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Posted by Wick (Member # 4608) on November 15, 2005, 04:45:
 
Hello all. At work last night I was having a conversation with a fellow employee about "nerdy" girls. I am recently divorced from a woman I was with for five years...she was not a nerd...I am. Now that I'm single again I want someone who like what I like! The problem is where the heck do nerd girls gather to share their nerdyness?!?! *pictures a hollow deep in an enchanted forest with nerdy girls sitting all around with laptops* Seriously though, I don't want to go to bars, clubs, or walmart to find a woman...and believe me walmart has none! I have met a couple nice girls but I want to hold out for one who will willingly want to stay in and watch some anime, play dnd, discuss things, etc. Anyways, I was hoping for some ideas for tracking down these creatures. And any ladies feel free to reveal where your kind gather [Wink]
 
Posted by FireSnake (Member # 1181) on November 15, 2005, 04:57:
 
You've come to the right place! Why, if you dig cello concerts and can get into avant-garde theatre, have we got the girl for you!


Seriously though, I don't know what to tell you. Just do the things you do, go the places you go, and keep an eye out for the women that may be there doing those things and going those places. You might want to try sci-fi conventions, bookstores, more traditional spots. We tell all the girls to go to LUG meetings and math club, but the ratio sucks at those things for guys. You could try taking up knitting or something else that has a reputation for being predominantly a female activity. You might not find a nerd girl, but you might come out of it with a sweater?
 
Posted by drunkennewfiemidget (Member # 2814) on November 15, 2005, 06:49:
 
quote:
Originally posted by FireSnake:
You've come to the right place! Why, if you dig cello concerts and can get into avant-garde theatre, have we got the girl for you!


Matchmaker matchmaker, make me a match.. find me a find, catch me a catch...
 
Posted by Wick (Member # 4608) on November 15, 2005, 07:27:
 
lol, well finding that place to go is tricky. This past weekend I went to a local bookstore and there was a bunch of old women sitting on the floor reading books about gardening....scary stuff, they didn't even look up.

I used to hang out at a couple comic/gaming shops but they have sinced closed down. I just feel my small Ohio town area is a longshot.

I would love to go to a convention. Will keep my eyes open for some interesting ones. Perhaps I will start an anime club or something and advertise it locally. My town could use something like that.
 
Posted by maximile (Member # 3446) on November 15, 2005, 07:47:
 
quote:
Originally posted by FireSnake:
You might not find a nerd girl, but you might come out of it with a sweater?

Heh... [Smile]
 
Posted by Cap'n Vic (Member # 1477) on November 15, 2005, 08:56:
 
quote:
Originally posted by FireSnake:
You might not find a nerd girl, but you might come out of it with a sweater?

Sweater?....I'd prefer a moaner or screamer [devil wand]
 
Posted by spungo (Member # 1089) on November 15, 2005, 09:44:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Cap'n Vic:
quote:
Originally posted by FireSnake:
You might not find a nerd girl, but you might come out of it with a sweater?

Sweater?....I'd prefer a moaner or screamer [devil wand]
With or without a spinner?
 
Posted by FireSnake (Member # 1181) on November 15, 2005, 13:36:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Wick:
I would love to go to a convention. Will keep my eyes open for some interesting ones. Perhaps I will start an anime club or something and advertise it locally. My town could use something like that.

That's a great idea! [Smile]
 
Posted by Wick (Member # 4608) on November 16, 2005, 03:19:
 
quote:
Originally posted by FireSnake:
quote:
Originally posted by Wick:
I would love to go to a convention. Will keep my eyes open for some interesting ones. Perhaps I will start an anime club or something and advertise it locally. My town could use something like that.

That's a great idea! [Smile]
Thank you, however I checked my skill tree and motivation isn't there [Smile] I must decide if it would be worth the effort.
 
