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Sxeptomaniac

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Icon 1 posted August 05, 2005 17:14      Profile for Sxeptomaniac   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Eight years ago I met this girl at a summer camp, where we both were employed. As it turns out, she was a student at the small University I would be transferring to that fall. I wasn't immediately attracted to her, but over the next year and a half, we got to know each other pretty well, and I found myself more drawn to her. Unfortunately for me, when I brought up the possibility of dating, she felt that we should just be friends.

So I (after some time and effort) buried my feelings, and we became close friends for the next 6 years. We’ve generally been living 150-200 miles apart once we had graduated from college, but called each other frequently, and we would get together when possible. She's a high school biology teacher now, and spends a lot of time grading and preparing lessons.

Then, in the last month, things changed.

I had been getting some odd signals from her the last time we had hung out together, but was very unsure of how to bring it up. A few weeks back, I called her after returning from my vacation, and she ended up saying that she had reconsidered being "just friends" and wanted to try dating. I was at a loss for words, but managed to stumble through agreeing that I would like to do that as well.

To sum up, I suddenly have found myself in a dating relationship with a girl I was forced to give up on being anything more than friends with about 6 years ago.

We have since gone to my high school reunion together, but this coming weekend, I'm heading up to meet her for our first date with just the two of us. I haven't done a lot of dating in the past, and I'm fairly certain she hasn't dated much, either.

I know I'm asking for it, but:
Any thoughts/suggestions? [Wink]

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Icon 1 posted August 05, 2005 17:20      Profile for garlicguy   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Make her your best friend in life.

Then marry her.

End of sermon.

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Nothing more than the standard beer/nudity thang.

Oh, you might want to try some flowers when you pick her up, too.

Other than that, may the force be with you.

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quote:
Originally posted by garlicguy:
Make her your best friend in life.

Then marry her.

End of sermon.

My god I couldn't have put that better, its amazing what a great friendship can do, there is always gonna be a wonderful chance to make a move, and since she is already comfortable with you, things will move a lot easier

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Icon 1 posted August 06, 2005 11:56      Profile for Sxeptomaniac   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
quote:
Originally posted by garlicguy:
Make her your best friend in life.

Then marry her.

End of sermon.

Sounds like a plan to me. [Big Grin]

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Make it last forever. Good Luck. I hope everything turns out to be what you have always expected.

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Be relaxed, enjoy her company, and just take it as it goes.
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Icon 1 posted August 10, 2005 22:14      Profile for Video Game Widow   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Flowers can be over-rated... I would suggest a single rose and something more personalized, something that shows that you have paid attention to what she has told you about herself..

But thats just my 2 cents!

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Hey all y'all!

I really don't like roses. Some see them as the flower of love and passion, but I dont really do so. Having read the texts from Richard Strauss' and Hugo von Hofmannsthal's opera "Der Rosenkavalier" (means roughly something like "the rose-bringing-gentleman", I realized that a rose doesn't really stand for love and passion.
For me at least, it symbolizes momentariness....

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Icon 1 posted August 11, 2005 09:10      Profile for Sxeptomaniac   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Well, I know her favorite flower is the Sweet Pea, but finding those gets a little difficult. [ohwell]

Edit:
I was thinking about sending these, though:
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quote:
Originally posted by Sxeptomaniac:
Well, I know her favorite flower is the Sweet Pea, but finding those gets a little difficult. [ohwell]

Edit:
I was thinking about sending these, though:
[pic]

That's perdy.
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Those flowers are pretty, but I'm a fan of potted plants. Like infatuation, cut flowers die quickly. Potted plants, when tended with the care and nurturing mirrored in a healthy relationship, should last, like the relationship, practically forever.

(And you won't be throwing away your money. A xeriscape--cactus garden--can be pretty and really low-maintenance if she hasn't a green thumb. [Wink] )

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quote:
Originally posted by Rhonwyyn:
Those flowers are pretty, but I'm a fan of potted plants. Like infatuation, cut flowers die quickly.

Not neededly. You can root cut flowers... At least roses. To do this:
- Cut a length of the stem between two budeyes, preferably under water
- Have two leaves (for roses the two should have five leaflets on each of the leaves (dr seven depending on species))
- Prepare a ziplock bag large enough for the cutting, with soil
- Water the soil in the bag to sateration, but not so much that it "gives" water when squeezed
- Cut a "heel" on the base
- Apply rooting powder (or perform the graft) to the base of the cut
- Quickly put the root in the soil, and roll up the sides of the bag
- Mist the rose with a spray bottle and then zip the top from the edges to the center, leaving an inch in the middle
- Use the open inch to inflate the bag (where there is no soil) like a balloon
- Place the bag in bright, constant, indirect light untill roots appear at the bottom of the bag... (8 days to 3 months) ...try not to disturb the cutting too much
- Mist with spray bottle everyday, and reinflate, again trying not to disturb the plant or the roots. Cut off any blossoms that might try to grow.
- After roots are seen at the bottom of the bag, open the bag an inch and check every hour for one day. If the plant wilts or tips at all, close the bag and wait another couple days and try again.
- If the plant did well when the bag was open for a day, open the bag another inch, and watch a second day. If any problems close bag (reinflate and mist) and wait another day
- If the plant doesn't wilt or tilt at all, then open the bag, and fold the sides down, using the bag like a pot for the small plant. Leave it like this for 8 days.
- If the plant is still well, transplat it to a bigger pot.

