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Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 03, 2006, 14:46:
 
I'm trying to figure out which dress I should buy for my (eventual) wedding.  I found a gorgeous one I absolutely love, but when looking through other Web sites to try to find a cheaper price, I came across another style by the same designer.  So now I don't know which dress I want.  What do you suggest... and WHY? Also, I have the option of white and ivory in both dresses. Which would be best for my coloring?

Oh right... and what kind of veil would you recommend?

Here's me:  -

Dress with "overcoat"

Dress with sleeves

I won't tell you which one is cheaper, but I did finally find a Web site where I can buy these dresses for $200 less than on most other sites.
 
Posted by Geordie (Member # 996) on April 03, 2006, 16:57:
 
I think I like dress with "overcoat", but the pictures are not as good, so I can't be sure.
 
Posted by ARJ (Member # 157) on April 03, 2006, 19:59:
 
Hmm... take this with a grain of salt, but I like the sleeveless version of the second one. Maybe that's because, knowing me, I'd get cake frosting all over those beautiful drapey white sleeves during the reception. Plus I like the back on the 2nd one better. That laced-up look is cute.

Given your hair colour, I'd say ivory might be nice-- warmer & softer than the pure white. But nothing beats trying on-- maybe you could find something ivory to compare with white from a thrift store, etc. (given that you wouldn't be able to try on the actual dresses since they are from online retailers).
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 03, 2006, 20:17:
 
Good suggestions, ARJ! Thanks!

Geordie, thanks for putting in your vote, too.

So far it seems pretty well split down the middle between what my friends and family think. I want to get my measurements on Wednesday so I can figure out what size I need. It turns out that the second dress (the one without the overcoat) is being discontinued by the designer, so I really want to make a decision soon!
 
Posted by Ugh, MightyClub (Member # 3112) on April 03, 2006, 20:45:
 
I like the "overcoat" gown better -- overall it just seems a bit more elegant and put together. I'm assuming you can take the overcoat part off when you eat your first piece of cake in case of any, erm, "accidents" your new hubby might have in steering the cake to your mouth or vice-versa [Wink]

I do agree with ARJ that the back of the second gown is nicer, but the front isn't grabbing me, and I think that's a bit more important.

And I'd go with the white with your coloring, just because the ivory might be too close to your skin tone.

Caveat emptor for all the above: Mrs. Club has always told me I lack fashion sense, so feel free to ignore [Roll Eyes]
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 03, 2006, 21:01:
 
From the last picture of the dress with the overcoat, it looks like the sleeves are attached to the dress and the overcoat is actually a glorified vest!

The thing with that outfit is that, as you can tell from my picture, I'm rather abundantly blessed in the bosom-area, so I'm not sure how well the overcoat dress would fit. It's high-waisted, and typically the seams hit on my bust, not underneath it. [ohwell]

If it didn't cost 30% to restock the dresses, I'd order both of them to try on. This whole process is showing me how much I depend on Jonathan to talk out decisions. It's so hard not to show him these pictures and ask for his opinion! [cry baby]
 
Posted by YaYawoman (Member # 4505) on April 03, 2006, 21:20:
 
Hi Rhonnie

Both dresses are pretty.

I think the 2nd dress without the overcoat would be the best bet. You have already stated that you
are well-endowed and I think the second dress would keep the focus on the bride and not the brideboobies. (sorry couldnt resist [Big Grin] ) It has a simpler line starting from the waist and going to the diagonal hip-gathering. I think the eye would be drawn to the total bride and dress. The dress with the overcoat seems to have everything gather in a triangle type point right at the area just underneath and dead center of your boobs. Both are very pretty, and both would look good on you but it just depends on what look you are looking for. I have no idea about the color though. I personally like warmer the better but i dont know jack really about fashion so i guess just order which color you prefer.
 