Posted by cheryl (Member # 4566) on November 16, 2005, 07:16:
 
hey, make the girls come to you, put up a really good laptop for sale, at a really cheap price, give your number and your sorted. ( be sure to put the phone down at the sound of a male voice.) [Smile]
 
Posted by Wick (Member # 4608) on November 16, 2005, 07:49:
 
quote:
Originally posted by cheryl:
hey, make the girls come to you, put up a really good laptop for sale, at a really cheap price, give your number and your sorted. ( be sure to put the phone down at the sound of a male voice.) [Smile]

LoL, That would kinda be like fishing... a cheap laptop would make some good bait. Problem I see is what do I say when the female comes to buy this so called cheap laptop? [Smile] "Yeaaah, by laptop I umm meant my lap, have a seat honey" <---- Entry into the worst pickup lines of 2005. [Wink]
 
Posted by FireSnake (Member # 1181) on November 16, 2005, 19:02:
 
Again, it might take some motivation, but you could try volunteering someplace that generally attracts women. Offer free computer help to your library, SPCA, or another community organization that interests you. You might not meet a full fledged nerd-girl, but if any women express interest in learning more about what you are doing, you may be able to tap latent geek tendencies.
 
Posted by Steen (Member # 170) on November 16, 2005, 19:21:
 
If all else fails, you could simply try talking to women to find out what sort of personalities they have rather than making assumptions based on their appearance and/or the location where you spot them.
 
Posted by FireSnake (Member # 1181) on November 16, 2005, 22:02:
 
Steen, don't you know by know that girls are scary? [Wink]

And why aren't you in IRC ever? We're hanging out in #joyoftech now - don't remember if you were around
when we moved.
 
Posted by dragonman97 (Member # 780) on November 16, 2005, 22:10:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Steen:
If all else fails, you could simply try talking to women to find out what sort of personalities they have rather than making assumptions based on their appearance and/or the location where you spot them.

Wait a second? Talk to them? *Whoa* I think we've got a revolutionary idea!

Actually, I'm not being terribly sarcastic - that's a damn good idea. [Big Grin] Now, if I could only get work on those opening words... (I'd say smalltalk, but someone might make a joke about the OO lang that I don't much like)
 
Posted by cheryl (Member # 4566) on November 17, 2005, 01:00:
 
women are scary?! [Eek!] what about you men!! one faulse move and we could have are heads bitten off with your secret male powers!!!oohh, your a scary bunch indeed!! [Big Grin]
 
Posted by Wick (Member # 4608) on November 17, 2005, 04:02:
 
quote:
Originally posted by FireSnake:
you may be able to tap latent geek tendencies.

Heh, I like that theory.

It seems when I was younger girls were easier to read...they would giggle and whisper to their friends or something and you could figure out if they were interested in you. Now that I'm older and single it seems like any girl I have talked to is cold as ice and doesn't reveal any indication they have even a slight intrest in me.
 
Posted by Wick (Member # 4608) on November 17, 2005, 04:06:
 
quote:
Originally posted by cheryl:
women are scary?! [Eek!] what about you men!! one faulse move and we could have are heads bitten off with your secret male powers!!!oohh, your a scary bunch indeed!! [Big Grin]

Who told you of our uber 1337 powers? There is a spy amist! [Wink] [Cool]
 
Posted by Demosthenes (Member # 530) on November 17, 2005, 06:36:
 
Nerdy women gather in caves below the streets of major metropolitan areas. They'll gladly flock to you if you're willing to brave the sewer systems. [Roll Eyes]
 
Posted by spungo (Member # 1089) on November 17, 2005, 07:30:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Demosthenes:
Nerdy women gather in caves below the streets of major metropolitan areas. They'll gladly flock to you if you're willing to brave the sewer systems. [Roll Eyes]

[Big Grin] Hee hee.
 
Posted by Wick (Member # 4608) on November 17, 2005, 07:39:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Demosthenes:
Nerdy women gather in caves below the streets of major metropolitan areas. They'll gladly flock to you if you're willing to brave the sewer systems. [Roll Eyes]

Hehe, Well then I am looking for members to join my party to travel into these sewers and find these ladies....lets see...we will need a healer, a mage, a tank, oh oh and a rouge just incase there is traps. [Smile]
 
Posted by garlicguy (Member # 3166) on November 17, 2005, 07:41:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Wick:
... when I was younger girls...

