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Lady_Christy
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Icon 1 posted February 15, 2007 22:29      Profile for Lady_Christy     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Ahh indeed...pursuing your quarry where it is known to frequent is a brilliant plan! I've met guys at coffee shops, Borders, Barnes and Noble, the library, Best Buy, midnight movie premiers, and Game Stop...the first rule of any good hunt...know your prey! [Wink]

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Xanthine, you misunderstood me. The point I was trying to make is that geek and nerd men and women don't necessarily stand out visually from anyone else. FireSnake pointed this out a long time ago: if you look at the Photo Album, you'll see how ordinary we all look (except me ... and Zorro ;) If you see anyone walking around carrying paddles, run.)

We don't all have stereotypical black thick-rimmed glasses or glasses that are all taped up. We don't all wear thick woolly sweaters, have pimply faces and goofy teeth, or however else we might get characterised. We're neither supermodels nor hideous freaks.

What is there left that makes us distinguishable from ordinary people?

What do we have to do that is totally true to ourselves and effortlessly maintaintable (when your mind is elsewhere in deep thought) yet makes us stand out?

Steen, you need to at least give us some concrete examples, from not just your life but from a variety of lives.

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Now i get the idea of those myspace and hi5 websites, if everybody registered there, finding a lover would be only a few clicks away.
I went to the bookshop a few day's ago and there were almost only women but the majority were college girls looking for study books and others were reading Zits, calvin and hobbes,etc.

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Icon 1 posted February 16, 2007 09:40      Profile for GrumpySteen     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
uilleann wrote:
Steen, you need to at least give us some concrete examples, from not just your life but from a variety of lives.

I'll flood the place with examples right after you demonstrate just one concrete example of where someone never showing their personality in public resulted in a better chance of meeting someone they'd be compatible with.

One point you seem to keep missing is that being visible doesn't just refer to appearance. An obvious example is posting to a forum on the internet. People who enjoy what you post will respond favorably. If you talk to those who respond, they're far more likely to be compatible with you than a random person you start talking to for no reason.

The downside to posting on a forum like GC is, of course, that you're more likely to meet someone from far away than you are if you encounter someone in person. Still, what exactly have you got to lose? A couple of romances here have become successful relationships despite an initial separation of thousands of miles, so it's not like it's completely impossible.

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The poem could have been shit -- it'd have worked.
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I'll agree that my poem was probably shit. But it wasn't utter shit. As I said, though, it was the big, shiny boots that got her. She said so herself. Unfortunately, I'm basically a sweet guy and I failed to live up to the bad-boy fantasy she'd built. She would have gotten her bad-boy once we fell into bed, but she wanted someone who was naughty all the time and that's just not me.

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Steen, Internet relationships are only for those very much suited. Plenty of people cannot do this. What we all really want is someone we can get on the bus or in the car and visit. I've met some very nice women online, in Colorado, in Nebraska, in NY state, but the Internet proves frusrtatingly limiting in what you and they can do together -- that's why I wrote Connect-4 OMA for lili and I to play. (My Mac couldn't handle Java, Flash and Shockwave games so I wrote a game from scratch instead, and then got beaten at it over and over -- she's pretty smart.)

Under the assumption that I travel alone and can't use someone I know as part of the plan, I don't know how I can be more like me. Trying to initiate random conversation with people on the bus would be very odd (and in Britain, you'd probably look like a freak or drunkard ;)

I think what you meant was, be less like me :) I'm bad enough now, you don't want anything any worse.

I don't know how I can be more visible in person. For crying out loud, people in cars call out "Jesus!" to me as they pass by, I am that visible. I'm quite unmistakable, but clearly not in a way that interests women, evidently. But that is who I am.

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uilleann, you are not an unattractive person. You could hook up readily at a discotech. There are geek women there, they're just disguised. Acceptable interactions are expanded in drinking situations. I've fondled lots of women I don't know without (so far) any ill effects. One of them bought me a drink, introduced me to her husband, and tried to take me home. I thanked them for the drink and wandered off.

Women expect you to engage them in conversation in social contexts like that. You could conceivably chat up 30-50 women a night. It still might take you several months to find one you like, but there's nothing like increasing your sample density to improve the odds of finding a favorable result. I'd still recommend book readings or libraries to increase the percentage of actual geek women present. Some of the club women seem geeky but end up being disappointments.

