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Posted by boo (Member # 5991) on March 11, 2007, 20:27:
 
Anyone make use of these? I was reading some hilarious (well, to me. not to the participants though) stories of the characters some people are coming across on these sites. I haven't visited any of them, but even if I had been interested, I wouldn't be now after reading those reviews. [crazy]
 
Posted by Mac D (Member # 2926) on March 12, 2007, 03:54:
 
I met my (now ex) wife on Lavalife.com

I don't know if I would use one again. I did go out on quite a few dates from it. But since my wife and I split up I've become more bold. I used to be really shy and that is why I used them. But now I have no problem talking to girls I meet. This is a total 160 for me. I was the most shy person on the planet.

I would not say that thoes sites are bad, but I'm having more fun the old fashion way of hitting on girls.
 
Posted by zesovietrussian (Member # 1177) on March 12, 2007, 06:48:
 
Aren't dating sites full of lads who keep their prospective girlfriends in basement pits and make them put lotion on their skin?
 
Posted by drunkennewfiemidget (Member # 2814) on March 12, 2007, 09:02:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Mac D:
... This is a total 160 for me. I was the most shy person on the planet.

A total 160, eh? Couldn't bring yourself to go the other 20 degrees? [Wink]
 
Posted by Sxeptomaniac (Member # 3698) on March 12, 2007, 09:26:
 
Dating sites have worked for some people I know of. I've tried some myself, and they can be interesting, but haven't worked out for me, other than exchanging messages with the occasional person. OKcupid can be entertaining now and then. I know a few other people from GC have signed up with it besides myself, though I don't know if they are still active.
 
Posted by WinterSolstice (Member # 934) on March 12, 2007, 09:34:
 
quote:
Originally posted by drunkennewfiemidget:
quote:
Originally posted by Mac D:
... This is a total 160 for me. I was the most shy person on the planet.

A total 160, eh? Couldn't bring yourself to go the other 20 degrees? [Wink]
I sorta assumed he went from the "most shy" to nearly the most gregarious [Big Grin]
 
Posted by Mac D (Member # 2926) on March 12, 2007, 10:49:
 
quote:
Originally posted by WinterSolstice:
quote:
Originally posted by drunkennewfiemidget:
quote:
Originally posted by Mac D:
... This is a total 160 for me. I was the most shy person on the planet.

A total 160, eh? Couldn't bring yourself to go the other 20 degrees? [Wink]
I sorta assumed he went from the "most shy" to nearly the most gregarious [Big Grin]
No I just posted that with little to no coffee in me. I can't be expected to think before coffee. Thats like trying to start a car with no gas.
 
Posted by Black Widow (Member # 3046) on March 12, 2007, 12:12:
 
I met my husband on Match.com [hearts] and I think Rhonnwynn (I always spell her name wrong) met hers on eHarmony. Honestly I think it all depends on the person using the service. (I went on a date with one guy who wore shorts and a tshirt and watched the baseball game all during dinner. And then there was the sociopath...learned my lesson there. And then there was the guy who was missing more teeth than he had.) [crazy]
 
Posted by skylar (Member # 1422) on March 12, 2007, 13:22:
 
Another OkCupid veteran here. I met one of my best friends through that site, and a couple of other people I still chat to/hang out with. Oh yes, and I managed to procure a psycho-stalker. I still maintain that there's a great deal of stigma attached to online dating, which people ought to try and overcome. It's worth a try, as long as you proceed with caution and common sense.

Weirdly, I met my current boyfriend the old-fashioned way - through friends. But the friend I met him through was a guy I met on OkCupid... make of that what you will.
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on March 12, 2007, 16:56:
 
Yup, BW, you're right. Bear and I met through eHarmony.com. I had tried some other sites, but the guys I met through there were mostly uneducated. Very frustrating and so not my type. eHarmony was better at matching me with people who were closer to the kinds of values and ideals I liked. Jonathan and I butt heads on subjects occasionally, but our personalities mesh very well. He's studied me carefully and can read me very well. I'm not so good at reading him 'cause some of his looks can be interpreted multiple ways.