Posted by maia (Member # 3778) on April 04, 2006, 07:24:
 
I like the second dress. The first does seem a little busy below the "bride-boobies" (sorry, I liked the word). The second seems more elegant and simple, and I love the lace-up thing. A friend of mine wore a similar dress in her wedding and said it was really nice because she could use the laces to customize it to fit her on her actual wedding day and not just 3 weeks before. Hers was ivory, and it looked beautiful. She has similar coloring as you as well. However, I think ARJ had a good idea to just try on random dresses in both colors just to see how they look on you.
 
Posted by Snaggy (Member # 123) on April 04, 2006, 10:05:
 
OK, who is gonna Photoshop this?
 
Posted by Demosthenes (Member # 530) on April 04, 2006, 10:14:
 
The lines and cut of the first one are more interesting and flowing...that is to say, it looks more like a wedding gown, while the second one strikes me as a white bridesmaid's dress.

White flatters almost no-one. A cream color with no pinkish undertones would do you really well.

Not that I know anything about wedding dresses. [Razz]
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 04, 2006, 10:18:
 
LOL @ Snaggy. [Smile]

The more I look at the dress with the overcoat, the more I think it looks like something I should be wearing on my wedding night, not to the ceremony! It looks like a nightgown with a robe. Not exactly my idea of a good dress!

I really like the stateliness of the other dress. It's simple, but it's not boring. The swept-up skirt is really cool. The neckline is rather low, but I just love the line of it.
 
Posted by Cap'n Vic (Member # 1477) on April 04, 2006, 12:27:
 
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Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 04, 2006, 12:32:
 
HEHEHEHEEE!! Vic, that makes me laugh!! Really funny pose with the cheesy grin on my face! Thanks for making it!

Hmmm... can you enlarge the bust so I can see if the dress can handle it?
 
Posted by drunkennewfiemidget (Member # 2814) on April 04, 2006, 12:45:
 
Done.

 -

.. what?
 
Posted by Grummash (Member # 4289) on April 04, 2006, 12:58:
 
Wey-hey!
[Big Grin] [Big Grin]
 -

When I win the Lottery, I'm gonna get me one of them! [Razz] [Wink]
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 04, 2006, 15:42:
 
WHAAA??? Apparently dnm hasn't ever come in contact with a real bosom (no offense meant to you, Amanda!) if that's what he thinks they look like! [Razz]
 
Posted by drunkennewfiemidget (Member # 2814) on April 04, 2006, 16:40:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Rhonwyyn:
WHAAA??? Apparently dnm hasn't ever come in contact with a real bosom (no offense meant to you, Amanda!) if that's what he thinks they look like! [Razz]

I've come in contact with more boobies than most Hollywood plastic surgeons.
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 04, 2006, 17:05:
 
And you actually came across breasts that conical? Who were you dating? Madonna? [Razz]
 
Posted by ZorroTheFox (Member # 917) on April 04, 2006, 17:41:
 
I like the first option [thumbsup]
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 04, 2006, 17:57:
 
quote:
Originally posted by ZorroTheFox:
I like the first option [thumbsup]

/me cringes and chooses the second one.

No offense, Zorro, but knowing your tastes aren't exactly ones I espouse...
 
Posted by Cap'n Vic (Member # 1477) on April 04, 2006, 18:22:
 
quote:
Originally posted by drunkennewfiemidget:
quote:
Originally posted by Rhonwyyn:
WHAAA??? Apparently dnm hasn't ever come in contact with a real bosom (no offense meant to you, Amanda!) if that's what he thinks they look like! [Razz]

I've come in contact with more boobies than most Hollywood plastic surgeons.
Must......resist........mother joke [Wink]
 
Posted by cheryl (Member # 4566) on April 05, 2006, 01:04:
 
Go for the secound one, it will suit you better, the sleeves wouldnt be as nice.
do you have any pictures of veil's, so we can all have a look at those.
 
