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Message: HTML is not enabled. UBB Code™ is enabled.	[QUOTE]Originally posted by Twinkle Toes: [QB] I was thinking earlier today about the ramifications of my two relationships with Scott (friendly and 'girl-friendly') and how much responsibility I have in this whole mess. I'm beginning to sort things out, but all of your responses have contributed to the clarity, so thank you for taking the time to reply and relate. [QUOTE]Originally posted by Black Widow: [qb]However, it sounds to me as if you are still seeking some of the "perks" of a romantic relationship (i.e., calling you on time, talking to you when you feel lonely).[/qb][/QUOTE]One of the worst things a person can do to me is go back on their word. I understand that things don't always go as planned: you're late to work because of traffic, you can't attend class because a family member died. However, if someone makes the same mistake over and over again, then I have a problem. It rather annoyed me that the excuses I was given from Scott were "I was too tired" or "I forgot." In addition to this, I thought my reaction was a reasonable one taking into consideration that he is a former boyfriend and might be trying to ignore me. Oh, and I've always had feelings of loneliness at nighttime. It stems from my mother working the nightshift. I'd always slept in king-sized beds with her as a kid, and on weekdays at around 10 pm. she would wake up and leave for work. It was really scary waking up in the dark (yes, I'm afraid of the dark too), trying to fall asleep in that big bed all alone. I developed a habit of sleeping with several stuffed animals but shook it off after several years and now look to insomnia and quirky sleeping patterns for comfort. Actually I'm not seeking involvement in a boyfriend-girlfriend thing right now... I'd really just like to concentrate on my studies. The breakup was really very interesting for me to analyze (I do that a lot, one of the things Scott dislikes about me and also a reason why we argue so much). I was amazed at how many things [and people] I'd ignored for those 2 1/2 years. But the thing about love is that it's an attention hog - the minute you stop looking, it finds you. So the matter of me only trying to focus on schoolwork is neither here nor there, as far as it is concerned. :rolleyes: [qb] [QUOTE]This man is not your responsibility; he is not your child, your parent, or any person under your guardianship. If the medications he is on are not working for him, then he needs to seek out further medical care and get on some that do work. But you doing that for him is not your responsibility. He is an adult and needs to take care of himself. I can tell you care about him, so encourage him to get help for himself, but you should not waste your time concerning yourself with things that you have no control over, like his life and actions.[/qb][/QUOTE]Thank you, I really needed that. I know in the past he's felt like I've tried to do things for him... I can't help it, I'm an Aries :p . If no one's going to take the initiative, then I will. But I know that I have to subside that; I know that I'm not doing Scott or myself a favour in doing so. Deep breathe I'll get over it. Thank you again. [qb] [QUOTE]I would also say pray for him, but I do not know if you are the praying type. Take that bit of advice however you like.[/qb][/QUOTE]Gosh, you have no idea how much I wish I could... I [b]wish[/b] I could believe in a higher being. I'd love to have that feeling that religious people claim to experience, when they "just know." Unfortunately it's not a simple transition from my perspective. There's hope for the future though. [qb] [QUOTE]For yourself, get involved in the community... Don't just look for people in your cohort either[/qb][/QUOTE]I was involved in clubs and sports at my high school, and I think I'll continue some type of activity at the community college (I'm doing Running Start), particularly along the lines of what I did in Grean Club (recycling, clean-up, Adopt-A-Highway). There's a specific class for people who wish to write for the college newspaper, but I wonder if they might let me at least edit or help with the layout. I'll have to ask more about that. Because I'm attending CC, socializing with students older than myself will be a daily occurance. There is such a difference in the atmosphere at the college - everyone is so friendly and nondiscriminatory and studious... I'm lovin' it :) . [/QB][/QUOTE]