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Lost1soul
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Icon 1 posted June 21, 2007 12:55      Profile for Lost1soul     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
I get what you're saying......but you also don't know the whole story. We are still getting to know each other and I DON'T love him.......I mean, not yet. I like him and he likes me and that is it so far. I've had a lot of experiences with different kind of guys and, while I know I am still young and naive and stuff, I have learned many of those lessons the hard way. I've dated incredibly overly borderline stalker affectionate guys and then I've guys who, as you said, don't seem really interested in me. He is neither. He has a hard time expressing his feelings (and that's not just an excuse for him......it's true) but I have had some really good deep conversations with him as well. I have no wish to change him as I know from personal experience that it neither helps nor works. The jury is still out on whether I want to make him a permanent addition to my life and it may be that way for awhile. Who knows what will happen.
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quote:
Originally posted by Just_Jess_B:
You cannot change any person who does not wish to change on his or her own.

I concur...this is oh so very true! He's happy with his WoWing and his freedom...and doesn't show any signs of changing that, you can definitely try talking to him, you might stir something back up there, but until he realizes there's an issue, and sincerely wants to change, he won't.

You are still early in your relationship and there is opportunity for growth and change, but you BOTH need to be willing to make it happen.

As an aside, if WoW is something you're passionate about, fantastic! You should definitely try and find guys that share your passion, however, try and gauge how into the game a guy is. If you're a hardcore WoWer, awesome, date other hardcore players, but if you play on a more casual level (as I believe you do) try and find other casual players...it just makes things easier in the long run.

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Icon 1 posted June 21, 2007 13:17      Profile for TSG     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
quote:
but until he realizes there's an issue,
Here's where we (women) get hung up I think.

We see an issue. We expect *them* to see an issue, too. But unless we verbalize it in simple terms for them (ie, don't try dropping a hint - spell it out) it's likely not going to be addressed. They don't see a problem, usually, until it's brought to their attention in a way they can understand.

I've made many relationship mistakes in the past and usually they revolved around that one single point.

Learn from my mistakes lol.

S P E L L it out.

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Life isn't all about sex. If it was, viagra would be the best selling drug on the market. Or guys would kill themselves when they went impudent.

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I wish my boyfriend would kill himself for being impudent. It would save me the trouble. Nothing more annoying than a back-talking boyfriend. ;P

Seriously though, sex and other forms of physical intimacy aren't everything in a relationship, but they are an important part and a lot of problems can start here (and problems from other parts of a relationship can/do spill over into the sexual parts as well).

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Icon 1 posted June 21, 2007 21:35      Profile for Slack User   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Xanthine your quote makes me cry in pain.

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Icon 1 posted June 22, 2007 06:28      Profile for business attire     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
I think you said Impudent when you MEANT Impotent.

m·pu·dent -- /ˈɪmpyədənt/
–adjective

1. of, pertaining to, or characterized by impertinence or effrontery: The student was kept late for impudent behavior.

2. Obsolete. shameless or brazenly immodest.

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business attire wrote:
2. Obsolete. shameless or brazenly immodest.

It's too bad that meaning is obsolete. I know someone who would be described perfectly that way...

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Icon 1 posted June 22, 2007 06:47      Profile for business attire     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Like me!!!

Remember the black dress? That dress was SUPER impudent.

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Exactly like you! ... and I don't think I'll be forgetting that little black dress anytime soon. [Big Grin]

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