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Xanthine

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Icon 1 posted February 12, 2009 20:28      Profile for Xanthine     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
'nuff said. Me and the kreziserb are tying the knot. No date's set yet. He proposed a couple weeks ago on a hike. It's been slowly sinking in. He gave me a ring so that helps. It's easy to confirm something actually happened when there's jewelry on your finger. Especially since it's the only jewelry I wear. [Razz]

We've been together for 4+ years and living together for a year and a half. We share a cat as well. My parents have always liked him and they like him even more now because he asked their permission (my dad is weirdly traditional about some things). So there it is. And now I must come up with an itsy-bitsy, simple but not stupid wedding plan. I've never wanted a wedding but my family sure does. Fortunately, ridiculously tiny weddings run in the family. In fact, in my mom's family, there's a weak negative correlation between wedding size and duration of the marriage.

And this leads me into a bit of a rant. WTF is it with trains? And the whole sleeveless and strapless thing. It's driving me batty. This is largely psychological, but I feel cold without some kind of sleeve. I've found some promising dresses in the sleeve department on Christian sites (the great irony of my life...the girl who wants a completely secular wedding ceremony is looking at Christian bridal sites because "modest" and "Christian" are the code words for "I want sleeves dammit!"), but then the designers had to ruin the dress with a fscking train. Looking for a nice but simple tea-length dress is getting me nowhere too. [Mad]

I wish I knew how to sew.

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Icon 11 posted February 12, 2009 20:45      Profile for MacManKrisK     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Wow, congrats!!!!! [Applause] [Big Grin]

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Congratulations Xanthine! [Applause] [Happytears]

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WOW! Congrats Xan! [Applause]
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Icon 1 posted February 12, 2009 22:17      Profile for The Famous Druid     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Congratulations!

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OMG W00t! Congratulations X! Will it be in the PacNW or central. Will be on a mountain or on flat land. let us know!

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Wow, seems to be a great time for love. Congratulations, X!

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[Applause] [Applause] Congratulations to Xanthine ansdthe kreziserb [Applause] [Applause] [Big Grin]

But don't get too hung up on needing to wear something that the shops label as a weddding dress. Mr Grummash doesn't like wedding dresses, so when we got hitched she found a nice tailored floral dress with a matching plain jacket. A bit formal, a bit summery, and a damn sight cheaper than a wedding meringue frock.

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Icon 1 posted February 12, 2009 23:50      Profile for littlefish   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Congratulations! Me too!

Planning sucks and the whole thing is too expensive. I proposed about a month ago and we don't know whether to have a guest list of 5 or 50.

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Icon 1 posted February 13, 2009 00:41      Profile for Xanthine     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Thanks guys!

Grummash, I've been scoping out well beyond the traditional route, though even standard women's formal (and even nice informal) dresses don't have the sleeves I want.

I am very difficult, especially when I feel entitled to have my way.

I took the search to a whole new level of creativity this evening. Prospect 1 is $80 and ivory. Prospect 2 is $30 and a lovely silver. I found them on pagan sites. Pagans like sleeves but no trains I guess. Either way, I won't look like a slut or a cake or some combination of the two. I'm also going to try some actual shops where I can try things on as opposed to the internet.

I hear ya on the guest list littlefish. I'm doing a double juggle too because most of my family is in Seattle but I'm not. It'd be easier for me to go to them, in some ways, but my friends are here. Even if I limited it to family only, I'd be obligated to invite various extended family. The groom's side won't be there because they're going to have a party for us in Blegrade in September so that'll limit things.

Right now I'm thinking of a beach near my parents' house. Beach weddings are in and I'm pretty sure I can get the picnic shelter booked far easier than at any of the pretty and pricey mountain locations.

Another thought would be to do it up where my fiance proposed. It's a beautiful meadow in the summer, but the hike in would be the end of some family members I'd want to have there and I'm not sure how the Forest Service would react (though I'd have the reception somewhere else). And the lower meadows are probably expensive and booked...

This is ridiculous. I'm wishing I was one of the normal chicks who started planning her wedding before she met the groom.

