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Shredder565
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Icon 1 posted December 22, 2007 08:25      Profile for Shredder565   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Here's one for you...

I was at the DMV today, and a very nice lady was behind the counter (unusual considering how it was last year [Smile] ). She was cute looking, about my age, but there was a good chance I'd probably ever only see her at the DMV.

In a situation like this, do you think it would be OK to ask someone out for drinks at her work place, or would it still be considered kind of rude?

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Well, as long as you don't open with the question, I think it can be quite flattering. Maybe go to her asking some information, which you both know is totally bogus. Ask if she is seeing anyone yada...
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Icon 1 posted December 22, 2007 16:48      Profile for stevenback7   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
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Icon 1 posted December 22, 2007 17:32      Profile for GrumpySteen     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Just show up at the end of a long day, look her straight in the eyes and after a few moments of uncomfortable silence say:
"You must be tired because you've been running through my dreams all night...

screaming."


(yes, I stole it from xkcd.. bite me)

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Icon 1 posted December 22, 2007 17:37      Profile for TMBWITW,PB     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
If it's busy don't try anything. If things are slow feel free to flirt and then maybe suggest a meeting elsewhere. Don't push it, she is around her coworkers and probably her boss and has to look professional.

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Icon 1 posted December 22, 2007 17:52      Profile for zesovietrussian     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Trying to hold up the line at the DMV in northern NJ? Your chances of getting out alive are virtually nonexistent.
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Icon 1 posted December 22, 2007 20:21      Profile for Shredder565   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Heh, in this case it was amazingly empty, even if they just started their day. But as far as what brought it up, I tried once before at a different workplace with ladies I had gotten to know over the year... and it was a bit of an awkward moment [Smile] ...

But it's nice to hear everyone else's opinions [Smile] .

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In most cases I would advise against initiating a courtship while a woman is at work. In a customer service situation, she is required to be positive and does not have the option of honest self-expression. In this case, however, the woman of interest is working at the DMV and I assume, then, that she is not required to be nice. So go for it.

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Icon 1 posted December 23, 2007 17:21      Profile for zesovietrussian     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Feel free to chat her up if there aren't any people waiting behind you, but don't try to outright hit on her, or worse yet, try to ask her out - that's way beyond creepy. Also, don't go there too often if you don't want to give off a stalkerish vibe - realistically, just how often would one have to visit the DMV? Well, unless you happen to be a really bad driver and get your license taken away every week [Smile]


And on a somewhat lighter note:

Guy 1: OMFG OMFG OMFG did you see that? She smiled at me, she likes me she likes me she likes me!!!
Guy 2: She smiled, so what? Do you remember how hard I laughed the first time I saw you?

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Icon 1 posted December 23, 2007 17:35      Profile for Shredder565   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Heh, yeah. Obviously the DMV was just meant as a general example...
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Icon 1 posted January 04, 2008 12:18      Profile for geekgoddess     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
I wouldn't do it.

At my last job I had customers ask me out and it was really uncomfortable. I was there to make a paycheck and it become a hassle to have to think of a polite way to turn someone down. One guy didn't know how to take 'no' for an answer, asked me out MULTIPLE times over the course of months, and the store manager ended up having to tell him to leave me alone because it just got to be too much.

As I see it, it could play out one of a few ways:

1) You ask her out and it turns out she's attached or uninterested, but is flattered.

2) You ask her out and it turns out she's attached or uninterested, and thinks you're just another creepy guy who bothers girls at their place of work.

3) You ask her out, she's unattached and interested and she gives you her phone number and you guys go out.

Call me crazy, but I think that scenarios 1 & 2 are more likely than 3.

While I understand that you're attracted to this girl, I would advise not asking her out at work. If its meant to be, maybe you'll see her one day while she's NOT at work and be able to strike up a conversation. [Wink]

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Hmm...the fact that you've got cute black glasses certainly probably didn't help... ;P

But back to the topic at hand...no probably not a fine idea. And certainly not at the DMV. [Razz]

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quote:
Hmm...the fact that you've got cute black glasses certainly probably didn't help... ;P
Why, thank you! [Big Grin]

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quote:
Originally posted by geekgoddess:
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Hmm...the fact that you've got cute black glasses certainly probably didn't help... ;P
Why, thank you! [Big Grin]
Ah, but can you make coffee?

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quote:
Ah, but can you make coffee?
Actually, yes. [Wink]

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Dman: Carpe barista!

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quote:
Originally posted by The Famous Druid:
Dman: Carpe barista!

Ya know...I was even tempted to cite that in my previous post. [Razz]

I was going to say, "Despite a running joke my friends have about me, I think this is a bad idea." [Big Grin]

And um...wow...I missed the forest for the trees....seeing this post, I glazed over the handful that are above it. Loo-ve-ly.

So that said....cute glasses *and* coffee...oh my! [Big Grin]

Fate's an [redacted]. Here I am, thoroughly enjoying being single, not a care in the world, and I have someone trying to give me someone's number, and TFD playing an utterly evil game up there. [And I was just told a tale on IRC that was...interesting.] Can't a geek just geek out? [Wink]

If you'll excuse me, I think I need to go have some coffee now. ttfn. [Smile]

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