Good Lord! When was this, exactly? Does counseling help? [shake head] [Big Grin]
 
Posted by Grummash (Member # 4289) on November 17, 2005, 07:53:
 
originally posted by Wick:
quote:
lets see...we will need a healer, a mage, a tank, oh oh and a rouge just incase there is traps.

Don't bother with the rouge, just a good foundation and a bit of eyeliner - you don't want to look like a tart on the first date [Big Grin]
 
Posted by dragonman97 (Member # 780) on November 17, 2005, 08:11:
 
/me throws a pair of wellies, a slicker (Mac[intosh] {en_GB}), and a breathing mask into me trunk, and takes a trip NE...I bet there's a hell of a lot of you gathered down there, in that particular haven of geeks. [Razz]
 
Posted by csk (Member # 1941) on November 17, 2005, 16:25:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Demosthenes:
Nerdy women gather in caves below the streets of major metropolitan areas. They'll gladly flock to you if you're willing to brave the sewer systems. [Roll Eyes]

And if you can't find them, ninja turtles and kung fu rats are always cool. I'll pass on the Vanilla Ice soundtrack though...
 
Posted by Steen (Member # 170) on November 17, 2005, 17:17:
 
FireSnake wrote:
Steen, don't you know by know that girls are scary? [Wink]

Well, I've been shot at and stabbed by them, so the sorts I've been known to go out with are pretty scary....

And why aren't you in IRC ever? We're hanging out in #joyoftech now - don't remember if you were around when we moved.

I was around when the move was taking place (and probably contributed to it), but other things conspired to drag me away from the internet at about the same time. Long story, but I'll probably start showing up in due time. Right now I'm still reassembling my life from the effects of the last few years.

dragonman97 wrote:
Now, if I could only get work on those opening words...

It gets easier as you become more comfortable approaching people you don't really know. You can practice and probably make someone's day a little happier at the same time if you look for opportunities. For example, when you're buying something and can choose which financial transactions engineer (whoops, went a bit PC there) cashier will complete your purchase, look them over and choose one who strikes you as being reasonably attractive, but not so much as to make you stutter. Determine one superficial, non-sexual thing about them that you find attractive. Shirt, dress, earrings, necklace, hair, eyes, manicure... whatever looks nice. Go through the regular process of checking out but, as the goods get handed over, compliment her on what you found attractive and say why if it's not rude. Then leave. Don't try to strike up a conversation (she's at work and won't have time to talk anyway). If she says thank you, smile at her and say she's welcome and walk away.

You get to practice saying something nice to an attractive women. She gets a genuine compliment from someone who isn't hitting on her. Everyone gets to smile for a moment.

...Unless she's having a crappy day or she's goth, in which case she's probably going to scowl at you. If that happens, give her your widest smile and say happily "ooh, best scowl I've gotten all day" and walk off smiling. There's a fifty-fifty* chance that she'll be amused and laugh or continue thinking that you're an idiot. Either way, you haven't lost anything.

*statistics are made up and do not include a very, very, teeny-weenie, itsy-bitsy chance that you'll be the proverbial straw the broke the camel's back and she'll lose it, leap over the counter and gnaw your arm off right then and there. Really, the chance is so small you shouldn't even think about it.
 
Posted by dragonman97 (Member # 780) on November 17, 2005, 19:19:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Steen:

*statistics are made up and do not include a very, very, teeny-weenie, itsy-bitsy chance that you'll be the proverbial straw the broke the camel's back and she'll lose it, leap over the counter and gnaw your arm off right then and there. Really, the chance is so small you shouldn't even think about it.

