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Posted by serishema (Member # 4481) on November 09, 2005, 23:01:
 
I kinda have a bit of a nasty attitude sometimes in that when one of my friends gets a new girlfriend or boyfriend i usually end up wishing they'd just fuck off so that my friend would actually acknowledge my existance once again.

Does it say in the manual you have to spend your every waking monent with him/her?

it'd be nice to be acknowledged as a person once again and actually have a conversation about something other than him/her.

I know i should really just learn to live with it.
But this is the confession forum ;-)
 
Posted by FireSnake (Member # 1181) on November 10, 2005, 01:14:
 
Between this and the "Is love obsolete?" thread, I'm guessing your crush got himself a chickie.

Sorry. [Frown]
 
Posted by maximile (Member # 3446) on November 10, 2005, 01:43:
 
I know that feeling, serishema. But get to know your friends' gfs/bfs and that'll help. Hang out together sometimes.

It doesn't have to be a crush, FireSnake... just anyone you care about (or even just have got used to).
 
Posted by Callipygous (Member # 2071) on November 10, 2005, 03:15:
 
I think this is mainly a teenage girl thing. This is the kind of girl who has very intense friendships with other girls, but then drops them almost completely for an equally intense (and perhaps suffocating) relationship with a boyfriend, and then suddenly restarts the intense friendship when love goes wrong. In general this type is usually pretty insecure, which is why they seek these intense relationships to give their life a meaning, and often rather solipsistic in outlook. Usually most girls grow out of this by the time they get to their twenties.

But you are right S, they are annoying!
 
Posted by serishema (Member # 4481) on November 10, 2005, 04:04:
 
quote:
Originally posted by FireSnake:
Between this and the "Is love obsolete?" thread, I'm guessing your crush got himself a chickie.

Sorry. [Frown]

you're not wrong, but you aren't quite right eaither
:-)
Like a lot of things it's complicated.

It wasn't a single incident, but rather a combination of several events. The love obsolete thread was more in responce to a relationship with a woman I recently ended (yes i go that way too if that's not blindingly obvious) though i still have feelings for her, simply because it's something I cannot do - I can't be everything to someone. I realised there wasn't really much substance to our relationship and the main base of the relationship was this mutual delusion that each other were perfect.
Reality sunk in, and it wasn't fair to her to pretend otherwise.
 
Posted by serishema (Member # 4481) on November 10, 2005, 04:10:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Callipygous:
I think this is mainly a teenage girl thing. But you are right S, they are annoying!

Yeah it's anoying damn straight!
Pretty much all my friends do it, male or female.

Except for cirtain geek bois, who end up wanting to date me, though envitably I don't feel the same way, or would prefer things remain the same, since i'm a bit crazy and dating me pretty much ensures we'll end up hating each other in the end.
 
Posted by maximile (Member # 3446) on November 10, 2005, 04:49:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Callipygous:
I think this is mainly a teenage girl thing. This is the kind of girl who has very intense friendships with other girls, but then drops them almost completely for an equally intense (and perhaps suffocating) relationship with a boyfriend, and then suddenly restarts the intense friendship when love goes wrong. In general this type is usually pretty insecure, which is why they seek these intense relationships to give their life a meaning, and often rather solipsistic in outlook. Usually most girls grow out of this by the time they get to their twenties.

But you are right S, they are annoying!

I don't think it's limited to girls... or teenagers, even. If you're close to someone, and have been for a while, it's difficult when they find someone that instantly takes priority over you in their lives.

I've certainly felt this way, and I'm not a girl and I'm almost out of my teenage years. And just yesterday I was listening to the DVD commentary to Shaun of the Dead in which Bill Nighy (far from a girly teenager) was saying that he identified with Ed's poorly-concealed joy when Shaun (his best friend) split up with his girlfriend.

But it could well be an insecurity issue. I'm just not sure who's more to blame.
 
Posted by TheGirlWonder (Member # 4698) on December 01, 2005, 10:29:
 
I know exactly how that goes. I haven't seen one of my best friends in eight months, since she's always with her boyfriend. I see my other best friend more often, but her boyfriend is usually there with us. I've gotten used to it...it's their loss, and it's their problem if they want to spend every waking moment with their significant others instead of taking time out for their other friends occasionally.
 
Posted by xStrangedayx (Member # 4715) on December 04, 2005, 07:55:
 
you have a crush on your hands,young 'un! [Eek!] i would do something about it (like ask them out on a date) before you begin tearing your hair out! [devil wand] xLiix
 
Posted by dragonman97 (Member # 780) on December 04, 2005, 11:28:
 
quote:
Originally posted by xStrangedayx:
you have a crush on your hands,young 'un! [Eek!]

Am I the only one who briefly considered a different connotation to this? [evil]
 
Posted by dp004i (Member # 1177) on December 04, 2005, 21:09:
 
quote:
Originally posted by dragonman97:
quote:
Originally posted by xStrangedayx:
you have a crush on your hands,young 'un! [Eek!]

Am I the only one who briefly considered a different connotation to this? [evil]
Dude, how many times have you asked that question today? Have you been reading uncle Freud lately? [evil]
 
Posted by alfrin (Member # 3836) on December 04, 2005, 21:37:
 
quote:
Originally posted by xStrangedayx:
i would do something about it (like ask them out on a date) before you begin tearing your hair out! [devil wand] xLiix

Don't chicks dig balds?
 
Posted by dragonman97 (Member # 780) on December 04, 2005, 22:39:
 
quote:
Originally posted by dp004i:
quote:
Originally posted by dragonman97:
quote:
Originally posted by xStrangedayx:
you have a crush on your hands,young 'un! [Eek!]

Am I the only one who briefly considered a different connotation to this? [evil]
Dude, how many times have you asked that question today? Have you been reading uncle Freud lately? [evil]
I'm pretty sure only once. [Razz] The rest of today has been spent on Google, and quite a bit of time spent consulting Perldoc/perlfunc. I learned how to use format today! (after reading perlform.)

Best module of the week: File::Tail!

=cut perl_geek
 


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