll be in like flint.
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Icon 1 posted December 05, 2005 10:51      Profile for drunkennewfiemidget     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
quote:
Originally posted by Jace Raven:
DAMN GOOD POINT! Just walk up to her. Strike up a conversation or if you are already in one and just say, "Oh, Hey, By the way. You wanna go to the show this weekend?" Real smooth like and you'll be in like flint.

And out like acid washed jeans.
And back in.
out.
in.
out.

... oh dear.

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Icon 1 posted December 05, 2005 10:51      Profile for ChemGeek     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
It appears that after only 3 replies there is a consenus about what to do. Next time I see her, I'll just ask, friends or no friends. Thanks.

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quote:
And out like acid washed jeans.
And back in.
out.
in.
out.

... oh dear.

wow...I took that to a whole other meaning... [Razz]

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Icon 1 posted December 05, 2005 16:49      Profile for ChemGeek     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Since I realized I would be in the lab all week working on p-chem, I decided to pick up the phone and give her a call. P-chem truly does rule my life now.

Oh yeah, she said yes.

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Qapla'!

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Email (and phones, for that matter) are great for aksing your buddies to go have a beer with you. If you're trying to ask that girl out, do it in person.
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Icon 1 posted December 06, 2005 16:54      Profile for csk     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
quote:
Originally posted by dp004i:
Email (and phones, for that matter) are great for aksing your buddies to go have a beer with you. If you're trying to ask that girl out, do it in person.

Good general principle, but I wouldn't feel that it has to be that way every time. If the girl is an online nut, she may well be quite happy being asked out over the 'net. YMMV...

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I really tend to prefer asking in person, it was just an ackward moment when all of her friends were there. Just had to be there, I guess. It all worked out in the end, so the details dont really matter at this point.

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Icon 1 posted December 06, 2005 18:01      Profile for csk     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
quote:
Originally posted by ChemGeek:
I really tend to prefer asking in person, it was just an ackward moment when all of her friends were there. Just had to be there, I guess. It all worked out in the end, so the details dont really matter at this point.

Indeed. Actually, that reminds me of a situation last week where I was out with some friends, there's me, another guy, and two girls. Now this guy wants to hook up with one of the girls, but doesn't want to do it with us other people around. So he spends the whole night not hooking up with her until it comes to home time. Then they manage to spend some alone time together and finally hook up. Funny stuff (when you're not the one who's nerves are being wracked)...

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I would not be impressed if somebody asked me out through email, or any other non-realtime means. It demonstrates gutlessness. Instant messenger is only slightly better, with a phone call ranking above it, and in person being the best.

Besides, don't you want to see her reaction so you can gauge how it's going to go?

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quote:
Originally posted by Demosthenes:
I would not be impressed if somebody asked me out through email, or any other non-realtime means. It demonstrates gutlessness. Instant messenger is only slightly better, with a phone call ranking above it, and in person being the best.

Besides, don't you want to see her reaction so you can gauge how it's going to go?

Hmmm, I see nothing wrong with asking by email. Email allows more honesty imo. The person being asked can have time to think it over, rather than speaking based on pressure.

gutless? *shurgs* Perhaps...

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Icon 1 posted December 07, 2005 09:49      Profile for Aditu     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
As a girl, I would not be offended by being asked out on a date by e-mail, if you also spoke with me face to face regularly.
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quote:
Originally posted by Aditu:
As a girl, I would not be offended by being asked out on a date by e-mail, if you also spoke with me face to face regularly.

*deletes e-mail asking aditu out on a date*
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quote:
Originally posted by Wick:
Hmmm, I see nothing wrong with asking by email. Email allows more honesty imo. The person being asked can have time to think it over, rather than speaking based on pressure.

gutless? *shurgs* Perhaps...

I'm giving you my honest opinion as a woman who's been asked out via email more than once, and I've always sent back an email saying, "I might've said yes if you'd picked up the phone." It gives me a low opinion; if you don't have the balls to walk up and ask me out, without having to turn it over in your head, edit, delete, and use your thesaurus, then what kind of spontaneity can I expect to see later on?
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Thats why I picked up the phone. It went over well too.

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I love it when a plan comes together [evil]

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quote:
Originally posted by Demosthenes:
I'm giving you my honest opinion as a woman who's been asked out via email more than once, and I've always sent back an email saying, "I might've said yes if you'd picked up the phone." It gives me a low opinion; if you don't have the balls to walk up and ask me out, without having to turn it over in your head, edit, delete, and use your thesaurus, then what kind of spontaneity can I expect to see later on?

But I don't _have_ your phone number, what am I meant to do? [Wink]

(damn, you're in that other country too [Wink] )

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/me looks for his phone... [Wink]

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quote:
Originally posted by csk:
But I don't _have_ your phone number, what am I meant to do? [Wink]

(damn, you're in that other country too [Wink] )

Book a flight and ask either dpi or dman for it.

(I think I might be involved, though. It's that nebulous point after the first couple of dates where you're not sure if you should still be out nailing other people, so you're playing it safe and totally sexually frustrated. Why do we put ourselves through this? [Razz] )

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quote:
Originally posted by Demosthenes:
quote:
Originally posted by csk:
But I don't _have_ your phone number, what am I meant to do? [Wink]

(damn, you're in that other country too [Wink] )

Book a flight and ask either dpi or dman for it.

(I think I might be involved, though. It's that nebulous point after the first couple of dates where you're not sure if you should still be out nailing other people, so you're playing it safe and totally sexually frustrated. Why do we put ourselves through this? [Razz] )

Oh, that's a shame - poor dragon. With dragonthene gone, we could definitely another round of dragonthenes around here [Wink]
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quote:
Originally posted by dp004i:
quote:
Originally posted by Demosthenes:
quote:
Originally posted by csk:
But I don't _have_ your phone number, what am I meant to do? [Wink]

(damn, you're in that other country too [Wink] )

Book a flight and ask either dpi or dman for it.

(I think I might be involved, though. It's that nebulous point after the first couple of dates where you're not sure if you should still be out nailing other people, so you're playing it safe and totally sexually frustrated. Why do we put ourselves through this? [Razz] )

Oh, that's a shame - poor dragon. With dragonthene gone, we could definitely another round of dragonthenes around here [Wink]
Haha...cute. I'm not even sure where to begin with that comment, so I'm going to stay in a bit of dazed state now. At least I didn't get up until after 11 today. [Smile]

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