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Topic: Another nice guy died today
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Grummash
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posted March 22, 2007 14:14
We got a phone call tonight telling us that someone had died. He was someone I have known for about 16 years, although we were not close in recent times. He was a fine musician and played the Highland Pipes at our wedding 8 years ago.
Why am I telling you all this? I don't know, maybe to work out how I feel about it - we haven't seen John for a few months and didn't know he was ill.
As a pagan, I am more able to accept the inevitability of death than my Victorian Christian forebears, who saw death as the ultimate taboo. But he was not much older than me, and that makes it wrong, somehow.
One thing, though - suddenly two recent threads take on a new relevance. boo's thread about making sure that you know that people are ok if you haven't heard from them for a while, and the other thread (apologies, but I have forgotten who originated it) about how you want to hear bad news. I still believe that short and sharp is best, shit news is shit news no matter how fancy the words. Mrs Grummash said to me.....
"I've got bad news.... Ann's been on the phone...Snelly died this afternoon... he had oesophagal cancer."
Anyway... sorry for blethering on, but one thought springs to mind (.. and Snelly hated maudlin sentimentality, so he would appreciate this...) with Snelly gone - who will play the pipes at his funeral???
![[Frown]](frown.gif)
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posted March 22, 2007 14:26
Sorry about your friend.
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Stereo
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posted March 22, 2007 14:45
Well, better learn fast, Grummash. And if he's the kind of guy you make it sound, he probably wouldn't mind if the one who plays does it badly.
Ok, bad taste joking aside, you have my heartfelt condoleances.
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Grummash
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posted March 22, 2007 14:53
Stereo - bad taste jokes are entirely what Snelly would have expected...
..and your comment about him not minding someone playing badly - that is exactly right... he would have preferred people who try to play and get it wrong, rather than people who are just not interested in music.
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skylar
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posted March 23, 2007 03:25
I'm really sorry to hear that, Grummash . From what you say of him, he sounds like the kind of person whom it would enrich your life to know.
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posted March 23, 2007 05:48
Condolences. We having a virtual wake?
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posted March 23, 2007 05:58
Grummash _________________________________There really are no words that can soften the feelings that one has, when a good friend or loved one passes. You can only remember the good times. Your comment on who would play the pipes, reminded me of of when the care taker of a very rural church passed and as the paster drove up for the services he had to pause to remember that he had not made plans for someone else to open the doors.
Any way I have told the Mrs. MoMan that this is how I want my last ride:
http://www.tombstonehearse.com/home.htm
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Richard Wolf VI
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posted March 23, 2007 09:46
Oh, I feel so sorry to hear that, but we should accept death as being free from the pain, problems and disorder we had been having in life, thinking that way may relieve you.
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posted March 23, 2007 13:02
Sorry to hear that Grummash. My condolences.
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Tominfla
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posted March 23, 2007 14:27
My condolences too Grummash. This reminds me of a good friend who died in 1996. ![[weep]](graemlins/weep.gif)
I want an Irish wake when I die. They can drink and make bawdy jokes and generally get plastered in my name.
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quantumfluff
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posted March 24, 2007 12:23
I want a Viking funeral. Put me out on a raft in the water and set me ablaze. My wife is not keen on the idea, but my daughter has promised to do it for me. I don't think, however, that she'll be able to pull it off.
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Grummash
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posted March 24, 2007 13:39
Thank you for the kind thoughts, everyone.
TheMoMan - bike funerals are catching on in the UK, too....
like this...
Tominfla - experience has shown that for best results you should hold your wake before you die...you will enjoy it more ![[Wink]](wink.gif)
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posted March 28, 2007 17:19
I've so sorry that you have lost your friend without getting to spend some last time together. It's like Bill's sudden death.
I think you should give the pipes a whirl. It sounds like he would approve. We'll get you Bagpipes for Dummies. ![[Smile]](smile.gif)
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Grummash
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posted March 29, 2007 11:39
It was John's funeral today, a Humanist ceremony at the Crematorium. Standing room only, and not much of that! It was about as good as it could be under the circumstances - but I couldn't face going to the wake.
Thanks again for your kind thoughts.
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posted March 29, 2007 12:40
A toast to your friend Snelly. What better send off can someone ask for then standing room only at the funeral.
Grummash, I hope your memories of your friend keep you smiling for years and years. ![[Happytears]](graemlins/happytears.gif)
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