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cras
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posted August 14, 2000 07:18     Click Here to See the Profile for cras     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Where's all the chicks? TTBs? Are they coming? I need them!

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posted August 14, 2000 11:21     Click Here to See the Profile for Snaggy   Click Here to Email Snaggy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
The chick is at home in bed running Red Hat.

The TTBs still live over on After Y2K, ... only if the Sys Admin gets her way, perhaps not for long. stay tuned!

Don't worry, JoT will have chicks...

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CyberGoddess
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posted August 18, 2000 10:09     Click Here to See the Profile for CyberGoddess   Click Here to Email CyberGoddess     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

What is it with some of you men? Can't you enjoy a comic that is simple and meant to be humorous? "Chicks" are not here for your amusement. If you want cartoon women to drool over, I think you're reading the wrong genre of comics. They are meant to be FUNNY, not for you to get your rocks off, for Goddess's sake.

It's not like you see us screaming, "Where are the HUNKS?"

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posted August 18, 2000 12:58     Click Here to See the Profile for Beenay   Click Here to Email Beenay     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by CyberGoddess:

What is it with some of you men? Can't you enjoy a comic that is simple and meant to be humorous? "Chicks" are not here for your amusement.


Presence of both sexes is very important! One of the reasons I left my previous job was because there were no girls! (except of that evil secretary). It's very boring when there's only one gender.

Beenay.

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EngrBohn
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posted August 18, 2000 15:17     Click Here to See the Profile for EngrBohn   Click Here to Email EngrBohn     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Beenay:
Presence of both sexes is very important! One of the reasons I left my previous job was because there were no girls! (except of that evil secretary). It's very boring when there's only one gender.


I think the objection is to the term "chicks". As I was taught in a "these are the things not to say" class the Air Force requires everyone to attend, that's a "disparaging term".

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posted August 18, 2000 16:32     Click Here to See the Profile for CyberGoddess   Click Here to Email CyberGoddess     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Exactly. Had he said, "In order to have balance we need to see more women." that is one thing to ask "Where are the chicks?" is a totally different thing.

I agree with needing women to balance it all out. However, I don't agree in "fluff" which is what he seemed to be implying he wanted... eye candy.

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posted August 19, 2000 14:41     Click Here to See the Profile for Tau Zero     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hear hear, Cybergoddess.  I used to complain about some of the TTB themes for just that reason (a little too thin on the plot and a little patronizing toward the male part of the audience).  Or perhaps what bugged me is that the male part of the audience didn't have the wits to feel patronized.

If anyone wants eye candy there is always alt.binaries.pictures.girlfriends (assuming it still exists and isn't a wasteland of spam).

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posted August 19, 2000 22:46     Click Here to See the Profile for Petethelate   Click Here to Email Petethelate     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hmm, just had a thought. Just how literal is Snaggy? He promised us chicks, maybe we'll get chicks. Here chicken, chicken....

Ptl

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(Post under influence of Death, Arch Enemy, Morbid Angel, Possessed, Carcass, Testament and Slayer, so it will be kinda violent)

DRAW CHICKS AND HUNKS, OR DIE!


(you gotta please both sexes.)

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posted August 20, 2000 21:22     Click Here to See the Profile for Petethelate   Click Here to Email Petethelate     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Petethelate:
Hmm, just had a thought. Just how literal is Snaggy? He promised us chicks, maybe we'll get chicks. Here chicken, chicken....

Ptl



Hmm, talk about life imitating art, or was that LIFE imitating Newsweek? Just heard on the radio that the SF zoo is going to be exhibiting a bunch (brood?) of penguin chicks. Aaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwhhhhhhhhhhhh, cute!!!!!!

Ptl

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posted August 21, 2000 08:22     Click Here to See the Profile for supaboy   Click Here to Email supaboy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by EngrBohn:
As I was taught in a "these are the things not to say" class the Air Force requires everyone to attend, that's a "disparaging term".

I've been through diversity training too. But the recycle bins here are still labeled "white paper only" and "colored paper only". I thought we were working to get beyond that!

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posted August 21, 2000 19:20     Click Here to See the Profile for Saintonge   Click Here to Email Saintonge     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by supaboy:
I've been through diversity training too. But the recycle bins here are still labeled "white paper only" and "colored paper only". I thought we were working to get beyond that!


Yes, but 'paper of color' has been officially ruled harrassement too. So what do we call it?

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posted August 21, 2000 20:08     Click Here to See the Profile for EngrBohn   Click Here to Email EngrBohn     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Saintonge:
'paper of color' has been officially ruled harrassement too. So what do we call it?


"Differently tinted"?

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posted August 22, 2000 00:07     Click Here to See the Profile for Chipaca     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by CyberGoddess:
However, I don't agree in "fluff" which is what he seemed to be implying he wanted... eye candy.

HOWever, if I had to choose between fluff-fluff and TT-fluff, I have no doubt as to which *I* would choose

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posted August 22, 2000 02:29     Click Here to See the Profile for Astrid Leuer   Click Here to Email Astrid Leuer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by EngrBohn:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Saintonge:
'paper of color' has been officially ruled harrassement too. So what do we call it?


