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Posted by Mr. Saturn (Member # 3529) on February 21, 2005, 19:57:
 
Yo necessito auydar!!! <---- spanish for "i need help". I would like some advice on how to find a girl who shares my interests, i.e. a "Gamer chick" around my age i.e. 16. any advice is appreciated! ^.^
 
Posted by dragonman97 (Member # 780) on February 21, 2005, 20:48:
 
Show up naked, with beer!

Oh, and change your avatar - that's already taken by someone else...and made me do a double take when I saw it.

P.S. Someone will probably post advise that you should take seriously...unlike mine*. [Smile]
*Except the avatar thing - change that now. [Big Grin]
 
Posted by csk (Member # 1941) on February 21, 2005, 21:09:
 
I suspect you've got the most chance by meeting up with gamers in real life. Try finding out what LAN parties are held in your area, and turn up to them. You get to play games, and if you happen to meet someone at the same time, then that's a bonus. I'm guessing the "guys imitating girls" problem is most prominent online, so trying to meet someone there could be perilous.
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on February 21, 2005, 21:17:
 
quote:
Originally posted by csk:
I'm guessing the "guys imitating girls" problem is most prominent online, so trying to meet someone there could be perilous.

What brought that up?

:thoroughly confuzzled, but I guess that's the story of my day [Frown] :
 
Posted by csk (Member # 1941) on February 21, 2005, 21:34:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Rhonwyyn:
What brought that up?

Pure practicality. If you're playing Game X online, how do you know if you're playing against girls, guys, or both? Avatar is no indication, as several guys (including myself) tend to play with female characters when available. And you can't necessarily rely on someone to be telling the truth about what gender they are, and I'm guessing that sort of tomfoolery would be more common in certain parts of the gaming community. Apart from which sending a general message to the players saying something like "Are there any girls playing this game" isn't going to have the desired effect either.
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on February 21, 2005, 21:38:
 
<threadjack>

So are you back from trekking or are you posting from somewhere in the boonies still?

</threadjack>
 
Posted by csk (Member # 1941) on February 21, 2005, 21:45:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Rhonwyyn:
<threadjack>

So are you back from trekking or are you posting from somewhere in the boonies still?

</threadjack>

Nah, been back a few days now. Had a busy weekend what with the washing machine carking it and going off to buy a new one and all.
 
Posted by n4dmx (Member # 3177) on February 21, 2005, 23:09:
 
Cheers!

[Razz]
 
Posted by csk (Member # 1941) on February 21, 2005, 23:15:
 
quote:
Originally posted by n4dmx:
Cheers!

[Razz]

I hesitate to ask where the on switch is on that thing.
 
Posted by The Famous Druid (Member # 1769) on February 22, 2005, 00:25:
 
quote:
Originally posted by csk:
I'm guessing the "guys imitating girls" problem is most prominent online

This from a Sydney resident ? [Confused] [crazy] [Roll Eyes] [ohwell] [Razz]

quote:
I hesitate to ask where the on switch is on that thing.
I'm wondering where the CD drive is [blush]
 
Posted by drunkennewfiemidget (Member # 2814) on February 22, 2005, 05:36:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Mr. Saturn:
Yo necessito auydar!!! <---- spanish for "i need help". I would like some advice on how to find a girl who shares my interests, i.e. a "Gamer chick" around my age i.e. 16. any advice is appreciated! ^.^

*you* did a double take.. I read it and then I was like, "WTF?! I don't remember posting this.."

Then I looked at the name..

When I'm not broke anymore and all my finances are taken care of, Im going to become a superfan, keep this avatar, and nicely ask Snaggy to retire this one.

My head hurts now. [Razz]
 
Posted by Mr. Saturn (Member # 3529) on February 22, 2005, 10:30:
 
Well, i changed my avatar. So, thanks for the advice so far, but unfortunatly, there aren't any LAN parties in Deleware... arg. so i'm screwed, but thanx for the advice
 
Posted by Zim'et (Member # 2448) on February 22, 2005, 11:21:
 
Go to the local comic book store, gaming store, book store (science fiction and graphic novel sections), and just sit. When you see a girl reading a cool book, mention that you think it's cool, but only if she's walking by. If she's sitting down don't bother her, that's too agressive. Try to strike up a conversation and see what happens. Record stores are good too.
 
