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Wanabe unregistered |
posted March 02, 2002 20:47
 
I met a great guy last month and I think he's my soul mate. He's funny, sweet, and very smart (and very cute). I'm a programmer wanabe and we met in class. I don't want to scare him off or freak him out. Any thoughts??? IP: Logged |
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TheAnnoyedCockroach Highlie 
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posted March 02, 2002 22:39
 
I say lure him in with some innocent proposal. "Could you help me get my computer to work?" Then pounce like cheetah on a trampoline. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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Nemo Super Geek  
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posted March 03, 2002 04:32
Ask him to go see a movie with you, preferable one with computors or other items or plots that may interest him. After the movie, go somewhere quiet, order something to drink (not necessary alcohol) and talk about the movie. Let things go with the flow, but never check your watch. Looking deep into his eyes might work too. (but not for too long...  )Good luck! IP: Logged |
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ZorroTheFox BlabberMouth, the Next Generation.     
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posted March 03, 2002 07:45
try to make excuses for him to be around you, then when he gets comfortable being with you so often, try to get him on a date without calling it a date.......Z IP: Logged |
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Janeway Alpha Geek Posts: 309 |
posted March 03, 2002 09:48
Invite him over for an intensive battle of Super Mario Kart (or whatever happens to be your fave (or his fave) two-player video game). I don't know if it would work, but it's what I would do. IP: Logged |
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dragonman97 Assimilated 
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posted March 03, 2002 11:04
Well, I can only say that this is one lucky geek, to have someone else wishing to pursue him. I would suggest inviting him to a Starbuck's (or coffee house of your choice), as no geek worth his code can resist good coffee, and it should suffiently relax him such that he will sensibly listen, and probably fall head over heels for you, with the influence of good coffee. But that's my view. If there are any single geekettes in the area stated at left, I'll take a cup of Starbuck's any day. IP: Logged |
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TheAnnoyedCockroach Highlie
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posted March 03, 2002 16:03
It's funny, but I just realised that almost all of these suggestions (My wonderfully worthless one included) all seem to have the theme of tricking the chap into it. Is this how females operate? If so, then I need to get tricked more often. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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macadddikt18 BlabberMouth, the Next Generation.
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posted March 03, 2002 17:46
Just hang out with the poor guy, talk to him. Talk to him about relationships, get his view on them and find out what he is looking for. Talk to him about going out, and what you want that type of relationship to look like. If you are still involved then you both kinda agree to go out. don't trick him. That is mean. Nayt ------------------ IP: Logged |
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LifetimeTrekker Highlie
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posted March 03, 2002 18:04
You could also try the direct approach--take the initiative and just ask him out to coffee. Or on a date.
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Angry Rooster Assimilated
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posted March 03, 2002 18:43
I agree with LifetimeTrekker, you should be able to ask a geek guy out just like you'd ask anyone else out, the rest of these suggestions are good for building a comfort level, but it's very doubtful he's going to run away screaming because you just flat out asked him out. Give us some credit ------------------ IP: Logged |
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Evilbunny Uber Geek 
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posted March 03, 2002 19:53
Yeah! Just have fun! IP: Logged |
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Swiss Mercenary BlabberMouth, the Next Generation.
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posted March 04, 2002 02:29
quote:Err, how can you have the words Starbuck's and good coffee in the same phrase  If you wish to seduce your geek with good coffee, find that little Italian/European place that serves proper ground coffee, make sure that it is strong too. IP: Logged |
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SupportGoddess Highlie
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posted March 04, 2002 05:37
You guys are in the same programming class? Easy, ask him if he would like to work on a project together, get to know him and hang out with him. You might want to find out what he is really like too, you only met him a month ago, that is a little short for a time period in which to assess a soulmate. Don't jump into anything. Also try to ignore the first suggestion entirely. (Sorry Cockroach ------------------ IP: Logged |
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curlysimon Geek-in-Training 
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posted March 04, 2002 10:12
quote: I can resist good coffee. Coffee gives me the jitters, even decaf. Besides water is better for you. IP: Logged |
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macadddikt18 BlabberMouth, the Next Generation.