[Big Grin] [Big Grin] [Big Grin]

Actually, that is a good idea, I think. The only thing I would add to that is "pay cash." That way, if you piss her off, she can't readily commit credit card fraud against you. [Wink]

And that, my friends, is overthinking things. [Big Grin]
 
Posted by csk (Member # 1941) on November 17, 2005, 19:40:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Steen:
...Unless she's having a crappy day or she's goth, in which case she's probably going to scowl at you. If that happens, give her your widest smile and say happily "ooh, best scowl I've gotten all day" and walk off smiling. There's a fifty-fifty* chance that she'll be amused and laugh or continue thinking that you're an idiot. Either way, you haven't lost anything.

Fancy painting a picture of goths as unfriendly scowling people like you just did. Besides, her more likely reaction would be to hand you a copy of one of her really crappy poems detailing how unbearable her life is, anyway [Wink]
 
Posted by Steen (Member # 170) on November 17, 2005, 20:29:
 
csk wrote:
Fancy painting a picture of goths as unfriendly scowling people like you just did. Besides, her more likely reaction would be to hand you a copy of one of her really crappy poems detailing how unbearable her life is, anyway [Wink]

No no no... the crappy poems of that sort come from the Mopey Goths. The ones that scowl at everyone are the Bitchy Goths, who also caused a lot of problems in Rome about 1800 years ago.

That's got to be the stupidest intellectual joke I've ever attempted.
 
Posted by Black_Pearls_and_Lace (Member # 4586) on November 17, 2005, 20:43:
 
I'd say that the best way to meet people is through online personals. Now that the stigma's gone, a lot of normal people hang out there, and nerdy people are probably prime candidates since they get to showcase their personalities. You just have to be careful and ask the right questions. It worked for me: it met maybe 80 or so guys over two years, and while some were disappointing, none was weird because I screened them well. I had relationships with two, including my current, although that's on the rocks (but nothing to do with the www, since we've been together almost a year).

What I like about it is that you get to meet people with very similar interests whom you would have never encountered otherwise: my ex's office was two floors down from mine, but being in separate departments, the chance of meeting otherwise would have been pretty slim. And you also get to talk to people you might not have thought of engaging otherwise - hey, im is a pretty non-committal medium, so you lose nothing by trying.

Another more drastic suggestion would be moving to a larger city. It's true it's lonelier, but the pool expands incredibly, so there will be more women who like to program versus those who like to knit.
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on November 17, 2005, 21:05:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Black_Pearls_and_Lace:



Another more drastic suggestion would be moving to a larger city. It's true it's lonelier, but the pool expands incredibly, so there will be more women who like to program versus those who like to knit.

Unless you move to the Knitting Capital of the World. [Razz]
 
Posted by Wick (Member # 4608) on November 18, 2005, 03:36:
 
Hmm I have looked into a lot of online dating/personals sites and they all seem crowded with spam, fakes, or just nobody in my area. When I recieve a pm from a girl that wants to trade nude pictures all I can assume is that it is a 60 year old homosexual man.

I would just prefer to find a place where I can meet people. I'm not sure if I have enough trust points to deal with online personals at the moment.

Anyone know of any worthy sites to meet people?
 
Posted by Black_Pearls_and_Lace (Member # 4586) on November 18, 2005, 22:37:
 
Well, I could tell you what site I met people on, and they weren't spammers/pros/60-year old lesbian ladies [Big Grin] But it would be considered advertising. The main problem I think would be that there wouldn't be too many people from your area because you said it's a small town. And you would have to plunk down some cash, because if you expect ims from ladies, either you'll be very lucky, or they'll really be gay sexagenars. I know I was the odd one out initiating contact, because from what men told me, a lot of women don't.
 
Posted by FireSnake (Member # 1181) on November 19, 2005, 02:47:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Wick:
When I recieve a pm from a girl that wants to trade nude pictures all I can assume is that it is a 60 year old homosexual man.

No, those are girls. Working girls.
 
Posted by alfrin (Member # 3836) on November 19, 2005, 11:30:
 
quote:
Originally posted by FireSnake:
quote:
Originally posted by Wick:
When I recieve a pm from a girl that wants to trade nude pictures all I can assume is that it is a 60 year old homosexual man.

