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Posted by Callipygous (Member # 2071) on November 20, 2006, 05:20:
 
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." Confucius 551 BC - 479 BC

"But now abideth faith, hope, love, these three; and the greatest of these is love." St Pauls Epistle to the Corinthians

"I get knocked down but I get up again, you're never going to keep me down." Chumbawumba Tubthumping 1997

I found that nugget from Confucius while looking for the darker celebration of shadenfreude that is my current sig. I suppose some people enjoy one long happy stroll though the sunny uplands of life, but if like me, your life has at least as many troughs as peaks, it is a consoling thought. The things that trip me up remain depressingly constant, as they are the personal demons and character flaws that will be with me until I breathe my last. However if I know I can't really shake that particular monkey off my back, so far I have always picked myself up again, though often I am not sure why or how. What is it that makes you pick yourself up, that fuels the hope in yourself?

For me the list would include:-

Boredom. It is dull being stuck anywhere but being stuck in a bad place is dreary dreary dullness.

My family. I am very fortunate to have had a wonderful loving family all around me, from my parents to my wife and my children. It would be a very cold world indeed without them.

Girls! I am as shallow as a puddle me, so it's girls rather than anything high minded that invariably cheer me up. Unfortunately I am not much good with men, and indeed the only ones I am at all close to are those in my family, but women of all ages sizes shapes and colours are just utterly wonderful. Small children too always brighten my day.

So what oils your cogs and kicks you back into gear?
 
Posted by business attire (Member # 6102) on November 20, 2006, 06:17:
 
boys flirting with me always makes me feel marvelous- but I think we all know that by now.

so other than that, green tea. and lots of it. particularly blended with toasted rice, or maybe cherry blossoms and peony.

also, shopping. typical woman, right?
 
Posted by Stereo (Member # 748) on November 20, 2006, 06:25:
 
Perfect moments. They happen every once a while. At some point, I just realize how beautiful is the view, how wonderful is the lighting (natural or not), and follows: how great it is to be alive and live all that.

Some songs also help me feel alive, be it by the music, or the words. They just seems to touch me and get me solidly back on my feet and ready to fight another battle, yet at the same time, I feel my soul expanding to the width of the universe.
 
Posted by skylar (Member # 1422) on November 20, 2006, 06:55:
 
My entire life has changed completely in the last month... and having gone through a considerable amount of suffering in that time, I feel as if I have come out on the other side as a rather different person.

Accordingly, I would have answered this question five weeks ago by telling you that it is unquestionably my best friend Mark who inspires me to keep on going, to see what is wonderful about the world.

But now I realise that Mark was the one who was making me miserable in the first place, telling me I'm ugly, graceless, idiotic, fat, pathetic, naive... and then making me feel as if I'd wronged him by daring to disagree, sometimes.

So now, I'd say that what kicks me into gear is clarity... finally, after a year of misery, realising that these things are just not true, and that I don't need people in my life who hurt me like that. I'm never going to see Mark again.

This is a huge wake-up call for me. And it's in no small part due to the fact that, finally, after avoiding it for years, I've begun a course of anti-depressants. Which feels like a step in the right direction.

And then there's my boyfriend Nick, and all my other friends. They prove to me time and again what the true meaning of friendship is. And for that I can't thank them enough.
 
Posted by Mel (Member # 3553) on November 20, 2006, 06:55:
 
I like to do artwork and craft, so after I finish something, I feel successful and happy.

I also love going to metal shows or rock concerts and going to parties where I can meet new people. Oh, and I also love to travel.

I don't know how these things give me hope - I guess I just anticipate for a good day after I do these things and enjoy life more?
 
Posted by Metasquares (Member # 4441) on November 20, 2006, 07:03:
 
Creating new things, even if they are thoughts or ideas, and looking back on them after they are complete and polished is quite a sustaining influence. It reaffirms my purpose in life.
 
Posted by Xanthine (Member # 736) on November 20, 2006, 08:20:
 
Forests and mountaintops keep me going. That and bicycling. Sometimes my commute is the best part of the day. Especially coming home, when I have this lovely long hill to descend.
 
Posted by uilleann (Member # 1297) on November 20, 2006, 08:57:
 
I think good music helps me a lot. Especially if it's upbeat and uplifting.
 
Posted by Jace Raven (Member # 2444) on November 20, 2006, 09:11:
 
quote:
Originally posted by business attire:
boys flirting with me always makes me feel marvelous- but I think we all know that by now.

so other than that, green tea. and lots of it. particularly blended with toasted rice, or maybe cherry blossoms and peony.

also, shopping. typical woman, right?