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posted March 04, 2002 12:06
quote: I would, i have, i have hit one girl on the head with a pizza pan before. So i guess i am just the exception. Nayt ------------------ IP: Logged |
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TheAnnoyedCockroach Highlie
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posted March 04, 2002 13:00
Goddess: I didn't expect anybody to take it seriously anyhow; I really cannot help this situation, not being in the guy getting business. Just a bad joke, I suppose. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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dragonman97 Assimilated
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posted March 04, 2002 14:51
Well, Starbuck's makes some of the better coffee around - far superior to the swill made on campus. I make a nice cup of coffee, but it might be more forward to invite someone to your house than Starbuck's for coffee. With Swiss's comment in mind, perhaps I would invite them to another coffeehouse, but I have taken one of my friends to the nearby Starbuck's and we enjoyed some delicious coffee (Mocha's in one instance), and it was a good way to ease her troubled mind. And curlysimon, perhaps coffee can make even I a little jittery at times, but it is a still an enjoyable thing that can make programming an even better experience. IP: Logged |
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Bregalad Alpha Geek Posts: 333 |
posted March 04, 2002 16:30
Another vote for the direct approach. Many geeks (and non-geeks) are too shy or uncertain of themselves in social settings to even talk to somebody they find attractive. It's a little harder for guys because we are expected to be the ones doing the asking out. That makes it all the more wonderful when a woman approaches us. I think he would be happy to chat with you and would probably accept any non-threatening suggestion you make to see him outside of class. Invitations to coffee (or equivalent), lunch, a movie, a play, etc. are all good ways to show interest. IP: Logged |
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+Andrew Alpha Geek Posts: 265 |
posted March 04, 2002 17:44
quote: I'll second that. Not long ago, I didn't even believe that somone could actually be interested in me (but things are better now). -Andrew IP: Logged |
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macadddikt18 BlabberMouth, the Next Generation.
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posted March 04, 2002 19:35
I guess you could hit the guy on the head with the frying pan, tie him up and make him date you. Nayt ------------------ IP: Logged |
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mephisto Highlie
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posted March 05, 2002 05:56
Geek guys tend to be the most insecure ones. So the best way to start is by showing some interest, a few honest compliments(telling a 120 pound geek that he looks like arnie doesn't cut it) about his intellect or eyes or something like that will slip you through his defences. Then be prepared to bare your geeky side for him and make sure he knows that your're really interested in him for him, not for his ability to help you with your homework and you'll be okay. After about a week of hanging out together at an arcade or something, ask him out. I could talk of more insidious ways to lure geek guys and get them to go nuts over you, but I'm too lazy to type and i have organic chem to study. but hope this helps. IP: Logged |
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MacManKrisK Super Geek
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posted March 05, 2002 12:29
First....the direct approach is the best, it always worked on me.....oh wait....no, I've never had a GF, so I guess i'm not a good example. Anyway, just do it, it works. Second...read The Girls Guide to Geek Guys. IP: Logged |
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EroticLibrary Maximum Newbie
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posted March 06, 2002 14:14
"Invite him over for an intensive battle of Super Mario Kart" That has happened to me before. It is a good deal. IP: Logged |
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The Pope of Perl Geek Apprentice
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posted March 06, 2002 14:27
Kidnap him and force him to write code to control your Secret Weapon of Doom. I'm not sure what happens next, though. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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mephisto Highlie
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posted March 06, 2002 20:45
quote: wild, hot sex?! IP: Logged |
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macadddikt18 BlabberMouth, the Next Generation.
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posted March 07, 2002 06:04
NO NO, he turn the weapon of mass doom on you and uses it to escape. Nayt ------------------ IP: Logged |
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mephisto Highlie
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posted March 07, 2002 06:36
quote: no no no no, you want the sex. Trust me. The sex is good. Though underrated, it is better than owning a weapon of mass doom. IP: Logged |
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ZorroTheFox BlabberMouth, the Next Generation.
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posted March 07, 2002 17:56
hmmmm, I always considered sex a weapon of mass doom.........Z IP: Logged |
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Max Heck Geek Apprentice
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posted March 08, 2002 07:52
I agree w/ ZorroFox... If sex isn't a weapon of mass doom, it's at least a weapon of personal doom... "The Time Machine" just opened in the US... That's a good geeky movie (I'm hoping, I haven't seen it yet, but plan to.) Perhaps you could ask if he's seen it yet, and if not (well, it just opened!) you could ask if he wants to. It's entirely acceptable for a woman to offer a night at the movies to a male friend. That's how my ex hooked me... Watching the movie "2016" during the scene where they're hooking up with Discovery, she picked up my hand and started nibbling on my fingers (you may or may not want to do this) but being a geek, this started umpteen different mental threads going... Among them: "Oh holy clams, how do I respond to this?" "For corn's sake, why can't she just let me watch the movie... This is Clarke, after all..." and most memorably.... "Oooh... That feels goooooood!" Quite unsuprisingly, I gave in to the "oooooh... This feels good!" thread. She absolutely had me at that point. This was a EWB (English-Writing-Babe) not a TTB, but she knew how to snare a geek... We lasted 14 years. Good luck! Max. IP: Logged |
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mephisto Highlie
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posted March 08, 2002 09:15
quote: only to those frail of mind. Personally, sex has never affected me negatively but then I do pride myself on always thinking with the right head. IP: Logged |
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Max Heck Geek Apprentice
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posted March 08, 2002 09:29
quote: -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Originally posted by Max Heck: I agree w/ ZorroFox... If sex isn't a weapon of mass doom, it's at least a weapon of personal doom...