"Differently tinted"?
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Errrrr .... guys .... if you'd ever had to work in a multi-racial environment where people are honest about their racial feelings (and in South Africa, we can't afford not to be), then you might realise that "jokes" like this are really extremely hurtful. "Coloured" is a term specifically invented by the apartheid system (the South African one) in order to politically oppress black people.

And if your black colleagues don't feel able to tell you that they don't like these jokes, it's probably because American apartheid hasn't been dismantled as completely as it has in .za

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posted August 22, 2000 06:42     Click Here to See the Profile for MeckaMon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Astrid Leuer:
...then you might realise that "jokes" like this are really extremely hurtful...

Um... actually, I don't think they're all as bad as everyone (esp. you) make them out to be. I can take insults of every kind (racial, social, etc) providing they're somewhat witty. And most anti-politically-correct jokes are witty. People just refuse to accept that sometimes a joke is just that; a joke.

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posted August 22, 2000 08:41     Click Here to See the Profile for EngrBohn   Click Here to Email EngrBohn     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Astrid Leuer:
..."jokes" like this are really extremely hurtful

If you took offense, I apologize. My reply to the question of what to call non-white paper ("differently tinted") was not directed at any racial group, but rather at those who are so wrapped up in avoiding offending anybody that they cannot speak plainly. For example, I'm short, not "height-challenged"; fortunately, when I make a mistake, it is still a "mistake" and not an "unright action".


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Astrid Leuer
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posted August 22, 2000 09:20     Click Here to See the Profile for Astrid Leuer   Click Here to Email Astrid Leuer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It's not a matter of apologising; I'm personally not offended. But I think you're in denial if you don't think that that sort of remark is offensive. Short people haven't been, within memory, kept as literal slaves and deprived of their civil rights. Women and black people have.

South Africa and the USA are the only two major nations to have had apartheid systems. Ours ended much more suddenly, and with a more real threat of violence, which is why we've had to face up to a few things which white Americans haven't.

And while I'm being all serious, the truth about sexist language is something I don't think men will *ever* get.

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posted August 22, 2000 10:13     Click Here to See the Profile for CyberGoddess   Click Here to Email CyberGoddess     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Astrid Leuer:
And while I'm being all serious, the truth about sexist language is something I don't think men will *ever* get.


But isn't that in and of itself a sexist comment right there? A broad generalization? I know plenty of men who understand it and are sensitive to it.

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Astrid Leuer
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posted August 22, 2000 10:20     Click Here to See the Profile for Astrid Leuer   Click Here to Email Astrid Leuer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by CyberGoddess:
But isn't that in and of itself a sexist comment right there? A broad generalization? I know plenty of men who understand it and are sensitive to it.


Only if you accept the patronising, stupid idea that these things are symmetrical. In all of these cases, there is one group which is on top and one which is oppressed. We're not /in/ equilibrium here, and it isn't helpful to go around constantly picking up women or black people for their uses of "sexist" language -- it's missing the big picture.

And even men who "get it", nine times out of ten, they're just being two-faced. I tend to behave in a very flirty manner, as if I don't mind the odd dirty joke or off-colour remark. You'd be surprised what I learn about a lot of self-styled "sensitive new age guys". So with a very few honourable exceptions, I'll stand by my statement that men (as a whole -- nothing wrong with generalisations in and of themselves) will never understand anything. And continue to use them as sex objects without very much respect. Deal, boys?

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posted August 22, 2000 11:15     Click Here to See the Profile for Mr. Zarquon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Geez.
Thats a post that wakes you up in the morning.

I would have something insightful to say, but then astrid would debunk it about me being two faced and just saying it to be a sex object, or something. So I wont say it.

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Astrid Leuer
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posted August 22, 2000 11:22     Click Here to See the Profile for Astrid Leuer   Click Here to Email Astrid Leuer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Mr. Zarquon:
Geez.
Thats a post that wakes you up in the morning.

smell the coffee, loverboy

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I would have something insightful to say, but then astrid would debunk it about me being two faced and just saying it to be a sex object, or something. So I wont say it.

NO NO NO!!! You should never censor yourself; that's what multicultural awareness is all about. Just say what you feel, but try to think whether you mean what you're saying. I'm sure that the guys didn't mean to belittle and trivialise the experience of apartheid in SA and USA, but that's what they ended up doing.

Hey, imagine trying to build a whole country this way

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You'd be surprised what I learn about a lot of self-styled "sensitive new age guys". So with a very few honourable exceptions, I'll stand by my statement that men (as a whole -- nothing wrong with generalisations in and of themselves) will never understand anything. And continue to use them as sex objects without very much respect.