But that's really not related to the Web site dating service question. My vote's for eHarmony. [Smile]
 
Posted by nerdwithnofriends (Member # 3773) on March 12, 2007, 20:46:
 
I tried eHarmony. Got the following message:

"We feel it is important to tell our users about any potential problems.

...

Roughly 20% of people who sign up for our service simply will not benefit from it.

...

You are one of those 20%. Good luck and may God have mercy on your soul."


Apparently, since I don't put down the usual "I'm very open/caring/affection/intelligent/all-around nice guy, I won't be matched. Oh well, guess there's no real loss. I've looked at a couple other sites, and I might try signing up for those. I'm very straightforward whenever I have to write something about myself. I know what I am: witty, dry, usually condescending, often offensivve, intelligent, and demeaning. While I understand emotions very well, I choose not to display them. I comfort people whenever they're having a hard time... unless said hard time was brought on by their own stupidity. Apparently, having these characteristics invalidates me for online dating stuff, but I'd rather live with that than try to change these aspects of my personality which, quite frankly, I'm rather fond of [Smile]
 
Posted by Steen (Member # 170) on March 12, 2007, 21:08:
 
nerdwithnofriends wrote:
Apparently, since I don't put down the usual "I'm very open/caring/affection/intelligent/all-around nice guy, I won't be matched.

Did you put down a religion other than a variation of Christianity? E-Harmony is heavily oriented towards Christian dating, although they don't make that particularly obvious.
 
Posted by maximile (Member # 3446) on March 13, 2007, 01:21:
 
quote:
Originally posted by nerdwithnofriends:
I tried eHarmony. Got the following message:

"We feel it is important to tell our users about any potential problems.
...
Roughly 20% of people who sign up for our service simply will not benefit from it.
...
You are one of those 20%. Good luck and may God have mercy on your soul."

Oh wow... something about that makes me hope so much that I'd be one of the 20%.
 
Posted by Astronomer Jedi (Member # 4699) on March 13, 2007, 01:50:
 
quote:
Originally posted by nerdwithnofriends:
I tried eHarmony. Got the following message:

"We feel it is important to tell our users about any potential problems.

...

Roughly 20% of people who sign up for our service simply will not benefit from it.

...

You are one of those 20%. Good luck and may God have mercy on your soul."

I wonder what response I'd get if I put down militant atheist? [evil]
 
Posted by Ashitaka (Member # 4924) on March 13, 2007, 02:54:
 
quote:
Originally posted by nerdwithnofriends:
I comfort people whenever they're having a hard time... unless said hard time was brought on by their own stupidity.

In my experience 99% of the time people are having a hard time because of thier own stupidity. Especially in america where there are not that many plagues, wars or other acts of god. Just a thought. I am not calling you an insensative clod or anything.
 
Posted by Stereo (Member # 748) on March 13, 2007, 06:44:
 
quote:
Originally posted by nerdwithnofriends:
Apparently, since I don't put down the usual "I'm very open/caring/affection/intelligent/all-around nice guy, I won't be matched. Oh well, guess there's no real loss. I've looked at a couple other sites, and I might try signing up for those. I'm very straightforward whenever I have to write something about myself. I know what I am: witty, dry, usually condescending, often offensivve, intelligent, and demeaning. While I understand emotions very well, I choose not to display them. I comfort people whenever they're having a hard time... unless said hard time was brought on by their own stupidity. Apparently, having these characteristics invalidates me for online dating stuff, but I'd rather live with that than try to change these aspects of my personality which, quite frankly, I'm rather fond of [Smile]

You know, I have about the same "problem": I tried a more-or-less local dating site, with zero result. I didn't put photos, didn't pretend to be what I am not just to get more hits, and was straightforward about it. Obviously, people prefer to be lied to rather than face the cold truth from the start. Or maybe I just didn't choose the right site, and the people there are of the immature kind.

