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LemonSmuggler
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Icon 1 posted April 26, 2007 23:19      Profile for LemonSmuggler     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
17 years of nada...but in my case I think that's a good thing. [crazy]

She's more then a little snarky isn't she? Hmmm that's most likely why she hasn't got a guy, because she uses her mind for evil snarky remarks instead of witty humor full remarks. If she did the later I'd bet she'd meet someone very fast.

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I think the point of the 1000 Days of Celibacy issue she had is that she was sexually active and then it just cut off. Virginity means something, and most people (especially women) want it to mean something when one gets there.

What's funny (ironic) is that the 1000 Days woman is only in her early twenties, so I guess she had an active late-teens.

What's weird is that I never had a problem finding someone -- even someone willing to date me for a while. I suppose it's because I was approachable and paid attention, because it wasn't because I was attractive (you should see the hair disasters I've had over the years).

It's not about the sex, I don't think (which most people are saying -- sex is available, all she has to do is ask). I think it's that she wants a partner and guys she wants just don't want to invest because other women are more willing to give and get casual sex. It's almost like the guys just stop being interested because they don't have to work for it.

Well, and performance anxiety. What man wants to go through middling sex with a woman who just lies there expecting to be serviced? And if he doesn't bring her to the "Best Orgasm Evah!", then she talks and he gets a reputation as being a bad lay. Of course, there are guys who are just jerks and are looking for sex. Those are the fun ones who turn it around and tell all HIS friends the girl is a bad lay.

Eh, this is only conjecture. The reason she can't get laid is because she's not fishing with the right bait, and/or she's not fishing in the right place with that same bait, and/or she just doesn't know how to fish, so she's shelved her bait.

It's not hard to find someone. Yeah, it's hard to keep someone if you have an attitude that the person has to mold him or herself around you, but it's certainly easy enough to find a FWB.

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You guys are harsh. I actually kind of like her blog... she's echoing what a lot of post-college women, after multiple failed relationships, feel.

"Why can't I meet someone?"
"What's wrong with me?"
"Everyone else can hook up, why can't I?"

I don't think there is anything deep or profound in her blog, but it's obviously not about just getting laid. If it were, she could have banged the married guy that tried chatting her up in the bar. It's about finding someone special and then having sex with them.

My guess is that a lot of the hostility comes from guys who are in exactly the same position and think that because she's a woman, it's easier for her to find someone she connects with.

The longest I've ever gone without sex (since I started) is a little over a year. And it was on purpose. I had to really work at it. If your standards are low enough, there is sex everywhere. Even with high standards, if you aren't looking for a relationship, it's pretty easy to come by. The longest I've gone without a relationship with someone really special to me... much longer than some 1200 days.

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quote:
Originally posted by Just_Jess_B:
It's almost like the guys just stop being interested because they don't have to work for it.

I don't think that's it. Well, maybe in Miami they do, but it's contrary to all my experience.

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fs, I think you hit that nail square on the head.

[Big Grin]

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I spent 16 years without having sex and just did it last weekend for the first time [Big Grin] It's unbelievebly good and now i can't live without it!(I had to tell someone lol)
I wish that woman the best of luck and i can only tell her to stop worrying so much, when the right time comes she will fall in love and have sex until she's sick of it. lol

Happy sex to everybody!
[crazy]

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quote:
Originally posted by HalfVast:
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Jess wrote:
(well, it's been over 1,100 days for her)

Phhhhtt! Amateurs...

I've got her beat times 3. So far age 32 to 42 has been really quiet.

Just go hire an escort.

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quote:
Originally posted by yorik:
quote:
Originally posted by HalfVast:
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Jess wrote:
(well, it's been over 1,100 days for her)

Phhhhtt! Amateurs...

I've got her beat times 3. So far age 32 to 42 has been really quiet.

Just go hire an escort.
...or you could always go fuck yourself.

*rimshot*

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Yoric wrote:

Just go hire an escort.

I surprised that you would say this Yoric. Guess I only thought
I knew you well.

But then you may be right so I followed your advice.

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I've got it for the whole weekend!

Er, so what do I do next?

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That's such a cute car! If I were single and in my twenties, I would so ask you very nicely to drive me about in it!

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Okay, so I haven't read the blog. I'm only reacting to what's been posted here.

I don't think I've ever gone more than a year without sex. As of right now, it's probably been about 3 months since the last time I got laid and I am pretty much desperate for someone to screw my brains out. It's not that my libido is through the roof; quite the opposite actually. I'm on multiple medications that tank my sex drive, but I really, really want some physical contact, and since I can't seem to keep anyone interested I'll take whatever I can get. What I can get happens to be exactly nothing.

As for the idea that anyone can have sex at any time, given the right circumstances and the appropriately flexible standards, I'm not really sure about that. I think that pheromones and chemistry and just plain old attraction matter a LOT. People can sense underlying complexes and insecurities, and I don't think that who/what you try to project to others really makes any difference.

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quote:
Originally posted by erynthenerd:
...I'll take whatever I can get...

*The sound of fingers scuttling over the keyboard, in search of a good flights website...*
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Good luck finding a reasonable Canada-US rate [Smile] And I do require your purchase of and company for an enjoyable dinner before I will put out. I'm not *super* easy.

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you'll need a nice woolly jumper if you want to catch spungo's interest [Big Grin]

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Having no pulse also gets him frisky
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erynthenerd wrote:
I do require your purchase of and company for an enjoyable dinner before I will put out. I'm not *super* easy.

*wonders briefly what a $10k worth of gifts would get*

Nevermind... didn't ask [Smile]

... and if -you- are reading this (you know who you are), those things are not meant to influence you that way. No kicking my ass for this joke.

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quote:
Originally posted by erynthenerd:
Good luck finding a reasonable Canada-US rate [Smile] And I do require your purchase of and company for an enjoyable dinner before I will put out. I'm not *super* easy.

Actually, the Canadian dollar is stronger than USD right now. :-/
1 CAD in $

Also, to follow on a side conversation (*nudges north*)
1 £ in $

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All I have to do is buy a heavy-knit sweater and die to get someone to hump me?

Good to know.

And I'm easy Steen, not a gold-digger. [Razz]

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/me does a quick look for an idea....

You could try something like this:
http://newyork.craigslist.org/mnh/w4m/484173780.html

[Razz]

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Wellll... Since I have to get dead to get laid, posting an ad like that on craigslist would sure help to get me one step closer!

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quote:
Originally posted by spungo:
quote:
Originally posted by erynthenerd:
...I'll take whatever I can get...

*The sound of fingers scuttling over the keyboard, in search of a good flights website...*
www.kayak.com [Wink] A good flights site, with hotels too.
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quote:
Originally posted by Cap'n Vic:
Having no pulse also gets him frisky

Wow, not much has changed, then.


[Big Grin]

Seriously, can anyone catch me up on the major goings on here lately?

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