Well duh, girl, "sensitive man" is just another trick for getting laid... I think every woman knows that. If I had a dollar for every guy who's ever tried to sneak into me that way (well, I guess I'd be a cheap whore... so much for that cliche). I now have a stock reply when a guy says he needs some sympathy: "I don't keep it in my panties!!!" Still, the "sensitive man" routine is a whole lot better than "Don't scream or I'll kill you," right?


This is just how things are in the real world, and all your clever feminist theories and fashionable postmahduhnist thinking don't count for s**t and won't change a thing. Maybe you like feeling like a victim and latch onto every excuse you can to feel like more of one. Well, whatever floats your boat, sister, but I think it's better to get used to reality and learn how to get by. Life is life. Okay, so men are a bunch of tramps. So my man is probably screwing half the women he works with. Well, hmm, maybe that's not so bad, after all, am I supposed to spread for him every half hour? I'd be pretty sore! Men just have their ways. It's enough if they take care of their kids and don't bring any nasty bugs home. And if I don't want to be treated like a "sex object", hell, that's what my women friends are for!

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posted August 22, 2000 11:47     Click Here to See the Profile for Astrid Leuer   Click Here to Email Astrid Leuer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
MINDY! Ohmygod, fantastic! Get yerself an a/c here and we'll show these geek boys a thing or two, huh!? How ya liking the US of A? Been to the Hellenic Museum yet?

I don't think you read my post correctly, btw. I'm using men as sex objects without much respect -- it's the only way to travel, dahlink. And very feminist, too, right?

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posted August 22, 2000 11:58     Click Here to See the Profile for Swope   Click Here to Email Swope     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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And even men who "get it", nine times out of ten, they're just being two-faced. I tend to behave in a very flirty manner, as if I don't mind the odd dirty joke or off-colour remark. You'd be surprised what I learn about a lot of self-styled "sensitive new age guys".


That's because 9 times out of 10 a guy enjoys off color humor. That doesn't make him a two-face. Most guys you'll find are multi-faceted, and while they have their sex-drive, they'll also have other aspects that like good friendly relationships. As off color humor is not really appreciated, these men will be wise enough not to engage in it because they value their friendships. You should find it no suprise that if you give off the signal that you won't be offended by it, they'll engage in it probably with the idea that they'll be making you laugh. It in no-way means they're a two face.

Being a two-face means you knowingly deceive someone and lie about who you are. Did any of these men ever say, "I hate dirty jokes and I'll never laugh at one."?

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Mr. Zarquon
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posted August 22, 2000 12:37     Click Here to See the Profile for Mr. Zarquon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I must agree with Swope.

For example, I enjoy some pretty nasty jokes with my friends some of the time, sometimes racist jokes, sometimes sexist, but I still find them funny.

And I am a sensitive guy. Really. I am. I guess the difference occurs is that I tend adapt my attitude to the people around me (as most people do). One problem is I am thick as a brick in some areas, while other areas I am extremely sensitive. There are times when I would listen and try to help the situations of my friends. There are other times when I wouldn't give a sh*t about anything in the world, wouldnt talk to or listen to anyone. During those times I would be a total asshole to people, and I knew it. I would try to isolate myself from other people, so I wouldnt hurt them. Unfortunatly during that process, is when I should have been talking to people instead of alienating myself. For a while I was considered not exactly one of the nicest guys at my school (alternative highschool, btw).

I would be considered Two-Faced, since my moods are so very different at times. One time I am a very sensitive and open person, the next, I am a total asshole. But I know this, and have been able to reduce the times I have been in asshole mode severely.

That is why your (astrid) comment about how most with a few exceptions, are two-faced, that Mindy's comments about men being sensitive just to be laid, actually hit a soft spot in me. I took offense to that. I consider myself someone who has very good relationships with the women at my school, in a totally non sexual manner, because during my up times, I am a very sensitve and compassionate person and not because I want to get in their pant(ie)s.

Yes some of my previous posts in the threads (specificly, ones dealing with geek guys sucking as dates) happened out of my despiration for emotional companionship with someone of the opposite sex (so yes, there was some instinctual things going on also).

Now on the that note, I am going to mow the lawn, and listen to my MD player, so I can snap out of the downer I am on right now.

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posted August 22, 2000 12:51     Click Here to See the Profile for supaboy   Click Here to Email supaboy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Astrid Leuer:
Errrrr .... guys .... if you'd ever had to work in a multi-racial environment where people are honest about their racial feelings (and in South Africa, we can't afford not to be), then you might realise that "jokes" like this are really extremely hurtful.

I was actually poking fun at "political correctness".

Astrid:
...which is why we've had to face up to a few things which white Americans haven't.

Such as? My neighbors (of any color) would probably look at me funny for trying something like that. We all grew up post-civil-rights movement. It's not perfect, but that doesn't stop us from smiling and waving as we pass each other on the street.

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posted August 22, 2000 13:20     Click Here to See the Profile for Mindy Viridis   Click Here to Email Mindy Viridis     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Astrid wrote:

Get yerself an a/c here and we'll show these geek boys a thing or two, huh!? How ya liking the US of A?

