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ChemGeek
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Icon 1 posted December 12, 2004 21:49      Profile for ChemGeek     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
During a trip to the Museum of Science and Industry in Chicago (sponsored by the chem club) this one chick was flirting with me. And I occaionally flirted back. I think by doing so I may have opened pandora's box. It's looking like she likes me quite a bit. However, she is not the brightest crayon in the box, but very nice. I've been told I have too high of standards (intellect and sense of humor wise, I am a geek after all.) So should I just go ahead and lower them and see what happens?

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Icon 1 posted December 12, 2004 22:46      Profile for The Famous Druid     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Her name is Pandora ? [evil]

You'll never know if you don't have a go.

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Icon 3 posted December 12, 2004 23:18      Profile for Twinkle Toes   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Consider the following:

If high intellect and a strong sense of humour are that important to you, do you think she could ever hold those kinds of conversations with you?

Do the responses she provides now satisfy your interest, or is it just the fact of having her attention that does?

Are the people who told you your standards were too high currently* involved in relationships of their own? If so, do[es] theirs seem happy and worth-while/purposeful?


* It's important that they be in a relationship right now or at least had long-lasting relationships in the past (a couple of years at least). Frequent dating is evidence their standards are too low.

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Icon 1 posted December 12, 2004 23:25      Profile for Twinkle Toes   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
quote:
Originally posted by The Famous Druid:
You'll never know if you don't have a go.

The "just do it" philosophy serves its purpose in logical situations, but Love defies logic. Of course, it all depends on what you settle for: Ms. Right ('love') or Ms. Right Now ('like').
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Cap'n Vic

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quote:
Originally posted by ChemGeek:
During a trip to the Museum of Science and Industry in Chicago (sponsored by the chem club) this one chick was flirting with me.

I find your penchant for poultry disturbing.

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quote:
Originally posted by Cap'n Vic:
quote:
Originally posted by ChemGeek:
During a trip to the Museum of Science and Industry in Chicago (sponsored by the chem club) this one chick was flirting with me.

I find your penchant for poultry disturbing.
Yet you say nothing about spungo [Wink] [Razz]

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I would have to say that after a wile people grow on each other. I also found that people are usually good at least at one thing or another. If you find someone with the same intrests that you have I think it would make it rather boring. After all they say (I really don't know who "They" are. Or maybe us here on the forums are "They"?) Opposites attract. I don't think it would hurt anything to at least try something new even if it doesn't fit what you think is perfect. And another thing (In case you wanted to know) The perfect person is not out there for anyone. I know that sounds bad. I'm married and She's not perfect, She's great I love her to pieces, But I have a problem with her career. The main reson is that she could get hurt. Being married to a cop is not the most comforting thing.

So there is my rant for the day. I think you should test the waters, Take her for a test drive or what ever you want to call it. I wouldn't say go alope with her but how are you going to know if you 2 click if you don't at least give it a chance. There will always be others out there if it doesn't work and if you don't you might end up thinking "What if".

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Icon 1 posted December 13, 2004 05:38      Profile for ChemGeek     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Thanks.

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Icon 1 posted December 13, 2004 06:09      Profile for Black Widow     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
I have lowered my standards in the past. Thought that similar interests could make me happy when intelligence and intellectually-stimulating conversation were lacking. I was terribly wrong. While I like to be attracted to someone physically, more importantly they must "turn on" my mind too.

Anyway, my suggestion would be that you don't lower your standards unless you're just looking for a pretty girl to hang on your arm, and you'll get your good conversation somewhere else.

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Icon 1 posted December 13, 2004 07:17      Profile for drunkennewfiemidget     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Don't ever lower your standards. You've set your standards because you've decided on what's OK for you and what's not. They're probably there for a reason.

You'll regret it.

My $0.02.

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Icon 1 posted December 13, 2004 09:09      Profile for ChemGeek     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
quote:
Originally posted by Black Widow:
I have lowered my standards in the past. Thought that similar interests could make me happy when intelligence and intellectually-stimulating conversation were lacking. I was terribly wrong. While I like to be attracted to someone physically, more importantly they must "turn on" my mind too.

Anyway, my suggestion would be that you don't lower your standards unless you're just looking for a pretty girl to hang on your arm, and you'll get your good conversation somewhere else.



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Icon 1 posted December 13, 2004 09:12      Profile for ChemGeek     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
oops, hit the wrong button.

I gues that's the real question though. Do I just want someone to hang on my arm to show off to my friends, or am I looking for more.

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Icon 1 posted December 13, 2004 16:09      Profile for CommanderShroom     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
quote:
Originally posted by ChemGeek:
During a trip to the Museum of Science and Industry in Chicago (sponsored by the chem club

First, pardon my ignorance. If she wasn't the sharpest tack on the bulletin board, why was she there? Getting out of a class?