only to those frail of mind. Personally, sex has never affected me negatively but then I do pride myself on always thinking with the right head.
Oh, the road to ruination... Max. IP: Logged |
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ZorroTheFox BlabberMouth, the Next Generation.
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posted March 10, 2002 19:37
is it the road to ruination, or the highway to hell, either way, I am not about to turn around now......Z IP: Logged |
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Trinity Geek Larva 
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posted March 12, 2002 16:00
I think the suggestion to ask him to work on a project with you is the best one. Lure him into some situation where you need him to "fix" your computer (i.e. tell him you just installed Linux for the first time and you need a hand - he'll be drooling!!) and then I'm sure he'll agree. Besides, he's a geek, I mean he's probably a kind natured guy, he won't refuse. So, suggestion summary: ask him to help you then once the "helping" is over thank him and ask him out. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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Bandman Single Celled Newbie 
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posted April 09, 2002 09:37
are you sure you're not the person that is talked about in this forum? http://www.geekculture.com/ultimatebb/Forum6/HTML/000232.html If so, then I think that this could be a self-solving problem  IP: Logged |
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GameMaster Highlie
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posted April 09, 2002 12:25
While fate would torture me so, it is not I... I would post an ending to that thread, but that would reserect another thread that should rest in peace. Thanks for the thought tho, Bandman. IP: Logged |
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Breezy Nix Newbie
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posted May 05, 2002 16:13
Just ask him. If he is smart he will say yes. Trust me.
quote: ------------------ *Nothing will work unless you do.* IP: Logged |
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Sub2RainEN Newbie Larva
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posted May 06, 2002 15:23
Wow, this is all-too familiar. I've been lusting for a Nerd (he's more literary than computer-minded) boy myself for several months. I decided early on that I wouldn't be as lame as I have with geek boys past, only to discover 10 years later that the feelings were mutual. While I never asked him on a date per se, I did amaze myself by breaking the past poor habit of doing nothing and asked him to do things. We'd go for walks in Central Park, run errands together, have lunch once or twice a week. After a short time, I wasn't nervous around him at all, I felt very comfortable with him because we got along well, worked well together (both of us get annoyed with slacking coworkers), had great conversations and understood each other's sense of humor. He was surprised at times at the kinds of conversations we had, as he didn't normally "get that intimate" with anyone. This went on for about 4 months, but we could never seem to get outside the work place. Now that I no longer work there, I thought he'd be more at ease with seeing me outside of work, especially considering the kinds of questions he asked coworkers about me. Instead, he seemed unusually nervous and abrupt when I called and did not return my calls or emails. I recently started dating another geek now and he seems nice, but it's very early on. I miss the conversations and sense of connection I had with the first one. I'm really confused about this, because, at the very least, I didn't anticipate losing the friendship with not so much as a harsh word between us. Any geek guys have any theories? IP: Logged |
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taikatsu Newbie Larva
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posted May 27, 2002 10:17
Guys, especially geeks, like to know they're appreciated. Ask him for help with something, then thank him for his help. It sounds cheesy, but a genuine "thank you" is sometimes a good meter of who thinks your the coolest codewarrior around (see, cheesy!), because, we all know, girls never say thanks with out an agenda! IP: Logged |
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snupy Highlie
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posted May 27, 2002 22:45
Get him to join this forum and then flirt with him shamelessly.Just remember, though-no text sex allowed
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snupy Highlie
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posted May 27, 2002 22:57
quote: No one, Trek. I can start many things-my car, a man's fire, a good fight, a rumor and if I feel like it, spreading the news.... IP: Logged |
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) If you do go that route, make sure he knows right away it was the only way you could think of to ask him to hang out. Dumb and inept aren't sexy or attractive.