Got the account now -- the site is just as cool as you said. The USA, well, it's... interesting... I haven't got used to it yet. In .za you know who's a racist, because they'll tell you so in no uncertain terms. But in America I can't tell! You get all these nice-seeming white people who say polite things, but you look at the cities and the worst neighborhoods are full of blacks, just like back home. I suppose you can't change history overnight, but I thought they went through the whole racial equality thing thirty, forty years ago??? How long does it take? But that's another topic. At least I feel physically safer here, not like Cape Town where it seemed like every week or two you'd get home after work and find out one of your neighbors was attacked by a kaffir gang, the husband beaten, the wife raped, the house smashed up and all the liquor drunk up. That sort of thing doesn't happen anywhere in the USA as far as I can tell. But that's also another topic, for another time...
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We all grew up post-civil-rights movement. It's not perfect, but that doesn't stop us from smiling and waving as we pass each other on the street.

That's the kind of thing I mean about Americans. It reminds me of that movie Becket, with Richard Burton, where Becket goes to see the Pope and all the scheming churchmen say to themselves, "He does sincerity so well!" Americans are so good at seeming to respect each other, you can't tell whether they really do or not. They treat everyone the way white South African men only treat white South African women, like someone who has something they want and it's good strategy to be nice to them until they can get it. No offense meant to Supaboy, maybe he really does like blacks, after all, as he says, he grew up in the modern era.

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posted August 22, 2000 13:38     Click Here to See the Profile for Avi Drissman   Click Here to Email Avi Drissman     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Mindy:Americans are so good at seeming to respect each other, you can't tell whether they really do or not.

Is it worse than the alternative, where everyone makes it clear who they respect or not?

Way back when, when I didn't have self confidence, I was told to act as if I did, and eventually I would. If everyone acts like they respect one another, maybe they eventually will?

Avi (the optimist)

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posted August 22, 2000 13:39     Click Here to See the Profile for Mr. Zarquon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well part of it has to do with the fact that there are still groups of people (the older, white upper class) who happen to be in power who also happen to still be racist. Also, it depends on where you are. All of the US is extremely different, one area the racial tension can be between blacks and whites, one area between legal and illegal immigrants, etc.

One thing that i've noticed are the people who point out "oh your friends black, so you must not be racist." Actually, ive never taken in account the color of a friends skin to determine whether I like the or not. I don't care whether my friends are purple, black, yellow, green, or turquoise.

I dont get why people have to point out such differences. I mean, cant we just say "look there's a human being, look theres another" and treat each other like that (i know its a pipe dream, but if seen it work on a small scale).

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posted August 22, 2000 14:15     Click Here to See the Profile for Mindy Viridis   Click Here to Email Mindy Viridis     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Mr. Zarquon:
Well part of it has to do with the fact that there are still groups of people (the older, white upper class) who happen to be in power who also happen to still be racist.

That's interesting. So in effect, the USA is still a racist country, even if perhaps some of the citizens may not be anymore.
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One thing that i've noticed are the people who point out "oh your friends black, so you must not be racist."

The funny thing is that in .za that would actually make sense!
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I dont get why people have to point out such differences. I mean, cant we just say "look there's a human being, look theres another" and treat each other like that (i know its a pipe dream, but if seen it work on a small scale).

Pipe dream indeed. There will never be equality as long as one group has something that another group wants, like sex (which as Astrid might say, women have and men want, so you can forget about sexual equality), money, power. Also different cultures tend to clash in ways that perpetuate the problems. For instance some black cultures think that killing a chicken is a religious thing, but most white people think of that as cruelty to animals and it's not acceptable even as a religious observance. So how can these cultures live together? I've heard some American liberals say that anything religious should be allowed, but what about cults where sexual abuse is part of the ritual? Do you tolerate someone else's religion even when their practices violate fundamental principles of your civilization? And of course with the modern United Nations and its worldwide, uniform notions of "rights", you can't even claim sovereignty as an excuse anymore.

This is going sooooo far offtopic...

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posted August 22, 2000 14:49     Click Here to See the Profile for Swope   Click Here to Email Swope     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think we're now officially hopelessly offtopic . . . But I digress...


It is all very true that there are still racist institutions and sexism in the good ol' usa. However, compare this to fourty years ago, and you cannot deny that the social situation today has definately improved. Sure, we're not there yet (or even close), but doesn't this give some indication that as a whole, warts and all, american society is heading in the right direction?

And is this not some "ain't everything peachy" rant. I just think that if you're going to criticize society as a whole, you should take a larger perspective. It's not easy to overturn cultural institutions that are centuries old in couple of decades.

edit -- As for religous freedom, it's a founding concept that we are free to practice whatever religion we deem fit. However, there's an even more fundamental belief that all people are created equal and that every one has basic fundamental human rights. A religion that violated anyone's human rights would never be allowed. And yes, I don't think this is hypocritical.

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Tau Zero
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Hmmm.  This discussion sure took off like a rocket.  Pity it had to be aimed in such a direction when it did!