Posted by drunkennewfiemidget (Member # 2814) on April 05, 2006, 07:27:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Cap'n Vic:
quote:
Originally posted by drunkennewfiemidget:
quote:
Originally posted by Rhonwyyn:
WHAAA??? Apparently dnm hasn't ever come in contact with a real bosom (no offense meant to you, Amanda!) if that's what he thinks they look like! [Razz]

I've come in contact with more boobies than most Hollywood plastic surgeons.
Must......resist........mother joke [Wink]
[Razz] Believe it or not, neither myself, nor my sister were breast fed, so that wouldn't work.
 
Posted by Jace Raven (Member # 2444) on April 05, 2006, 11:18:
 
quote:
Originally posted by drunkennewfiemidget:
quote:
Originally posted by Cap'n Vic:
quote:
Originally posted by drunkennewfiemidget:
quote:
Originally posted by Rhonwyyn:
WHAAA??? Apparently dnm hasn't ever come in contact with a real bosom (no offense meant to you, Amanda!) if that's what he thinks they look like! [Razz]

I've come in contact with more boobies than most Hollywood plastic surgeons.
Must......resist........mother joke [Wink]
[Razz] Believe it or not, neither myself, nor my sister were breast fed, so that wouldn't work.
Your mother was breast fed!
 
Posted by Xanthine (Member # 736) on April 05, 2006, 11:26:
 
Rhonnie, I'm a big fan of the veils with flowers. The bride as princess thing just doesn't do it for me. You're getting married, not coronated. I especially like live flowers, but that might not be practical (okay, my hippy streak is coming out...).

As for the color, get a friend, go to the fabric store, and hold up swaths of white and ivory next to yourself and see which is better. Like Demo said, not many people can pull off white.
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 05, 2006, 17:50:
 
Something like this, Xanthine? [Wink]
 
Posted by Xanthine (Member # 736) on April 05, 2006, 17:57:
 
The boa's a bit over the top but I like the thing on her head.

I'd prefer colorful wildflowers though. I guess I never outgrew making wreaths out of honeysuckles when I was a kid.
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 05, 2006, 18:01:
 
What flowers would you suggest in a headpiece for Christmas? Other than poinsettias and Christmas cactus, I mean.
 
Posted by angryjungman (Member # 2434) on April 06, 2006, 05:28:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Rhonwyyn:
What flowers would you suggest in a headpiece for Christmas? Other than poinsettias and Christmas cactus, I mean.

Holly. Mistletoe.
 
Posted by Jace Raven (Member # 2444) on April 06, 2006, 05:56:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Rhonwyyn:
Something like this, Xanthine? [Wink]

OMG That is hideous!

I do have to agree with Xan though, The head piece is pretty nice.
 
Posted by drunkennewfiemidget (Member # 2814) on April 06, 2006, 07:31:
 
$52 - 56 ea? You'd have to be fscking retarded.
 
Posted by Xanthine (Member # 736) on April 06, 2006, 08:06:
 
Yeah, which is why I said flowers on the head may not be practical. Tastefully done they're damn pretty though.

Otherwise, what jungman said. Cactus would hurt (and this is the first I've ever heard of Christams cactus) and poinsettas are too big. It should be pretty, not "OMG, WTF is she wearing on her head??". Flowers that go with your dress and bouquet might be a pretty sure bet as well.

What a complicated mess. I am NOT having a wedding. Uh uh. No way in hell.
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 06, 2006, 09:52:
 
Bouquet! Oh mercy, I had forgotten about that. I think I want red 'cause my sisters are going to be wearing red. (They're my bridesmaids.) Although, I could go with purple since it's the liturgical Christmas color, but it might be hard to choose a purple that would go well with my sisters' colorings. Besides, my cousin's wedding was purple. No one's done red yet.