So... You come here often?

I like chicken, good coffee, reading and smoking a good cigar (I love Rocky Patel's Connecticut 1999 series) and just listening to some jazz or clasical typically because no matter what happens to me, I have to keep moving. I dont have a choice. I must not stop. So when I get a chance, I like to relax a little. That's what keeps me going. That and the smell of fresh cut grass in Southern California in the summer mornings. There is nothing like it. Or maybe it's just cause I'm mexican.
 
Posted by nerdwithnofriends (Member # 3773) on November 20, 2006, 09:18:
 
I like creating stuff- especially software. I don't publish much of the stuff I write cause most of it is useless to anybody besides me. But cool little programs/scripts like the one I wrote to execute non-interactive commands via text message from my cellphone on my computer are really cool- it's just nice to know that you made something work.

I also like idyllic scenes. Being in Montana, I have a unique requirement to travel at least 50 miles to get anywhere important. In fact, travelling from here (Butte) to another town called Dillon, I experienced one of the most perfect sunsets known to man. I enjoy travelling, and since driving doesn't give you much to do except think, seeing something so beautiful can really get you thinking.


I haven't been taking my romantic life too seriously lately; I'm kind of jaded on the whole female thing, so I really have no desire to be with any of them in a romantic setting. However, I've been ever more thankful about the friends I have, and the friends I'm making. I moved into a new dormroom with a kid I graduated from highschool with- but never talked to. He was always very popular, but he was also always very quiet. Living with him now, I find that he is one of the coolest guys I've ever met.

I also look forward more and more to the rare instances when my best friend and I get a chance to see each other and shoot the shit; he only lives 80 miles away, but he works pretty much all the time, so even if I get an opportunity to drive up and say hi, he's pretty much always busy. But he's one of the few people I can talk to about very personal issues, and we have so much history that being with him in person is just fscking hilarious- both for us and the people who are with us.
 
Posted by littlefish (Member # 966) on November 20, 2006, 11:49:
 
People Suck!
People Rock!

People in general annoy me, depress me and are generally rubbish. Specific people make me happy. They know who they are.

Beyond that, music cheers me up, but generally, unlike uillean, it's the downbeat depressing music that gets me through the day. The knowledge that I'm not alone - misery loves company - helps me to understand that however crap life is, someone else is doing worse.

As Gore Vidal once said - It is not enough to succeed, others must fail.
 
Posted by Steen (Member # 170) on November 20, 2006, 12:06:
 
Callipygous wrote:
What is it that makes you pick yourself up, that fuels the hope in yourself?

Usually, it's Faith.

That sounds odd, considering my views on relgion, but I can't help what her parents named her.
 
Posted by YaYawoman (Member # 4505) on November 20, 2006, 18:02:
 
Sometimes it is just plain old stubborn cussedness that keeps me rolling.

Sometimes it is realizing that there are many many people in the world who would love to trade lives, issues and problems with me if they could and it puts it in perspective.

Always my children. Not only the ususal mom-sap like hugs and smiles, but the knowledge that those 2 poor souls are dependent on me getting up and getting moving, no matter what.

And if all else fails, nothing like a good disaster end-of-life as we know it destruction movie/s to cheer me up.

Skylar:YAY! good for you.
 
Posted by Grummash (Member # 4289) on November 21, 2006, 10:57:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Callipygous:
So what oils your cogs and kicks you back into gear?

For me, it is those things that restore a sense of perspective. There is an old saying (I have forgotten the source) to the effect that, if all the people in the world put their troubles in one large pile to be shared equally, most people would be happy just to take their own back and leave quietly.

I find that reading a good newspaper can help me to realise when I am focussing too much on a single issue. There is a lot happening out there in the world and the vast majority of it passes me by because I live in a relatively safe country.

When I am stressing about possessions that are broken, borrowed and not returned, or too expensive for me to acquire, it will be things like a good storm, or watching a Magpie collect sticks for a nest, or seeing the full-moon rise, that will remind me that it is the simple, timeless things of the world that can restore calm in my mind and peace in my soul.

The support of loved ones is a bit of an obvious choice and so I will suggest, as an alternative, that simple acts of kindness or consideration from strangers can do wonders for one's belief in the fundamental goodness of the human species.

Never underestimate the healing qualities of a smile.