Astrid, I gather that you aren't very familiar with the brand of Newspeak going around the USA which is associated with the "Political Correctness" movement.  This is pushed by the political left, and is known for the advocacy of such amusing neologisms as "differently abled" for handicapped, "exceptional children" for the brain-damaged, and of course the wonderfully oxymoronic "politically correct".  They use this language as a system for identifying each other, like badges.  (One of the favored terms these days is "African-American", which specifically does not include people of Boer descent.)

I've worked with people from all over the world (ever done a project with an Indian of Malaysian descent who has an Australian accent? I have).  There are language barriers, and there are cultural barriers, but if you have the will to get past those people are pretty much the same.  There are smart ones, dumb ones, arrogant ones, meek ones, insightful ones and clueless ones no matter where you go.  The thing about PC is that it takes what is a cultural construct which really ought not to be considered important by the alleged goals of PC itself and elevates it to an exalted position of unquestionability.

Case in point:

You get all these nice-seeming white people who say polite things, but you look at the cities and the worst neighborhoods are full of blacks, just like back home.
There are lots of PC apologists for this, but the truth of the matter is that the people in these areas are often downright hostile to people who are any of (white, middle-class, educated).  The schools are full of kids whose parents just don't care if they learn and the teachers are either burned out or have bought into PC so far that their teaching is questionable.  Businesses are burglarized or robbed regularly, and insurance is almost impossible to get.  What happened is that when the US's segregation broke down, the black middle class picked up and left for greener pastures (and who can blame them), leaving the underclass with neither an economy nor a set of examples of success to emulate.  From there the culture degenerated rapidly (see the violence and misogyny of the rap/hip-hop genre for a sample).  The bad areas are like social cliques, reinforcing their values against the perception of a hostile external society.

One of the common ghetto epithets for people who study and try to make something of themselves is that they are "too white" or they are "oreos" (black on the outside, white on the inside).  It is a culture of failure.  The alignment may be by skin tone, but the problem is ultimately one of what people value and what they see as "right" versus "wrong" action.

I can't do anything about this.  My skin is the wrong tone for me to be able to get any credence among people who have been acculturated to give credence to people of their own hue and suspicion to others.  There are quite a few bigots on the minority side here in the USA, look up Al Sharpton and Louis Farrakhan (sp?) for some of the more egregious examples.  If I run into a person holding beliefs like that, I really can't do much except to turn my attention elsewhere.

As for off-color jokes among men, I find this line extremely amusing in a double-entendre sort of way:

My email address has been subtly altered to keep spammers out of my box.
If you said this to me in person and it wasn't a business situation, I would probably make a point of raising my eyebrows conspicuously as if you'd said something terribly indelicate (and hope you got it).  I do this just for the joy of playing with the wonderful ambiguities in the language and pointing out to people what they almost stepped in.  Another bit of fun along those lines is the OOCQ (Out Of Context Quote).  Any number can play that game.

Still, the "sensitive man" routine is a whole lot better than "Don't scream or I'll kill you," right?
If anything gets to the point of screaming with me, it means either:
  • One of us is at our wits' end, and needs some quiet time alone... NOW! or
  • Sooner or later, someone will probably be asked to do that again.
See what I mean about double entendres?

(Now I'm wondering if Mindy has listened to much Christine Lavin...)

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posted August 22, 2000 17:45     Click Here to See the Profile for Mindy Viridis   Click Here to Email Mindy Viridis     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Tau Zero:
(One of the favored terms these days is "African-American", which specifically does not include people of Boer descent.)

Yes, and I've noticed the term "Native American" too, which at first I did not realize does not include white people even if their ancestors came to the New World 300 years ago!
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The bad areas are like social cliques, reinforcing their values against the perception of a hostile external society.

But what values are they reinforcing? You make it sound like they've decided that being poor, uneducated, and crime-ridden is an essential part of their cultural identity, while at the same time insisting that their problems are due to white racism. That sounds crazy.
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As for off-color jokes among men, I find this line extremely amusing in a double-entendre sort of way:
My email address has been subtly altered to keep spammers out of my box.


??? Are you reading something sexual into the idea of spam email getting "into" my mailbox? I know men can see sexual symbolism in almost anything ("male" and "female" electrical connectors, for instance), but this seems like a stretch.
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Still, the "sensitive man" routine is a whole lot better than "Don't scream or I'll kill you," right?
If anything gets to the point of screaming with me, it means either:
  • One of us is at our wits' end, and needs some quiet time alone... NOW! or
  • Sooner or later, someone will probably be asked to do that again.
See what I mean about double entendres?


I guess... But by saying, with understatement, that "sensitive men" are preferable to rapists, I didn't mean to suggest that rape is a suitable subject for humor. I do understand, though, that a lot of men think, shall we say, differently. And as I've said before, I'm more interested in living with the real world than yelling at people for not living up to some abstract philosophical ideal of mine, so shall we just drop this subject? Now?
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(Now I'm wondering if Mindy has listened to much Christine Lavin...)

No. Who is she?

