|
Author
|
Topic: Confession...
|
geekygoddess
Highlie
Member # 15702
Member Rated:
|
posted December 17, 2009 19:16
So I will be the first one to admit it....I am a BAD breaker upper! The post from Bull3t has really got me thinking. The last few guys I have dated I have ended them all via email...I have issues with facing my break up in the eyes...what is my deal? Is there a good way to break up? Ughhghg...
--------------------
"It is better to press ones shirt, than ones luck"- Confucius
Posts: 661 | From: Edinburgh, United Kingdom | Registered: Mar 2008
| IP: Logged
|
|
Ashitaka
SuperFan!
Member # 4924
Member Rated:
|
posted December 18, 2009 00:12
So now is the question, will you do it differently next time?
--------------------
"If they're not gonna make a distinction between Muslims and violent extremists, then why should I take the time to distinguish between decent, fearful white people and racists?"
-Assif Mandvi
Posts: 3004 | From: Switzerland | Registered: Feb 2006
| IP: Logged
|
|
geekygoddess
Highlie
Member # 15702
Member Rated:
|
posted December 18, 2009 04:18
Wow...Ash...can I take a pass on that question? I honestly don't know. At least I did not break up on a post it note...could be worse I suppose...
--------------------
"It is better to press ones shirt, than ones luck"- Confucius
Posts: 661 | From: Edinburgh, United Kingdom | Registered: Mar 2008
| IP: Logged
|
|
Snaggy
Sir Snaggalot!
Member # 123
Member Rated:
|
posted December 18, 2009 09:48
Here's my quick guide to break up.
-It's got to be face to face for the actual deed. If there was a ton of anger before-hand, wait.
-If that is impossible, use the phone.
-If that is impossible, write a letter. Hand written. Fedex it. (Works especially well for ex-to-be's named John or Jane.)
-avoid IM and email at all costs. It's too easy to misinterpret things, or even for emails to be lost, forwarded, or posted publicly.
-video conference?... hmmm, that might count as face to face, I'm not sure.
Please note: I haven't broken up with anyone since before email and IM was invented.
![[Razz]](tongue.gif)
Posts: 7680 | From: Canada | Registered: Jan 2000
| IP: Logged
|
|
TMBWITW,PB
Member # 1734
Member Rated:
|
posted December 18, 2009 11:18
If it's a serious enough relationship to require an official "break up", then yeah it should be face-to-face. Barring of course situations where doing so would put someone at risk. No one should break up with an abusive partner in person. ![[Eek!]](eek.gif)
--------------------
"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and it may be necessary from time to time to give a stupid or misinformed beholder a black eye."
—Miss Piggy
Posts: 4006 | From: my couch | Registered: Oct 2002
| IP: Logged
|
|
Stereo
Solid Nitrozanium SuperFan!
Member # 748
Member Rated:
|
posted December 18, 2009 13:38
I must apologise. I know I shouldn't write what I will write, but those stupid hormones are hardly controlables, as my brain isn't used to them yet. I just hope it will get better over time.
quote:
Originally posted by TMBWITW,PB:
No one should break up with an abusive partner in person.
Of course not. You do it through police. ![[evil]](graemlins/evil.gif)
--------------------
Eppur, si muove!
Galileo Galilei
Posts: 2286 | From: Gatineau, Quebec, Canada | Registered: Apr 2001
| IP: Logged
|
|
geekygoddess
Highlie
Member # 15702
Member Rated:
|
posted December 18, 2009 14:04
OK..what if you live miles and miles away from one another..do you drive that far to break up and then turn back around? AKWARD!
Posts: 661 | From: Edinburgh, United Kingdom | Registered: Mar 2008
| IP: Logged
|
|
TheMoMan
BlabberMouth, a Blabber Odyssey
Member # 1659
Member Rated:
|
posted December 18, 2009 14:34
____ Please read Snaggys reply especially lines four/five.
--------------------
If it don't glow it ain't Ham Radio
Posts: 5072 | From: Just South of the Huron National Forest, in the water shed of the Rifle River | Registered: Sep 2002
| IP: Logged
|
|
GrumpySteen
Solid Nitrozanium SuperFan
Member # 170
|
posted December 18, 2009 14:38
That depends. Are there any fun-looking tourist attractions there or along the way?