Posted by Cap'n Vic (Member # 1477) on February 22, 2005, 12:49:
 
Welcome, and good to see you've changed your av. BTW, how is Uranus?
 
Posted by Too Cool To Quit (Member # 2217) on February 22, 2005, 13:17:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Rhonwyyn:
quote:
Originally posted by csk:
I'm guessing the "guys imitating girls" problem is most prominent online, so trying to meet someone there could be perilous.

What brought that up?

:thoroughly confuzzled, but I guess that's the story of my day [Frown] :

I wouldn't know anything about guys imitating girls.
 
Posted by Twinkle Toes (Member # 1208) on February 22, 2005, 15:58:
 
quote:
Originally posted by n4dmx:
Cheers!

[Razz]

Well at least she seems to-scale: big floofy hair, anorexic-looking lower legs, and breasts that would give her scoliosis. [Roll Eyes]
 
Posted by garlicguy (Member # 3166) on February 22, 2005, 16:00:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Cap'n Vic:
Welcome, and good to see you've changed your av. BTW, how is Uranus?

Sweet Lord, Vic! What *do* you smoke? [Roll Eyes]

Back on topic: Look, Mr. Saturn, since you took d'man's advice on changing the Avatar, why not try the naked with beer thing? This is standard advice on these forums, thanks to the Cap'n here. Of course, the advice is usually given to females seeking help in romantic endeavors. But, hey, give it a shot! [Razz] Edit: You may not want to try that advice in a Greek neighborhood.
 
Posted by Cap'n Vic (Member # 1477) on February 22, 2005, 16:17:
 
quote:
Originally posted by garlicguy:
quote:
Originally posted by Cap'n Vic:
Welcome, and good to see you've changed your av. BTW, how is Uranus?

Sweet Lord, Vic! What *do* you smoke? [Roll Eyes]

Sadly, I don't smoke anything any more, save the odd Cuban cigar on a special occasion. I did however smoke massive amounts of cannibis and its biproducts in the 80's and 90's.

Mind you, *if* someone were to spark up a big doobie, I'd be first in line.
 
Posted by garlicguy (Member # 3166) on February 22, 2005, 16:20:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Cap'n Vic:
I did however smoke massive amounts of cannibis and its biproducts in the 80's and 90's.

So what does this mean? Now you're running for Prime Minister or something like that?
 
Posted by Serenak (Member # 2950) on February 22, 2005, 16:38:
 
Nah,

If he was up for Prime Minister (or similar) he'd need a history full of Call Girls/Homosexual BDSM/Dangerous autoerotic practices/etc.

Oh yeah, and MI6 need to have been following him for at least 5 years...

Your US Presidents are just such *poofs* - they don't even inhale FGS!

Still he might *just* make the running for Governor (is that Congress or Senate, or different altogether, I find it hard to figure your US Governement heirarchy...)

Oh BTW - I never slept with that woman... with all the sex we never found time to sleep!!!

[evil]

edit: If he actually lived in the US of course... Like Derrr, whatever....

[Big Grin]
 
Posted by garlicguy (Member # 3166) on February 22, 2005, 16:52:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Serenak:
Nah, If he was up for Prime Minister (or similar) he'd need a history full of Call Girls/Homosexual BDSM/Dangerous autoerotic practices/etc.

Oh yeah, and MI6 need to have been following him for at least 5 years...

Mmmm? What's your point? Your post seems to indicate that none of the above *have* happened?
 
Posted by Serenak (Member # 2950) on February 22, 2005, 17:03:
 
Can't see it GG,

Vic's propensity for "arse pics" and a avowed liking for "n3kk1d |_/.\d135" is far too open for MI6, shady perving under cover of darkness is their bag - stuff they think they can blackmail you with by threatening to tell yer gran/mum/boyfriend...