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Petethelate
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posted August 22, 2000 18:48     Click Here to See the Profile for Petethelate   Click Here to Email Petethelate     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That sounds crazy.

Yes, it does, and it's my perception (and a lot of other's) that it is the case.

Hmm, a study in demographics. I work in an R&D group, about 60 engineers and managers. Maybe 10 of these are women, a couple-three are black, and about 2 speak spanish. (One is from Puerto Rico, not sure of the others.) The balance are asian and white men. Medium typical mix for high tech.

The numbers of women in the field are definately increasing, (asians went from small numbers to high amounts in a couple of decades) but blacks and mex-am people are just hanging in there. A few engineers here and there, but seldom more than one or two in a goodsized group.

I'm not sure why all the effects, but there are some minority groups around here who've figured out how to get off the bottom tier of the ladder right quick. (Case in point, the tiny Cambodian community here seemed to have figured out that donut shops are an attractive source of income and capital. There's a disproportionate number of them running the shops (at least according to the local paper as of a couple years ago.))

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cras
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posted August 22, 2000 19:22     Click Here to See the Profile for cras     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Whee, I started the longest thread so far And all of it just because of a joke, a stupid one but those are the only kind of I know, sorry.

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Mr. Zarquon
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posted August 22, 2000 20:24     Click Here to See the Profile for Mr. Zarquon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
No, i think the kinky sex thread got longer.
Or the do geeky guys suck as dates (that went to a 2nd page, or one of them did) but this was damn close, considering the original topic

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Wheeeeee. Astrid, you have lit a firestorm
or 2 in the forums. Yeehaa. Gotta say, you seem like a very interesting person.

BTW, "Box" -- not off the mark, at least in the States. Slang for _____ (one of the male fixations).

Astrid and Mindy. Fine regards the racism mostly. But regards guys, you 2 are a bit afield from reality.

First off, usery != feminism. Not even coming from women. What a sad, pathetic, loser, wounded, stance.

Second off, men and women as best as I can tell from my long sojourn -- want much the same things -- we're all sexual human beings -- but have different approaches.
Face it, we have far different cultured responses. And probably biological ones as well (though anyone who claims to no just what's nature vs. nurture seems to be a bit clueless to me with an axe to grind at the very least.

Also, not all of us cheat on our loves. Fidelity has some interesting properties ... even if it's nearly impossible.

Agree with prior guy about 'sensitive guys'. Sure it's often a racket. But sometimes it's not at all the case.

To me one of the points about feminism
is to go beyond caricature into real understanding. To go beyond patterned response. I don't consider either of
you feminists based on what I read from you.

You've caricatured males, and seduced yourselves with your pretensions of wily worldliness...consequently protecting yourself from much dross, and isolating yourself from truly meeting beauty at the heart level with a male of your species.

A guy -- whose been around, would like to think of himself as sensitive, can be quite an irritable asshole...and who's read a lot of feminist theory/criticsm -- for my own
benefit/interest not with ulterior motive to unpant anybody. It's the best source of culutural critique I've found. Oh, and I like sex too...

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Saintonge
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posted August 23, 2000 03:58     Click Here to See the Profile for Saintonge   Click Here to Email Saintonge     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Just to be obnoxious, I will momentarily get back on topic.

Cras, you got your chicks here.

As for the many interesting things said concerning sex, race, and language, I think I'll copy them to a word processor file and do a consolidated reply.

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Saintonge
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posted August 23, 2000 08:32     Click Here to See the Profile for Saintonge   Click Here to Email Saintonge     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, I did warn you!

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Originally posted by Astrid Leuer:
Errrrr .... guys .... if you'd ever had to work in a multi-racial environment where people are honest about their racial feelings (and in South Africa, we can't afford not to be), then you might realise that "jokes" like this are really extremely hurtful. "Coloured" is a term specifically invented by the apartheid system (the South African one) in order to politically oppress black people.

And if your black colleagues don't feel able to tell you that they don't like these jokes, it's probably because American apartheid hasn't been dismantled as completely as it has in .za


I do believe what we have here is a failure to communicate.

In South Africa, as I understand it, �coloured� was one of the apartheid system�s official racial categories. In the USA, there was never such a big distinction between �pure� black ancestry and �mixed.� If you have any black African ancestry, you�re �black,� even if your skin tone is so light that people have trouble deciding if that�s African genes or a deep tan. (If your skin tone is so light that people assume you�re of pure white European ancestry, and you don�t disabuse them, then you�re �passing,� but you�re still �black.�)

Also, in the USA, the preferred, polite racial terminology has changed a lot over the years. Around the turn of the century, �Negro� and �Colored� were considered polite (see e.g., The National Association For the Advancement of Colored People, aka NAACP.) �Afra-American� was occasionally encountered, �Nigra� was used in the South (possibly with disparaging intent), and �****** � was an insult everywhere, if the person uttering it was non-black.