--------------------
Worst. Celibate. Ever.
Posts: 6291 | From: Tennessee | Registered: Jan 2000
| IP: Logged
|
|
geekygoddess
Highlie
Member # 15702
Member Rated:
|
posted December 20, 2009 07:51
It's official..I am the devil! While at a party, I brought this topic up, even the coldest of hearts agreed to never break up over email or text. So, for my New Year's resolution I decided to at least phone break up with my next ex boyfriend, or become celebate like Steeny:) I had no idea how tacky I was...
Posts: 661 | From: Edinburgh, United Kingdom | Registered: Mar 2008
| IP: Logged
|
|
Ashitaka
SuperFan!
Member # 4924
Member Rated:
|
posted December 20, 2009 09:43
quote:
Originally posted by geekygoddess:
It's official..I am the devil! While at a party, I brought this topic up, even the coldest of hearts agreed to never break up over email or text. So, for my New Year's resolution I decided to at least phone break up with my next ex boyfriend, or become celebate like Steeny:) I had no idea how tacky I was...
tacky wouldn't be the adjective i would use.
--------------------
"If they're not gonna make a distinction between Muslims and violent extremists, then why should I take the time to distinguish between decent, fearful white people and racists?"
-Assif Mandvi
Posts: 3004 | From: Switzerland | Registered: Feb 2006
| IP: Logged
|
|
Mr. Geek 2U
Geek
Member # 28663
Member Rated:
|
posted December 22, 2009 17:15
Ms. Geeky Goddess of All,
I salute you!
Not only are you the smartest woman in Tennessee History, but you are very, very brave.
Hoo-Rah! I mean it.
Here you go thinking you did something bad, or shameful, or worse (no offence, I vote for worse), but you put it all on the line.
Or on line. Right here on the world wide web for all the internets to see!
Very brave. Very! Yes-madam, indeedy!
Wow!
I tried to send you my deepest respects here in your geeky mail, but it is full! Clean it out and I will say to you in person that you are brave and SMART!
You go girl!
BUT!
You may be brave. But you seem so sad. It hurts to read your post-it notes here in the geek petrie culture.
Pseudomonas? Gram negative? I do not know.
You break up with your loves with instant breakfast internets. One after another, after another. Just like candy.
And I read you are planning on breaking up with your next lover who you have not even met. Oh my! If he reads here and desires you he is a silly man. Or a mast-o-christ!
Sad. Sad. Sad. I cry for you. Really.
You seem all bundled up and tight and afraid. Tears. All your loves die like leaves in autumn.
Run. Run. Run. From love. BREAK UP is the only way.
Some where. Some how. Somebody must have kicked you around some. (I read that in a song!) But it seems to fit, no offence, please!
Maybe try not breaking up and not keeping your heart in a tupperware box neat and tidy in the refrigerator? Try?
I say if you meet a man who lives far away to love him. Then you should meet him to say you do not love him. Is all.
None of my business, but you seem so real. I try to help! Please us-derstand, can you?
I say this because I think of Mrs. Geek 2Me! this year.
Better or Worse she promised.
There has been better. There has been lots of worse.
This year she got three times worse! Really.
Once was my cancer. And my surgery.
Bad. Bad. Bad.
When I got out of surgery she was there. Always. And she had two worses before that this year!
I had bags hanging everywhere. Tubes stuck in everything. And the one thing that did not have a tube, I could not reach and she reached it for me.
Gross-Toasties!
Love is not easy. But when it is true it is worth it.
Think of Mr. Druid and his sick wife and their tears. And their joys. And their chilluns. And the chilluns joys and tears.
True love.
Everything else is just practice until you find yours.
Practice hard and good.
Be ready.
Have a great day!
Mr. Geek 2U!
--------------------
My friends call me Skippy
Posts: 242 | From: Kalamazoo | Registered: Aug 2009
| IP: Logged
|
|
bull3t
Assimilated
Member # 852
Member Rated:
|
posted December 26, 2009 07:28
--------------------
GC's Mosthated.
"I don’t care if people hate my guts; I assume most of them do. The important question is whether they are in a position to do anything about it." -William S Burroughs
Posts: 435 | From: Ogden, UT | Registered: Aug 2001
| IP: Logged
|
|
|
UBBFriend: Email this page to someone!
Printer-friendly view of this topic
