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Message: HTML is not enabled. UBB Code™ is enabled.	[QUOTE]Originally posted by Twinkle Toes: [QB] [QUOTE]Originally posted by Rhonwyyn: [qb] Check your PM after I'm done posting here.[/qb][/QUOTE] :) Hopefully you've received the reply before you've signed on. (I'm not a very efficient poster, so this takes me a while) [QUOTE][qb]I kinda disagree with Black Widow. After 2.5 years, you have a lot invested in your relationship with Scott and a lot invested in him as a person. Likewise, he is probably rather vulnerable to you, especially since you're the one who broke off the relationship.[/qb][/QUOTE]Heh, that's funny... it was actually Scott who called it off, officially. I was in denial and, like Xanthine said, felt like he needed me. It was a hard thing for him to do, but I appreciate it. The biggest reason I felt like we had a 'good breakup' was because we both wanted it to end. It wasn't brutal like Newfie's. Gosh, what a nut. [QUOTE][qb]Something as significant as that can tend to through a person with bi-polar into a depressive cycle.[/qb][/QUOTE]Well, when we were going out he told me how depressed he was before he met me, that he had been on the brink of suicide. Right now he's reverting back to that mindset but, yes, he is worse. However I'm not sure if it's because of our breakup or because of a new girl he's interested in. She is also bi-polar, and I fear that he's trying to support his bi-polar state because of her. It might sound strange, but when you're interested in someone you try to get close to them in any way you can. [QUOTE][qb]At this point I'd choose a healthy man I never talk with again than a man who's hurting but won't let anyone close enough to start addressing the hurt.[/qb][/QUOTE]Scott is neither :ohwell: . He's not healthy, and whether that improves or not I'm afraid I might have to cut him off. He's hurting and knows it but doesn't know how to solve it. He's obviously allowing others to get close, as evidenced by his new love interest. [qb] [QUOTE]Not to be trite or preachy, but it really sounds like Scott's looking for God right now. He's reached the end of his rope and he's looking for a reason to live/hope.[/qb][/QUOTE]Well I understand that for you God = purpose, so I can agree with that. [qb] [QUOTE]Becoming a Christian--it can be as simple as saying "Here I am God; You want me? You can have me"--may not fix the health issues, but it will help him deal/cope and give him a reason for living. [/qb][/QUOTE]Scott and I both used to be religious people: he was Christian, and I was Catholic. My reason for denouncing religion is in my reply to your PM, but so you - as well as possible outside readers - can read on, I had never questioned my religion and later began to do so. Scott, on the other hand, had practiced his religion as a true, faithful Christian and had a greater understanding of the purpose of believing in God. But his hopes were soured by unanswered prayers and an bad batch of Christians who set a poor example for him. As far as I know he's still Agnostic, as am I. I can't impose the belief in God upon him as a reason for living since I have relatively the same perspective on it as he does. The only thing I can do is keep telling him there is a purpose for his existence and that he just needs to explore the world more. But he always tells me that he's not interested in doing anything [as far as occupations go] or going anywhere. I guess I'll have to let him be... [/QB][/QUOTE]