Around 1968, the terminology went through a change. �Afro-American� was in vogue for a short period (�About a week,� according to one black acquaintance), and was then replaced with �black� or �Black,� depending on who was spelling it. We who thought that �the people whose ancestors were brought here as slaves� had bigger problems then whether their skin pigmentation was referred to by the English or Spanish/Portuguese word for �opposite of white� rolled our eyes, but went along with this.

Then, in the late 1980s, the term �people of color� came into use to refer to non-whites, including blacks, American Indians, Asians (sometimes), Pacific Islanders, and Mexicans/Hispanics/Chicanos/let�s-not-get-into-that-controversy. (It is undoubtedly a only my noted lack of sensitivity and Political Correctness that makes me unable to see the great advance �people of color� is over �colored people.�) Just lately, the term �African-American� has come into use for �the racial group that used to be called Negroes,� but while it has secured a beachhead, it has not managed to defeat �black� in popular usage.

The only constant in all this is that �****** � is still an insult, so much so in fact that it is usually written as �the n-word� instead of being spelled out, and is never acceptable to use, unless uttered by someone who is black.

Also in the late 1980s, mandatory �diversity� training became a major scam requirement on U.S. campuses, among other places, and one of its emphases is immense sensitivity to terminology.

So, supaboy noticed the �white paper only,� �colored paper only� recycling containers, and made a joke that played off the desire to end racial separatism in USAmerican life. In turn, I was reminded of an actual incident on a US campus, where someone taped over the �colored paper� label with �paper of color� and got reprimanded for it. So I made my joke, and EngrBohn replied with his.

I don�t know if there�s anyone in this forum who considers themself to be non-white, but if they do, and they tell me they thought my remarks offensive, I will apologize. But Astrid, South Africa was/is too different from the US to apply the same social standards. (Among other things, in the US it is not PC for people to be �honest about their racial feelings.� Indeed, it is in many circumstances illegal.)

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Short people haven't been, within memory, kept as literal slaves and deprived of their civil rights. Women and black people have.

If there�s anyone in the USA who remembers slavery, they should get in touch with the Guinness Book of World Records. They're over 135 years old! Btw, where/when were women qua women slaves?

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Originally posted by Mindy Viridis:
Well duh, girl, "sensitive man" is just another trick for getting laid... I think every woman knows that. If I had a dollar for every guy who's ever tried to sneak into me that way (well, I guess I'd be a cheap whore... so much for that clich�). I now have a stock reply when a guy says he needs some sympathy: "I don't keep it in my panties!!!" Still, the "sensitive man" routine is a whole lot better than "Don't scream or I'll kill you," right?

Welcome, Mindy, to the forum and the USA!

(Aside, both you and Astrid just use your names, instead of some cute handle/nickname. Are such nicknames uncommon in SA, or what?)

Not every woman has caught on to the �sensitive man� trick, fortunately, but far too many have. Guy Conspiracy Central is now working on the next major pickup approach, but it isn�t ready for beta testing yet.

Btw, the �well, I guess I�d be a cheap whore� line is LOL funny, but potentially PI.

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Originally posted by Swope:
Most guys you'll find are multi-faceted,

And most women too. It is one of the major objectives of the Political Correctness movement to deny this, but then, PC is just the latest disguise of the Left, and they�re Left because they hate people. But that�s another rant.

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Mindy:
The USA, well, it's... interesting... I haven't got used to it yet. In .za you know who's a racist, because they'll tell you so in no uncertain terms. But in America I can't tell!

An interesting insight. Please tell us of more noticeable differences between the US and SA.

Fyi, in modern USAmerica, it is so impolite/offensive/PI to be openly racist that no white person will admit to it, except among those whom they trust utterly, or in certain very restricted circles.

Anti-white racism is somewhat more acceptable, though this too depends a great deal on the social group. Among the groups in which anti-white racism is acceptable, it is frequently claimed that it is not racism, because racism is something only white people are capable of.

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You get all these nice-seeming white people who say polite things, but you look at the cities and the worst enighborhoods are full of blacks, just like back home. I suppose you can't change history overnight, but I thought they went through the whole racial equality thing thirty, forty years ago??? How long does it take? But that's another topic.

Uh, the neighborhoods are bad and full of blacks, but the blacks weren�t moved there because we decided to have a bad neighborhood in a certain place. See below for more on the topic of what �causes� crime, grime, and general disgustingness.

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At least I feel physically safer here, not like Cape Town where it seemed like every week or two you'd get home after work and find out one of your neighbors was attacked by a kaffir gang, the husband beaten, the wife raped, the house smashed up and all the liquor drunk up. That sort of thing doesn't happen anywhere in the USA as far as I can tell. But that's also another topic, for another time...

Such things happen in the US, but mostly in the bad neighborhoods (or public parks, especially parks in third world cities like New York). Also, most forced-entry rapes are done by singleton males or small groups. If a large gang of blacks tried that in a middle class neighborhood in the US, the only question is who�d get them first, the police or the fifty percent of USAmericans who keep firearms in the home.

Btw, is �kaffir� polite SA usage for those of Xhosa/Zulu/other Bantu ancestry?