My youngest sister was disappointed when I told her she'd be carrying a lantern, not flowers. "No calla lilies?" she mourned. So maybe I'll have a bouquet with red flowers and calla lilies to give her something to exclaim over. [Smile]

I'm NOT wearing/carrying poinsettias! [Razz]
 
Posted by drunkennewfiemidget (Member # 2814) on April 06, 2006, 10:35:
 
Amanda is carrying a mixture of lilacs, black eyed susans, peonies, daisies, and some sort of greenery. Including boutoneers, corsages, flowers, bouquet, blah blah blah, our bill is ~$450 CAD.

And no, there is no double standard -- I'm fucking retarded for spending that much money on flowers.
 
Posted by Xanthine (Member # 736) on April 06, 2006, 10:37:
 
I agree. Poinsettas are too big to wear or carry.

But they''d look pretty up by the altar.
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 06, 2006, 11:12:
 
I always thought three colors of poinsettias existed: white, red, and "jingle bell"--the red and white spotted ones. The other month, though, I proofed an ad that claimed to have 19 different colors of poinsettias!! Wow.

The three biggest expenditures for my wedding:

~Dress
~Photography
~Reception

I'm going to decorate the church with greens, most of which we should be able to get from friends' and families' woods. Hmmm... pine cones! We could spray-paint pine cones silver. That would be pretty.

Anyone have $180? I found a set of 20 lanterns (6 large, 14 small) on eBay that I'd love to have, but I can't justify the expense.
 
Posted by dragonman97 (Member # 780) on April 06, 2006, 13:33:
 
/me is still Scrooge and points out the fact that you've not been going out with him for even a year yet, nor are engaged.

Cart. Horse.
 
Posted by Cap'n Vic (Member # 1477) on April 06, 2006, 13:43:
 
quote:
Originally posted by dragonman97:
/me is still Scrooge and points out the fact that you've not been going out with him for even a year yet, nor are engaged.

Cart. Horse.

....add to that: I'd recommend eloping. I never saw the point of having a big hoopla and pissing away all that payola. See a JP and bank the cash for a holiday or down payment on a house.
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 06, 2006, 14:34:
 
quote:
Originally posted by dragonman97:
/me is still Scrooge and points out the fact that you've not been going out with him for even a year yet, nor are engaged.

Cart. Horse.

Well, I can guarantee we'll be engaged by June. He told my mother yesterday when she asked about a ring that I'll have it within a few weeks. [Smile]

And as far as length of dating time goes, when you know, you just know. Yes, I have a bunch of family issues to work through, but he's seen the worst of them and loves me even more because of everything I've survived. Neither of us wants to spend our lives with anyone else and now that we've met, we can't imagine life without the other. Sure, we could try to wait another year, but at our ages and stage in life, why do that? We know each other well enough at this point that we can get through practically everything together. And the rest of it? We'll learn as we go. We are in weekly counseling with my pastor, a licensed counselor, and working through marriage preparation.

Jonathan has been wonderfully consistent and brutally honest through our relationship. If anyone's going to have concerns about the other person, it's him. I'm the one whose father just walked out on his second wife (although from what I hear, she gave him a great big shove), who's sustained verbal and physical abuse as a child, who's being treated for depression, who can't seem to earn enough money to cover the necessities, etc. I may not have a luxurious lifestyle if I marry Jonathan, but his care and tenderness toward me means so much more than would a huge house and all the clothes in the world.

Oh, and "cart. horse."? Why do I need another horse? You're already doing a great job being a nag! [Wink]
 
Posted by dragonman97 (Member # 780) on April 06, 2006, 14:39:
 
If you two love each other so much, I really don't see the rush.

I do hope you two find a great match with each others, but do /not/ complain to me if haste makes waste.
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 06, 2006, 14:59:
 
It's really not a rush, dman. It's just the natural next step. Two really are better than one; there are so many more benefits to being married than living life as single people.

And remember, long, drawn-out courtships and engagements are only recent developments*. We really aren't doing anything terribly out of the ordinary. (Except maybe waiting for marriage to have sex.)

