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abi
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Icon 5 posted September 01, 2004 17:04      Profile for abi     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Hi,
I am just starting high school and I am in French one. There is this sophmore in my class named martin and he is really really cute. (dare I say hot) well I always catch him looking at me and so does my friend april. Then when we go to lunch because we have a split class he is always right behind me. I know that sounds like it is a couisidence but I am always on time and the one day I wait to leave class he does too. That has to mean something right? Well anyway I want to know how I can tell if he likes me and also is there something I can say to him I mean just to start convorsation other than hi. I mean what if I say hi and he says hi and then there is just an uncomfortable silence

PLEASE HELP ME

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Icon 1 posted September 01, 2004 17:38      Profile for MacManKrisK     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Well, you could start by *not* posting three identical
threads!!!

That's a sure-fire way to get off to a bad bad bad start around the Geek Culture forums! We don't much like that kind of thing around here, and I think I'd be safe to assume that many see it as trollish behavior. [thumbsdown]

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Icon 1 posted September 01, 2004 22:33      Profile for Too Cool To Quit     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Putting the possibility of her being a troll aside, I will give my 2 cents.

The guy most obviously likes you. There is no doubt about it. But, just starting a conversation might startle him. Definitely don't start out saying "Do you like me?" Try getting your friend April to ask him if anything. [Wink] Maybe then you could try talking to him.

Edit: uhm... better late than never?

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Icon 1 posted September 01, 2004 23:10      Profile for Allan     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
I'm no expert but here's my 2 cents; just be natural and non commital. Say something like Hi Martin, how are you today? notice it's a question, which requires a response. It's good manners for the person who you ask to repeat the question back, so he'll say something like Yes, I'm good. How are you?. You now reply completing this conversation cycle and giving you the opportunity of starting another.

Now this is where you say something like yes, I'm ok. class was really boring but I'm looking forward to going to the movies tonight* this is good because he should ask you what you are going to see and should get you into a whole what's on at the movies conversation. If he doesn't ask you what you will be seeing, it's almost certain he isn't interested.

* this can be a complete lie, just knowing what's on is enough. if you get asked the next day if you enjoyed it you can always say that your mom asked you to stay home.

anyway good luck [Wink]

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Icon 1 posted September 02, 2004 01:59      Profile for fishd     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
quote:
Originally posted by Too Cool To Quit:
Try getting your friend April to ask him if anything. Maybe then you could try talking to him.

Argh ! I'm in a my-friend-fancies-you nightmare flashback! [blush]

It's a tricky situation to be sure and I recall with somewhat less than fond memories my hopeless attempts at communicating with the opposite sex at that age so the main piece of advice I can offer is this: Talk to him or don't talk to him, just remember that whatever happens - life DOES go on.

There are a million million(*) possible things that can happen after you do (or don't) and some of them can be bad, but most of them will be good and you can even look at the bad ones later in life and laugh about them.

I guess at the end of the day what I am trying to tell you here is "don't sweat it". Bad things do happen in life and although this may seem like a really huge thing that has the potential to crush you forever, you have to step back, breathe and realise it won't.

Whatever happens, good luck!

*Probably more but my maths & philosophy suck before my morning coffee(**)

**Ok, so they suck after my cup of coffee too.

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Icon 1 posted September 02, 2004 02:09      Profile for csk     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
I really don't see how you can go wrong simply striking up a conversation with him. It's not as if you're confessing your undying love, or something. If he's not the sort of guy that will respond to polite conversation, then it's a bit of a worry in the first place.

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Icon 1 posted September 02, 2004 02:37      Profile for Patrick   Author's Homepage         Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Sounds like a stalker to me. Or a perve if he's leaving for class BEHIND you all the time. I'd keep that pepper spray close to you.

But in the case he's just shy... well, I say give some eye contact to show that you're interested. Smile. If you need something to talk about: Talk about class. That's a good icebreaker.

-Pat answers

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Icon 1 posted September 02, 2004 05:05      Profile for Too Cool To Quit     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
quote:
Originally posted by fishd:
quote:
Originally posted by Too Cool To Quit:
Try getting your friend April to ask him if anything. Maybe then you could try talking to him.

Argh ! I'm in a my-friend-fancies-you nightmare flashback! [blush]

It's a tricky situation to be sure and I recall with somewhat less than fond memories my hopeless attempts at communicating with the opposite sex at that age so the main piece of advice I can offer is this: Talk to him or don't talk to him, just remember that whatever happens - life DOES go on.

There are a million million(*) possible things that can happen after you do (or don't) and some of them can be bad, but most of them will be good and you can even look at the bad ones later in life and laugh about them.

I guess at the end of the day what I am trying to tell you here is "don't sweat it". Bad things do happen in life and although this may seem like a really huge thing that has the potential to crush you forever, you have to step back, breathe and realise it won't.

Whatever happens, good luck!

*Probably more but my maths & philosophy suck before my morning coffee(**)

**Ok, so they suck after my cup of coffee too.

Oh come now, you don't really think I was serious, do you?

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Icon 1 posted September 02, 2004 06:43      Profile for csk     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
quote:
Originally posted by Too Cool To Quit:
Oh come now, you don't really think I was serious, do you?

Well, the lack of emoticons would tend to suggest you were. But, you're probably just trying to mess with our heads again. Nice to know we've got a Lumina replacement waiting in the wings.

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Icon 1 posted September 02, 2004 08:33      Profile for Too Cool To Quit     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
*chokes* *spits out Dr. Pepper*

Ouch!

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Icon 5 posted September 02, 2004 13:10      Profile for abi     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Thankyou for all of your advice, I am sorry that I wrote this three times I was just seeing if anyone would reply to it in the first place. But anyway I dont think he is a perve I mean, well I dont know he just seems shy because I have sort of tried to talk to him before and well it didnt go so well I was just really nervous. I was asking him about the fact that he said he spoke german and I said how many years have you been learning and he went all of them and I replied but how many and in the end I just felt completely stupid and he probably thinks I am too. I found out today that he is German and that would explain the way he walks right? I found someone that will ask a few questions about him to people they know that know him so that is good but I have one big question....if a guy switches his hips like a girl when he walks does that just show that he has odd posture or does it mean he is gay??? I am not against gay people I just really hope he isnt because well that would just ruin my chance but I know life goes on...

[hearts]

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The "gay walk" thing is mostly bull. Particularly if you're talking about Europeans. Posture/walking style is often different in Europe. Having lived in Germany ...

I digress. The point is, even if he wasn't German, how do you know he doesn't have, say, hip problems (like me)? Ask him on a date; if he's not interested he'll say no.

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Icon 1 posted September 02, 2004 15:28      Profile for abi     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
I am not saying he is gay (REALLY IM NOT) I was trully interested if people walked or had different posture in Europe/Germany...the only problem with me trying to ask him on a date would be that I dont know how. I mean I cant just go out of nowhere and be like hey you want to go out for .... I mean wouldnt that be wierd to just ask some guy I dont really know to go out on a date with me?

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I would definately avoid letting him know how desperate you were to post 3 threads about him, at least until you know if he likes that sort of thing or not [Razz]

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Icon 1 posted September 03, 2004 05:06      Profile for abi     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
He has no idea about me liking him other than the fact that my friends are big mouths so they told him in the hall but. That hasnt discouraged me I mean he didnt look at them in disgust and say eww...so maybe I have a chance but who knows

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