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That's the kind of thing I mean about Americans. It reminds me of that movie Becket, with Richard Burton, where Becket goes to see the Pope and all the scheming churchmen say to themselves, "He does sincerity so well!" Americans are so good at seeming to respect each other, you can't tell whether they really do or not. They treat everyone the way white South African men only treat white South African women, like someone who has something they want and it's good strategy to be nice to them until they can get it.

Thank you. It�s good to know our manners are better than we so frequently fear.

Fyi, referring to residents of the USA as �Americans� is considered offensive in all countries south of the US/Mexican border. They refer to us as �North Americans,� a usage I can not accept because it is Geographically Incorrect (thus my neologism �USAmerican.�) As someone living in San Francisco, where you will encounter many Latin Americans and even more anti-Americans, you may wish to change your manner of speaking.

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Originally posted by Mr. Zarquon:
I don�t get why people have to point out such differences. I mean, can�t we just say "look there's a human being, look there�s another" and treat each other like that (I know its a pipe dream, but if seen it work on a small scale).

Because human beings are small group social animals, and in order for there to be an �in group� that you belong to, there has to be an �out group� for contrast. *sigh*

Still, we make progress.

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Mindy:
That's interesting. So in effect, the USA is still a racist country, even if perhaps some of the citizens may not be anymore.

The other way around. The US is a non-racist country, but some of the population are still racists to one degree or another.

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Mr. Zarquon:
One thing that I've noticed are the people who point out "oh your friends black, so you must not be racist."

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Mindy:
The funny thing is that in .za that would actually make sense!

I think it makes sense here too, but then, I�m a Known Fascist, so my opinion doesn�t count.

Seriously, the question �Just what constitutes racism?� is a subject of great debate here.

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Mindy:
For instance some black cultures think that killing a chicken is a religious thing, but most white people think of that as cruelty to animals and it's not acceptable even as a religious observance. So how can these cultures live together? I've heard some American liberals say that anything religious should be allowed, but what about cults where sexual abuse is part of the ritual? Do you tolerate someone else's religion even when their practices violate fundamental principles of your civilization? And of course with the modern United Nations and its worldwide, uniform notions of "rights", you can't even claim sovereignty as an excuse anymore.

Welcome to culture shock, Ms. South African. A few years back, some city in the US passed a law to stop animal sacrifice, and the U.S. Supreme Court struck it down as violating the First and Fourteenth Amendments guarantees of religious freedom.

As for �sexual abuse� or �fundamental principles of your civilization,� you�ll have to be more specific. I know of court cases where people have tried to label prostitution religion, but they�ve uniformly failed.

So that�s how we live together -- with difficulty, but successfully.

As for the UN, we�ve got nukes, they don�t, fuck you General Assembly.

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This is going sooooo far offtopic...

�But isn�t it nice!�

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Originally posted by Tau Zero:
(One of the favored terms these days is "African-American", which specifically does not include people of Boer descent.)

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Mindy:
Yes, and I've noticed the term "Native American" too, which at first I did not realize does not include white people even if their ancestors came to the New World 300 years ago!

Ah, we�re just colonialist interlopers -- unless, of course, certain recent controversial archeological discoveries are true, in which case American Indians are also colonialist interlopers (which is why the discoveries are so controversial).

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Tau Zero:
The bad areas are like social cliques, reinforcing their values against the perception of a hostile external society.

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Mindy:
But what values are they reinforcing? You make it sound like they've decided that being poor, uneducated, and crime-ridden is an essential part of their cultural identity, while at the same time insisting that their problems are due to white racism. That sounds crazy.

Well, they�d deny that they want to be poor, but as for uneducated, that is a black underclass cultural value. Criminality also has many fans in the black underclass. See
The Boondocks by Aaron McGruder, one of whose characters has the life ambition to grow up to be a thug. (It is, btw, pretty funny, and since it�s by a black artist, it�s not [yet] PI).

Telling members of this subculture that criminality, lack of education, and other of their cultural values guarantees that they will be poor is so PI that anyone uttering the sentiments is automatically proven to be a racist.

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??? Are you reading something sexual into the idea of spam email getting "into" my mailbox? I know men can see sexual symbolism in almost anything ("male" and "female" electrical connectors, for instance), but this seems like a stretch.

As you�ve probably figured out by now, �box� is a USAmerican slang term for vagina.

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Originally posted by Petethelate:
(Case in point, the tiny Cambodian community here seemed to have figured out that donut shops are an attractive source of income and capital. There's a disproportionate number of them running the shops (at least according to the local paper as of a couple years ago.))

That�s true all over California. (*sigh* Minnesota has many good qualities, but it�s a donut wilderness.) According to a story I read, a Cambodian was working at a donut shop in the seventies, and figured out that donut shops were a business that could be run by those with low capital and poor English skills, especially if the whole family worked there and were satisfied with lower income than most whites. So he opened his own shop, other Cambodians saw he had a good thing there, the word spread ...


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