*Within the past 200 years, particularly within the Western world.
 
Posted by Xanthine (Member # 736) on April 06, 2006, 15:25:
 
?
How many years long secret engagements has Jane Austen written about again?

Marrying for purely romantic love is also a fairly recent development, btw...

Edit: marriage itself has changed a bit in the past 200 years. 200 years ago husbands and wives didn't sleep in the same room for one thing, and in many ways they lived in completely separate worlds. Nowadays, married couples not only share bedrooms, they share beds, and society itself has changed (how many people do you know keep slaves and servants? worry about social class? and so on...). Husbands and wives spend a lot more time together and share a lot more than they once did. This is why courtships take longer. There's no room to retreat to when he or she just gets obnoxious anymore. You need to learn their tics and twitches and decide if and how you're going to live with them.

I'm actually a bit worried about this, when the time comes, because for me alone time isn't a want - it's a need. I *need* an hour or two (minimum) all to myself everyday or else I start to get really anxious and upset. It's really hard to explain that to someone without them taking it wrong though. I'm not sure my boyfriend gets it. You could get all romantic and say there's no part of me I shouldn't want to share, but 1) I have to hold onto my individuality - it's all I've got and 2) it's not about keeping secrets. Interacting wiht people for long periods of time is tiring for me. I need to recharge. I've always been like this. It's who I am.
 
Posted by drunkennewfiemidget (Member # 2814) on April 06, 2006, 16:29:
 
I, too, am with dman. Some people tell me I've gone too fast with Amanda, and we'll have been together for nearly 2 years when we marry.

I do really wish you the best, but I sincerely think you're going far too fast.

I also agree with Cap'n Vic: in hindsight, I think I'd have rather visited a JP, paid $250, and spent all the money I've spent on my wedding on a downpayment.
 
Posted by Xanthine (Member # 736) on April 06, 2006, 17:00:
 
Heh. My parents told me that if I don't have a wedding they'll contribute towards a really kick-ass honeymoon. I love to travel, so you can guess what I want...

I do want to have a party though. But that's way in the future, and only if he decides he really wants to put up with me and my workaholism.
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 06, 2006, 17:07:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Xanthine:
I'm actually a bit worried about this, when the time comes, because for me alone time isn't a want - it's a need. I *need* an hour or two (minimum) all to myself everyday or else I start to get really anxious and upset.

I'm pretty much the same way, Xanth. I need downtime or I get cranky. The cool thing, at least until children come along, is the part about a relationship where the two of you can be in the same room engaged in different activities, not talking with each other, but knowing you can if you'd like to.

With my current job, though, I have downtime eight hours a day since people don't interact with me very much. I look forward to the nights Jonathan and I call each other 'cause then I have my time to connect with someone in a meaningful way.

Marriage requires sacrifice. Jonathan and I have been making some decisions together, and wow, I'm much more independent and my world is so much more centered on myself than I realized. The good thing is, we're willing to meet each other at a resolution with which we're both happy. If that requires me giving up an hour of IRC time so he can use the computer to do his homework, then so be it. During the month of April, he'll be coming down to my house at least six times. That's more than 360 miles he's putting on his car so we can be together and go to our counseling sessions. That's a big sacrifice on his part with gas being as expensive as it is.

Marriage is all about give-and-take. It works best when both parties are giving and not insisting on taking. When a marriage is other-centered, not self-centered, it grows strong and secure. Is marriage difficult? Yes. Is it worth all the effort? From what people tell me, it is. Jonathan and I are of the mindset that while life won't be perfect together, we'll work together to make it as enjoyable as possible. [Smile]
 
Posted by csk (Member # 1941) on April 06, 2006, 18:41:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Rhonwyyn:
Marriage is all about give-and-take. It works best when both parties are giving and not insisting on taking. When a marriage is other-centered, not self-centered, it grows strong and secure. Is marriage difficult? Yes. Is it worth all the effort? From what people tell me, it is. Jonathan and I are of the mindset that while life won't be perfect together, we'll work together to make it as enjoyable as possible. [Smile]

This is as good a picture as you can hope for going into marriage, in my opinion. (Both) keep this perspective and you'll go far, IMO.