Not to mention:
- Drying (hand upside down by the stem in a warm dry place)
- Pressing (placing in the pages of a book
- Wax Dipping (dip in melted parfin for a second, spin, and lift. Let cool a second, and repeat)
- Wax Pressing (fold wax paper over the flower, press it with a book for just a second, then iron the wax paper to itself arround the rose)

quote:
Potted plants, when tended with the care and nurturing mirrored in a healthy relationship,
More so with propagating a from a clipping... Only be careful not to propagate a copywriten rose.

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should last, like the relationship, practically forever.
Most potted plants aren't going to last forever. Maybe a few years, but not forever. You'll need a hardy plant that is capable of being planted (which a propagated rose will be, after being potted untill it's strong enough) if taken care of properly.

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(And you won't be throwing away your money. A xeriscape--cactus garden--can be pretty and really low-maintenance if she hasn't a green thumb. [Wink] )
Ah, even roses don't take a lot of plant knowledge... Water every morning, deadhead, pestcontrol, repeat ad naussium...

The hard part is propagation and hybridization... Which I've yet to do, but have been reading about, because we learned we have rootstock growing in our yard, and as soon as Sping comes again, I'll be dabbling in the rose "dark arts." [Wink]

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Icon 1 posted August 11, 2005 16:49      Profile for Sxeptomaniac   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Well, I think she probably will probably like an arrangement better, in this case. Choices of delivered potted plants are limited, and for me to try and take a potted plant to her is risky in this weather (if I need to stop for a rest, the interior of a car can hit 110 or 120 degrees (F) in no time, so any flowers on the plant would be in less-than-ideal condition, even if the plant survives).

Besides, she typically enjoys seeing a variety of flowers, in my experience, and she has a flower press if she decides she wants to preserve any.

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quote:
Originally posted by Video Game Widow:
I would suggest a single rose and something more personalized, something that shows that you have paid attention to what she has told you about herself..

But thats just my 2 cents!

Let's say she told you she's into musuems, find an interesting musuem that she's never been to, and take her there. But before hand do a little Google Searching and read up on the artists, that way there's no akward silences.

Just let the conversation flow.

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Hey, what's wrong with awkward silences? [Wink]

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quote:
Originally posted by spungo:




raydreams, is that you?? [evil]
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Awkward silences aren't usually much of a problem, fortunately. She and I have always found it really easy to talk to each other.

I guess since this thread has returned, I should mention I did end up sending the flowers I mentioned above. Work had been particularly stressful for her, so I sent them to the school to cheer her up. She really liked them, and it apparently was big news around the campus. [Cool] (It's pretty shocking for high school students to find out their teacher has a life outside of school. [Wink] )


quote:
Originally posted by spungo:

Actually, Spungo, I find your silence less awkward than your usual posts. [Razz] [Wink]

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quote:
Originally posted by Jessycat:
quote:
Originally posted by spungo:




raydreams, is that you?? [evil]
All I can say is... LOL

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HI all
Im new on here today and just read your post Sxeptomaniac
hope it works out for you
Iv meet a few girls in my time (non of them geeky in anyway ) [shake head]
and cos of this I always seen to get bored of them
after a while
its not helped my the fact that wakefield (where I live ) is like a geek void

but about 3 weeks ago I was down the pub with a friend talking about girls and what we find attractive
when I said that I find geeky/quirky girls REALLY attractive
he then told me about a girl he knows whos having the same problem meeting the right person
I said so whats she like and he said " shes a geek " I was like GOOD GOD MAN...I HAVE TO MEET THIS GEEK GODDESS ( he also said shes slim and average hight )

anyway Im meeting her tomorrow at a fancy dress party AND I CANT WAIT [Applause] [Big Grin] [crazy] [Applause]

well just thought Id share this with you all
wish me luck

oh yeah Im going a batman by the way

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err I missed an F of my sig [Confused]

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quote:
but this coming weekend, I'm heading up to meet her for our first date with just the two of us. [/QB]
Rawk on, and I wish you the best of luck. I believe in fate.
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quote:
Originally posted by shane_the_god_of_my_room:
HI all
Im new on here today and just read your post Sxeptomaniac
hope it works out for you
Iv meet a few girls in my time (non of them geeky in anyway ) [shake head]
and cos of this I always seen to get bored of them
after a while
its not helped my the fact that wakefield (where I live ) is like a geek void

but about 3 weeks ago I was down the pub with a friend talking about girls and what we find attractive
when I said that I find geeky/quirky girls REALLY attractive
he then told me about a girl he knows whos having the same problem meeting the right person
I said so whats she like and he said " shes a geek " I was like GOOD GOD MAN...I HAVE TO MEET THIS GEEK GODDESS ( he also said shes slim and average hight )

anyway Im meeting her tomorrow at a fancy dress party AND I CANT WAIT [Applause] [Big Grin] [crazy] [Applause]

well just thought Id share this with you all
wish me luck

oh yeah Im going a batman by the way

I hate you....bah....I hate you... [Frown]

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ok well you can stop hating me now

the party was great
my batman outfit was great
but the girl I was meeting .....well...
she just got REALLY drunk [Eek!]

that put me off abit

Iv met her since that night
and shes a really nice girl.......but

theres something about her that makes me think
Ill be single for a while longer [ohwell]
and besides that shes moving over 200 miles
away for 3 years in about 5 month

but hey the more girls I meet and befriend
the more girlfriends they will have for me to meet
[evil] [evil] [evil]

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