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Wheee! I'm so happy for you! (Do I sound too girly here? Sorry! [Big Grin] )

In any case, if you know someone who can sew, I suggest you go see some pattern sites. The way you make it sound, you may be interested in some "historical" patterns. I heard recently that Victorian style was in for bridal, but somehow it's not you. (Unless you really want to do the "once in a lifetime - might as well go all the way" thing.) But they do have a nice selection that can be easily adapted. You can start at McCall's site, they regroup a few companies. (the only missing main one is Simplicity ). Unless you prefer European style, then Burda is the one you want.)

Anyway, congratulations! [Applause]

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Mucho congratulations-o, X! [Applause] [Applause]

You too, LF! [Smile]

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Excellent! Congratufabulations!
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Congrats X.

I recommend a uber small civil ceremony, remember it's your wedding. Immediate family, one or two close friends down at city hall, then out for dinner. The money you save, pour into a holiday for the two of you or a down payment on a house.

Family expectations can cause things to spiral completely out of control and cause all kinds of stress on relationships. Be firm about what ever it is you and your honeybunny want.

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Great news Xan! Congratulations.

Edit: And you, too, littlefish!

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Congratulations Xan! I wish you both every happiness, and he is a very lucky man, because you truly are a diamond.

As for the number of guests, and the ceremony generally, my own feeling is that, though you must please yourselves, I believe it is important that it is an occasion that your family and your friends can enjoy too, because a wedding is both a private and a public ceremony. It seems to me that the commitment you both make takes an extra seriousness and meaning when it is made in the open to the world, in front of your families, friends, and other important people in your lives. It should be a little bit scary, as well as a joyful thing. Like the climbing you enjoy, a slight frisson of fear makes it more, not less, enjoyable and memorable. It is also rather wonderful and humbling to be surrounded by so many people with so much goodwill for you on that day.

I suggest that for your wedding dress you buy the dress (or suit, or whatever) that you really really want, and forget tradition completely. The only thing that matters is that you feel great wearing it.

Once again my very best wishes to you both. Live long and prosper!
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Congratulations! I hope you realize that we expect Scientific Evidence of the wedding. [Smile]
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Congratulations Xan!!! It's about time the two of you got around to getting hitched! [thumbsup] [Applause] [Applause] [Applause] [Big Grin]


Edit: Congrats to littlefish too!

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OMG!!!! So happy for you, Xanthine!


And littlefish: wow! Congrats, too!

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Congratulations littlefish. [Applause] [Applause] [Applause] [Applause] [Applause]

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I suppose I will add my congrats as well! I, being the commitment-phobe that I tend to be, wish you two the best together!!! I'm sure you guys will be blissfully happy! Congrats again!

You too Littlefish!!!

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Congrats to you Xan and littlefish!!! I hope both your marriages are full of love, joy and laughter.

As for the dress Xan, good luck in finding what you want. Hopefully you won't have to find a seamstress to make it for you as it probably won't be cheap unless she is your friend and is doing you a favor.

My wife was fortunate her mother was up to the task of making her dress because she wasn't satisfied with the choices she had available to her either. Saved her a nice chunk of change too. Her dress had a train but the way it was made it could hook up in the back some kind of way. She did that after the ceremony so she could walk around and dance without tripping.

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The sort of dress I have in mind is simple enough that my mom could make it but she doesn't have time for that sort of thing. I think I can find it though.

When my parents got married, Mom made the dress. Dad wore his suit. My uncle officiated. The ceremony was in Mom's parents' living room. There was a best man and maid of honor.

When my dad's parents were married, his mother wore her one good dress, his dad rented the suit, there were two guests as witnesses, and a local minister did the officiating. It wasn't a shot gun wedding either. They were just poor and not into the whole wedding thing, I guess. Anyway, death did them part and Dad's dad remarried. Similar sort of wedding, except this time the groom owned a suit, the bride had a selection of nice dresses, and my dad made for guest number three.

I'm not sure how my mom's parents' wedding went but my understanding is it was also pretty small. So my parents aren't pushing for me to do anyhting huge. Just something.

I told my dad I wanted a wedding in a chapel at Stirling Castle and I wanted a dress with an enormous train and a flock of trained canaries to carry the veil. Then I suggested the local beach. [Razz] I'm still digging on the canary though, but as a pet, not bridal attendant thingy. But kreziserb says no to birds.

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Congratulations, Xan!!!

Here's to many happy years together.

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Many and huge best wishes and congrats.

I wonder if you might be able to find a vintage dress with sleeves??? It is hard to find what you want though.

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