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geekygoddess
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What does everyone here think of long distance relationships? How far do you think is considered to be long distance, and do they ever work out, or is it just a waste of time? [Confused]

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Based on my experience, the farther the better.
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I think it's possible, if both people have realistic expectations. I personally know of a some that have worked out well. Some of them even started right here on GC.

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Well, mine was pretty far-Chicago to England-and it worked out.

It depends on how willing the parties are to consider relocating. If it's not an option for either, then it's a waste of time and a lot of heartache. However, if it is, then go for it-but go in with eyes open, as people can misrepresent themselves online.

Sometimes the distance makes you talk more and get to know each other better than if you saw each other every day. [Smile]

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quote:
Originally posted by Steen:
I think it's possible, if both people have realistic expectations. I personally know of a some that have worked out well. Some of them even started right here on GC.

OOh..which ones?? Do tell.... [Eek!]

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quote:
Originally posted by snupy:
quote:
Originally posted by Steen:
I think it's possible, if both people have realistic expectations. I personally know of a some that have worked out well. Some of them even started right here on GC.

OOh..which ones?? Do tell.... [Eek!]
Well, my internet affair with DNM was supposed to be a secret, until he let the cat out of the proverbial.

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LDRs are good since you don't see the person everyday and don't get sick of them.
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quote:
Originally posted by Maggs:
LDRs are good since you don't see the person everyday and don't get sick of them.

Heh...funny I never thought of it that way. [Razz]

There's definitely truth to that, but I'd rather her on a somewhat more frequent basis. :/

I'm sure there's something kind of pitiful about the fact that I consider 30 miles to be a bit of a nuisance. (Hopefully I /should/ have the English/Europeans in my corner on that one...as 100 miles is a *long* distance for them [as 100 years is long for us {/old joke}].)

Yeah...I need to live in the city and be within walking distance of things... (including good mass transit!) I enjoy driving, but frequent drives for such things can get tiring after awhile. [Let's not get into how much driving I did the day of a recent /other/ thread's subject.]

I think I got sidetracked - back to geekygoddess' question: I think it really depends on how well you get along, and if you're both willing to put up with the distance, go for it. If you're not so sure, and just don't see it being very good...it's going to wear on you. Also, at /some/ point, one or both of you will probably want to move, and if that's not in the cards, it's also probably not going to work.

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quote:
Originally posted by The Famous Druid:
quote:
Originally posted by snupy:
quote:
Originally posted by Steen:
I think it's possible, if both people have realistic expectations. I personally know of a some that have worked out well. Some of them even started right here on GC.

OOh..which ones?? Do tell.... [Eek!]
Well, my internet affair with DNM was supposed to be a secret, until he let the cat out of the proverbial.
I wasn't supposed to tell? [Eek!]

My bad.

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Not very far. I like to squoosh my love. She can't be in another state. Nope. Nope. I want to see, hear, feel, and smell her. Otherwise she's like all of you... virtual bits... I like REAL bits.

Near. Not far.

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snupy wrote:
OOh..which ones?? Do tell.... [Eek!]

The first one I know is ARJ. The other I'm not allowed to talk about or she'll hunt me down and feed me beets. Both seem to be doing pretty well in their relationships. fs met maswan here too, if I'm not mistaken, but I don't know them as well.

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It's possible to work out. Only if both parties are willing to work on it. My boyfriend was stationed in Japan for a year while I was in California and we're still together. [hearts]
For it to work, there needs to be alot of communication going on. Phone calls, letters, and be able to see that person on the webcam surely helps!

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I believe that long distance relationships work for some and not for others (DUH). If you are the type of person who easily worries, then a long distance relationship were you can't see the other party isn't for you. If you like your beer and woman seperate then a long distance relationship might be for you.

I consider anything over an 2 hour drive, long distance. I think they can work out, you just need to be dedicated and make sure you are always potraying your real self to the other person even though you aren't face to face.

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Long distance relationships can work, but they don't for everybody. They have their own problems and obstacles to overcome.

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Sorry to drag this back to the top but is it too late to change my answer? [crazy]
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Whilst you are dragging this back up....fs, how are things going with you? Have you moved to Sweden? [Wink]

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Hell's Bells, I've lived in the same house with a woman and we still were a million miles apart.

Sometimes distance has no relation to location.

I think a long-distance relationship can work if two people are close in their hearts and minds.

CP

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CP-you are so right. It reminds me of a quote by the famous philosopher Ally McBeal: "Some of the loneliest days of my life have been spent with someone right beside me"

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Well here's hoping. I've been back and forth online and on the phone with a young lady for a
little over two months now and tomorrow I'm driving a little over 300 miles so we can meet Saturday,
chase trains take photos and talk about life and stuff. [Big Grin]

So far we get along great but never in the same state so while we both have a little bit of nerves
we're sure we'll be fine once we meet 'in the real world..."

I'm not going to get much sleep tonight and I don't care. [Razz]

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HalfVast,
Good luck to you! I am in a very similar situation...will be meeting mine soon as well. It must be in the air. Let me know how it turns out, hopefully both of us will have fun and who knows what else...

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quote:
Originally posted by dragonman97:
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...I consider 30 miles to be a bit of a nuisance. (Hopefully I /should/ have the English/Europeans in my corner on that one...as 100 miles is a *long* distance for them...

100 miles? Hmm... That'd be, what, 3 time zones? ...4, maybe, depending on Daylight Saving Time, I guess... Prolly also need a visa...

Anyway, FWIW, I know a couple who are making an LDR work, one lives in Louisiana (I think that's in America?) and the other in Australia. They're a really lovely couple.

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quote:
Originally posted by Definitely Helen:
Anyway, FWIW, I know a couple who are making an LDR work, one lives in Louisiana (I think that's in America?) and the other in Australia. They're a really lovely couple.

Yes Louisiana is in America. That's where I'm from BTW. Boy LA to Australia is a long distance. The longest distance I had for a relationship was one hour away. So I can't say much on how well long distance relationships work because a one hour drive is nothing.

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quote:
Originally posted by DoctorWho:
Boy LA to Australia is a long distance.

Sometimes you have to go a long way to find the best.
(interpret that however your own sense of patriotism demands)

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I interviewed a guy for the paper on Tuesday. He and his wife are professional classical musicians. He just moved to my town to teach and conduct at the university. His wife still lives in Florida, where they both had been living. The hope is that by next summer she'll be able to move here. In the meantime, they talk on the phone and Skype video and fly up or down to see each other as much as possible. It would be super hard for me to live like that, but they're making it work.

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quote:
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Originally posted by dragonman97:
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...I consider 30 miles to be a bit of a nuisance. (Hopefully I /should/ have the English/Europeans in my corner on that one...as 100 miles is a *long* distance for them...

100 miles? Hmm... That'd be, what, 3 time zones? ...4, maybe, depending on Daylight Saving Time, I guess... Prolly also need a visa...

You talking about the US or the UK there? 'Cuz where I live, you can drive 100 miles and not even leave the state, never mind the time zone.

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