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Posted by Crewgeekette (Member # 4506) on November 12, 2005, 00:13:
 
Yeah...so a guy I was crushing on major, well I found out today he's just started dating a friend of mine...I thought I was going to be sick when I found out.
 
Posted by skylar (Member # 1422) on November 12, 2005, 03:27:
 
Been there. Expect a week or so of disbelief, followed by a couple of weeks of extremely anti-social behaviour, staying home every night in an attempt to avoid seeing either one of them. For a month or so after that, you'll have to leave the room or start crying every time you see them. That will be followed by a couple of months when you can just about handle seeing them separately, but not together. 2-3 months after that, you'll see them around and pretend like you're okay with the situation; either you'll be all nicey nice, or you'll proudly and grandly make it clear to them that you just don't care any more. But you'll still be miserable inside. ... And then, a while after that, you'll finally realise what an idiot you were to ever fall for a guy like that, or be friends with a girl like that. All your latent bitterness and regret will fall away from you, and you'll be able to move on with your life.

Shorten or lengthen time allowed for this process, depending on strength of crush.

OR... you could learn from my bitter experience and do your very best to put it behind you immediately. I would recommend making it known how pissed off/sickened you are, and then cutting all ties and moving up, up and away to better things.

Easier said than done, of course. But good luck!
 
Posted by Snaggy (Member # 123) on November 12, 2005, 14:29:
 
This is why I only get crushes on Nitrozac's babe drawings. [Big Grin]
 
Posted by alfrin (Member # 3836) on November 12, 2005, 15:13:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Snaggy:
This is why I only get crushes on Nitrozac's babe drawings. [Big Grin]

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I'm not even gonna ask...
 
Posted by Doco (Member # 371) on November 12, 2005, 16:45:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Snaggy:
This is why I only get crushes on Nitrozac's babe drawings. [Big Grin]

Mmmmmmmmmm - Fawwwwnnnnnnnn - Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
 
Posted by HalfVast (Member # 3187) on November 12, 2005, 17:56:
 
Yeah, what Doco said, only substitute Dawn. [Big Grin]
 
Posted by serishema (Member # 4481) on November 12, 2005, 18:02:
 

 
Posted by serishema (Member # 4481) on November 12, 2005, 18:29:
 
quote:
Originally posted by serishema:
quote:
Originally posted by skylar:
And then, a while after that, you'll finally realise what an idiot you were to ever fall for a guy like that, or be friends with a girl like that. All your latent bitterness and regret will fall away from you, and you'll be able to move on with your life.

That part never came for me. It's been a year and a half already.
I still cannot go to the computer games store where they work.


 
Posted by GMx (Member # 1523) on November 12, 2005, 21:00:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Snaggy:
This is why I only get crushes on Nitrozac's babe drawings. [Big Grin]

What about your crush on Shania Twain?
[Wink]
 
Posted by skylar (Member # 1422) on November 13, 2005, 06:27:
 
quote:
Originally posted by serishema:
That part never came for me. It's been a year and a half already.
I still cannot go to the computer games store where they work.

Well... me neither (she's coming to visit him in a couple of weeks, and I plan on being sick and hiding at home all weekend), but I'm better than I was (I don't think about it so often), and I'm confident that I will eventually get to that stage. So I guess what I'm saying is that a little faith in the future might take you a long way [Smile]
 
Posted by FireSnake (Member # 1181) on November 13, 2005, 10:01:
 
I don't think I've ever had a crush of that magnitude. I guess I'm just lucky. I've had crushes on people that hooked up with someone else, but I didn't mind too much. I can't think of any situation where it was someone I had a crush on and someone I considered a good friend, though.

If neither of them knew how you felt, I think it's best to just try to be happy for them and remember it's only high school. It's a practice relationship, it's drama-in-a-can, basically. If one of them (or both) knew that you had a crush on this guy, I can see feeling slighted that they didn't talk to you about it or give you some advance notice.

If they did know how you were feeling, I'm sure that it caused them some concern when they got together. I have been in that situation. On both sides. What do you do when you and someone else have mutual feelings of attraction, and a third person has unreturned feelings for one of you? It's never easy, especially if you also care for the person who may feel hurt.

Instead of feeling bad about the situation, try to do something positive, just for yourself. [Smile]
 
Posted by csk (Member # 1941) on November 13, 2005, 17:01:
 
Yeah, been there done that. In the case of one girl, multiple times. Don't know if it's unusual for a guy or not, but yeah, I feel really down when it happens. And blame myself for being too gutless to have made a move first. Damn well sucks, it does...
 
Posted by supaboy (Member # 183) on November 14, 2005, 08:31:
 
quote:
Originally posted by csk:
Yeah, been there done that. In the case of one girl, multiple times. Don't know if it's unusual for a guy or not, but yeah, I feel really down when it happens. And blame myself for being too gutless to have made a move first. Damn well sucks, it does...

AOL! Er, me, too. Been there, done (or not done, if you look at it that way) that.
 
Posted by shane_the_god_of_my_room (Member # 4709) on December 02, 2005, 18:35:
 
yup been there too
theres a girl I know (shes awsome)
anyway this girl shes living with her current boyfriend only a few miles away from me
and we talk online sometimes
she tells me about how her and her boyfriend argue all the time and how he winds her up so much
sometimes I find myself almost wishing theyed split up but I know I shouldnt

its hard seeing her like this
I would give up everything to be with her
but shes the kind of girl that wounld NOT expect me too

but if they ever did split Id be in and married to her before her boyfriend know what happened [evil]
 
Posted by Demosthenes (Member # 530) on December 04, 2005, 10:27:
 
Demosthenes's Olde Home-Growne Recipe For Getting Over A Man:

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(That's champagne, because it was New Year's and I was single three years ago and commenced to kiss the bottle at midnight instead, but I recommend good whiskey if you'd like a good solid cry, or a Russian vodka if you prefer that bitter-and-stewing drunk.)
 
Posted by shane_the_god_of_my_room (Member # 4709) on December 05, 2005, 09:37:
 
no offence Demosthenes
but you look about 14 in that pic

never mind Im 26
and I get ID EVERYWHERE
its worse when go down the pub with my dad
he just sits there laughs when it happens
[Confused]

LOL

getting knakkerd on booze never helps
trust me IT NEVER HELPS..............
 
Posted by csk (Member # 1941) on December 05, 2005, 16:38:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Demosthenes:
(That's champagne, because it was New Year's and I was single three years ago and commenced to kiss the bottle at midnight instead, but I recommend good whiskey if you'd like a good solid cry, or a Russian vodka if you prefer that bitter-and-stewing drunk.)

Hmm, now if you'd been spinning the bottle rather than kissing it, perhaps you'd have had a better time...

Edit: And ironically, I'm now in regular contact with my ex-crush, online and via text messages. She gave me her number just as I was getting over her...
 
Posted by Demosthenes (Member # 530) on December 05, 2005, 23:40:
 
quote:
Originally posted by shane_the_god_of_my_room:
no offence Demosthenes
but you look about 14 in that pic

I was 17 at the time. (Note that I still had hair...it's peeking out beneath the hat. THAT oughta date it for you other oldbies here.)
 
Posted by drunkennewfiemidget (Member # 2814) on December 06, 2005, 06:22:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Demosthenes:
quote:
Originally posted by shane_the_god_of_my_room:
no offence Demosthenes
but you look about 14 in that pic

I was 17 at the time. (Note that I still had hair...it's peeking out beneath the hat. THAT oughta date it for you other oldbies here.)
Holy crap now even I feel old. :S
 


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