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quote:
Originally posted by ScholasticSpastic:
uilleann, you are not an unattractive person. You could hook up readily at a discotech. There are geek women there, they're just disguised. Acceptable interactions are expanded in drinking situations. I've fondled lots of women I don't know without (so far) any ill effects. One of them bought me a drink, introduced me to her husband, and tried to take me home. I thanked them for the drink and wandered off.

Women expect you to engage them in conversation in social contexts like that. You could conceivably chat up 30-50 women a night. It still might take you several months to find one you like, but there's nothing like increasing your sample density to improve the odds of finding a favorable result. I'd still recommend book readings or libraries to increase the percentage of actual geek women present. Some of the club women seem geeky but end up being disappointments.

While this is true, the problem stems fromm the word 'creeper'. If you try to talk to the wrong women, you become a 'creeper'. In fact, if you do anythign wrong at all or say anything awkward, you'll be labelled as a 'creeper', no matter where you go. I've seen it happen to friends at parties, it's happened to me when I say something stupid (usually a joke that goes right over their heads), it's happened to all guys. I'd actually support a national agenda to strike the word 'creeper' from the english language.

Of course, this is a real problem when somebody who has a mutual interest wonders why you didn't try to continue talking to her at a party:

"Why didn't you continue talking to me at the party?"
"Well, I've been known to be a creeper, I didn't think you'd enjoy it..."
"Ugh! Idiot! You're such a creeper!"

See? Even good intentions make you a creeper.

One cannot escape the creepiness.

DISCLAIMER: I've never been called a creeper to my face... but I'm sure it's happened. But I do have a lot of clueless friends, and it happens to them all the time. So YMMV.

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I'd never get drunk, I rarely drink when out at all, and I'd never lay hands on any woman under any circumstances unless it was deemed proper (or in complete sobriety and presence of mind, it was clear she'd consent). I hate rules but I have my limits :)
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If any guy, geek or not, wandered up to me at a discotech, I would be liable to believe his motives were ulterior. I am much more likely to chat it up with a guy who approaches me in a bookstore or Best Buy, or even on the bus! As females, we're taught from an early age to be on the lookout for bad pick up attempts at places such as clubs, bars, etc...its engrained really.

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uilleann wrote:
I think what you meant was, be less like me [Smile] I'm bad enough now, you don't want anything any worse.

Well, a bit of self confidence and a few classes in public speaking probably wouldn't hurt you, but you're not fundamentally a bad person despite your protests to the contrary. I've been talking with you for ummm... nine months or so at this point. I wouldn't have bothered if you weren't worth talking to.

I don't know how I can be more visible in person. For crying out loud, people in cars call out "Jesus!" to me as they pass by, I am that visible. I'm quite unmistakable, but clearly not in a way that interests women, evidently. But that is who I am.

Well, you seem to want to lay hands on them... [Wink]

Humor aside, how about this: you like seen to enjoy classic gaming... play your game boy in public. Better yet, dig up something a bit more unusual and old like, say, a Sega Gamegear. They don't usually cost very much and hey... new (to you) games to play. The unusual game will increase the likelihood that another gamer will notice and ask about it, giving you an opportunity to strike up a conversation. You already know you have one interest in common, so you're already ahead of talking to a complete stranger.

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Hmm...the Lady is pleased with this "whipping out your Gameboy in public" idea. I'd be all over that...hehe [Wink]

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There is a difference between wanting to get my hands all over someone and doing it, silly ;)

I've taken my GameBoy with me on occasions, but it's a big bastard and takes up a lot of space in my coat pocket (and won't fit in a trouser pocket). I only have one game, Tetris, and I much prefer my palmtop as it's much smaller, universally useful (though I've never actually had it on the Net) and still plays Tetris. Despite having had that since February 2002, and being one of the sexiest palmtops on the planet, it's not a geek girl magnet. Don't say I've not tried ;)

I don't think I need any lessons in public speaking, far from it.

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Hmm...I'd gravitate towards a geeky guy on a palmtop playing Tetris...what is wrong with girls there?

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uilleann wrote:
I've taken my GameBoy with me on occasions, but it's a big bastard and takes up a lot of space in my coat pocket (and won't fit in a trouser pocket).

Women generally don't mind men with large game systems... [evil]

(and as long as I'm posting... Welcome to the forums, Lady_Christy)

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Thank you, and what a delightfully insinuating comment [Wink]

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