The biggest danger I see, speaking from personal experience, is that when one doesn't want to have sex outside of marriage it can tend to rush things along more. However, I'm pretty sure Rhonwyyn has her head right about this, because I've kept drumming it into her over and over on IM.

And yes, marriage doesn't mean no alone time. Separate interests and time are important, because it gives you something to talk about etc when you get back together again.
 
Posted by quantumfluff (Member # 450) on April 06, 2006, 19:48:
 
quote:
What flowers would you suggest in a headpiece for Christmas? Other than poinsettias and Christmas cactus, I mean.
... Holly. Mistletoe.

I'm thinking a Mistletoe codpiece is a great idea for the groom.
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 06, 2006, 20:15:
 
quote:
Originally posted by quantumfluff:
quote:
What flowers would you suggest in a headpiece for Christmas? Other than poinsettias and Christmas cactus, I mean.
... Holly. Mistletoe.

I'm thinking a Mistletoe codpiece is a great idea for the groom.
Or for the geeks among us:

 -
 
Posted by Xanthine (Member # 736) on April 06, 2006, 20:18:
 
Gah!

Oh wow. I did not need to see that.
 
Posted by maia (Member # 3778) on April 06, 2006, 20:18:
 
OMG, that's just freaky.
What are you even doing looking at stuff like this, Rhonnie? Getting ideas for the honeymoon. [ohwell]
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 06, 2006, 20:25:
 
quote:
Originally posted by maia:
OMG, that's just freaky.
What are you even doing looking at stuff like this, Rhonnie? Getting ideas for the honeymoon. [ohwell]

Eep! I hope not! And that's a mild, um, enclosure. No, the rest of the site caters to super-size women. It's really rather scary. I have some confidence that I shan't look quite as bad as they do, but then again, I actually tend to wear things my size, not three sizes too small.
 
Posted by dragonman97 (Member # 780) on April 06, 2006, 20:32:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Xanthine:
Gah!

Oh wow. I did not need to see that.

I second that.
 
Posted by quantumfluff (Member # 450) on April 07, 2006, 06:36:
 
I guess a guy would wear that under his tux-edo.
 
Posted by garlicguy (Member # 3166) on April 07, 2006, 08:27:
 
Or, for a thrill, he could wear it outside the tuxedo. Might give the whole ceremony a bit of comic relief, particularly in Rhonnie's church.
 
Posted by Geordie (Member # 996) on April 07, 2006, 20:34:
 
That picture is just crying out for someone to say "I trusted you... You promised that you wouldn't show those pictures to anyone..."
 
Posted by Thorned0Fortress (Member # 4435) on April 07, 2006, 20:34:
 
OH I LOVE the one with sleeves. Actually, I think you could pull that one off without the sleeves... your veil would help if your worried about arms.
The other dress looks more like a gown, and not one for this occasion.
Speaking of veils, I prefer back in the day, when women would wear the veils over the faces before the kiss. I also prefer the long veils that drag with the train, but that's just me.
Either tone would look great !
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 07, 2006, 20:39:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Geordie:
That picture is just crying out for someone to say "I trusted you... You promised that you wouldn't show those pictures to anyone..."

Barb's Large and Lovely Store: Men's Fashions

I have a feeling that guys who wear the products in that section (don't miss out on page 2!) don't mind who sees them!
 