Nope - Vic's in the clear here... His perving is far too public (no career in UK politics for you then Vic... [Big Grin] [Wink]
 
Posted by garlicguy (Member # 3166) on February 22, 2005, 17:35:
 
Cap'n, you wanna jump in here? I think your reputation is at stake. [ohwell]
 
Posted by Cap'n Vic (Member # 1477) on February 22, 2005, 19:22:
 
In this part of the world, we put the crooks where they belong, in elected positions. In fact our Premier, Dennis Fentie, did federal time for dealing heroin.

One minister, Peter Jenkins did time for stealing electricity to run his hotel. The hotel ironically was funded in part by a loan from the taxpayers which he never paid back. The balance on that is currently $300,000 CDN. Also, while in jail as part of his 'rehab' he got his private pilots license on the tax payers back.

A second minister, recently turfed out of the ruling party is charged with indecent assault or the like dating back to the late 70's.

A third minister, also defaulted on a hotel loan for 10 or so years is only recently making payments.

Arse pics ain't nothin' to these boys. I could make it as a page in the Legislature.
 
Posted by Xanthine (Member # 736) on February 22, 2005, 20:20:
 
Man, and here I thought only the US elected sleazebags...there go my rosey ideas about Canada. [Razz]
 
Posted by Zim'et (Member # 2448) on February 22, 2005, 21:20:
 
Italy has a porn star in parliment...
 
Posted by Cap'n Vic (Member # 1477) on February 22, 2005, 21:36:
 
Our last Prime Minister , who was close to 70 at the time, grabbed ahold of a protester who got to close (The RCMP were eating donuts) and ripped a few of his teeth out.

Read it here. With picture!
 
Posted by garlicguy (Member # 3166) on February 22, 2005, 22:09:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Cap'n Vic:
(The RCMP were eating donuts)

I mean, whatdya gonna do? Ya got a dork for a Prime Minister, the whole boys-will-be-boys thing goin' on, and add to that there's a bunch of soft, gooey round thingees with holes in 'em. They're cops. What did you *expect* them to do?
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on February 22, 2005, 22:15:
 
quote:
Originally posted by garlicguy:
add to that there's a bunch of soft, gooey round thingees with holes in 'em. They're cops. What did you *expect* them to do?

I sense a spate of bad/dirty jokes coming in a bit. [Roll Eyes]
 
Posted by Xanthine (Member # 736) on February 22, 2005, 22:25:
 
Me too Rhonnie. This is going to be ugly.
 
Posted by supergoo (Member # 2280) on February 22, 2005, 23:00:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Mr. Saturn:
Yo necessito auydar!!!

<grammar nazi>
What you'd really want to say is "Yo necesito ayuda" where "ayuda" is used as a noun, because in "Yo necesito ayudar," "ayudar" is used as a transitive verb, which requires a direct object.
</grammar nazi>

Sorry, I derive pleasure from that [Smile] But mean grammar-picking aside, "The best way to find love is to quit looking."
 
Posted by Footsie (Member # 3444) on February 23, 2005, 07:46:
 
And seranak got two off his own (y)( )u now what i mean capt vick
 
Posted by drunkennewfiemidget (Member # 2814) on February 23, 2005, 17:41:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Xanthine:
Man, and here I thought only the US elected sleazebags...there go my rosey ideas about Canada. [Razz]

The part of Canada Cap'n Vic's from doesn't count. [Wink]
 
Posted by MTB Babe (Member # 2297) on February 24, 2005, 07:21:
 
quote:
Originally posted by drunkennewfiemidget:
quote:
Originally posted by Xanthine:
Man, and here I thought only the US elected sleazebags...there go my rosey ideas about Canada. [Razz]

The part of Canada Cap'n Vic's from doesn't count. [Wink]
No it doesn't count. My rosey ideas about Canada remain intact. [Big Grin]
 
Posted by Mr. Saturn (Member # 3529) on February 24, 2005, 18:19:
 
thanks for all the advice... but how did this thread turn into a political debate? O.o'
 