...and another "Yay!" to Skylar. [Big Grin]
 
Posted by skylar (Member # 1422) on November 21, 2006, 11:51:
 
[hearts] [Beard of Peter Gabriel!] [Smile]
 
Posted by Stereo (Member # 748) on November 21, 2006, 12:38:
 
Sky: if that Mark is responsible in any way for your long absence from GC, I'll have to ask UK's geeks if they care teaching him a lesson. (I'm a bit far for that.) Oh, and have I told you you're making me jealous, with all your recent happiness? [Wink] [thumbsup]
 
Posted by LoneWolf (Member # 4966) on November 21, 2006, 13:40:
 
Unwrapping a new Mac - even if it's not mine.
Makes me all warm and fuzzy.

Oh, and coffee...lots and lots of coffee!
 
Posted by skylar (Member # 1422) on November 21, 2006, 15:07:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Stereo:
Sky: if that Mark is responsible in any way for your long absence from GC, I'll have to ask UK's geeks if they care teaching him a lesson. (I'm a bit far for that.) Oh, and have I told you you're making me jealous, with all your recent happiness? [Wink] [thumbsup]

Thanks Stereo [Smile] . I've really missed hanging around here, and you're right, it was mostly the drama with Mark, and the lack of stability in my life that was keeping me away. So here's to me pestering you all a bit more often from now on [Wink] .
 
Posted by maximile (Member # 3446) on November 21, 2006, 15:27:
 
quote:
Originally posted by Stereo:
Sky: if that Mark is responsible in any way for your long absence from GC, I'll have to ask UK's geeks if they care teaching him a lesson. (I'm a bit far for that.)

Grummash and I could do a "good cop/bad cop" routine. [Big Grin]

The thing that keeps me going is my geekiest quality - a really strong desire to see what mankind will come up with in the future, how society will change, and how quickly technology will advance. And of course, that little hope that I might be able to make some contribution to that end.
 
Posted by zesovietrussian (Member # 1177) on November 21, 2006, 16:02:
 
"One more beer and heavy metal, and I'm just fine."

-Manowar
 
Posted by drunkennewfiemidget (Member # 2814) on November 22, 2006, 10:07:
 
porn.
 
Posted by business attire (Member # 6102) on November 24, 2006, 18:33:
 
quote:
Originally posted by drunkennewfiemidget:
porn.

I knew there was something I was forgetting.
add that to my list:
boys, tea, shopping, and porn.
 
Posted by Too Cool To Quit (Member # 2217) on November 25, 2006, 07:00:
 
A few things that work for me are music, immersion in new scenery/surroundings, girls and meditation.

I've found that when I'm really having a hard time with things, I can throw on my isolation phones, put on some drum and bass (less the drums) and sit on my throne and play until I've broken every stick in the house, or play some blues for a while on the guitar and it puts me in a better mood.

And if that doesn't work, I can find new scenery. I've found that bad feelings are connected with everything you smell, hear, feel, etc, etc, when you feel bad. If I start to get depressed again, I change my clothes, stop going to the places I feel depressed at, start listening to a new style of music, all for a little while, just to put a new spin on things to remind me that life isn't one long monotonous train. Then usually I can return to that place that depressed me strong and happy enough to not become depressed again, looking back on whatever it was that depressed me as just another chapter.

Girls work. Note, I didn't say sex. Boys, they typically either have the same problems as myself, which depresses me further, or they just don't have/talk about their own problems. If I get around girls then I get away from being a boy. There are a few of them that I turn to, I'll let them tell me about their problems, and give my advice to them (They are usually younger and a mite less experienced at being a teenager compared to myself, and a mite more closer to being their age than their parents and I typically give really good advice) while I'm doing their hair, they are putting make up on me (hey, that's what ~14 year old girls like to do to me, I can't stop them) whatever, it usually leads to insight with my own problems, and helps me to figure them out.

Meditation is one of those obvious ones. It's usually the typical practice of reminding one self that you are part of everything else and the only thing that makes you different is that you are experiencing it with eyes, ears, etc, etc. And how when you look at it on a molecular level it's very difficult to tell us apart from the air surrounding us. That and the whole "everything you experience is just a bunch of electrical currents moving about frantically in an endless sea" helps me stay "out of this world" and the best way to deal with this world is to be out of it.


All those things keep me going.

P.S.

I forget that occasional (as in, only several times a day) joint that I light up. That helps me stay out of this world too. [Wink]

P.S. 2

It also occurs to me that my system is one of convincing myself that this life is a combination of blocking everything out, then turning around and convincing myself that life is priceless and valueless at the same time. Some of my logic is a bit botched, but then again, all of my logic is botched.
 
Posted by CommanderShroom (Member # 2097) on November 25, 2006, 09:14:
 
Hope...

Nope no hope. Hope is for sissies.

I just wave around my middle finger and taunt the world that would like to see me crash and burn.

A big ol "fsck you world!"

They'll never take me alive
 


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