(For the curious ones, I openly stated that I prefer intellectual pursuits over physical niceness, then proceeded to describe my favorite activities, and ended on a blunt "feelings don't follow logic, so I make no promises". )
 
Posted by Mac D (Member # 2926) on March 13, 2007, 06:52:
 
A simple Google search turned up a dating site for geeks.
 
Posted by drunkennewfiemidget (Member # 2814) on March 13, 2007, 08:48:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Steen:
nerdwithnofriends wrote:
Apparently, since I don't put down the usual "I'm very open/caring/affection/intelligent/all-around nice guy, I won't be matched.

Did you put down a religion other than a variation of Christianity? E-Harmony is heavily oriented towards Christian dating, although they don't make that particularly obvious.

Oh great, that's what the world needs, breeding christians.

*shudder*

[Razz]
 
Posted by Mac D (Member # 2926) on March 13, 2007, 09:48:
 
quote:
Originally posted by drunkennewfiemidget:
quote:
Originally posted by Steen:
nerdwithnofriends wrote:
Apparently, since I don't put down the usual "I'm very open/caring/affection/intelligent/all-around nice guy, I won't be matched.

Did you put down a religion other than a variation of Christianity? E-Harmony is heavily oriented towards Christian dating, although they don't make that particularly obvious.

Oh great, that's what the world needs, breeding christians.


*shudder*

[Razz]

[thumbsup] [thumbsup] [Applause]
 
Posted by Maggs (Member # 4682) on March 13, 2007, 16:43:
 
I'm actually on eHarmony, hotornot, I was on gk2gk, etc. I've tried everything.

eHarmony is like pulling teeth, My membership is up in April, and I don't think I'll renuew.

I don't get out much since I work two jobs, and go to school. I really do need to pry myself from the Cat5 though.
 
Posted by spungo (Member # 1089) on March 13, 2007, 18:12:
 
Is it me or is there no suitable dating site for us... ummm... aesthetically challenged types. I really need a DesperateMingers.com, or maybe a LumpenTrollopesWillDoYouForAFishSupper.com -- you know what I mean?*

(* semi-serious.)
 
Posted by Steen (Member # 170) on March 13, 2007, 18:23:
 
spungo wrote:
Is it me or is there no suitable dating site for us... ummm... aesthetically challenged types. I really need a DesperateMingers.com, or maybe a LumpenTrollopesWillDoYouForAFishSupper.com -- you know what I mean?*

Sure there is. It's called CraigsList. [Smile]
 
Posted by boo (Member # 5991) on March 13, 2007, 18:59:
 
quote:
Originally posted by nerdwithnofriends:

You are one of those 20%. Good luck and may God have mercy on your soul."


Are you pulling my leg?! They didn't actually say this, did they?
quote:
Originally posted by Ashitaka:
In my experience 99% of the time people are having a hard time because of thier own stupidity.

So what do you propose? Stupid people are people too.
quote:
Originally posted by spungo:
Is it me or is there no suitable dating site for us... ummm... aesthetically challenged types.

Here spungo, try the one MacD found.
quote:
Originally posted by Mac D:
A simple Google search turned up a dating site for geeks.

As usual, I learn a lot by asking questions. I had no idea there were so many dating sites out there. I've only heard of a couple. But anyway, if not for reading the posts that prompted this question in the first place, I might have thought it a good way to meet potential mates. I like the idea of meeting people on line, especially people in far flung places. Perhaps the dating services aren't always the best venue for that though. Still, they apparently work for some types of people.
 
Posted by Astronomer Jedi (Member # 4699) on March 13, 2007, 19:09:
 
boo, forums are a much better place for meeting people from distant lands. [Razz]
 
Posted by nerdwithnofriends (Member # 3773) on March 13, 2007, 23:19:
 
quote:
Originally posted by boo:
quote:
Originally posted by nerdwithnofriends:

You are one of those 20%. Good luck and may God have mercy on your soul."


Are you pulling my leg?! They didn't actually say this, did they?