Posted by csk (Member # 1941) on February 24, 2005, 18:39:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Mr. Saturn:
thanks for all the advice... but how did this thread turn into a political debate? O.o'

Welcome to GC, where threads often make radical departures from where they begun [Wink]
 
Posted by garlicguy (Member # 3166) on February 24, 2005, 19:12:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Mr. Saturn:
thanks for all the advice... but how did this thread turn into a political debate? O.o'

Sure....go ahead.... blame us for threadjacking. I suppose we had it coming. [weep]

Well, if you can forgive us being ourselves, welcome to the GC forums. [Big Grin] Enjoy yourself and stick around. We're not so bad.

(You'd best do a proper intro by starting a new thread in the "All About You" forum.)
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on February 24, 2005, 19:42:
 
quote:
Originally posted by csk:
quote:
Originally posted by Mr. Saturn:
thanks for all the advice... but how did this thread turn into a political debate? O.o'

Welcome to GC, where threads often make radical departures from where they [began] [Wink]
Usually they start out as linen and we usually cotton to them, but too often they end up as woolen. :baa: Watch out for Cap'n Vic, though, as he can spin a mean yarn! [Wink]
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on February 24, 2005, 21:17:
 
In the archives I found this little bit of funness a la Cap'n Vic:

quote:
i say cover yourself in balloons and hand him a pin!
~bucketofsquids
 
Posted by Xanthine (Member # 736) on February 24, 2005, 22:22:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Mr. Saturn:
thanks for all the advice... but how did this thread turn into a political debate? O.o'

You're lucky. Usually we descend into bad puns and/or smut.

Oops, I spoke too soon. [Razz]
 
Posted by drunkennewfiemidget (Member # 2814) on February 25, 2005, 04:55:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Rhonwyyn:
quote:
Originally posted by csk:
quote:
Originally posted by Mr. Saturn:
thanks for all the advice... but how did this thread turn into a political debate? O.o'

Welcome to GC, where threads often make radical departures from where they [began] [Wink]
Usually they start out as linen and we usually cotton to them, but too often they end up as woolen. :baa: Watch out for Cap'n Vic, though, as he can spin a mean yarn! [Wink]
Ionno, if you start making reference to wool, I'd worry about Spungo, not the Cap'n.
 
Posted by ewomack (Member # 3225) on February 26, 2005, 21:27:
 
Speaking of wool, I think this site has everything:

http://www.sheepacrosstheworld.com/cgi-bin/pics.pl

Pictures, videos, a store, a "Sheep Tracker" (handy handy), and a "Sheep Humor" section.

How can you lose?

[Big Grin] [Big Grin] [Razz] [Big Grin] [Wink]
 
Posted by Mr.Gone (Member # 3543) on March 01, 2005, 10:05:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Mr. Saturn:
Yo necessito auydar!!! <---- spanish for "i need help". I would like some advice on how to find a girl who shares my interests, i.e. a "Gamer chick" around my age i.e. 16. any advice is appreciated! ^.^

Forget them till after collage and you land a solid job. Nothing attracts women like cash. Also, if you can get into shape, that's the number two thing. Forget the "developing a personality" thing. That's just the female's nice way of saying you are too fat/poor/geeky/etc to date. Remember that rule, personality for show, cash for a pro.
 
Posted by drunkennewfiemidget (Member # 2814) on March 01, 2005, 10:59:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Mr.Gone:
quote:
Originally posted by Mr. Saturn:
Yo necessito auydar!!! <---- spanish for "i need help". I would like some advice on how to find a girl who shares my interests, i.e. a "Gamer chick" around my age i.e. 16. any advice is appreciated! ^.^

Forget them till after collage and you land a solid job. Nothing attracts women like cash. Also, if you can get into shape, that's the number two thing. Forget the "developing a personality" thing. That's just the female's nice way of saying you are too fat/poor/geeky/etc to date. Remember that rule, personality for show, cash for a pro.
Normally, I'd come in here and tar and feather you for being a troll, but sadly, for a lot of woman, you're spot on.