No, those are girls. Working girls.
After some long, painful, and expensive surgery that your credit card will pay for.
 
Posted by Wick (Member # 4608) on November 19, 2005, 11:42:
 
quote:
Originally posted by alfrin:
After some long, painful, and expensive surgery that your credit card will pay for.

Heh, I wonder how much it would cost to have a full sex change?
 
Posted by magefile (Member # 2918) on November 19, 2005, 11:59:
 
I have found where the nerd girls gather. Unfortunately, it seems that I'm attracted to girls who are even more in need of being whacked over the head with a clue-stick than I am ...
 
Posted by Wick (Member # 4608) on November 19, 2005, 23:32:
 
Hehe well, I don't have a clue at this point on where I am going to meet any girls. Marriage is pure evil. I used to have a big circle of friends and they had circles etc, I was always meeting new people. After getting married everyone leaves you alone, they go their seperate ways, they have moved to other states, and worst have gotten married themselves. I wanted to go out today and try and get a life going again but couldn't think of any place to go. I ended up going to a bookstore, a mall, and a resturant and all I got was depressed. It looks like this is going to be more of a challenge than I first expected. I like challenges though. [Cool]
 
Posted by Maggs (Member # 4682) on December 02, 2005, 11:33:
 
quote:
Originally posted by FireSnake:
quote:
Originally posted by Wick:
I would love to go to a convention. Will keep my eyes open for some interesting ones. Perhaps I will start an anime club or something and advertise it locally. My town could use something like that.

That's a great idea! [Smile]
Try a Linux User Group meeting maybe [Smile]
You don't have to ./configure anything
http://www.linux.org/groups/
 
Posted by cheryl (Member # 4566) on December 07, 2005, 07:24:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Wick:
quote:
Originally posted by cheryl:
women are scary?! [Eek!] what about you men!! one faulse move and we could have are heads bitten off with your secret male powers!!!oohh, your a scary bunch indeed!! [Big Grin]

Who told you of our uber 1337 powers? There is a spy amist! [Wink] [Cool]
the point being is that a) woman are just as scared of men and b) they're having a hard job trying to find you guys too. any woman can confess to how long they have spent searching for something even resembling a male, they are practicly non-exsistent [Big Grin]
 
Posted by Demosthenes (Member # 530) on December 07, 2005, 13:52:
 
quote:
Originally posted by cheryl:
the point being is that a) woman are just as scared of men and b) they're having a hard job trying to find you guys too. any woman can confess to how long they have spent searching for something even resembling a male, they are practicly non-exsistent

Hey, speak for yourself. [Wink]

Seriously, though, ditch the fear and take up a healthy dose of tough-broad faux-arrogance. I've never had to worry about rejection or crappy dates if I go about it thinking that a man would be lucky to take up my time, which probably sounds utterly stuck-up, but it keeps my ego afloat, and I don't ask much of people, in all honesty. "Hunting" tends to make people look sleazy or desperate.
 
Posted by Wick (Member # 4608) on December 07, 2005, 23:42:
 
quote:
Originally posted by cheryl:
quote:
Originally posted by Wick:
quote:
Originally posted by cheryl:
women are scary?! [Eek!] what about you men!! one faulse move and we could have are heads bitten off with your secret male powers!!!oohh, your a scary bunch indeed!! [Big Grin]

Who told you of our uber 1337 powers? There is a spy amist! [Wink] [Cool]
the point being is that a) woman are just as scared of men and b) they're having a hard job trying to find you guys too. any woman can confess to how long they have spent searching for something even resembling a male, they are practicly non-exsistent [Big Grin]
I feel it is hard to find women...good women anyway. If women are having problems finding men then maybe all we need is some better coordination and everyone could be happy...yeah.
 
Posted by yolospat (Member # 4734) on December 09, 2005, 21:21:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Wick:
The problem is where the heck do nerd girls gather to share their nerdyness?!?!

You already found it. The internet. Nerd girls are just like every other geek. They hide away in their homes, in front of their computers, late at night. Or, wait, is that just me?
 


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