Yes, sans the 'god have mercy on your soul part'. I took creatie license with that [Smile]
 
Posted by boo (Member # 5991) on March 14, 2007, 16:42:
 
quote:
Originally posted by nerdwithnofriends:
quote:
Originally posted by boo:
quote:
Originally posted by nerdwithnofriends:

You are one of those 20%. Good luck and may God have mercy on your soul."


Are you pulling my leg?! They didn't actually say this, did they?

Yes, sans the 'god have mercy on your soul part'. I took creatie license with that [Smile]
Actually, you being single may very well be God's way of having mercy on your soul. [Big Grin]
 
Posted by ScholasticSpastic (Member # 6919) on March 14, 2007, 17:26:
 
I checked out MacD's find. It says they don't have anyone within 100 miles of my zip code. I believe them. Inbreeding precludes proper geekiness. I kept my age parameters pretty wide-open, too: 20-40. I think a lot of people fall within that range. Yup, I'm a typical male jerk: only willing to go nine years older, but I'll allow for eleven years younger...
 
Posted by stevenback7 (Member # 5114) on March 14, 2007, 17:56:
 
lol makes me very confident about my future seeing how a lot of you have resorted to using dating sites.
 
Posted by Sxeptomaniac (Member # 3698) on March 15, 2007, 08:53:
 
quote:
Originally posted by stevenback7:
lol makes me very confident about my future seeing how a lot of you have resorted to using dating sites.

I didn't "resort" to using dating sites. I do a lot of things online, so it seemed reasonable to at least give them a try.
 
Posted by Bifurcati (Member # 4885) on March 15, 2007, 19:50:
 
Another vote for OkCupid - I've met quite a few really cool people on there (no romance, although I haven't really been looking), and the matching system is awesome. The high matches I find are almost invariably cool people (at least by my standards - which I guess is the idea!)

RSVP is big in Oz (a friend just met someone through it who she absolutley adores) - but I've got to think that up to $8 to contact someone is pretty steep.
 
Posted by Reedius (Member # 7130) on March 18, 2007, 13:59:
 
I met a girl online the other day, we are both in the star was fan club of our country and i have been talking to her these days and i have found out that she is unbelievable! she's basically everything i ever wanted! and off course i'm kinda in love with her, platonic thing only cause we haven't met personally, but i kinda wish i didn't meet her baucause now i'm in a bit o pain baucause she lives far from me and she will go to another country in some months to study there. Online dating may seem nice but only if it is with people who live close to you if not it is painfull if you get emotionaly attached. [weep]
 
Posted by Astronomer Jedi (Member # 4699) on March 18, 2007, 17:10:
 
Reedius: join the club. [shake head] [hearts]
 
Posted by boo (Member # 5991) on March 23, 2007, 20:46:
 
2008. [Big Grin] Hang in there. [thumbsup]
 
Posted by TSG (Member # 8350) on May 13, 2007, 07:17:
 
(I'm new here. hi *wave*)

Eharmony did nothing for me. Match isn't doing any better. I've kind of gotten to the point where I'm about to give it up.

It's apparently too much to ask that someone be taller than me (I'm 5'9"), heavier than me (180+), and at least as smart as me, all while enjoying online gaming and general geekiness.

Nice to meet you all.
 
Posted by Just_Jess_B (Member # 2161) on May 13, 2007, 07:24:
 
quote:
Originally posted by TSG:
(I'm new here. hi *wave*)

Eharmony did nothing for me. Match isn't doing any better. I've kind of gotten to the point where I'm about to give it up.

It's apparently too much to ask that someone be taller than me (I'm 5'9"), heavier than me (180+), and at least as smart as me, all while enjoying online gaming and general geekiness.

Nice to meet you all.

Hey, toss up a "Hello" in the Other Geeky Stuff >> All About You!, and we'd love to see you posting regularly. There are some great men and women on geekculture.com (and some awful ones, too!).