But remember, the women WORTH caring about are NOTHING like that.
 
Posted by Mr.Gone (Member # 3543) on March 01, 2005, 11:55:
 
I'm not trolling, I'm offering sound advice. Seriously, I would wait until you have a more stable platform for what is "you" it's way to easy to get manipulated early on, especially with how sensitive geeks tend to be.
 
Posted by Cap'n Vic (Member # 1477) on March 01, 2005, 12:37:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Mr.Gone:
I'm not trolling, I'm offering sound advice.

No. You are offering your opinion. An opinion that is not shared by 3 or 4 Billion people in the world who are in committed relationships.

Why don't you quit beating around the bush and say what you really think. What has led you to this conclusion? A girl was mean too you? She wouldn't go out with you? Could it be that you are so close minded and opinionated that a girl doesn't want to be in a relationship with you? Does the fact that a girl doesn't have a penis make her evil and manipulative? Maybe you should date within your gender?

As was mentioned earlier, a relationship is about give and take. When you make it to adulthood, you will either figure this out, have a string a short bitter relationships or be alone.
 
Posted by Mr.Gone (Member # 3543) on March 01, 2005, 14:42:
 
And unfortunately with people like you offering "advice" I would have plenty of other single geeks to hang out with. Look, 3-4 billion people in "healthy" relationships? As of 1-03-2005 the global population is 6,427,572,544. Now even a 50% is a very optimistic approximation. The point is, I was warning him against taking the first thing that comes along. I have made the mistake of trusting a woman's word and it has come back to bite me. If I was as bitter as you are trying to make me out to be, I would have sworn off women, but I know enough of them to keep me trying. So if you must try and flame someone, I suggest that you try some of the Dazing Forums that dot the internet. Thank you.
 
Posted by Cap'n Vic (Member # 1477) on March 01, 2005, 15:13:
 
If you wanna get technical, the world population has cracked the 6.5 Billion mark. In either case, there are a few BILLION more people than you getting along just fine.

You don't take critism well either, do you? You see, that is probably half you problem. You don't listen.

Blanket statements like 'Women are bad' shows your underlying fears and insecurities of women and relationships.

How old are you?
 
Posted by Mr.Gone (Member # 3543) on March 01, 2005, 15:28:
 
I haven't actually said "women are bad". I said they look for cash and looks first. Which is true. Also, most people do not take criticism of proven fact very well. 27 years plenty of time to gather proof and experience in being backstabbed by those you offer trust. I am telling him, he is 16 and he should enjoy his life before he risks it on a woman, wait till 21 or so.
 
Posted by Cap'n Vic (Member # 1477) on March 01, 2005, 15:47:
 
Ok, this is just getting worse. You are 27 and you think like this? I had you pegged for 14-16, and I don't mean that as an insult. I am just flabbergasted that people actually think like that in this day and age.

quote:
Originally posted by Mr.Gone:
I haven't actually said "women are bad". I said they look for cash and looks first. Which is true.

No it isn't true. No more true than: Black people love watermelon. White men can't jump. Asians can't drive. Brits have bad teeth. Do you think any of these statements coming out of someones mouth will garner them respect from anyone?

I think newf said it best:

quote:
But remember, the women WORTH caring about are NOTHING like that.
Out of curiousity, what do you look for in a woman?
 
Posted by Mr.Gone (Member # 3543) on March 01, 2005, 15:55:
 
Oh it was sad. I was all happy and respectful, I had the same youthful optimism that Mr. Saturn here had. Then I learned a painful lesson in college, over and over and over again. Women do not want friends, at least that what you're going to hear Mr.Saturn. I don't want to scare you, just want to let you know that it's going to get a lot worse before it gets any better. And guess what, if you do beat the odds, hurray!
Just make sure that you hold out a little, never give it your all or you will be used and dumped in the course of a week.

And Cap'N
The same things that women look for; Great personality, sense of humor, great with kids, likes to talk.