Posted by Thorned0Fortress (Member # 4435) on April 07, 2006, 20:41:
 
OH WOOOOOOOOW hahahahahah!
That Banana was hilarious .
For real, what WERE you doing looking at these ?
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 07, 2006, 20:44:
 
I was looking for innocent nightgowns on the rest of the site, so I checked out the Men's Fashions to see what they're selling to big guys. Apparently novelty wear for, ahem, that part of the body is all that matters for big guys. [ohwell]
 
Posted by dragon34 (Member # 997) on April 08, 2006, 11:40:
 
I like the 2nd one too. And as for being *ahem* well endowed up top, my friend who got married last June had to get hers taken in at the top and she's at least a DD. They make them large up top and extra long. (she got crazy heels because she's short, and didn't want to hem the dress) It's easier to take fabric out then put it back on I guess, so I wouldn't worry about that, besides, you can always get a size larger and have them take in the waist. Most of the dresses include tailoring when you purchase anyway (If you buy from somewhere like David's bridal anyway)

//been involved with too many weddings in the last few years
 
Posted by ZorroTheFox (Member # 917) on April 09, 2006, 11:31:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Rhonwyyn:
quote:
Originally posted by ZorroTheFox:
I like the first option [thumbsup]

/me cringes and chooses the second one.

No offense, Zorro, but knowing your tastes aren't exactly ones I espouse...

that's ok, I enjoy being an individual [Wink]
 
Posted by maximile (Member # 3446) on April 09, 2006, 15:02:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Rhonwyyn:
If that requires me giving up an hour of IRC time so he can use the computer to do his homework, then so be it.

Noo! How could you?? [Wink]
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 13, 2006, 16:23:
 
w00t!!!! I am so ecstatic. I just bought my dress (Aurora d'Paradiso #2372, white, with sleeves) for $455 total, including shipping! That's $300 less than the price for which I found it originally. Super yay!!
 
Posted by Grummash (Member # 4289) on April 13, 2006, 16:42:
 
Rhonwyyn - Result! [Applause]

That is great news - but may I put my $0.02 in?
Me and Mrs Grummash spent almost nothing on our wedding, and it was beautiful. Please don't get caught up in making it a "big occaision".

If the right people are there, none of the "trimmings' really matter. Enjoy it when it happens, but don't make it a stress-fest. You really don't need to spend $1200 on a photographer - most of your guests will have digital cameras, I presume. Ask them for a CD-Rom of their shots and print an album of all the best ones whenever you are ready to pay for a nice wedding album.

Just a thought.
Regards,
Grummash
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 13, 2006, 16:45:
 
Good idea, Grummy! Thanks! I think we'll get a professional photographer for the family shots and the bridal party shots and during the ceremony itself, but the rest of it we'll depend on friends and family... particularly if CSK is there like he's threatening! [Wink]

Getting my dress at such a steep discount gives me hope that I can get the rest of what I want at a discount, too. I just wish I knew of a place in Lancaster or Dauphin County where I can fit 150-200 people cozily for both ceremony and reception. If I only need to decorate one room, I can cut my costs in half. Besides which, since we're going for a Christmas theme, I'll borrow Christmas decorations from friends and family, cut greens from the trees on my aunt's farm, and pick up any glassware I might use from local Goodwill or Salvation Army stores.

It spites me, though, that I haven't been able to find affordable lanterns yet. I came across an auction of lanterns on eBay, but I didn't want to pay $180 for 20 lanterns.
 
Posted by Grummash (Member # 4289) on April 13, 2006, 16:57:
 
Rhonwyyn - sorry to labour the point but...

"only decorate one room"...

You won't need any decorations! When you are sat at the top table in your wedding gown, and Bear is next to you wearing a nice suit and a big stupid smile... ain't nobody gonna be looking at the balloons!

See what I'm saying?


Regards,
Grummash
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 13, 2006, 17:29:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Grummash:
Bear is next to you wearing a big stupid smile...

Wait, when'd you see his picture? [Wink] Hehe...

Bear will be just grinning that day, I'm sure! I know I'll probably not be able to stop blushing! I've been to some weddings where, judging by the looks on the couple's faces, it's just another day at the office. Knowing the two of us, that will definitely not be the case.

