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hopeless29
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there is this really HOTT guy at the pool i go to but his friend likes me but i don't know if the guy that i like likes me!? [thumbsdown] ...... does ne one know how i can get him to notice me (besides my top coming off cause my top fell off already but on accident, he did notice me though............) thanks! [Smile]
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I think the best way to get noticed is to wear a bikini and tattoo his name everywhere you can on your body. Then march by the pool playing the euphoneum and waving a banner with the confederate flag.

Of course if what you really want is for him to like you then I would suggest something more along the lines of starting up a conversation and seeing if you have any mutual interests. [Wink]

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Well dropping your top might not be the attention you want. [Big Grin]

I would try to find out some of his interests, so you have something to talk about and something you could do. Does he like rock climbing or horror flicks, etc?

Then you could suggest doing something together in a casual way. Maybe even ask some other people to come, so it is low pressure the first time you meet away from the pool

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I dunno. I'm all for more top droppings. Post a pic while your at it [Wink]

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every just walk by and say hi? you don't have to really say it verbally. you can just smile

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Well, the top dropping probably worked very well. Mainly though, I think the way to get him interested in you is to be interested in him. Strike up a conversation, smile, make eye contact. If you've got a good sense of humor, be funny. But definately relax. You might want to stick to the eye contact, smiling, and top dropping until you think you can get through a conversation without losing your cool.

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Set fire to yourself and then write out your love message to him on the ground in scorch marks. [Smile]

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Move to OUTER MONGOLIA and over a period of SEVENTEEN YEARS SIX MONTHS THREE WEEKS TWO DAYS FIVE HOURS TWELVE MINUTES AND FORTY-THREE SECONDS train a TROUPE OF DANCING MONKEYS then you must return to the god-forsaken hellhole which is SOUTH DAKOTA, hand them all SEMI-AUTOMATIC DEER RIFLES, and make them do their WILD MONKEY DANCE.

Alternatively, you could just say 'hi'.

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Thinking for a bit about the original post, I don't like people until after I interact with them. Maybe you should reclassify your 'liking' him to 'has a crush on' or 'thinks he's cute.' Then you may be able to think of steps to get you to 'determining if he likes you and if you like him,' which, in many cases, is called a 'date.'

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quote:
Originally posted by sconzey:
Move to OUTER MONGOLIA and over a period of SEVENTEEN YEARS SIX MONTHS THREE WEEKS TWO DAYS FIVE HOURS TWELVE MINUTES AND FORTY-THREE SECONDS train a TROUPE OF DANCING MONKEYS then you must return to the god-forsaken hellhole which is SOUTH DAKOTA, hand them all SEMI-AUTOMATIC DEER RIFLES, and make them do their WILD MONKEY DANCE.

Alternatively, you could just say 'hi'.

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Whoa whoa, wait...

You're telling me there is a NORTH DAKOTA?!? [Eek!]

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Best thread ever!

And I had almost forgotten about Zippy, king of non-sequitur.

Does this emacs addon work with OS-X?

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Garr, I'ze be uzin da VI. Arrrrr.
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quote:
Originally posted by ooby:
Thinking for a bit about the original post, I don't like people until after I interact with them. Maybe you should reclassify your 'liking' him to 'has a crush on' or 'thinks he's cute.' Then you may be able to think of steps to get you to 'determining if he likes you and if you like him,' which, in many cases, is called a 'date.'

i Have "interacted" with him, i told everyone that his friend likes me, (which i agree with you when you say to LIKE someone you have to KNOW them)so OBVIOUSLY i have interacted with him and his friends
[crazy] ne way, i've talked to him before but not much but from what i've heard him say (and he seems VERY polite) and how he looks i DEFINETELY LiKe him [Big Grin] ! So i guess i should rephrase what i asked earlier, how do i know if he feels the same way about me that i feel about him? [Confused]

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Please read some scripture.

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I agree with ooby on this one. How do you know you *like* a person that you *don't know*? Would you still like the same hot dude if the entirety of his interests are (sorted by precedence): 1) getting laid 2) showing off in his lolly-pop Mustang convertible (red, of course) 3) having a beer with his gym-buddies, discussing 1 and 2?

Anyhow, quite the oposite, maybe he's just a good (decent) friend and won't make a move on you until his friend who got a crush on you takes his chance.
Well, unless he's a type that has no problem with dating his friend's girlfriends...

And a really good bit of advice: leave him be. Go back to the geek stuff. (Optional: make it easy to get your aim/icq/whatever.)