Oh and . . . erm . . .< shameless whoring >buy my book? Pleeeeeeeeeeeeease? < /shameless whoring>

[Wink]
 
Posted by soulshine (Member # 5367) on May 13, 2007, 07:38:
 
I'm registered on www.okcupid.com, met some really nice people through it. Also a few mentalists.

I'd recommend it though [Smile]
 
Posted by spungo (Member # 1089) on May 13, 2007, 09:16:
 
quote:
Originally posted by soulshine:
Also a few mentalists.

"He's a mentalist." Ha ha -- very Alan Partridge. [Smile]
 
Posted by Rhonwyyn (Member # 2854) on May 13, 2007, 09:46:
 
TSG, I found a man on eHarmony, but it took more than two years. He's 6'1" and weighs about 265, is a math and sports geek, but sorry, he's all mine. They are out there, though. Just hang in there!
 
Posted by The Famous Druid (Member # 1769) on May 13, 2007, 14:45:
 
quote:
Originally posted by ScholasticSpastic:
I checked out MacD's find. It says they don't have anyone within 100 miles of my zip code. I believe them. Inbreeding precludes proper geekiness. I kept my age parameters pretty wide-open, too: 20-40.

Try changing your age preference to "12-16", that's sure to get you some kind of attention. [evil]
 
Posted by garlicguy (Member # 3166) on May 13, 2007, 17:51:
 
quote:
Originally posted by The Famous Druid:
quote:
Originally posted by ScholasticSpastic:
I checked out MacD's find. It says they don't have anyone within 100 miles of my zip code. I believe them. Inbreeding precludes proper geekiness. I kept my age parameters pretty wide-open, too: 20-40.

Try changing your age preference to "12-16", that's sure to get you some kind of attention. [evil]
Ah.... The voice of experience. Did they let you out for "Mother's Day" TFD? [Big Grin] [Big Grin]
 
Posted by boo (Member # 5991) on May 13, 2007, 22:12:
 
quote:
Originally posted by TSG:
(I'm new here. hi *wave*)

Eharmony did nothing for me. Match isn't doing any better. I've kind of gotten to the point where I'm about to give it up.

It's apparently too much to ask that someone be taller than me (I'm 5'9"), heavier than me (180+), and at least as smart as me, all while enjoying online gaming and general geekiness.

Nice to meet you all.

Hi TSG. *waves back* [Smile] Welcome.

Okay, this may be one of those painfully obvious things but, have you considered relaxing your requirements? I know a couple of tall ladies quite happily married to shorter guys. And due to their height, they may even outweigh the guys, come to think of it. [ohwell] It seems a shame you could miss out on someone great, just because of a physical issue.

Anyway, I hope you do find someone great, soon. And suitably geeky, of course. [Big Grin] [thumbsup]
 
Posted by TSG (Member # 8350) on May 14, 2007, 05:10:
 
quote:
Originally posted by boo:

Okay, this may be one of those painfully obvious things but, have you considered relaxing your requirements? I know a couple of tall ladies quite happily married to shorter guys. And due to their height, they may even outweigh the guys, come to think of it. [ohwell] It seems a shame you could miss out on someone great, just because of a physical issue.


I have in the past, yes. Even married one who was 2 inches shorter and 150 soaking wet.

I've kind of come to a point in my life now where there's not going to be any settling for me anymore [Big Grin]

Thanks for the warm welcome, y'all.
 
Posted by garlicguy (Member # 3166) on May 14, 2007, 12:09:
 
quote:
Originally posted by zesovietrussian:
Aren't dating sites full of lads who keep their prospective girlfriends in basement pits and make them put lotion on their skin?

So what's wrong with that?
 
Posted by soulshine (Member # 5367) on May 14, 2007, 13:13:
 
quote:
Originally posted by garlicguy:
quote:
Originally posted by zesovietrussian:
Aren't dating sites full of lads who keep their prospective girlfriends in basement pits and make them put lotion on their skin?

So what's wrong with that?
Plus, it's not lotion.
 


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