I know some of my lower brow friends would not find a trip like that worth the effort. Could it be that she is more a frazzled type than just a dope? And if you didn't find her worthwhile, why were you flirtiung?

Sounds like she had something, and not just a nice rack. She could be less intelligent than yourself, that wouldn't mean that she has no intelligence.

If your posting this, then there is something. Hang out with her and if you find that she can't keep you on your toes then forget it. Otherwise....

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Icon 1 posted December 13, 2004 17:06      Profile for TMBWITW,PB     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
The real question is, are you interested in dating her? There is no law that says everytime you date you must look for a potential spouse. I would never have started dating Josh if I was only looking for something serious. And look at us now. We've been married for a year and a half, and on Wednesday we will have been together for four years. As long as you both know that you are going out for fun there is no harm in a casual relationship. (Note: casual dating is cool, casual sex is something else, imho.) And if nothing else, you'll have a few laughs and acquire a few more stories to tell.

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Peebs is right. In addition do you really know what kind of person you are looking for? And intelligence takes more than one form, she may have more to say for herself than you realise, even if she is not as academically able as yourself. Try to avoid being an intellectual snob.

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Icon 1 posted December 14, 2004 08:52      Profile for ChemGeek     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
First off, I really am not an intellectual snob. over half my friends arent as academically able. I am sensitive to their feeling about that. I also ave a good idea of the qualities i look for.

I think I'm going to politely tell her that she's really not my type. A couple people here have said don't compromise and one of my friends here at school said the same thing. She said i shouldnt sell out my own standards because someone takes an interest in me. I find myself agreeing. Thanks for all the imput. This is my first time ever really using a forum for this kind of stuff, it was actually helpful. Thanks again.

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ChemGeek______She would not have been on the trip if she did not have an interest in things Geek. Not all geeks express them selves with great elloquence but does that detract from their being geeky? As to your friends are they involved with someone or are they trying to keep you from getting involved (level the field) are you sure that they would not date or be seen with this young lady? What were your motives when you started flirting with this lass? If it was just an EGO trip then tell her that you still need to grow up.

This is from an old man, you only get so many chances to grab the brass ring are you sure that you want to pass this by?

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Hmmm...settling never seems like a good idea to me. Neither does lowering one's standards. I wouldn't over-analyze things though. They'll get all messy and complicated that way. Next time you see her, if you feel like you want to pursue it..then listen to your instincts. If not..then so be it. I wouldn't stress it. Good luck to ya.
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Gee, youth is wasted on the young. I mean you're not going to marry her or anything. Take the Wizard's advice to Travis Bickle in Taxi Driver, "Go on, have fun, get laid."
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______Whoa never go to bed with some one that you would not consider as a mate, or you could end up paying child support for the next eighteen years!

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quote:
Originally posted by TheMoMan:
______Whoa never go to bed with some one that you would not consider as a mate, or you could end up paying child support for the next eighteen years!

24 if the child goes to collage.

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Cap'n Vic

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quote:
Originally posted by Mac D:
quote:
Originally posted by TheMoMan:
______Whoa never go to bed with some one that you would not consider as a mate, or you could end up paying child support for the next eighteen years!

24 if the child goes to collage.
Where did you go to collage ?

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quote:
Originally posted by Cap'n Vic:
quote:
Originally posted by Mac D:
quote:
Originally posted by TheMoMan:
______Whoa never go to bed with some one that you would not consider as a mate, or you could end up paying child support for the next eighteen years!

24 if the child goes to collage.
Where did you go to collage ?
You should know you where the one teaching the classes

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quote:
Originally posted by Mac D:
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Originally posted by Cap'n Vic:
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Originally posted by Mac D:
quote:
Originally posted by TheMoMan:
______Whoa never go to bed with some one that you would not consider as a mate, or you could end up paying child support for the next eighteen years!

24 if the child goes to collage.
Where did you go to collage ?
You should know you where the one teaching the classes
I "where" the one.....

Oh, this is just too easy [Roll Eyes]

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quote:
Originally posted by Cap'n Vic:
quote:
Originally posted by Mac D:
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Originally posted by Cap'n Vic:
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Originally posted by Mac D:
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Originally posted by TheMoMan:
______Whoa never go to bed with some one that you would not consider as a mate, or you could end up paying child support for the next eighteen years!

24 if the child goes to collage.
Where did you go to collage ?
You should know you where the one teaching the classes
I "where" the one.....

Oh, this is just too easy [Roll Eyes]

Eye think ewe mist the joke their Cap'n.

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