Then again I could just be in it for a pretty face, all those average looking chicks are too insecure.
Sounds silly doesn't it?
 
Posted by Cap'n Vic (Member # 1477) on March 01, 2005, 16:16:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Mr.Gone:
Oh it was sad. I was all happy and respectful, I had the same youthful optimism that Mr. Saturn here had. Then I learned a painful lesson in collage, over and over and over again.

Which collage did you learn all this stuff? [Big Grin]
 
Posted by Xanthine (Member # 736) on March 01, 2005, 16:18:
 
Some of us average chicks are insecure, in no small part because we hear people like you whining, but the rest of us, myself included, have more or less gotten over ourselves by the time we're out of college.

The last vestiges of insecurity I had with respect to my appearance disappeared when I fell off that cliff. I put a scar through my eyebrow. I put another scar under my nose. I knocked the lower half of my nose off line, and as a result look assymetric when the light is right. I took all the skin off my nose too, and knocked a huge gash in one of my elbows. That said, I don't look that bad, but the nose break kinda liberated me from any regrets about not being a beauty queen. Once you've seen yourself with the shit kicked out of you your day to day appearance doesn't look half so bad. And once you walk away from your own death, stupid things like facial scars and small boobs and fly-away hair and holes in your clothes really don't seem that important.

Maybe you should try something similar. This is not a threat or wish, just a suggestion. There's nothing like a good hard ass-whupping to teach you who you are. Once you learn that lesson, maybe you'll stop chasing the wrong women.
 
Posted by Mr.Gone (Member # 3543) on March 01, 2005, 16:19:
 
Typical state college, St.Cloud State in MN
 
Posted by Mr.Gone (Member # 3543) on March 01, 2005, 16:22:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Xanthine:
Some of us average chicks are insecure, in no small part because we hear people like you whining, but the rest of us, myself included, have more or less gotten over ourselves by the time we're out of college.

The last vestiges of insecurity I had with respect to my appearance disappeared when I fell off that cliff. I put a scar through my eyebrow. I put another scar under my nose. I knocked the lower half of my nose off line, and as a result look assymetric when the light is right. I took all the skin off my nose too, and knocked a huge gash in one of my elbows. That said, I don't look that bad, but the nose break kinda liberated me from any regrets about not being a beauty queen. Once you've seen yourself with the shit kicked out of you your day to day appearance doesn't look half so bad. And once you walk away from your own death, stupid things like facial scars and small boobs and fly-away hair and holes in your clothes really don't seem that important.

Maybe you should try something similar. This is not a threat or wish, just a suggestion. There's nothing like a good hard ass-whupping to teach you who you are. Once you learn that lesson, maybe you'll stop chasing the wrong women.

So wait. I should push a chick over a cliff, then she'll feel like she can't do any better than date me? Not exactly inspirational.


Okay, all joking aside, don't you think it's kind of sad that it takes something that extreme to make you realize those things? Doesn't it eat away at your faith in human kind to know that we can't just see each other for the good we have in our minds? I would buy you a coffee if I met you.
 
Posted by TMBWITW,PB (Member # 1734) on March 01, 2005, 16:52:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Mr.Gone:
I would buy you a coffee if I met you.

Somehow, I get the feeling that Xanthine wouldn't take you up on that. (Feel free to correct me, X.)

quote:
And Cap'N
The same things that women look for; Great personality, sense of humor, great with kids, likes to talk.

I thought we women looked for money and appearance? [Wink]

You say that's typical, but it's really not. A lot of people look for someone who likes to listen rather than talk, and I know at least one woman who hopes she marries someone who wants no kids at all, ever. That's what you want, and that's fine.

And if all I wanted was money and fantastic looks I would have missed being with my wonderful, broke, and goofy husband. I think I like this better. [Big Grin]
 
Posted by Mr.Gone (Member # 3543) on March 01, 2005, 16:59:
 
quote:
Originally posted by TMBWITW,PB:
Somehow, I get the feeling that Xanthine wouldn't take you up on that. (Feel free to correct me, X.)

of course she wouldn't, that would prove me wrong > [Big Grin]

quote:
Originally posted by TMBWITW,PB:
I thought we women looked for money and appearance?