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So there's this book being passed around my lab called The Rules. I'll spare y'all the details by summing it up: play the hard-to-get-princess. According to the book, the more you make him work, the more he'll want you.

In short, ignore his ass and get on with your life.

I have no idea if this will work. I am, after all, not a man.

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quote:
Originally posted by Xanthine:
So there's this book being passed around my lab called The Rules. I'll spare y'all the details by summing it up: play the hard-to-get-princess. According to the book, the more you make him work, the more he'll want you.

In short, ignore his ass and get on with your life.

I have no idea if this will work. I am, after all, not a man.

Fuggin' 'ell - must things get worse? What about the other possibility - you play so hard to get that he just says 'fsck it,' and quits trying. Enough kowtowing!

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Well, if he really wants you, he won't give up.

Disclaimer: I am not a "Rules Girl". If I have ever followed any of the rules, it was because I was shy. That said, acting desperate tends to turn men off. There's much to be said for self-confidence.

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quote:
Originally posted by Xanthine:
So there's this book being passed around my lab called The Rules. I'll spare y'all the details by summing it up: play the hard-to-get-princess. According to the book, the more you make him work, the more he'll want you.

In short, ignore his ass and get on with your life.

I have no idea if this will work. I am, after all, not a man.

That's really interesting that you mention that Xanthine, as some of our lab at uni (computer science) are passing around a link that i know to be followed massively (mostly by guys, but also condoned by girls) woldwide (Doc Love's "The System" which condones the exact same thing for guys. That is, play hard to get and be a 'challenge'.

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You CAN be proactive by making sure that your woman gets what she needs from you in order to fall and stay in love, which is a sense of Challenge [allowing the woman to chase you]. Challenge is magical. Challenge is romantic. Challenge is the most powerful aphrodisiac on the planet. from doc love
My question is, if girls are ignoring and playing hard to get, and guys are ignoring and playing hard to get... where's the love?!
someone's losing out here, and it looks like its both of them. but then, speaking widely, if your goal is work/career and not love, maybe you're better off.

thoughts?

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quote:
Originally posted by Too Cool To Quit:
quote:
Originally posted by sconzey:
Move to OUTER MONGOLIA and over a period of SEVENTEEN YEARS SIX MONTHS THREE WEEKS TWO DAYS FIVE HOURS TWELVE MINUTES AND FORTY-THREE SECONDS train a TROUPE OF DANCING MONKEYS then you must return to the god-forsaken hellhole which is SOUTH DAKOTA, hand them all SEMI-AUTOMATIC DEER RIFLES, and make them do their WILD MONKEY DANCE.

Alternatively, you could just say 'hi'.

/me has discovered xemacs -f psychoanalyse-pinhead

Whoa whoa, wait...

You're telling me there is a NORTH DAKOTA?!? [Eek!]

Sad... But true...

quote:
Originally posted by dm:
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Hah... I use JOVE or pico for text editing, I could never get the hang of VI, but for development and general ASCII word processing, nothing beats emacs.

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You know - after saying the emacs is a slow, bloated piece of crap, and that it probably almost needs a boot sequence, whereas vi starts in less than a second, I tried to start it, and was so happily surprised....
code:
[[email protected]op dragon]$ emacs
bash: emacs: command not found
[[email protected] dragon]$

I forgot that I did that awhile ago to clear some clutter off my hard drive [Big Grin] . Now I don't even have to remember my emacs emergency training (C-x C-c) - except if I'm on a foreign machine, and get into it by grievous accident.

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quote:
Well, if he really wants you, he won't give up.
-- myth.

dragon is right: playing "too hard to get" like playing *any* game, you're doomed to loose sooner or later.

Think about it for a second: would you be surprised if *your* hard-won prize suddenly starts voicing its own opinions?

I guess the whole issue changes with times and people. There were times when gender roles were defined more clearly but were totally different from present. Women were treated as kind of loot, but then, nobody was talking about treating them as equal to men either...

Anyhow, my point is -- if you play "loot", you may be perceived as "loot". Some people are quite persistent in getting "what they really want", but is it the thing that *you* want?
The whole "hard to get" and a host of other games are like selling yourself and buying others, it isn't about fair sharing of (part) of your life, is it?

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Having any "plan" of action is bad. Period. No games, imho.

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quote:
Originally posted by snupy:
Having any "plan" of action is bad.

Yeah - a plan of inaction is always better. [Wink]

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