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Icon 7 posted March 02, 2002 20:47            Edit/Delete Post 
I met a great guy last month and I think he's my soul mate. He's funny, sweet, and very smart (and very cute). I'm a programmer wanabe and we met in class. I don't want to scare him off or freak him out. Any thoughts???
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I say lure him in with some innocent proposal. "Could you help me get my computer to work?"

Then pounce like cheetah on a trampoline.

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Ask him to go see a movie with you, preferable one with computors or other items or plots that may interest him.
After the movie, go somewhere quiet, order something to drink (not necessary alcohol) and talk about the movie. Let things go with the flow, but never check your watch. Looking deep into his eyes might work too. (but not for too long... )

Good luck!


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try to make excuses for him to be around you, then when he gets comfortable being with you so often, try to get him on a date without calling it a date.......Z
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Icon 1 posted March 03, 2002 09:48      Profile for Janeway   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post 
Invite him over for an intensive battle of Super Mario Kart (or whatever happens to be your fave (or his fave) two-player video game). I don't know if it would work, but it's what I would do.
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Well, I can only say that this is one lucky geek, to have someone else wishing to pursue him. I would suggest inviting him to a Starbuck's (or coffee house of your choice), as no geek worth his code can resist good coffee, and it should suffiently relax him such that he will sensibly listen, and probably fall head over heels for you, with the influence of good coffee. But that's my view. If there are any single geekettes in the area stated at left, I'll take a cup of Starbuck's any day.
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Icon 1 posted March 03, 2002 16:03      Profile for TheAnnoyedCockroach   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post 
It's funny, but I just realised that almost all of these suggestions (My wonderfully worthless one included) all seem to have the theme of tricking the chap into it. Is this how females operate?

If so, then I need to get tricked more often.

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Just hang out with the poor guy, talk to him. Talk to him about relationships, get his view on them and find out what he is looking for. Talk to him about going out, and what you want that type of relationship to look like. If you are still involved then you both kinda agree to go out. don't trick him. That is mean.
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You could also try the direct approach--take the initiative and just ask him out to coffee. Or on a date.


Who says women can't start things?


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I agree with LifetimeTrekker, you should be able to ask a geek guy out just like you'd ask anyone else out, the rest of these suggestions are good for building a comfort level, but it's very doubtful he's going to run away screaming because you just flat out asked him out. Give us some credit

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quote:
Originally posted by dragonman97:
I would suggest inviting him to a Starbuck's (or coffee house of your choice), as no geek worth his code can resist good coffee, and it should suffiently relax him such that he will sensibly listen, and probably fall head over heels for you, with the influence of good coffee. But that's my view. If there are any single geekettes in the area stated at left, I'll take a cup of Starbuck's any day.

Err, how can you have the words Starbuck's and good coffee in the same phrase

If you wish to seduce your geek with good coffee, find that little Italian/European place that serves proper ground coffee, make sure that it is strong too.
Otherwise, ask him which is his favorite Jolt or Mountain Dew, buy him a six-pack and ask him if he would like to share.


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You guys are in the same programming class? Easy, ask him if he would like to work on a project together, get to know him and hang out with him. You might want to find out what he is really like too, you only met him a month ago, that is a little short for a time period in which to assess a soulmate. Don't jump into anything.

Also try to ignore the first suggestion entirely. (Sorry Cockroach ) If you do go that route, make sure he knows right away it was the only way you could think of to ask him to hang out. Dumb and inept aren't sexy or attractive.

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quote:
Originally posted by dragonman97:
Well, I can only say that this is one lucky geek, to have someone else wishing to pursue him. I would suggest inviting him to a Starbuck's (or coffee house of your choice), as no geek worth his code can resist good coffee, and it should suffiently relax him such that he will sensibly listen, and probably fall head over heels for you, with the influence of good coffee. But that's my view. If there are any single geekettes in the area stated at left, I'll take a cup of Starbuck's any day.

I can resist good coffee. Coffee gives me the jitters, even decaf. Besides water is better for you.


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quote:
but it's very doubtful he's going to run away screaming because you just flat out asked him out.

I would, i have, i have hit one girl on the head with a pizza pan before. So i guess i am just the exception.
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Goddess:

I didn't expect anybody to take it seriously anyhow; I really cannot help this situation, not being in the guy getting business.

Just a bad joke, I suppose.

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Well, Starbuck's makes some of the better coffee around - far superior to the swill made on campus. I make a nice cup of coffee, but it might be more forward to invite someone to your house than Starbuck's for coffee. With Swiss's comment in mind, perhaps I would invite them to another coffeehouse, but I have taken one of my friends to the nearby Starbuck's and we enjoyed some delicious coffee (Mocha's in one instance), and it was a good way to ease her troubled mind.
And curlysimon, perhaps coffee can make even I a little jittery at times, but it is a still an enjoyable thing that can make programming an even better experience.

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Another vote for the direct approach. Many geeks (and non-geeks) are too shy or uncertain of themselves in social settings to even talk to somebody they find attractive. It's a little harder for guys because we are expected to be the ones doing the asking out. That makes it all the more wonderful when a woman approaches us.

I think he would be happy to chat with you and would probably accept any non-threatening suggestion you make to see him outside of class. Invitations to coffee (or equivalent), lunch, a movie, a play, etc. are all good ways to show interest.


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quote:
Originally posted by Bregalad:
Another vote for the direct approach. Many geeks (and non-geeks) are too shy or uncertain of themselves in social settings to even talk to somebody they find attractive. It's a little harder for guys because we are expected to be the ones doing the asking out. That makes it all the more wonderful when a woman approaches us.

I'll second that. Not long ago, I didn't even believe that somone could actually be interested in me (but things are better now).

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I guess you could hit the guy on the head with the frying pan, tie him up and make him date you.
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Geek guys tend to be the most insecure ones. So the best way to start is by showing some interest, a few honest compliments(telling a 120 pound geek that he looks like arnie doesn't cut it) about his intellect or eyes or something like that will slip you through his defences. Then be prepared to bare your geeky side for him and make sure he knows that your're really interested in him for him, not for his ability to help you with your homework and you'll be okay. After about a week of hanging out together at an arcade or something, ask him out.
I could talk of more insidious ways to lure geek guys and get them to go nuts over you, but I'm too lazy to type and i have organic chem to study.
but hope this helps.


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First....the direct approach is the best, it always worked on me.....oh wait....no, I've never had a GF, so I guess i'm not a good example. Anyway, just do it, it works.

Second...read The Girls Guide to Geek Guys.


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"Invite him over for an intensive battle of Super Mario Kart"

That has happened to me before. It is a good deal.


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Kidnap him and force him to write code to control your Secret Weapon of Doom. I'm not sure what happens next, though.

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quote:
Originally posted by The Pope of Perl:
Kidnap him and force him to write code to control your Secret Weapon of Doom. I'm not sure what happens next, though.


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