And Cap'N
The same things that women look for; Great personality, sense of humor, great with kids, likes to talk.

Yeah, the sarcastic part came after that.
 
Posted by csk (Member # 1941) on March 01, 2005, 17:36:
 
quote:
Originally posted by TMBWITW,PB:
quote:
Originally posted by Mr.Gone:
I would buy you a coffee if I met you.

Somehow, I get the feeling that Xanthine wouldn't take you up on that. (Feel free to correct me, X.)
Which brings up an interesting question, is taking someone out for a coffee necessarily a dating thing? I say not, largely because I'm love coffee enough that I'd happily go for a coffee with almost anyone, male or female (and no, I have no interest in batting for the other side)
 
Posted by Xanthine (Member # 736) on March 01, 2005, 19:29:
 
Actually, I'd pretty much gotten over myself before I went off the cliff (and no one pushed me...I was pulled...being on a rope team can really suck sometimes). But that clenched the deal. I've had my ass kicked many times before and since then, and learned something new every time. And yes, the lessons can be extremely hard to learn, for both men and women, and I'm thinking *you* are the one who needs to learn them.

All that aside, what really matters is do you love yourself and accept yourself. If you can do that, then others can love you.

And no, I'm afraid Peebs is right. I'm not inclined to have coffee with someone who thinks I'm manipulative and evil (especially since I'm actually very nice, low maintenance, and straight-forward). That and my boyfriend might take it the wrong way and he really doesn't deserve that kind of anguish.

I'm also a little confused now...you start out by saying women are superficial and evil and then saying you aren't worthy of any women...exactly which is your problem?
 
Posted by Mr.Gone (Member # 3543) on March 01, 2005, 20:02:
 
That explains a lot. You are a couplie (one who is in a couplie). While I am single (one who is single). I have noticed that the views are very skewed and that a singles views are nearly always erased when they become a couple. To the extent where they can't even remember having views as a single.
Sometimes with tragic results (being manipulated and so forth, by either gender). And never did I say that ALL women are manipulative and evil, I would never make a generalization about that many people. I said that the majority of them are, there are rare mutations in the coding.
The one thing I find most interesting is that we have completely wrestled this topic away from it's poster (my fault, sorry). This was supposed to be about giving advice to Mr.Saturn on finding a woman that can make him happy.

I guess the only thing you can take from this Saturn is that there are a lot of women out there , some you have to watch out for, and some you can confide in. It is really up to you to decide who you want to be with. I have had my share of really bad experiences and it has shaped who I am today, so I wouldn't give them up. You may find a girl next week, or years from now, or never. Just make sure that you don't spend your life looking for women and not enough time looking out for yourself. With that I retire from this thread. If any of you want to debate some more, I'd be more than happy to post on a dedicated thread.
 
Posted by Xanthine (Member # 736) on March 01, 2005, 20:31:
 
Uhhh...
I actually had to get rid of my bitterness BEFORE becoming part of another couple.

I was not unhappy as a single. In fact, I kind of enjoyed it. Which is probably why I didn't stay single. Guys like happy girls. Girls like happy guys. Who knows, maybe I'll decide to go back to my singleton days. I had time to do volunteer work back then. Then again, I may just lay it down and tell my boyfriend I want to do volunteer work again and he can either do it with me or see less of me.

Most of the girls I know are very nice to their men, but then again, most of the chicks I know are mutant lab rats like me.
 
Posted by Mr. Saturn (Member # 3529) on March 03, 2005, 10:40:
 
well, i thank Mr. Gone for his advice, but i can't agree with a great amount of women being this way or that, i don't know all the women in the world, so i can't assume that some women are like this or that. Assume nothing, for nothing is implied.
 
Posted by illuminatus (Member # 2187) on March 11, 2005, 09:33:
 
Seriously, the hardest part is getting over the fear of rejection thing. Get over that and just go up and start talking to people.
 


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