I Googled "Christmas Wedding Favors" and found some sites to make really gorgeous and inexpensive wedding favors and decorations. My family's going to have fun putting them together. Mom's going to go crazy at the chance to put all her arts & crafts skills (and they are legion) to use!
 
Posted by FireSnake (Member # 1181) on April 14, 2006, 08:18:
 
Which dress did you get- the first one or the second one? And which color did you decide on?
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 14, 2006, 08:22:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Rhonwyyn:
w00t!!!! I am so ecstatic. I just bought my dress (Aurora d'Paradiso #2372, white, with sleeves) for $455 total, including shipping! That's $300 less than the price for which I found it originally. Super yay!!

The second link (I think) that I posted. White, lace up the back, skirt gathered at left hip, with sleeves. The manufacturer had only one in my size left in stock, so I took it. I'm so eager to try it on! I hope it looks good!
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 14, 2006, 18:51:
 
I didn't know where else to post these, so I figured I'd do 'em here. H0t p1x!!!11!! [Wink]

The best-looking guy in the world:  -

Jonathan's nephew, Sam, and I coloring Thomas the Tank Engine. What an unflattering picture of me, but I'm brave, so I'll post it! [Wink]
 -
 
Posted by maia (Member # 3778) on April 14, 2006, 19:09:
 
What a cute couple! Rhonnie, you look so happy. [Smile]
 
Posted by TMBWITW,PB (Member # 1734) on April 14, 2006, 19:23:
 
What a handsome guy you've got there, Rhonnie. Congratulations! [Happytears]
 
Posted by FireSnake (Member # 1181) on April 15, 2006, 02:34:
 
Aw, how cute!

You should take a pic in the dress, too! I'm glad you went with the sleeves, even though they might be a nuisance. Somehow they seem more appropriate for a winter wedding.
 
Posted by Flashfire (Member # 2616) on April 15, 2006, 19:20:
 
Wow, that's a handsome fiance you've got, Rhonnie. Congrats. [Smile] I hope you two stay just as happy as you are in those pictures. [thumbsup]
 
Posted by csk (Member # 1941) on April 16, 2006, 00:15:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Rhonwyyn:
Good idea, Grummy! Thanks! I think we'll get a professional photographer for the family shots and the bridal party shots and during the ceremony itself, but the rest of it we'll depend on friends and family... particularly if CSK is there like he's threatening! [Wink]

OK, that's a scary thought [Wink]

Congratulations to you two, you do look so happy together...
 
Posted by dragon34 (Member # 997) on April 16, 2006, 13:55:
 
Congratulations! [Applause] You guys do look happy, which is awesome. Great news [Smile] Hm, I've been engaged for over a year now and I haven't even seriously *looked* at dresses yet. Once a procrastinator, always a procrastinator.

/looks at dress patterns
 
Posted by Gromit801 (Member # 5063) on April 17, 2006, 15:56:
 
Heck, we had a Handfasting ceremony on a nude beach. Why waste money on something you'll wear once, and then resign to the back of your closet for the rest fo eternity?
 
Posted by YaYawoman (Member # 4505) on April 18, 2006, 09:23:
 
Hi rhonnie

You both look very happy in those pictures. Congratulations.

What kind of lanterns are you considering? Do you remember those punched metal craft projects in elementary school?

Can you find some nice metal and have a lantern-making party? Some sodas, some nice finger foods, friends all hanging out kibbitzing and at the end of it all nice lanterns for the wedding.
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on April 18, 2006, 18:10:
 
Good idea, Yaya, but I was hoping to use glass-paned lanterns, not tin-punched lanterns. Still, I'll keep that in mind just in case I can't find what I want. If push comes to shove, I'll just have my sisters (my bridesmaids), carry big taper-type candles with decorations around their bases.
 


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